I need relationship help, please give me advice?

i have a girlfriend right now, and i like her but i still have feelings for my ex, i am Bi, and i went out with someone, then he broke up with me and i was crushed, and like 20 days later, i founf this girl who i liked who likes me back, but, now we have been going out for almost 2 months, and i havent gotten over him, i still like him, and i cant forget him, or atleast i choose not too. so i dont know what to do, my friends tell me to forget him and go out with her, and give her my attention. but the thing is that i am lying to myself, and lying to her because i still like him, but i dont know what to do. another friend (not really) tells me to break up with her, so that she could find someone who truly loves her. so please give me some advice, i am lost and confused, so please help, i like her but i dont i dont love her yet. i got too attached to him, and its killing me now, i still love him and i like her...I need relationship help, please give me advice?
You sound young. Most relationships go this way, especially if you are looking around and experiencing feelings with different people.





The only real trick is just to be honest. Just don't lead her to believe she is the love of your life if she isn't. Everything doesn't have to be all or nothing, do or die, marriage at the end of the month. Let her know that tho you are into her he is still very much in your heart, then she can decide if she still wants to be part of your life or move on. Let it be her decision, a well informed one.





And if it's truly over with him it's no use holding all of this for no reason. You are really shooting yourself in the foot by not exploring things with others right now. There really are many good matches for each of us, tho I know that's pretty hard to admit when you're still stuck on one person you had something good with.





Be easy on yourself. Try to focus on stuff outside your romantic emotions. You need some distraction. Don't put so much energy into other people, it will drain it from yourself. You'll learn, promise.I need relationship help, please give me advice?
Be honest with yourself, her and him...
You wroet it in your question..you choose not to...well....that is a immature thing you are doing..you can't have your cake and eat it tooif that is what you are hoping for..if it isn't you are not mmarried you can date as many people as you want...call him and see if he'd like to date....if he says no then you will know and you can move on...with her? It is none of her business what you do unless you two have a physical relationship..then BE HONEST and talk to her about it..BUT I would not say anything to her until you find out how he feels.....good luck...
my advise to you, run head first into a friggin wall.
Go with your heart. I'm guessing that she's just a rebound. If you loved him as much as you think, you're not ready to be with somebody else. I wish you the best of luck, make yourself happy!
well 1st of all you dnt give your self a chance 2 recover from the break up so that iz wat iz wrong there 2nd let her no how you feel about this guy still and if she really likes you she will help you through it that iz wat releationships are about being able to talk to ur partner about anything and everything
Get out of the bi lifestyle. You don't go with someone because you 'like' her, you enter a relationship with hopes and plans and see how it goes. Otherwise, you're just marking time until you can either break up or cheat on that person.


The gay life style is one bj after another. That may be just what you want, one hook up that is that wham, bam, thank you m'am, after another. It is a lifestyle. People do choose it, it is not going to be much more than that ever, unless you start feeling 'domestic' and want to play house with that. Is that what you want? It's not complicated, you just decide.


The people who tell you to leave her alone have that understanding underlying their advice. Is any woman going to happily go along with a life of servicing you while playing house - meanwhile, there are gays cruising looking for just a type like you to swap bj's with.


Superficial? Sure. I wouldn't call it grounds for deep love, not by a long shot. But here's the thing - that may be just why the gay lifestyle suits you, and there is nothing wrong with that. You can cruise gay bars all you want and have one encounter after another. Play house if you want, too. But the girl you are talking about wants a lot more; you don't really have her interests at heart so you can't possibly love her. This guy you miss so much, on the other hand, may be the best guy friend you ever had, and he will masturbate you any time you want, with any luck. That will be your life if you want to 'go for it' - so do that.
Hmmm.. I would go with the girl because I'm not bi. ;)
You are not bi,you are flamin gay quit kidding yourself
if you are so unhappy in your present relationship then end it, explain to your girlfriend that it is not her fault but you still love your ex, if your ex, really does not want you back then give yourself time to get over it before you have another relationship. i wish you well.
I dont want this to sound mean, so please dont take it like that. I read your question. You've answered your own question over and over and over as you explained the situation . Your with this girl and she's nice enough etc. but your heart isnt in it. How would you feel if you were her, and thought that the person you were with really liked you and dated you for 2 months only to find out you were being lied to the whole time? Im not saying you dont like her as a person. But you've said over and over that you cant get over this other person.





How can you be true to anyone if you cant be true to yourself? Dont play games with someone elses feelings while you secretly want to be with someone else.





Keep in mind that even after letting this girl go in order to pursue this ex doesnt guarantee that things will work out with him. You broke up for a reason. I understand how you feel saying you miss him. But is missing him enough of a reason to want to try again?





I dont know you personally so I dont know the depth of your relationship with your ex. Follow your heart but be logical.





good luck. I hope things work out for all 3 of you
If you are going back and forth between feelings for two people you should take some time to be by yourself for a hwile to figure out what it is that your heart really wants. then follow it!