Is this relationship savable? serious advice please?

im 36 weeks pregnant with my first and im engaged to a man i love very much. a couple days ago i found out that he has a 2 yr old girl with someone that lives in another state. He owes back child support and he has lied to me about this. I found out by doing alot of snooping around when a family member of his told me about his other child. I know that if we got married his debt would become mine unless filing my taxes separate. Im about to have my baby and im devestated by all of this I dont know what to do, do i leave him and raise my baby by myself or do i accept his apologies and give him a second chance?





p.s. He and the two year old are back in contact now and he has plans to see her for the first time in two years so hes making an effort to be in this childs life....Is this relationship savable? serious advice please?
can you imagine him paying child support for 2 kids?and you being alone or do you want to be with him enough to suffer the finnancial burden of him having another child and also dealing with the child's mother now that the kid is in the picture.


it's about children now,not you or him.Is this relationship savable? serious advice please?
you don't have to marry the guy.





Or just have a signed agreement that says he has to pay all his previous debts on his own.
This is a tough situation. I am sorry to tell you that you made a wrong choice by choosing this man to father your child. If he has been a deadbeat dad, chances are he is going to be a deadbeat dad again. It is up to you to give him second chance or not, I know I wouldn't. I would take care of my child and sue him for child support. It is so sad when there is a baby involved. Have you heard of protection and safe sex?!
If you really love him, you don't need to leave, just accept his other child, and to love her as yours.
Make sure to file taxes separate then, and keep bank accounts separate too until all resolved. If you can forgive and forget then do it. Relationships take up and downs and blows to the heart sometimes. Don't we all wish we had a crystal ball and can see how guys were in the past and will be in the future.
It is savable but the real question is why a grown man would deny his own child one day you might in the same boat and that is the biggest concern
If you love him and still want to spend the rest of your life with him then you will both make it work.
DO NOT get married to this man until his financial problems are cleared up... Seriously... live with him, whatever but don't get married while he owes back support etc. And yeah, he hid that from you, that's bad.. What else might he ';forget'; to tell you?????
Future behavior can be predicted by past behavior. RUN!
Honey it happens all the time don't worry. you are better off filing your taxes separately anyways because you probably receive more at a single rate. I have been legally married for four years and have filed separately every year because my children aren't his and you never let your right hand know what your left is doing especially since he lied to you about a child who knows the marriage may not work than what. Plus he may try to keep more of the money for his self you know men can be selfish and money hungry even if you are his wif and half belongs to you they don't see it that way. what's yours is his and what his is his that's how they see.
It is savable if you are willing to forgive him and work with him to make a better life for the both of you.
Oh sure! When he goes out of state to see the kid he owes back child support to, there could be one of two outcomes:





He won't return, staying with the original woman to cancel the debt sos he won't go to jail....or else, he'll be arrested there for non payment of support and go to jail.





I'd seek a divorce lawyer's advice about this and make sure you do not marry him unless he pays up immediately and keeps up those payments, and also, if you marry and if she can legally go after your assets and salary, I'd NEVER marry him.





He sounds like he's a parasite, and that would make you an accessory to non payments. so be very very careful. Seek a divorce lawyer's advice, followed another divorce lawyer to confirm what the first says.





You man's not telling you is a most serious breach of trust, and he can't be trusted really...





Also, if you are broke, go to legal aid. In fact, as a non married woman, yon could be entailed to aid for your child like medicaid etc without marrying him, and you to could demand support from him and put liens on everthing he has.





Mistake you made was getting pregnant, of course before you married.








Check out all ramifications right now!
If he lied about that, then it'll be easier to lie about anything else. If you don't have love, trust, and honesty in your relationship...it's doomed.