It sounds like his sister is a b***h. And it doesn't sound like he cares. I personally think that she is trying to get the two of you to break up. Does she say this stuff when he's not around? It's time to stop being nice, girl, or she's gonna run you off again or drive you insane. The next time she makes a comment like that about you being ugly or fat tell her, 'Well at least I got a guy that's good-looking. I couldn't imagine what you do on a Saturday night all alone.' Get downright dirty. She's being cruel and your boyfriend isn't going to do anything about it. So you need to. Just make sure he's not around when you say that stuff, this way you have deniability.
Friday, April 30, 2010
I hate my sisters boyfriend and it is ruining our relationship. I need advice to see if it will work.?
Me and my bf have been together for 1 year and usually are very happy with each other. In Feb 2008 I made a comment to my bf about how his sister being nasty to me e.g saying 'how long does it take you to scrape all your make-up off, I bet about an hour' or 'Its so funny everytime my brother gets a gf she always gets fat'. I told him about this and he told me that she didn't mean it in a mean way and I am being over-sensitive. About a month after that she made another few comments about me being ugly and without cosmetics I don't really have much going for me and said this in front of his whole family. When this happened I asked her to please not say things like that to me and told her to stop being unkind. I told my bf again about what happened he again said she would NEVER say something like that and if so I should say something to her. I told him that I had spoke to her and he didn't believe me and stuck by his sister. We got back together and she is again causing problems.I hate my sisters boyfriend and it is ruining our relationship. I need advice to see if it will work.?
It sounds like his sister is a b***h. And it doesn't sound like he cares. I personally think that she is trying to get the two of you to break up. Does she say this stuff when he's not around? It's time to stop being nice, girl, or she's gonna run you off again or drive you insane. The next time she makes a comment like that about you being ugly or fat tell her, 'Well at least I got a guy that's good-looking. I couldn't imagine what you do on a Saturday night all alone.' Get downright dirty. She's being cruel and your boyfriend isn't going to do anything about it. So you need to. Just make sure he's not around when you say that stuff, this way you have deniability.makeup hair tips
It sounds like his sister is a b***h. And it doesn't sound like he cares. I personally think that she is trying to get the two of you to break up. Does she say this stuff when he's not around? It's time to stop being nice, girl, or she's gonna run you off again or drive you insane. The next time she makes a comment like that about you being ugly or fat tell her, 'Well at least I got a guy that's good-looking. I couldn't imagine what you do on a Saturday night all alone.' Get downright dirty. She's being cruel and your boyfriend isn't going to do anything about it. So you need to. Just make sure he's not around when you say that stuff, this way you have deniability.
Advice please long distance relationship?
Any body have advice for thiings I can do for my sweet hart from a distance. We bolth wana make sure we last untill we can be together. Sometimes she gets a little insecure I need to be creative in assuing her becuse I know she is the one for me.Advice please long distance relationship?
Well! First you should call her every night or whenever she is available. But dont call her all day.....that gets kinda creepy. And you should send her stuff! I dont mean you have to buy her love, but if you just send her a little e-mail everyday to tell her how you are doing and to ask about her, that would be REALLY cool. You could also do some surprise visits! Those are always fun, but you should talk to whoever she is around and ask when she will just be sittin around doing nothing, you dont want to just come over and she is doing something important. AND you can also tell her every single day that you love her. Leave a message if you have to! But make sure to tell her!Advice please long distance relationship?
You could call her when you know she isn't going to answer and leave a sweet message on her voicemail or answering machine saying that you're thinking of her. Send her e-cards, they don't have to be all lovey-dovey, I really enjoy the dorky love ones. They seem to mean more. Just be sure that you let her know that she's the one for you and let her know often! Good Luck!
Well! First you should call her every night or whenever she is available. But dont call her all day.....that gets kinda creepy. And you should send her stuff! I dont mean you have to buy her love, but if you just send her a little e-mail everyday to tell her how you are doing and to ask about her, that would be REALLY cool. You could also do some surprise visits! Those are always fun, but you should talk to whoever she is around and ask when she will just be sittin around doing nothing, you dont want to just come over and she is doing something important. AND you can also tell her every single day that you love her. Leave a message if you have to! But make sure to tell her!Advice please long distance relationship?
You could call her when you know she isn't going to answer and leave a sweet message on her voicemail or answering machine saying that you're thinking of her. Send her e-cards, they don't have to be all lovey-dovey, I really enjoy the dorky love ones. They seem to mean more. Just be sure that you let her know that she's the one for you and let her know often! Good Luck!
Destroying Relationship Over TTC - Please Read & Advice??
Hi, I have PCOS, have been trying to concieve for a long time. I have had 2 miscarriages in the past yr. I am on metformin at the moment %26amp; will be starting clomid soon.
But I feel really upset.. All around me, people are getting pregnant %26amp; I keep thinking.. why not me? My best friend and auntie had lovely baby boy's recently and my sister will be having twins soon. My husband is very supportive %26amp; patient. If it hadnt been for him, I don't know wat I wudve done. But yesterday, I felt really down %26amp; told him that If I can't get pregnant by the time I am 30 [I am 27 at the moment] I want a divorce %26amp; want him to get married to sum1 else. I tried to explain that it's cos he deservs more than I can give him. He really wants a child %26amp; cos I luv him so much %26amp; cos I hav the problem.. I feel like I am stopping him from being a dad.
He was very upset with what I sed. He got angry %26amp; sed that he cudnt understand why I was saying this %26amp; that he isnt with me just for a child. He isnt talking to me at the moment.
What can I do? Please advice! I feel like I am destroying my relationship.. How do I make things right? I can't stop crying at the moment. I feel like such a failure!
I have no1 to talk too or share my feelings with. Help?!Destroying Relationship Over TTC - Please Read %26amp; Advice??
I think your first step would be to tell your husband you are really sorry and you didn't mean it and you were just really upset and stressed and talking nonsense.
I know how awful it is. I've just had my second miscarriage since July. ALL my friends are pregnant and all of them are due when I would have been due if I hadn't had the first miscarriage. You just have to dig deep and find some strength. You do have someone to talk to - you have your husband. Lean on him, don't push him away.Destroying Relationship Over TTC - Please Read %26amp; Advice??
Get thee to a counselor -- NOW. You tieing your self worth to producing a baby is just horrible. It's horrible for you and your husbandn and it's not fair to either of you.
I can understand the frustration and I know seeing everyone else with their babies makes it even worse, but you cannot let yourself slip into this downward spiral.
Just sit him down and tell him why u said what u said. Let him give u his perspective.
Obviously he believes in the vows he took (for better or worse). It sounds like he loves you. Seems like a good man to me.
There are always other options if you are not able to conceive.
Your husband is right. YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE!!! You are over reacting. While infertility is difficult and stressful, the fact is he NEVER married you for your baby making abilities. Erase that thought from your mind. Stress ALWAYS makes conceiving more difficult. I know this seems unlikely, but has HE been tested? Contrary to popular belief, PCOS is HIGHLY over diagnosed---and men can have all sorts of problems with sperm count and health. Regardless, stop stressing!!
%26lt;%26lt;%26lt;Former 'PCOS' sufferer who found out Hubby was the one with the 'lazy' sperm. We adopted a 10 month old through foster care. The BEST decision of our lives.
Do you remember the part in your wedding vows that says
';For better or for worse?
Obviously you missed that part.
Believe me, I have been through hell and back with my husband. We got knee deep in debt from medical bills and college loans, I had my brother shipped off overseas and didn't know about his whereabouts for 15 months, his family past away in Russia and we were not able to attend the funeral and we aren't pregnant yet, even tho I am 22 and very healthy.
Life will bring you challanges, heart aches, and let downs, but that doesn't mean your husband has to pay. Divorcing your husband because you can't carry a baby makes no sense.
I am really sorry that your going through this, I am adopted because my mother had PCOS. Please don't give up.
oh hunni i can relate 2 u a little.
in 21 and my fiance is 27, he is going 4 tests this month and i need 2 wait for his results untill i can be tested, but i often tell him 2 leave and be with sum1 else if theres a problem with me. and i know i dnt want him 2 go but i wanthim 2 be happy, he tells me its me he loves and me he wants 2 be with.
ur hubby feels the same, he doesnt want 2 be a daddy 2 any1s children, he wants ur babies, he wants u 2 be family and he will always be there for you, i think we boh just need 2 realise our partners mean what they say,
ur not a failure and im sure 1 day ur time will come, theres a baby waiting 4 u hunni, it just needs the right time 2 come.
please dnt be so hard on urself and if u ever need 2 tlk im always on here (when im meant 2 be working lol)
all the best hunni xxxxxxx
and just think, ttc is there 2 test our rships, and when u and ur hubby have that baby u wont even remember all this fuss, even though now it seems as though ull never get there, u will.
every month failed is another month closer 2 ur baby xxxx
Wow!! Sometime I feel the same way but, I won't say it because I love him so much. I wouldn't want him to leave me for a child, but I agree every one deserves a child. And I too don't want my boyfriend to suffer because im incompetent in the reproduction area. I see all the other responses but it REALLY IS HARD, Unless you know, don't speak! I don't talk about it much because it's so upsetting.
Don't throw away a perfect relationship. If he should want to leave for that reason, that's a different story. But don't hurt the situation more.
Good Luck Love
I have PCOS and I totally feel you on this!!! It's hard to go day in and day out knowning we can't give our husbands what they really want.
It's hard not only to want something so bad yourself but to hold another person back from getting what they want too. Thats the heart breaking part. Unless you have PCOS and go though this, you don't know what it feels like.
PCOS isn't over Dx'd! Infact, most women go years without finding out they have it. However, some doctors will assume it's PCOS but it simply can be Insulin Resistance. Which is what I am. I have no cysts or even any sign of anything wrong with my ovaries. Thus to some doctors I don't not have PCOS but to some I Do. This syndrome is so un-reserached by the medical industry. But luckly, more and more advances are being made everyday. It's just a matter of waiting and hoping.
To get peice of mind i always try hard to focus on the good and not the bad. It's hard, don't get me wrong. But maybe God is just spending more time on our little ones! There is always a reason for things.
Prior to my PCOS dx, I was always on the go. Never slowed down or even relaxed. I had many other health problems that I just shoved to the side becuase I had better things to do. Since my Dx, I've learned that maybe God is trying to tell me to SLOW down. It's been a bit of a blessing even though it's still devasting to say the least!
Hang in there! I'm also on Metformin and just did my 1st round of Clomid. I'm hoping we both get our BFP soon!
I'm here to talk if you need. At least i'll understand where you come from being a PCOS cyster!
`hugs`
I am SO sorry! I hope all works out well for you. I can't say that I fully understand, because to my knowledge everything down there is working right and I have no ';problems';, but who knows... I've been trying for 3 months and nothing yet! I do understand how you feel like a failure though, especially with everyone around you getting pregant. I feel the same way! My brother's girlfriend is pregnant, my coworkers (several of them) and many friends have been given the gift of a child and a family and seemingly it was very easy for them, most didn't even have to try! And, here I am trying my hardest and it just doesn't seem to work. I've thought the same things as you before, I don't even have a ';problem'; or a condition. I do think sometimes though that if I can't have children, my husband does deserve better and deserves to have the family he's always wanted. Don't give up yet though! You've still got a while to try... and cutting it off at 30 is a little early, I'd say at least 35. They've made wonderful advances in medicine these days, so surely something will work for you. Keep trying and God will bless you with your special little angel when the time is right. You're not a failure, it's just not your time yet. Keep your head up and hang in there! LOTS of baby dust to you... *~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*
What you are feeling is so completely normal. It IS hard to see all the people you know getting pregnant and having babies. It will happen for you too, it is just going to take a little longer. Your husband does not want you to feel this way and I think you should tell him that you said those things cause you want to give him children and are so scared that it isn't going to happen. I do not think you want to divorce him and you both can get through this. Lean on each other instead of pushing each other away. All this stress is not good for your fertility either. I know it seems impossible but you have to try to relax and get back to just having sex for the joy and love of it, ya know. Stop trying so hard and it may happen easier. I also know that is harder to do than it is for me to say. Good luck.
omg darling i hope ur o,k??? im always here for u if u feel down n need 2 talk just send me a email! im so with u on this 1, i can understand what ur saying cuz iv said the same 2 my bf cuz i love him so much n he wants a baby so much 2 n i cant give it 2 him! im on clomid 50mg n its working im ovulating but still not preg yet!!!!!!! iv been ttc for nearly 2 years it gets harder as u prob no x plzzzzzzzzz hang in there ur not on ur own with how ur feeling xx keep in touch xx best of luck n lots of baby dust 2 u xx
But I feel really upset.. All around me, people are getting pregnant %26amp; I keep thinking.. why not me? My best friend and auntie had lovely baby boy's recently and my sister will be having twins soon. My husband is very supportive %26amp; patient. If it hadnt been for him, I don't know wat I wudve done. But yesterday, I felt really down %26amp; told him that If I can't get pregnant by the time I am 30 [I am 27 at the moment] I want a divorce %26amp; want him to get married to sum1 else. I tried to explain that it's cos he deservs more than I can give him. He really wants a child %26amp; cos I luv him so much %26amp; cos I hav the problem.. I feel like I am stopping him from being a dad.
He was very upset with what I sed. He got angry %26amp; sed that he cudnt understand why I was saying this %26amp; that he isnt with me just for a child. He isnt talking to me at the moment.
What can I do? Please advice! I feel like I am destroying my relationship.. How do I make things right? I can't stop crying at the moment. I feel like such a failure!
I have no1 to talk too or share my feelings with. Help?!Destroying Relationship Over TTC - Please Read %26amp; Advice??
I think your first step would be to tell your husband you are really sorry and you didn't mean it and you were just really upset and stressed and talking nonsense.
I know how awful it is. I've just had my second miscarriage since July. ALL my friends are pregnant and all of them are due when I would have been due if I hadn't had the first miscarriage. You just have to dig deep and find some strength. You do have someone to talk to - you have your husband. Lean on him, don't push him away.Destroying Relationship Over TTC - Please Read %26amp; Advice??
Get thee to a counselor -- NOW. You tieing your self worth to producing a baby is just horrible. It's horrible for you and your husbandn and it's not fair to either of you.
I can understand the frustration and I know seeing everyone else with their babies makes it even worse, but you cannot let yourself slip into this downward spiral.
Just sit him down and tell him why u said what u said. Let him give u his perspective.
Obviously he believes in the vows he took (for better or worse). It sounds like he loves you. Seems like a good man to me.
There are always other options if you are not able to conceive.
Your husband is right. YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE!!! You are over reacting. While infertility is difficult and stressful, the fact is he NEVER married you for your baby making abilities. Erase that thought from your mind. Stress ALWAYS makes conceiving more difficult. I know this seems unlikely, but has HE been tested? Contrary to popular belief, PCOS is HIGHLY over diagnosed---and men can have all sorts of problems with sperm count and health. Regardless, stop stressing!!
%26lt;%26lt;%26lt;Former 'PCOS' sufferer who found out Hubby was the one with the 'lazy' sperm. We adopted a 10 month old through foster care. The BEST decision of our lives.
Do you remember the part in your wedding vows that says
';For better or for worse?
Obviously you missed that part.
Believe me, I have been through hell and back with my husband. We got knee deep in debt from medical bills and college loans, I had my brother shipped off overseas and didn't know about his whereabouts for 15 months, his family past away in Russia and we were not able to attend the funeral and we aren't pregnant yet, even tho I am 22 and very healthy.
Life will bring you challanges, heart aches, and let downs, but that doesn't mean your husband has to pay. Divorcing your husband because you can't carry a baby makes no sense.
I am really sorry that your going through this, I am adopted because my mother had PCOS. Please don't give up.
oh hunni i can relate 2 u a little.
in 21 and my fiance is 27, he is going 4 tests this month and i need 2 wait for his results untill i can be tested, but i often tell him 2 leave and be with sum1 else if theres a problem with me. and i know i dnt want him 2 go but i wanthim 2 be happy, he tells me its me he loves and me he wants 2 be with.
ur hubby feels the same, he doesnt want 2 be a daddy 2 any1s children, he wants ur babies, he wants u 2 be family and he will always be there for you, i think we boh just need 2 realise our partners mean what they say,
ur not a failure and im sure 1 day ur time will come, theres a baby waiting 4 u hunni, it just needs the right time 2 come.
please dnt be so hard on urself and if u ever need 2 tlk im always on here (when im meant 2 be working lol)
all the best hunni xxxxxxx
and just think, ttc is there 2 test our rships, and when u and ur hubby have that baby u wont even remember all this fuss, even though now it seems as though ull never get there, u will.
every month failed is another month closer 2 ur baby xxxx
Wow!! Sometime I feel the same way but, I won't say it because I love him so much. I wouldn't want him to leave me for a child, but I agree every one deserves a child. And I too don't want my boyfriend to suffer because im incompetent in the reproduction area. I see all the other responses but it REALLY IS HARD, Unless you know, don't speak! I don't talk about it much because it's so upsetting.
Don't throw away a perfect relationship. If he should want to leave for that reason, that's a different story. But don't hurt the situation more.
Good Luck Love
I have PCOS and I totally feel you on this!!! It's hard to go day in and day out knowning we can't give our husbands what they really want.
It's hard not only to want something so bad yourself but to hold another person back from getting what they want too. Thats the heart breaking part. Unless you have PCOS and go though this, you don't know what it feels like.
PCOS isn't over Dx'd! Infact, most women go years without finding out they have it. However, some doctors will assume it's PCOS but it simply can be Insulin Resistance. Which is what I am. I have no cysts or even any sign of anything wrong with my ovaries. Thus to some doctors I don't not have PCOS but to some I Do. This syndrome is so un-reserached by the medical industry. But luckly, more and more advances are being made everyday. It's just a matter of waiting and hoping.
To get peice of mind i always try hard to focus on the good and not the bad. It's hard, don't get me wrong. But maybe God is just spending more time on our little ones! There is always a reason for things.
Prior to my PCOS dx, I was always on the go. Never slowed down or even relaxed. I had many other health problems that I just shoved to the side becuase I had better things to do. Since my Dx, I've learned that maybe God is trying to tell me to SLOW down. It's been a bit of a blessing even though it's still devasting to say the least!
Hang in there! I'm also on Metformin and just did my 1st round of Clomid. I'm hoping we both get our BFP soon!
I'm here to talk if you need. At least i'll understand where you come from being a PCOS cyster!
`hugs`
I am SO sorry! I hope all works out well for you. I can't say that I fully understand, because to my knowledge everything down there is working right and I have no ';problems';, but who knows... I've been trying for 3 months and nothing yet! I do understand how you feel like a failure though, especially with everyone around you getting pregant. I feel the same way! My brother's girlfriend is pregnant, my coworkers (several of them) and many friends have been given the gift of a child and a family and seemingly it was very easy for them, most didn't even have to try! And, here I am trying my hardest and it just doesn't seem to work. I've thought the same things as you before, I don't even have a ';problem'; or a condition. I do think sometimes though that if I can't have children, my husband does deserve better and deserves to have the family he's always wanted. Don't give up yet though! You've still got a while to try... and cutting it off at 30 is a little early, I'd say at least 35. They've made wonderful advances in medicine these days, so surely something will work for you. Keep trying and God will bless you with your special little angel when the time is right. You're not a failure, it's just not your time yet. Keep your head up and hang in there! LOTS of baby dust to you... *~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*
What you are feeling is so completely normal. It IS hard to see all the people you know getting pregnant and having babies. It will happen for you too, it is just going to take a little longer. Your husband does not want you to feel this way and I think you should tell him that you said those things cause you want to give him children and are so scared that it isn't going to happen. I do not think you want to divorce him and you both can get through this. Lean on each other instead of pushing each other away. All this stress is not good for your fertility either. I know it seems impossible but you have to try to relax and get back to just having sex for the joy and love of it, ya know. Stop trying so hard and it may happen easier. I also know that is harder to do than it is for me to say. Good luck.
omg darling i hope ur o,k??? im always here for u if u feel down n need 2 talk just send me a email! im so with u on this 1, i can understand what ur saying cuz iv said the same 2 my bf cuz i love him so much n he wants a baby so much 2 n i cant give it 2 him! im on clomid 50mg n its working im ovulating but still not preg yet!!!!!!! iv been ttc for nearly 2 years it gets harder as u prob no x plzzzzzzzzz hang in there ur not on ur own with how ur feeling xx keep in touch xx best of luck n lots of baby dust 2 u xx
Confusing Relationship with Ex-boyfriend...need advice?
I broke up with my ex a couple of months ago because his ex-girl at the time before they broke up (said she was pregnant). And because of all of that, I decided that I didnt want to deal with the drama of all of that and just encouraged him to try to make things work out. So we (well, ....I) decided to just be friends with him. As much as he didnt want that, I know that he was very confused on what to do in his situation. I figured that by me, giving him distance and time with her, it would help him to figure out his priorities. We are both madly in love with each other. Literally, I dream about him every night, I look at his pictures, and when we do talk, he tells me how much he loves me, and when he thinks of me he gets butterflies. So our feelings are very strong. We still say how much we love each other. And when I do go over to his house, he just wants me to lay down next to him and hug/cuddle. We havent had sex since we broke up, although we have been tempted, but we do kiss and do the whole bed talk thing. The bottom line is that WE ARE NOT together anymore.
I just want to know what to do about this? It is as though, we can't be friends, because deep down we both don't WANT to be friends?
I can't be with him right now, it is just to early to sit back and watch someone else share the miracle of having a child together. So I can't torture myself with the thoughts of him going back and forth with me and her.
But at this point in time....it feels as though that is already happening. I am so confused. He has asked me back (in very subtle ways, but always catching himself before he just comes out and asks) but we never talked about that.
What should I do, to not be so confused.........advice pleaseConfusing Relationship with Ex-boyfriend...need advice?
~ you two being friends doesn't seem to be productive. You are still doing everything that a couple does expect sex. so you really aren't giving him this space you think you are. Let him know how you feel about him and what you are feeling about the situation then. Tell him you need to cut contact with him til he figures things out. ~Confusing Relationship with Ex-boyfriend...need advice?
Why did you break up with him? Lack of trust or common sense? Depends on what you want. I mean if the baby is his then he'll be paying for it. On the other hand can you imagine being with him for many years to come? Do you honestly believe that your being together with him should stand in the way of their pregnancy? Could be. Some people don;t want the drama and that is understandable.
I guess I would do the same thing. Let things calm down and sort themselves out. It sounds like a mess. You'll decide right if you give it time.
you were smart not to want to deal with all the drama. Yet you should stick to your desicion by staying away and helping him to be a responsible man to HIS unborn child and of HIS action impregnating his ex-gf. That is the truth.
You are weakening him by keeping in touch, staring at his pictures and having bed talk conversation on the phone. These are fantasy that will make you both succumb to temptations. You can't be friends because of this intense feelings. As for you, it is a lose deal. You'll be the extra/ gf on the side who will take the mediocre. Don't be. You deserve a man of your own.
Think about it. It's not fair for the baby, it is not fair for you. Help him be a man who takes consequences on his actions. He might never be a responsible man ever and still impregnate all his gfs. But you should not be a part of this foolish game UNLESS he is George Clooney or Brad Pitt. Because besides they are gorgeous, they have lots of money and they can afford having many kids. be smarter.
I just want to know what to do about this? It is as though, we can't be friends, because deep down we both don't WANT to be friends?
I can't be with him right now, it is just to early to sit back and watch someone else share the miracle of having a child together. So I can't torture myself with the thoughts of him going back and forth with me and her.
But at this point in time....it feels as though that is already happening. I am so confused. He has asked me back (in very subtle ways, but always catching himself before he just comes out and asks) but we never talked about that.
What should I do, to not be so confused.........advice pleaseConfusing Relationship with Ex-boyfriend...need advice?
~ you two being friends doesn't seem to be productive. You are still doing everything that a couple does expect sex. so you really aren't giving him this space you think you are. Let him know how you feel about him and what you are feeling about the situation then. Tell him you need to cut contact with him til he figures things out. ~Confusing Relationship with Ex-boyfriend...need advice?
Why did you break up with him? Lack of trust or common sense? Depends on what you want. I mean if the baby is his then he'll be paying for it. On the other hand can you imagine being with him for many years to come? Do you honestly believe that your being together with him should stand in the way of their pregnancy? Could be. Some people don;t want the drama and that is understandable.
I guess I would do the same thing. Let things calm down and sort themselves out. It sounds like a mess. You'll decide right if you give it time.
you were smart not to want to deal with all the drama. Yet you should stick to your desicion by staying away and helping him to be a responsible man to HIS unborn child and of HIS action impregnating his ex-gf. That is the truth.
You are weakening him by keeping in touch, staring at his pictures and having bed talk conversation on the phone. These are fantasy that will make you both succumb to temptations. You can't be friends because of this intense feelings. As for you, it is a lose deal. You'll be the extra/ gf on the side who will take the mediocre. Don't be. You deserve a man of your own.
Think about it. It's not fair for the baby, it is not fair for you. Help him be a man who takes consequences on his actions. He might never be a responsible man ever and still impregnate all his gfs. But you should not be a part of this foolish game UNLESS he is George Clooney or Brad Pitt. Because besides they are gorgeous, they have lots of money and they can afford having many kids. be smarter.
Boy/relationship problems...I need some advice :-(?
I'm a very outgoing person. I'm pretty funny and open with others. i try not to be conceited or rude and most people like me. However, I don't have luck in relationships. I don't think I'm ugly, but I'm not drop dead gorgeous. Most of the black guys at my school have no interest because I'm not ';black enough'; (ridiculous, I know). And most white guys just think of me as a friend I guess lol. I don't really know what to do. I wanna have a fun summer full of guys and romance and all that business. What do I do? lolBoy/relationship problems...I need some advice :-(?
Enjoy life as it is. If you look for love it wont come. Have fun this summer with your friends. To find some cuties go to a beach or a amusement park. Don't make it like you are looking just have fun.
Enjoy life as it is. If you look for love it wont come. Have fun this summer with your friends. To find some cuties go to a beach or a amusement park. Don't make it like you are looking just have fun.
Abusive relationship after effects +10pts best advice.?
good evening, This has been occupying my mind for a while. I was in an abusive relationship for a year, I loved him, wanted to help him, but he hurt me. So much, that my parents had to intervene and make me get a restraining order.
This relationship wreaked havoc on my self esteem. After 2 years of being single, I am seeing another person and I have trouble expressing , communicating my feelings to him. It's irrational, but I am afraid I will get hurt again- once I ';confess my love.';
Q: What should I do to ease my insecurities? (Should I mention my past relationship to him?) How do I tell him I really care about him?
[Once feelings are out on the table, I am known to just disappear, grow distant, fight over something stupid, etc.] - I don't want this to happen again.
P.S.: I think he also has trouble expressing his feelings because he is leaving for med school in a couple months. :(Abusive relationship after effects +10pts best advice.?
What you need to do is realize what your ex did to you was wrong, and you didn't deserve any of that, and you need to stop being a victim. Get out of that cycle because now it will only bring you down. You need to sit down with your new guy and put it all out on the table and tell him what you've been through. He will understand, most importantly though if you don't make yourself a victim, and you stay completely strong. This experience has drastically shaped your life, but now it's your time to turn it around and make something positive out of it. Try speaking with abuse victims, or volunteering at abuse shelters. It will make you feel so good and be able to become closer to your new guy.Abusive relationship after effects +10pts best advice.?
You should probably tell him abut your past. If the relationship is meant to be, he will understand and won't let you run away from him. The only way to overcome what happened is to deal with it. Sometimes that means discussing what happened with others. Explain to him about your insecurities and how you think he could help you overcome them. A loving boyfriend would talk with you and help you.
This sounds like a casual dating relationship.
Because he is leaving soon for med school,
it sounds as if it needs to stay on a casual level.
Definitely do talk about what went wrong in your previous relationship. Speak of your insecurities. This is the type of
friendship you can greatly benefit from, hearing what a guy
would say about another guy's actions. This is an excellent
learning situation for you. Just a friendship though, leave
your feelings out of it.
AND...get yourself some therapy for abuse recovery. Part of
the therapy will be learning to build positive relationships %26amp;
learning to trust people who can be trusted.
This relationship wreaked havoc on my self esteem. After 2 years of being single, I am seeing another person and I have trouble expressing , communicating my feelings to him. It's irrational, but I am afraid I will get hurt again- once I ';confess my love.';
Q: What should I do to ease my insecurities? (Should I mention my past relationship to him?) How do I tell him I really care about him?
[Once feelings are out on the table, I am known to just disappear, grow distant, fight over something stupid, etc.] - I don't want this to happen again.
P.S.: I think he also has trouble expressing his feelings because he is leaving for med school in a couple months. :(Abusive relationship after effects +10pts best advice.?
What you need to do is realize what your ex did to you was wrong, and you didn't deserve any of that, and you need to stop being a victim. Get out of that cycle because now it will only bring you down. You need to sit down with your new guy and put it all out on the table and tell him what you've been through. He will understand, most importantly though if you don't make yourself a victim, and you stay completely strong. This experience has drastically shaped your life, but now it's your time to turn it around and make something positive out of it. Try speaking with abuse victims, or volunteering at abuse shelters. It will make you feel so good and be able to become closer to your new guy.Abusive relationship after effects +10pts best advice.?
You should probably tell him abut your past. If the relationship is meant to be, he will understand and won't let you run away from him. The only way to overcome what happened is to deal with it. Sometimes that means discussing what happened with others. Explain to him about your insecurities and how you think he could help you overcome them. A loving boyfriend would talk with you and help you.
This sounds like a casual dating relationship.
Because he is leaving soon for med school,
it sounds as if it needs to stay on a casual level.
Definitely do talk about what went wrong in your previous relationship. Speak of your insecurities. This is the type of
friendship you can greatly benefit from, hearing what a guy
would say about another guy's actions. This is an excellent
learning situation for you. Just a friendship though, leave
your feelings out of it.
AND...get yourself some therapy for abuse recovery. Part of
the therapy will be learning to build positive relationships %26amp;
learning to trust people who can be trusted.
I'm going off to college in the fall and I need advice on how to keep my relationship strong with my boyfriend
I want to keep being with my boyfriend but I'm going to be an hour and half away from him. How do I keep our relationship?I'm going off to college in the fall and I need advice on how to keep my relationship strong with my boyfriend
I don't think that you can expect to ';keep'; your relationship in the exact same state that it is in now. Your relationship wil undergo changes being that you and your boyfriend will not be seeing each other as much. You will also be meeting tons of new people and experiencing things in life that you never have before.
The key to keeping your relationship healthy is communication. The more you share your feeling with your bf the better things will be between you. This way everyone is on the same page.
Remember that you have your whole life ahead of you and that you may discover while you are away from your boyfriend that perhaps your relationship isn't what you though it was or maybe that all your needs aren't being met. So remember to keep an open heart and mind... this along with constant open communication between you two should give you the best chance if it is meant to be.I'm going off to college in the fall and I need advice on how to keep my relationship strong with my boyfriend
try your best to reserve your spare time for him.
technology has made long distance communications much easier than before.
There're many ways to keep in touch closely with him.
1. phone calls
2. online chatting
3. email messages
so both of you can talk to each other whenever you are both free.
if possible it'd be good if he goes to visit you in college or you visit him in where he is, not often but once in a while.
Good luck.
An hour and a half is not far. You can and have the power to maintain a healthy relationship with him. Are you worried that you will meet someone or he will meer someone? If that is how you feel then you shouldn't be in a relationship with anyone. If you have tust and honesty in your relationship then the distance shouldn't be a problem. I know some people who were able to maintain a healthy relationship while living on different coast while attending school. Good Luckmakeup hair tips
I don't think that you can expect to ';keep'; your relationship in the exact same state that it is in now. Your relationship wil undergo changes being that you and your boyfriend will not be seeing each other as much. You will also be meeting tons of new people and experiencing things in life that you never have before.
The key to keeping your relationship healthy is communication. The more you share your feeling with your bf the better things will be between you. This way everyone is on the same page.
Remember that you have your whole life ahead of you and that you may discover while you are away from your boyfriend that perhaps your relationship isn't what you though it was or maybe that all your needs aren't being met. So remember to keep an open heart and mind... this along with constant open communication between you two should give you the best chance if it is meant to be.I'm going off to college in the fall and I need advice on how to keep my relationship strong with my boyfriend
try your best to reserve your spare time for him.
technology has made long distance communications much easier than before.
There're many ways to keep in touch closely with him.
1. phone calls
2. online chatting
3. email messages
so both of you can talk to each other whenever you are both free.
if possible it'd be good if he goes to visit you in college or you visit him in where he is, not often but once in a while.
Good luck.
An hour and a half is not far. You can and have the power to maintain a healthy relationship with him. Are you worried that you will meet someone or he will meer someone? If that is how you feel then you shouldn't be in a relationship with anyone. If you have tust and honesty in your relationship then the distance shouldn't be a problem. I know some people who were able to maintain a healthy relationship while living on different coast while attending school. Good Luck
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