I need help with this relationship. MEN, your advice please?

I think I caught my bf of 6 months in a lie. He sent me a pic of him he took out of state this weekend in a hotel, but the room he took it in looked like his closet! He denied that it was, but I was at his place when he came back %26amp; everything matched up in the picture! He said no, I was just seeing things. I told him to be honest with me and he replied that he was getting tired of my accusing him of not being honest and got rid of plans to make me dinner tonight. I didn't want to prove I was right, just wanted the truth. I can't believe I analyzed to death a stupid picture and now I ruined it. He won't reply to my apologies at all. I want to forget this petty incident and move on, and if it happens again, call him on it, but I'm afraid he's thrown our relationship away. Some ppl said he probably needed space, but didn't know how to tell me. I need a man's point of view please. What can I do to save this? I've tried apologizing, but to no avail. :( Maybe he just needs space?I need help with this relationship. MEN, your advice please?
If you called me a liar, and I wasn't lying, I'd drop you like a hot rock.





On the other hand, if he's lying, and trying not to get caught, this is exactly how he'd behave. (Let's just forget it.....)





I wouldn't want to not talk about it, I wouldn't want to talk to you at all, if you couldn't trust me.





Has he been honest about everything else?





You need to decide if you believe he's lying or not.





If so, he's lying about little things, what's gonna happen with the big things?





If not, you need to find a way to trust him.








LuckI need help with this relationship. MEN, your advice please?
Why would he lie about being home when you thought he was in a hotel out of town?





Seems though more trouble can happen in a hotel than at his house because the neighbors could notice something.





I think you have an unhealthy relationship. Both of you should move on to the single life and mature a little more.
You're feeling needy becuase he is making you run after him. You obviously love him, but he is finding excuses!





Give it some time..don't mention this again.. try to move on, and try to cut the neediness.. by time you will see if he;'s worth trying or not!





Give him some space..men need that sometimes, without us women even realising it!





Don't worry too much.. It happened to me.. And even if he has to go out clubbing..let him be.. He will come apologising soon enough, if he really loves you.





I've been there!! Dn't worry too much..Guys need space, sometimes they are more complicated then we are!! So relax ..and GL:)xx
Give him a little time, if he really wants to be with you he will get over it and move on. If he really did lie to you, he's probably not worth all the effort and stress.
if you have doubts and he will not answer you then maybe you both need some space for a while.if that dont work for a while then maybe for good if he will not talk to you about it.its not petty if it really bothers you.remember your feelings count as well.....
theres nothing you can do.let him do his thing.and call you when he is ready.
i think he need space; he wasn't suppose to lie. as, u just explained, it seems like he probably lied to u. becareful about what u say to him. i don't really know if there's reparation.
Man's point of view- your boyfriend is an idiot. I can't judge this picture for myself, but I can come to two conclusions.





A- You overreacted and the picture is a hotel room. I don't really think this is the case because unless your bf is gay, no guy's room/closet/whatever is ever going to look even remotely similar to a hotel room/closet/whatever. Personally I don't know any guys that would take pictures of their hotel room and send to their girlfriends. You never want your girlfriend associating anything you're doing without her with sex- it only encourages thoughts of cheating. So it doesn't even make sense that he would do this, unless he wants you to think he's cheating...





B- You're right, it's not a hotel, and he sent you the picture for an excuse to break up with you. Since I think this is the case, let me explain to you what kind of guy you're dealing with. He's a chump and he wants out of the relationship and is too afraid to say it to your face. Like I said, no guy does what he did, and the fact that it probably wasn't even a hotel room suggests he wanted to either insult your intelligence into a breakup (bf- is this girl really stupid enough to believe this is a hotel room? If she is I can tell her/get her to do anything!) or he's exploiting your paranoia by making you believe he's lying/cheating so you'll do the honors of ending the relationship.





Since you flipped on him and are now trying to tone down your accusations, he's decided to ignore you all together. Here's where it gets a little fuzzy. If you've always been suspicious of him, this latest incident could be the straw that breaks the camel's back (it has only been six months, and if you've accused him a lot with this stuff he could've been looking for an exit months ago). If you haven't, then he's using this incident to end the relationship and perhaps turn you out into his friend-with-benefits (knowing you've retorted your accusation and are apparently desperate to put things back the way they were, you'll do anything to keep him around. He'll fool around with you and work on some new relationship).





That's a guy's opinion for you. My advice? Move on. Too many flags going off telling me this situation stinks.
You obviously are looking for a reason to end the relationship. And you took the photo as the opportunity to end it. So what if he did not go out of town. Did he cheat on you or just lie about leaving town.....people lie all the time. Not all of us can be perfect male specimans that never lie and always want to cuddle after........:-)
Why would he lie about something so stupid, sounds like he's got some kind of insecurity issue, like he doesn't feel that he's got a lot going on and he wanted you to think that there was. I think he was really embarrassed. Don't apologize, he should be apologizing to you for being stupid. You sound mature and he on the other hand doesnt, he doesn't understand that you are tryin got tell him that he doesn't have to invent stories to impress you, what a flake. Obviously he's not comfortable with himself. Let him reach out, and tell him that you dont' want to be with a phoney baloney, don't change who you are for his sake...screw him, I would've been embarrassed too.





I dated a guy like that, I couldn't compete with him financially and he knew that but he would make up stories about being away when he wasn't
Cut your losses now, it will be easier. When you find the person for you, you won't have feelings that they are lying. Why waste your time with the wrong person? Move on, you have plenty of time.
Its not your fault for feeling like this. The most important component of any relationship is honesty. While it is true that a guy does need some space from time to time, he needs to tell you himself. Him being mad at you i think is probably just him being stubborn and defensive. He will cool off eventually and things wil settle down. If he does not then you deserve better than him anywat (:. Best of luck
lol...he said he was at a hotel, but the picture he took was at his closet? HAHAH...what a nerd;)..
wow thats way messed up. You guys really should talk it out and figure out if staying together is a good idea, which it seems like it isn't so just lat him come to you since he's being a jerk and not talking to you.
It looks to me that hes the one with the problem, not you. If he lied to you about the closet then thats a sure indication you're relying on your instincts and hes not man enough to even say ';Yes, you're correct I didn't go out of state and I did indeed take this picture from my room.';





Hes not the one that needs space, its you, thoroughly analyse both the situation, him and the relationship as a whole, question whether you feel this relationship can go anywhere (the fact you do not trust him and to anyone else who's read your question will see that the blatant lie of making his closet to be a hotel room speaks volumes) you can of course hold out hope, but you have to tell yourself that you are indeed the better person in this, he on the other hand has lied.





If this helps you then I'm glad :)
mayb u should give him space.. but one tha other hand theres no reason that he should hav lied to u....or it could be that hes tryin to find a reason to break it off w/o feelin as guilty. hes being a jerk.
If he really took a picture of himself or his closet. He is the weird one noty you. If he feels he needs to lie about that kind of thing, then there is no limit to it. Don't you think that is absurd? You are not a trick dog who needs to make sure you do everything right in order for the trick to be successful.





YOU should have been the one to have turned down dinner. DO NOT CALL HIM. What are you sorry for?





At this point let him miss you! That is if you are still interested in him. If you have been too needy then quit that act, it is not appealing.
Sounds like you may have been a little clingy and you may have ruined it with him. However, if there is smoke then there is fire. So by him lying to you is totally wrong too, it sounds like you had a right to question the picture and he had no right to lie about it. If he needed space all he should have said is that he had plans for the weekend. Also when you do get with another man just try not to smother him if you are doing this. Good Luck