25 weeks pregnant.. with serious relationship issues.. any advice?

Ok i'm 18, almost 19 and I was dating this guy for awhile and then I found out I was pregnant. We both love the idea of having a baby even though were not married and now not even together. I found out he was cheating on me with his ex so we broke up for awhile and then ended up getting back together then to find out he started dating somebody else while I was still with him. I absolutely hate him right now but i'm so scared of raising this baby alone and I don't want him to take me to court and be able to get the baby every other weekend. I recently found out that one of his ex girlfriends said that he used to hit her so I really don't trust him around our kid alone now. He does and two DUI's and I don't think his house would pass DHS inspection. I don't know what to do about any of this.. Does anybody else have advice?25 weeks pregnant.. with serious relationship issues.. any advice?
I'm a young mom too, I found out I was pregnant when I was just about to turn 17 and now I'm 18 raising a 8 month old boy with my boyfriend. Personally, I don't know what it's like to be cheated on and etc. but i swear it seems like EVERY girl around here is pregnant or has a baby already, most of which don't have fathers for their kids. This isn't just your life and your relationship anymore, you need to be fully focused on the well being of your baby. I stopped talking to my dad so my baby would be in a safer environment. If he cheated, he was never worth it. DUI's? He is not responsible at all. He doesn't ever have to see your child, nor be acknowledged as the father on the birth certificate. I know it's hard, but you can get through it. When you see your baby, no one else will matter. It's hard, but so worth it! As a mother, YOU and only YOU have full custody. Good luck and congratulations on the baby.25 weeks pregnant.. with serious relationship issues.. any advice?
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if i were you I would take this to a lawyer ,tell your parents to help you get a good one and get full custody
look i dont know if you want my advice im 15 and i had a baby,, i got pregnant when i was 13... well i didnt know who my babys father was... either between my 2 ex's....


and the one tht stayed with me wen he ffound out i cheeted he started beatin me while i was prego well all gurls fall for tht ily bby thin .and he was crazy he wld treahten to hit me r hurt my family r break my windows on my house and stuff so i stayed with him tht way nuin wld happena nd welll after a while he cme to my house 1 nite and him n my father gt into it and we gt a restarin order and stuff and im nt wit him no more well the other dude recently cme bk into my life and i raised my bby wit my family no guy just me nd now he cums nd wnts to be with me,, but 1 was tlkin to him to see if he changed r not bc i dated him b4 my crazy ex.. and we broken up then i gt wit my crazy 1.. lol soorry alot i knw.... well i was like ok we kool nd i tld him i loved him bc i neva gt over him and it was 2 yrs since we tlked and well i fel inlove again and he was tellin me he goin wit his frent o this gurl house n i was like ok who.. u knw nt bein n his shitt bt just askin n he tld me the gurl name n i was like bc i knw the gurl she nasty and a slut n **** nd he like fine i wnt well found out he did then he tld me a day r so latter he gt a hard on then a week r so he tld me he felt her up then about a weeek ago i find out he slept with her...











((look im sayin u dnt need a guy if he bad as u say he wnt get any kind of vistin permistions he cnt tke care of a bby wit bad reords u can be a great mother wit a single parent im sure u cn if a 15 yr old gurl cn....)
You are better off without this guy. Even if you have to be a single mom, it's better than you and your baby being around that drama, stress and possible abuse. My guess is a good lawyer would help the judge see that since he has 2 DUI's he would have a hard time getting custody. Maybe his ex could testify that he used to hit her. I really think you are much better off without him. You CAN do it by yourself. It might not be easy though. It will take a lot of sacrifice but when that baby is born, you will do anything for him/her. Believe me. I think you know what to do.
IF it does happen and you do go to court try to get full custody of the baby. That way his visitation is at your discretion, and you set the place and time and etc. Get your parents (or whomever is behind you in this) to help you get a good lawyer. Even try to get his ex girl to testify that he has hit her before and show documentation of his DUI's.. Anything negative that you can get against him, do it. Try taking pictures of his place so the court can see how dirty he lives (just in case he tries to clean it up before the court date or something).





There are also plenty of government services that will help you. Try getting on foodstamps and WIC (which I am on now.. it helps out a lot). Pick up every store and internet coupon that you can dealing with baby products and things that you need. And I'm sure you can find a family member or friend that does not mind helping you. If you are going to school, then check on campus and see if there is a daycare available while you are in class. There are many ways and many single parents who make it out there...





And trust me, I feel you on relationship problems. My bf and I (of 4 years) can get shakey sometimes to where I don't know what the future holds and I might be a single mom as well later on. You just have to use the resources out there, and trust me, they're out there.





Good luck!
take my advice and run, not walk, as fast and as far away as you can from this sad excuse for a man.





This man will be nothing but a bad influence on your baby and does not sound fit to be a father, nonetheless he is probably out contracting STDs and bringing them home to you.





A friend of mind contracted HPV and the beginning of cancer from an STD that her scum boyfriend gave her she had been with 5 yrs.





Millions of women do it alone -- you can take him to court for child support and he will have to send the check no matter if you live 300 miles away from him. DONT Fall for his sob stories -- you need to worry about a whole other life now. Its not about you, its not about him -- it is about your baby now.





Get away from him and use his child support and any other money you get/make to get a place and work on bettering your life without him. Eventually you can worry about a man in your life but you have plenty else to worry about right now.
Ok here's what happened to me. I dabbled in drugs for a while and ended up pregnant by my boyfriend who had two kids already, had no job and lived with his mom (he was 25). When I found out I was prego I cleaned myself up and wanted him to do the same but I couldn't even get him to go look for a job much less stop using dope. I found out he had been cheating on me with his ex (the one he has kids with). I packed my stuff up at 2am and my sister drove 4hrs to come get me. I got a job and saved up as much money as I could before I had to take maternity leave. After I had the baby I signed up for family assistance which helped me with child care. When my son was 3 months I went back to work. We now have our own apartment, I am off family assistance, and I do online collage classes. It's really hard having a full time job and then coming home with a baby under 1yr but just because I was being selfish and stupid when I got pregnant does not mean my baby should have to suffer. As for the father he has seen his son 4 times since he was born and doesn't pay child support. He works jobs that pay cash so there's no paper trail and the police can't find him.
babe you could do so much better if i were u im going through a similar issue here with myself im 18 and pregnant and believe me its not easy im 26 weeks pregnant i have no contact with the baby father mine to was also kinda the same but not to worry just dont talk to him no more if u have to go to court and get full custody of the baby he wont have no rights especially if he drinks or does drugs yes i agree it is hard taking care of the baby by yourself but u never know u might find a good guy
Your best bet would be to talk to a lawyer who specializes in family law. There should be a local women's crisis center in your area who can set you up with a pro-bono lawyer so you will not have to pay for the legal advice. If you do not want him to have anything to do with the baby and you cannot get legal advice, because you are not married you don't even have to put him on the birth certificate...the only way he could get the baby is by a paternity test and court fees for that kind of thing can be outrageous.


So all in all your best bet would be to contact a lawyer pro-bono or not and ask him or her all of your questions. They can direct you properly and assist you with what your best options are.





And take it easy! Don't stress. There are many young mothers out there who pull through just fine by themselves! My mom had her first at 16 and has had seven children she did just fine!


I am 18 almost 19 and even though I was married before I got pregnant I still have fears it's only natural! But you have many people out there who will support you and who can help you!





Best of Luck to you.