Relationship trouble, really need your advice!?

Ive been in a relationship for 2 years. My boyfriend treats me great and does alot for me (buys me food and takes care of me when im sick, etc.) but lately things are not the same. I don't feel that hes attracted to me anymore, and we spend almost everyday together and most days we don't even kiss or hug. sex is out of the question, and when ive talked to him about it he says ';i don't know why we dont but ill try harder'; and its been almost 4 months since we have, and before that it was another 3... i'm only 19 i feel like i deserve to get some affection! i do love him and would like things to work out...but i just cannot see myself ever wanting to make love with someone who has completely forgetten about my feelings and my needs. Ive gotten to the point where i'm day dreaming about having sex with another guy, and i try to stop myself but I cant help it! Im craving that affection, and when I told my boyfriend that he said ';do whatever you have to do';. What do you all think I should do, and what do you think of this situation?Relationship trouble, really need your advice!?
I can tell you two things that can be happening...you will probably not like either, but I will share my opinion with you regardless.


1. It is possible he could be cheating, I would have no idea, you are his girlfriend and you know him much better than anyone on this site, only you would know if he was sneaking around. Don't ignore your intuition--for us women, it plays up for a reason..don't think you're paranoid if you think something is going on, check and make sure. But if this is out of the question then


2. He could have commitment issues...he cares for you, as you noted the actions he does above, but maybe he has a fear of commitment and doesn't want to be tied down right now?


You should speak with him and be firm because things will not get better if you leave them in the dust, if you are not being pleased emotionally and sexually then these thoughts might become reality after a period of time and then you will really feel at fault. Tell him to tell you what's going on and that you need to know because you are not very happy in this relationship...he will then say ';well then, leave'; but make it clear that you're still here because you love him, but you wish he would tell you what's going on and that you will stick by him if he just shares his thoughts and feelings with you.


Don't give up yet, try some more and be patient...only time will tell what's really going on. Communication is key in a relationship, best of luck...email me if you need anything else.Relationship trouble, really need your advice!?
you two are spending way too much time together , the relationship has become a routine , kinda like a chore. you two should spend less time together so you and he'll miss each other, you'll have more to talk about.





time apart sometimes is really good for the relationship. Don't ask him anymore why , or you'll both just get on each others nerves..
I know that it will be very hard, but i think the best solution is to end things. He is acting as if he does not care, and if he doesn't, he does not deserve you. He is putting too much stress on you, and if he is not acting as though he loves you and is not meeting your needs then he's not worth it. Good luck with it all, and I'm sorry that it's not working out.
Maybe you two need to have a heart to heart about your relationship. If you are going for months without sex when things used to be spicy... there is something wrong. Have you tried coming on to him? Sometimes guys want to be lured in too. Maybe the relationship has run it's course. You deserve someone who is going to meet your needs. You both deserve happiness. Good luck!
Their is an old saying (If you set it free,and it comes back it worth working on it. If it doesn't it was never yours in the first placeL:) I think you two need time apart to see how you really feel about one another. You are to young to live without affection.
omigosh!


it sounds like hes turnning into a total @ss H0L3


im definatly NOT saying you should sleep with him.


I think you might want to take a break from him, like spend a week at some place else.... spring break is comming up!..... unless your at college....


well i think you should spend a little time away from him, make him miss you!


haha


it always works for me!
i think its time to end this. clearly you are having thoughts about another guy and its very possible he may just need out of it. perhaps you should take a break and if you both still love each other maybe you will get back together.





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Wow, thats pretty depressing, he just suddenly stopped showing his love to you? Odd. There might be something bothering him, you should ask. Tell him to be honest about his answer. If you don't ast fast your relationship might be over.
maybe its time to leave the relationship no matter how much it hurts. Why stay with someone you don't feel happy with and if you both go seprete(sorry I spelled it wrong) ways now it'll be easier in the future. Good luck =]
I think you should just leave before things get worse.


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Sweetie, you're still young! %26amp; nobody should live their life that way, no matter how old they are. It sounds like he's completely given up on the relationship. Maybe it's time to walk away. You deserve better than that!
did you actually try telling him everything thats been going with you and what you've feeling? prolly time to say goodbye!!
uhm. wow. if u feel like he isnt into u anymore mabye yall should give each othr a break.
I'm younger than you and I don't know much about sex but I'll try to help;





Well if he said that you can do whatever you have to do and he didn't even try to talk it out and try to make you stay, then maybe it means he's ready to let you go? Do you really want to be with someone who doesn't care if you leave? Your right, you deserve affection and if he doesn't want to give you any then he probably isn't worth it. But in the end, it's all about how YOU feel about the situation, you know your boyfriend better than we do so maybe you know what's best.


But from what you said if I were you I would find someone who treats me better and gives me attention.
Interesting, you are going through some of the ebbs and flows of a relationship and sometimes if you pressure someone too hard to want to stay with you, you will find that you are only pushing him away. If you ease up a bit and just try to show that you are a constant in his life, this may draw him back towards you. If you get this far, you can always try to find new ways to show romance/love for each other. Buy one of those books, like 1001 ways to show romance. Lots of great ideas for showing that you care. Good Luck!
Sit down with him, and talk to him about this thoroughly, he seems to be not caring all of a sudden, ask him why and whats bugging him, as a couple you need to overcome these obstacles together. If you two aren't used to staying away from each other then i recommend you do so, as in some situations distance will make your relationship stronger. (its not the case for every relationship, but it should work for your problem). If you two don't share the love you once had, talk to him about it, and if he doesn't treat you properly then you should look for other guys who will. Best of luck!
as a guy 2 thumbs up for talking to him about it, but everyone feels that way about the person there in a relationship with. 2 things i recommend is time apart because absence makes the heart grow stronger and i lost interest in a girl that i spent to much time with, because it became a normal part of my life and when i didn't see her as much i began to cherish those times.





also males tend to lose confidence and interest if the girl is playing hard to get for to long. it is hard for a guy to always have to make the first move and it would be really nice if when you are in the mood you lean in to kiss him once in a while. If she never starts things we tend to think that they(girls) don't care about us