Relationship with mother is bad. Advice?

Alright so here is a little detail on the situation. I am 19 years old and I just graduated from High school this year. I am currently going to college and I have a job. I am still living at home because shes allowing me to as long as I go to college. Not a bad deal, and I agree. The problem is, I cannot talk to her without getting in an argument. For example, and feel free to answer this in either standpoint, as a mother if you have a son my age or seeing it from my view. I am just going to be completely frank and state that after I graduated in early June I took a break from life for a while and I was not doing anything and she would constantly bug me about not doing anything, well she said that I needed to get a job or go to school if I wanted to stay at home. So I started college and I have the full intention of it least going for a 2 year and seeing what happens from there. So now I go to school and shes still bugging me that I need to do more, I need to start cleaning the dishes and all this stuff that does not happen from me. Like she wants me to clean the dirty dishes that she makes. Alright so that is not to bad and I do, do them when I see they need to be cleaned and I do take out the trash and I do vacuum every other week and I do clean my bathroom. So now I still do not do enough. Ok.. Well what the hell? You just told me I needed to do this and that and it would be ok and now suddenly its not enough? What the hell? Ok so now I have a job working night shift 8 hour shifts physical labor. And its still not enough for her? Am I just being completely unreasonable? What do I need to do to make this woman happy? I am SERIOUSLY considering going up to the Navy Recruiters office because I know where it is because I have been there and talked to them and taken the pre-asvab.(And please do not try to relate this to a kid crying for help this is not the case this is a serious choice I am considering right now) I am just so sick of this constant complaining and nagging. I do not know if I can handle this anymore. We had another argument today because she blows stuff way out of proportion. I understand,to a lot of people this does not sound like such a bad situation as to rush out and join the military. But trust me when I tell you, you do not know my mother. Her negative attitude, negative comments, 24/7 constant anger, never recognizing me for anything positive but just keeps comparing me to everything negative. While I am on that subject. She kept comparing me to some kid that got kicked out by his mother. This lady she works with that is. She kicked her son out because he refused to do anything. I CAN UNDERSTAND THAT. But I am going to college and I have a job and I do help around the house even if it isn't that much. And she actually compares me to this kid? I mean I will ask it again, am I being unreasonable? Its interesting because I have talked to my dad and this was the same reason he left home right after high school and joined the military because he couldn't stand his negative mother it drove him crazy and its driving me crazy. Its never enough for this woman. I ask her what do I need to do. She wont tell me, its almost as if shes trying to teach me a lesson that she wont explain to me yet she wants me to suffer long enough to try and realize it. I am tired of playing these mind games, I cannot handle it anymore and my body is literally getting sick of the constant b.s. around here.Relationship with mother is bad. Advice?
My husbands Mom was this way. Nothing he did was good enough. It made him very insecure and he resented his Mom big time because of it. Make a plan with Mom so you have her expectations on paper. Then when she hollers, you can say, Mom this is the agreement and I am holding up my half of the deal. Now you need to hold up your half and stop complaining. Good luck I know this can be really bad but you are doing the right thing.Relationship with mother is bad. Advice?
just work out i hope get better
Your body getting sick is from your nerves. As you probably know, the body does react when it has taken more than can handle. That's why some folks have had heart attacks and strokes.


First off, your right when you know that you have taken on your share if not more. You know, with the military they will pay for your college and military is ruff, not an easy life. How does your dad feel about the military? He has had the experiences. Mom is being unreasonable and if you need to move out now to reserve your love that you have for her, it might be the best thing to do. The only reason I speak more of the military because if you can endure what they hand out, you will in the end have a lot of benifits. My nephew is in college studying to be a nurse. Military paying for it, and he has truly grown into a wonderful person. Remember to always love your mom, to bad she doesn't see what a wonderful son she has.