well about three days ago i broke up with my boyfriend and the past two days hes been calling me and telling me how horrible i am of a person for doing that and ';throwing away'; such a good relationship. the reason i brokeup with him is because right now i cant take a serious relationship, and i need to get myself back on track but all he seems to do is argue what im saying. on the phone he left me with a choiice, to come back to him with my desiscion. what do i say to make him get off my back? because with my breakup he said he hates who i am for that and will loose all respect for me and doesnt evne wanna speak/talk to me anymore...and ive been calm and nice all this time but how do i calmly tell him that its seriously cant be done at this point, and when i tell him maybe we can do this later he argues that noo chance in hell that he will wait for me, hes either in it with me during this hard time or out. please help! any suggestions help, no rash commentsSituation with a recent BREAKUP of a relationship and need advice..please help!!!?
cut contact with himSituation with a recent BREAKUP of a relationship and need advice..please help!!!?
just forget about him and hang up on him when he is being a jerk and try to talk to him
Breaking up hurts, and this guy is dealing with some serious pain right now. It's not your fault; getting your life on track is much more important than a relationship at this point in your life. If he calls again with his mean comments and all, answer the phone, but don't converse with him. Just say something like, ';Look, ___, dating you was great, but I need some time to just get my life back on track. It's nothing against you, it's just a personal decision I need to make. During our relationship, you've made me realize who I am and made me a better person, and I only hope that I did the same for you. However, you've really hurt me by all these insults and such. I'm sorry I hurt you, I really am, but I can't handle a boyfriend right now. I would really like it if you would please just not talk to me until you cool off, and maybe one day we can be friends again.'; Then say goodbye, and leave it at that.
So you are thinking that eventually you might want to get back together with him you just want a few days to clear your head? Just put yourself in his shoes...too! Stay calm with him, you are doing great with that... but if you love him and possibly want to get back with him then don't push him too far away. But if you don't want to be with him again... tell him its over. Best of luck to you!!!
The best thing to do is just be honest with him and tell him straight that you need time on your own to get yourself sorted. If he doesnt respect you for this then he is not worth the hassle. Tell him if he cant talk to you like an adult then you are not wasting your time with him. Give it a try
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