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I cheated on my b/f of 4y I went thru bad depression time%26amp;I just kept it all bottled up inside, everyone always looked at me as the perfect girl %26amp; i felt like I needed to keep that image, I found this guy %26amp;i cheated on my b/f, he was crushed but I went back home to be with my family for a while which I needed and I want to work things out, I know it will take time but everyone knows what i did which is fine b/c i own up to my mistakes but part of me is woorried about what his family might think i know i hurted him and i don't want them to think that i would ever do something like that again. Please what should I do, we're starting to spend more time together and we both love each other but we know it will take time to heal things. I know it will take time and a lot of effort on my part %26amp; I'm willing to do anything, right now we both know it's gonna take time so we're just spending time together hopes but no expectations. Have you or some1 you know gone thru.Please i need advicePlease read Help me save my relationship!!! I need advice!!?
I am really proud of you for owning up to your mistake and trying to make everything right again. If everything goes well, this can make things even stronger for you than they ever even were before. You are right that it will take some work and it will probably require putting your feelings aside while he processes his own. As far as his family is concerned, don't worry about them. They cannot make his decisions for him, and Im sure they know this (they may not even be aware of the situation). When he sees your heart and all of its genuiness, that will speak much louder than anything that his family might say. I am sorry to hear that depression crept into your life. I know that this can happen when we put the wrong priorities in our relationships. I have been in the same situation where I put to much of an emphasis on sex in relationships. I have found however that when I put God first, even over my own marriage, everything else falls into place. If you ask God to forgive you, His word promises that He will. You can ask Him to bring your boyfriend and his family around to forgiving you and He can do that too. I will pray for you both that you find His comfort through this trying time and that God will turn it into a blessing for you.Please read Help me save my relationship!!! I need advice!!?
never cheated on a mate before but have had it happen to me and i know i never had that trust again so it slowly died. women tend to forgive a cheating man and put that trust all back their and he does it again and again. Men on the other hand when the next fight of words happen he will through it up in your face so be care-full. you made a mistake and we all make some of them in our life and move on.
i think they already said everything... just don't think of his family first... just go with the flow and prove to him that you'll never do it again... just take time and be strong.... help him recover from the pain that he felt...





hope i did answer your question... you know love is sweeter the second time around.... hope everything will be ok to both of you... take care! =)
well u need 2 promise him that u'll never do it again and mean it..and if u really loved him u wouldnt have had 2 live up 2 ur repuatation dont worry aobut what people think about u..his family will forgive espeacilly if he really loves u theyll know and they'll 4get bout the whole thing
trust is one of the important things to have in a relationship. 4yrs... very hard to earn, u should understand them its not easy to forget things like that,,all u have to do is prove to them that u wont do that anymore.
just talk to eachother about it
what you are doing is right enough just dont expect people to understand so soon, it will take time,





good luck hey,
best thing u can do is just dont rush anything give him his space, if he wants to be alone let him be
dont wrry about his family its between the two of you you two talk things out
Trust and respect is very important to make a relationship work. You have to be patient though and understand that even if you make ammends, it will take time before the trust is gained fully again (if ever it does return). Just remember that we all make mistakes and that you are really sorry that you hurt someone but even if you are willing to do whatever it takes to prove you can be trusted, don't let anybody step on you. Know who you are inside and still know your worth. Sometimes people tend to put us down for mistakes that we made. Acknowledge them and be remorseful and don't ever do it again - learn from it but don't let it pull you back. I've always believed that things happen for a reason and you just have to figure out what this is about. Good luck!
Okay do first off...you did the righ thing by owning up to your mistakes, and i went through this with my bf when he cheated on me, and the fact that he is still with you and standind by you means he cares enough about you...I know i am still with him...and when my family found out..they ended up letting me decide what i needed to do..and they let him earn his trust back..I think you should talk to them,,,and say that you are willing to earn their respect and trust back,,,and that you care about their son! they will respect you for coming to them and not waiting! Good luck keep me posted!!
well, if he is willing to accept the fact you cheated...then, it shouldn't matter what his family thinks. But, i can only imagine that it weighs heavily on you. I suggest some therapy and some anti-depressants. Sounds like you dodged a bullet by ur sweetie staying with you...u got your one get out of jail free card. there might not be another one for you. so, if you feel you acted out from depression, you need to do what you can to help prevent this from happening again.





best of luck...
I was in a relationship where i was cheated on, a lot. it's not a fun feeling at all. you just gotta give him time. it takes a LOT to heal a broken heart, if can heal at all. and trust me, he's gonna grow suspicions and when and if he does DO NOT GET MAD! you broke him so you'll have to deal with the side effects. i know this is gonna sound crazy and a lot of work but if you can let him know where you are going at all times. you don't have to call every two seconds to assure him but assurance is ALWAYS nice in this situation. Just call to say you love him, or call to say you're thinking about him, or call to see what he is doing but always manage to get in where you are at, or who you are with, or what you are doing. not all is needed but at least let him know one. if you want you guys to work he is gonna need to see that you are putting in 200% or maybe even 500% back into the relationship. As soon as you cheated, you went from being to apple of his eye to the girl he once knew. If he says that he's fine, he's not really. If he says he trusts you, he doesn't. What you did is always gonna be on his mind and when you're not with him it'll be on his mind even more.





good luck to the both of you.
i've been on that shoes...i was actually the guy who got cheated..


to be honest with you, you should be thanking him for staying with you and that is becasue he really loves you alot.


so all you can do for right now is give him all you have, gain his trust back, and make sure he feels that he is loved from YOU and not alone.





here are some ways that my gf proved it to me..


1) not talking to other guys that i dont really know


2) calling me and letting me know where she is


3) remembering anniversarys





there are lots more, trust me guys are the easiest animals to make happy and gain trust. take advantage


i hope everything works out for you





good luck!
Well Ive never cheated on my boyfriend, but my boyfriend of 2 years cheated on me. Even though he did what he did, I do have trust in him, sometimes you should bring it up and talk because that helps. But dont talk about it all the time. I mean I know that the only reason I ask him about it, is just because im curious of why he would do such a thing, but honestly I think that everything will be okay. People do make mistakes you are only human, it WILL just take time to heal. and about his family, that isnt any of there business, its between you two %26amp; nobody else.