Confusing Relationship with Ex-boyfriend...need advice?

I broke up with my ex a couple of months ago because his ex-girl at the time before they broke up (said she was pregnant). And because of all of that, I decided that I didnt want to deal with the drama of all of that and just encouraged him to try to make things work out. So we (well, ....I) decided to just be friends with him. As much as he didnt want that, I know that he was very confused on what to do in his situation. I figured that by me, giving him distance and time with her, it would help him to figure out his priorities. We are both madly in love with each other. Literally, I dream about him every night, I look at his pictures, and when we do talk, he tells me how much he loves me, and when he thinks of me he gets butterflies. So our feelings are very strong. We still say how much we love each other. And when I do go over to his house, he just wants me to lay down next to him and hug/cuddle. We havent had sex since we broke up, although we have been tempted, but we do kiss and do the whole bed talk thing. The bottom line is that WE ARE NOT together anymore.





I just want to know what to do about this? It is as though, we can't be friends, because deep down we both don't WANT to be friends?





I can't be with him right now, it is just to early to sit back and watch someone else share the miracle of having a child together. So I can't torture myself with the thoughts of him going back and forth with me and her.





But at this point in time....it feels as though that is already happening. I am so confused. He has asked me back (in very subtle ways, but always catching himself before he just comes out and asks) but we never talked about that.





What should I do, to not be so confused.........advice pleaseConfusing Relationship with Ex-boyfriend...need advice?
~ you two being friends doesn't seem to be productive. You are still doing everything that a couple does expect sex. so you really aren't giving him this space you think you are. Let him know how you feel about him and what you are feeling about the situation then. Tell him you need to cut contact with him til he figures things out. ~Confusing Relationship with Ex-boyfriend...need advice?
Why did you break up with him? Lack of trust or common sense? Depends on what you want. I mean if the baby is his then he'll be paying for it. On the other hand can you imagine being with him for many years to come? Do you honestly believe that your being together with him should stand in the way of their pregnancy? Could be. Some people don;t want the drama and that is understandable.





I guess I would do the same thing. Let things calm down and sort themselves out. It sounds like a mess. You'll decide right if you give it time.
you were smart not to want to deal with all the drama. Yet you should stick to your desicion by staying away and helping him to be a responsible man to HIS unborn child and of HIS action impregnating his ex-gf. That is the truth.





You are weakening him by keeping in touch, staring at his pictures and having bed talk conversation on the phone. These are fantasy that will make you both succumb to temptations. You can't be friends because of this intense feelings. As for you, it is a lose deal. You'll be the extra/ gf on the side who will take the mediocre. Don't be. You deserve a man of your own.





Think about it. It's not fair for the baby, it is not fair for you. Help him be a man who takes consequences on his actions. He might never be a responsible man ever and still impregnate all his gfs. But you should not be a part of this foolish game UNLESS he is George Clooney or Brad Pitt. Because besides they are gorgeous, they have lots of money and they can afford having many kids. be smarter.