I'm struggling during a relationship break. Any advice?

My girlfriend and I have dated for 1.5 years and she recently surprised me by saying she wanted to take a break. I was shocked. Our relationship has always been steady and she always tells me what a great boyfriend I am. She said she wants a break because she's going through a tough personal time and she needs to be by herself. She has been working at a new firm for a few months and the amount of failed relationships among her co-workers has upset her and has her skeptical of her own relationship. Also, some family members of hers are going through a seperation and possible divorce. She says that she is not interested in seeing other people and she would like to get back together eventually. We've been on a break for a few weeks and I'm miserable. We still talk a lot, and every now and then she'll tell me how much she loves me and misses me. This gets my hopes up, but she'll later insists that she doesn't know how long this will take. Does anyone have any advice?I'm struggling during a relationship break. Any advice?
If she really means a whole lot to you, you should then wait for her but be open to other potential partners. You cant wait for her forever, if you fall in love with someone else it is her loss.I'm struggling during a relationship break. Any advice?
I would wait it out for another month.





It seems like she's going to come around...this is something she needs to do herself. Give her some ';me'; time, and as you can notice already, she's MISSING you.





If a month goes by, however, and she still doesn't want to lift her foot off the break pedal, my advice would be to give her an ultimatum: either together or not. Let her know that you're not going to wait around forever - it's not fair at all to YOU, either.





If she really loves you, she'll come around.





Good luck!
Wow thats rough, I'm sorry. You need to have a long conversation with her and tell her that you and her have a different relationship then everyone else, and that you have faith in it... tell her how much you miss her and that you'll do whatever it takes to get her back. Good luck with it, and if time is what she wants, then give it to her!
She is obviously dealing with some personal issues. Giving her space is the best thing to do. She will come to you when she feels the time is right. You should try and keep your mind busy doing fun things. If she knows that you are there and you keep bugging then she knows she can come back whenever she wants, but if you are off doing your own thing she might decide that she is a little jealous and want to come back. Dont call her and dont bug her.......she'll be back
So many people say they're going through this, and it just surprises me because if I'm going through a hard time, the last thing I want is to be AWAY from the person I care about. But I digress. You can't wait around forever for her to come back. I hate to say this, but what if it's officially over? You'll never get this time back. Just keep your eyes and heart open.
just wait a few months til things settle down in her life. she DOES still loves you because she says so and plus she wouldnt be talking to you if she realli wanted an actual breakup. just make sure that your always there for her, no matter if yous are in a relationship or not.
You still catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. Recatch 'em too. Let her call you. Then just steer the conversation onto her, and just let her talk. Be the really good guy she says you are! You can throw her in the shower stall fulla rats later. (he he he!)
As hard as it is, I'd say just give her the space. Let her come to you. I can totally understand where you are coming from.





I think that if you give her the space she's asked for (which it sounds like you are) she will respect you even more for that!








Good luck!!!!
id say take the time to relax and enjoy playing old video games maybe go see a movie and before u kno it it should be a few weeks (in other words work on something that take a few weeks of your back)
continue talking to her, just keep staying positive. know that she does love you and of course you love her! :) tell her how special she is to you, make her happy!! it'll relieve her stress... basically be strong and wait for your love...
listen to her.


she needs time.


TRUST me she will get back to you man.


put yourself in her shoes.
I hate to tell you this, but she is dating someone else.
Give her her space and hope!
Go bowling!!! Midnight madness and the crazy shoes is bound to cheer you up!!!
she is going through a lot atm so just let her calm down alright?
You need to accept that you have no control over the length of the break. If you had a big decision to make, then you could torture yourself over the options. But you are basically drifting with the tides. So free your mind and make the most of what you have.





And what you have now is more free time. Get out there and do stuff. Resume an old hobby you had, or pick up something new that is of interest. Call old friends and get together. There is a whole world out there to explore and experience.





I'm not saying to go out there and date other women. That's something you need to decide for yourself. But even if you want to wait for her, there's tons of stuff that will enrich your life. Think positive and live accordingly.
The reasons she's given you are all good ones for avoiding starting a relationship, but make little sense in light of the fact that you two already have a good one.





I think that she cares very deeply for you, appreciates what a wonderful boyfriend you've been, but has come to the conclusion that this relationship is not the one she wants forever.





She has no obvious reason to give you for the time-out and has made a list of reasons she believes are valid. I think she's trying to let you down easy by giving you some space and time to find someone else, thereby letting her off the hook for being the one who needs to end this.





I hope that you can handle all of this without anger or jealousy. From what you've written here, she has a lot of love and respect for you. I think she's just not feeling ';it'; anymore for you and I'm sure that makes her very sad.





It seems like she'll do anything not to hurt you.
its really up to you... its selfish of her to just make you wait around... you could either break up with her or you can tough this out.... how much does she mean to you? is she worth waiting for? i have come to learn over the years that there is NO breaks in relationships, you are either IN it or your not. breaks don't work in my opinion... or else i would still be with one of them. my fiance and i have never been on a break nor do we ever want to. (we have talked about it before) it will just tear a relationship apart. follow your heart.
well she needs space and she is getting a little depressed just give a little more time and she still likes you and loves you so just be patient it takes time but don't go over board she just needs space she is clearly upset about family matters and the people she works with she's might be scared it will happen to her and she wants to take time cause she doesn't want to hurt you with her depression but just keep loving her and show her that you will be there for her i hope it works out you seem like a great guy just be patient,