Need some relationship/marriage SERIOUS advice...please :)?

I have been in a relationship with my husband for 6 years married 3. We have had some serious ups and downs, the downs were pretty bad. He has made effort to make things better but I really just don't feel like it is enough, or am I wanting too much at once? I have a step ahead of him in several aspects and find myself trying to help him a lot wondering if I am allowing him to be ';the man.'; He says he wants to do things himself then gets angry when there is a ';lack of support.'; We live apart right now due to financial reasons. I worry with him being back around all the stuff we try to get away from. Including this girl he had a relations with DURING our relationship. She is constantly trying to get us split up to have a better chance at a relationship with him. So I receive emails and calls and txts that he is cheating and he swears she is just trying to start stuff. Some of the things she says have seem legitimate, but she also is friends with his sister(who I don't have such a great relationship) and I don't know if she is in the middle of ';it'; or not. Plus I know this girl is desperate to have him that she would do and put up with whatever to have him(cheating,giving up money). I don't know if I'm being insecure and immature? Am I pushing him away? I can't leave it alone and I feel like my life is falling apart. I don;t know what to do : (Need some relationship/marriage SERIOUS advice...please :)?
If you want this relationship to work either go to him or tell him to come to you, not in a month but in 48 hours, period. Obviously there is no big paycheck at risk for either one of you.





Either you are both committed to making it work or you are not. The rest is just BS Drama.Need some relationship/marriage SERIOUS advice...please :)?
I think you should move on I don't understand why the two of you aren't living together.If he has cheated on you in the past with this girl %26amp; she is around your husband which should be unacceptable (by the way) . He should respect you %26amp; your marriage instead of being around her.You are not being immature at all.
get a restraining order against him and i don't understand why you would live apart for financial reasons when it is cheaper to live together
Sounds like you have yourself a keeper (sarcasm).
Way too confusing to submit an answer to this one. Geez!
Let me guess. You're probably sitting there all stressed out and worried and thinking about whether your marriage will work out. Believe me, you are not alone. There are so many couples out there from all over the world that are right now in the midst of trying to save their marriages. Our marriages consist of so much of our time and emotions, and the relationship between our spouses is central to so many other relationships of family and friends in our lives. So without a doubt this can be a very nerve wracking experience. My heart goes out to you if this is what you're experiencing right now.





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I would confront the girl. Maybe find out where she works and confront her there where you should tell her to leave your husband alone. This should embaress her along with getting her reputation ruined at work. you could also put out an ad on Kijjiji for her stating that she lieks to break up marriages or even have an ad placed for her there to meet other people. don't let her know you did it.





I would also get rid of your husband and find another guy. Get your self esteem back up. YOu don't deserve this. You may not be strong right now but I hope you decide to remove yourself from this relationship and find a guy who won't cheat on you. I think you are confused because you do love but how much does he love you???





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Speaking from experience%26gt;%26gt;if your husband is putting hisself back in the midst of the things you both agreed to get away from along with being around a woman that he cheated on you with then I would just let go! I was married 15yrs and for 7 of those I watched my husband get pissed off--usually over absolutely nothing--and leave for anywhere from a week to 8 weeks to go ';shack '; up this same freakin b---h. He did that 5 times before I finally came out of my coma and said ENOUGH!! Of course this chick is right in the middle--her goal is to get him away from you. The sad thing about women like this is they can't find anyone of their own to love so they settle for ';sharing';--taking scraps from another woman. If this is the type of people your husband wants to surround hisself with then I think you'd do better to walk away and leave him to it! It may feel like your life is falling apart right now but believe me---it will only get better once you leave that baggage behind. Good luck!! Remember%26gt;%26gt; Believe in yourself so others can!
If your still love the guy, and would like to give him another (and last chance), then do it, and don't mind what other people might say. Amidst all the hardships, if you pull this last chance through, you'll be the victor in the end. If, by any means, it did not succeed, at the end you could console yourself that you still tried to fix things up.


For me, it is better to love and be hurt, than not to love at all.


I don't want to live my life with so many unanswered 'IFs' on my head.

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