It sounds like his sister is a b***h. And it doesn't sound like he cares. I personally think that she is trying to get the two of you to break up. Does she say this stuff when he's not around? It's time to stop being nice, girl, or she's gonna run you off again or drive you insane. The next time she makes a comment like that about you being ugly or fat tell her, 'Well at least I got a guy that's good-looking. I couldn't imagine what you do on a Saturday night all alone.' Get downright dirty. She's being cruel and your boyfriend isn't going to do anything about it. So you need to. Just make sure he's not around when you say that stuff, this way you have deniability.
Friday, April 30, 2010
I hate my sisters boyfriend and it is ruining our relationship. I need advice to see if it will work.?
Me and my bf have been together for 1 year and usually are very happy with each other. In Feb 2008 I made a comment to my bf about how his sister being nasty to me e.g saying 'how long does it take you to scrape all your make-up off, I bet about an hour' or 'Its so funny everytime my brother gets a gf she always gets fat'. I told him about this and he told me that she didn't mean it in a mean way and I am being over-sensitive. About a month after that she made another few comments about me being ugly and without cosmetics I don't really have much going for me and said this in front of his whole family. When this happened I asked her to please not say things like that to me and told her to stop being unkind. I told my bf again about what happened he again said she would NEVER say something like that and if so I should say something to her. I told him that I had spoke to her and he didn't believe me and stuck by his sister. We got back together and she is again causing problems.I hate my sisters boyfriend and it is ruining our relationship. I need advice to see if it will work.?
It sounds like his sister is a b***h. And it doesn't sound like he cares. I personally think that she is trying to get the two of you to break up. Does she say this stuff when he's not around? It's time to stop being nice, girl, or she's gonna run you off again or drive you insane. The next time she makes a comment like that about you being ugly or fat tell her, 'Well at least I got a guy that's good-looking. I couldn't imagine what you do on a Saturday night all alone.' Get downright dirty. She's being cruel and your boyfriend isn't going to do anything about it. So you need to. Just make sure he's not around when you say that stuff, this way you have deniability.makeup hair tips
It sounds like his sister is a b***h. And it doesn't sound like he cares. I personally think that she is trying to get the two of you to break up. Does she say this stuff when he's not around? It's time to stop being nice, girl, or she's gonna run you off again or drive you insane. The next time she makes a comment like that about you being ugly or fat tell her, 'Well at least I got a guy that's good-looking. I couldn't imagine what you do on a Saturday night all alone.' Get downright dirty. She's being cruel and your boyfriend isn't going to do anything about it. So you need to. Just make sure he's not around when you say that stuff, this way you have deniability.
Advice please long distance relationship?
Any body have advice for thiings I can do for my sweet hart from a distance. We bolth wana make sure we last untill we can be together. Sometimes she gets a little insecure I need to be creative in assuing her becuse I know she is the one for me.Advice please long distance relationship?
Well! First you should call her every night or whenever she is available. But dont call her all day.....that gets kinda creepy. And you should send her stuff! I dont mean you have to buy her love, but if you just send her a little e-mail everyday to tell her how you are doing and to ask about her, that would be REALLY cool. You could also do some surprise visits! Those are always fun, but you should talk to whoever she is around and ask when she will just be sittin around doing nothing, you dont want to just come over and she is doing something important. AND you can also tell her every single day that you love her. Leave a message if you have to! But make sure to tell her!Advice please long distance relationship?
You could call her when you know she isn't going to answer and leave a sweet message on her voicemail or answering machine saying that you're thinking of her. Send her e-cards, they don't have to be all lovey-dovey, I really enjoy the dorky love ones. They seem to mean more. Just be sure that you let her know that she's the one for you and let her know often! Good Luck!
Well! First you should call her every night or whenever she is available. But dont call her all day.....that gets kinda creepy. And you should send her stuff! I dont mean you have to buy her love, but if you just send her a little e-mail everyday to tell her how you are doing and to ask about her, that would be REALLY cool. You could also do some surprise visits! Those are always fun, but you should talk to whoever she is around and ask when she will just be sittin around doing nothing, you dont want to just come over and she is doing something important. AND you can also tell her every single day that you love her. Leave a message if you have to! But make sure to tell her!Advice please long distance relationship?
You could call her when you know she isn't going to answer and leave a sweet message on her voicemail or answering machine saying that you're thinking of her. Send her e-cards, they don't have to be all lovey-dovey, I really enjoy the dorky love ones. They seem to mean more. Just be sure that you let her know that she's the one for you and let her know often! Good Luck!
Destroying Relationship Over TTC - Please Read & Advice??
Hi, I have PCOS, have been trying to concieve for a long time. I have had 2 miscarriages in the past yr. I am on metformin at the moment %26amp; will be starting clomid soon.
But I feel really upset.. All around me, people are getting pregnant %26amp; I keep thinking.. why not me? My best friend and auntie had lovely baby boy's recently and my sister will be having twins soon. My husband is very supportive %26amp; patient. If it hadnt been for him, I don't know wat I wudve done. But yesterday, I felt really down %26amp; told him that If I can't get pregnant by the time I am 30 [I am 27 at the moment] I want a divorce %26amp; want him to get married to sum1 else. I tried to explain that it's cos he deservs more than I can give him. He really wants a child %26amp; cos I luv him so much %26amp; cos I hav the problem.. I feel like I am stopping him from being a dad.
He was very upset with what I sed. He got angry %26amp; sed that he cudnt understand why I was saying this %26amp; that he isnt with me just for a child. He isnt talking to me at the moment.
What can I do? Please advice! I feel like I am destroying my relationship.. How do I make things right? I can't stop crying at the moment. I feel like such a failure!
I have no1 to talk too or share my feelings with. Help?!Destroying Relationship Over TTC - Please Read %26amp; Advice??
I think your first step would be to tell your husband you are really sorry and you didn't mean it and you were just really upset and stressed and talking nonsense.
I know how awful it is. I've just had my second miscarriage since July. ALL my friends are pregnant and all of them are due when I would have been due if I hadn't had the first miscarriage. You just have to dig deep and find some strength. You do have someone to talk to - you have your husband. Lean on him, don't push him away.Destroying Relationship Over TTC - Please Read %26amp; Advice??
Get thee to a counselor -- NOW. You tieing your self worth to producing a baby is just horrible. It's horrible for you and your husbandn and it's not fair to either of you.
I can understand the frustration and I know seeing everyone else with their babies makes it even worse, but you cannot let yourself slip into this downward spiral.
Just sit him down and tell him why u said what u said. Let him give u his perspective.
Obviously he believes in the vows he took (for better or worse). It sounds like he loves you. Seems like a good man to me.
There are always other options if you are not able to conceive.
Your husband is right. YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE!!! You are over reacting. While infertility is difficult and stressful, the fact is he NEVER married you for your baby making abilities. Erase that thought from your mind. Stress ALWAYS makes conceiving more difficult. I know this seems unlikely, but has HE been tested? Contrary to popular belief, PCOS is HIGHLY over diagnosed---and men can have all sorts of problems with sperm count and health. Regardless, stop stressing!!
%26lt;%26lt;%26lt;Former 'PCOS' sufferer who found out Hubby was the one with the 'lazy' sperm. We adopted a 10 month old through foster care. The BEST decision of our lives.
Do you remember the part in your wedding vows that says
';For better or for worse?
Obviously you missed that part.
Believe me, I have been through hell and back with my husband. We got knee deep in debt from medical bills and college loans, I had my brother shipped off overseas and didn't know about his whereabouts for 15 months, his family past away in Russia and we were not able to attend the funeral and we aren't pregnant yet, even tho I am 22 and very healthy.
Life will bring you challanges, heart aches, and let downs, but that doesn't mean your husband has to pay. Divorcing your husband because you can't carry a baby makes no sense.
I am really sorry that your going through this, I am adopted because my mother had PCOS. Please don't give up.
oh hunni i can relate 2 u a little.
in 21 and my fiance is 27, he is going 4 tests this month and i need 2 wait for his results untill i can be tested, but i often tell him 2 leave and be with sum1 else if theres a problem with me. and i know i dnt want him 2 go but i wanthim 2 be happy, he tells me its me he loves and me he wants 2 be with.
ur hubby feels the same, he doesnt want 2 be a daddy 2 any1s children, he wants ur babies, he wants u 2 be family and he will always be there for you, i think we boh just need 2 realise our partners mean what they say,
ur not a failure and im sure 1 day ur time will come, theres a baby waiting 4 u hunni, it just needs the right time 2 come.
please dnt be so hard on urself and if u ever need 2 tlk im always on here (when im meant 2 be working lol)
all the best hunni xxxxxxx
and just think, ttc is there 2 test our rships, and when u and ur hubby have that baby u wont even remember all this fuss, even though now it seems as though ull never get there, u will.
every month failed is another month closer 2 ur baby xxxx
Wow!! Sometime I feel the same way but, I won't say it because I love him so much. I wouldn't want him to leave me for a child, but I agree every one deserves a child. And I too don't want my boyfriend to suffer because im incompetent in the reproduction area. I see all the other responses but it REALLY IS HARD, Unless you know, don't speak! I don't talk about it much because it's so upsetting.
Don't throw away a perfect relationship. If he should want to leave for that reason, that's a different story. But don't hurt the situation more.
Good Luck Love
I have PCOS and I totally feel you on this!!! It's hard to go day in and day out knowning we can't give our husbands what they really want.
It's hard not only to want something so bad yourself but to hold another person back from getting what they want too. Thats the heart breaking part. Unless you have PCOS and go though this, you don't know what it feels like.
PCOS isn't over Dx'd! Infact, most women go years without finding out they have it. However, some doctors will assume it's PCOS but it simply can be Insulin Resistance. Which is what I am. I have no cysts or even any sign of anything wrong with my ovaries. Thus to some doctors I don't not have PCOS but to some I Do. This syndrome is so un-reserached by the medical industry. But luckly, more and more advances are being made everyday. It's just a matter of waiting and hoping.
To get peice of mind i always try hard to focus on the good and not the bad. It's hard, don't get me wrong. But maybe God is just spending more time on our little ones! There is always a reason for things.
Prior to my PCOS dx, I was always on the go. Never slowed down or even relaxed. I had many other health problems that I just shoved to the side becuase I had better things to do. Since my Dx, I've learned that maybe God is trying to tell me to SLOW down. It's been a bit of a blessing even though it's still devasting to say the least!
Hang in there! I'm also on Metformin and just did my 1st round of Clomid. I'm hoping we both get our BFP soon!
I'm here to talk if you need. At least i'll understand where you come from being a PCOS cyster!
`hugs`
I am SO sorry! I hope all works out well for you. I can't say that I fully understand, because to my knowledge everything down there is working right and I have no ';problems';, but who knows... I've been trying for 3 months and nothing yet! I do understand how you feel like a failure though, especially with everyone around you getting pregant. I feel the same way! My brother's girlfriend is pregnant, my coworkers (several of them) and many friends have been given the gift of a child and a family and seemingly it was very easy for them, most didn't even have to try! And, here I am trying my hardest and it just doesn't seem to work. I've thought the same things as you before, I don't even have a ';problem'; or a condition. I do think sometimes though that if I can't have children, my husband does deserve better and deserves to have the family he's always wanted. Don't give up yet though! You've still got a while to try... and cutting it off at 30 is a little early, I'd say at least 35. They've made wonderful advances in medicine these days, so surely something will work for you. Keep trying and God will bless you with your special little angel when the time is right. You're not a failure, it's just not your time yet. Keep your head up and hang in there! LOTS of baby dust to you... *~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*
What you are feeling is so completely normal. It IS hard to see all the people you know getting pregnant and having babies. It will happen for you too, it is just going to take a little longer. Your husband does not want you to feel this way and I think you should tell him that you said those things cause you want to give him children and are so scared that it isn't going to happen. I do not think you want to divorce him and you both can get through this. Lean on each other instead of pushing each other away. All this stress is not good for your fertility either. I know it seems impossible but you have to try to relax and get back to just having sex for the joy and love of it, ya know. Stop trying so hard and it may happen easier. I also know that is harder to do than it is for me to say. Good luck.
omg darling i hope ur o,k??? im always here for u if u feel down n need 2 talk just send me a email! im so with u on this 1, i can understand what ur saying cuz iv said the same 2 my bf cuz i love him so much n he wants a baby so much 2 n i cant give it 2 him! im on clomid 50mg n its working im ovulating but still not preg yet!!!!!!! iv been ttc for nearly 2 years it gets harder as u prob no x plzzzzzzzzz hang in there ur not on ur own with how ur feeling xx keep in touch xx best of luck n lots of baby dust 2 u xx
But I feel really upset.. All around me, people are getting pregnant %26amp; I keep thinking.. why not me? My best friend and auntie had lovely baby boy's recently and my sister will be having twins soon. My husband is very supportive %26amp; patient. If it hadnt been for him, I don't know wat I wudve done. But yesterday, I felt really down %26amp; told him that If I can't get pregnant by the time I am 30 [I am 27 at the moment] I want a divorce %26amp; want him to get married to sum1 else. I tried to explain that it's cos he deservs more than I can give him. He really wants a child %26amp; cos I luv him so much %26amp; cos I hav the problem.. I feel like I am stopping him from being a dad.
He was very upset with what I sed. He got angry %26amp; sed that he cudnt understand why I was saying this %26amp; that he isnt with me just for a child. He isnt talking to me at the moment.
What can I do? Please advice! I feel like I am destroying my relationship.. How do I make things right? I can't stop crying at the moment. I feel like such a failure!
I have no1 to talk too or share my feelings with. Help?!Destroying Relationship Over TTC - Please Read %26amp; Advice??
I think your first step would be to tell your husband you are really sorry and you didn't mean it and you were just really upset and stressed and talking nonsense.
I know how awful it is. I've just had my second miscarriage since July. ALL my friends are pregnant and all of them are due when I would have been due if I hadn't had the first miscarriage. You just have to dig deep and find some strength. You do have someone to talk to - you have your husband. Lean on him, don't push him away.Destroying Relationship Over TTC - Please Read %26amp; Advice??
Get thee to a counselor -- NOW. You tieing your self worth to producing a baby is just horrible. It's horrible for you and your husbandn and it's not fair to either of you.
I can understand the frustration and I know seeing everyone else with their babies makes it even worse, but you cannot let yourself slip into this downward spiral.
Just sit him down and tell him why u said what u said. Let him give u his perspective.
Obviously he believes in the vows he took (for better or worse). It sounds like he loves you. Seems like a good man to me.
There are always other options if you are not able to conceive.
Your husband is right. YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE!!! You are over reacting. While infertility is difficult and stressful, the fact is he NEVER married you for your baby making abilities. Erase that thought from your mind. Stress ALWAYS makes conceiving more difficult. I know this seems unlikely, but has HE been tested? Contrary to popular belief, PCOS is HIGHLY over diagnosed---and men can have all sorts of problems with sperm count and health. Regardless, stop stressing!!
%26lt;%26lt;%26lt;Former 'PCOS' sufferer who found out Hubby was the one with the 'lazy' sperm. We adopted a 10 month old through foster care. The BEST decision of our lives.
Do you remember the part in your wedding vows that says
';For better or for worse?
Obviously you missed that part.
Believe me, I have been through hell and back with my husband. We got knee deep in debt from medical bills and college loans, I had my brother shipped off overseas and didn't know about his whereabouts for 15 months, his family past away in Russia and we were not able to attend the funeral and we aren't pregnant yet, even tho I am 22 and very healthy.
Life will bring you challanges, heart aches, and let downs, but that doesn't mean your husband has to pay. Divorcing your husband because you can't carry a baby makes no sense.
I am really sorry that your going through this, I am adopted because my mother had PCOS. Please don't give up.
oh hunni i can relate 2 u a little.
in 21 and my fiance is 27, he is going 4 tests this month and i need 2 wait for his results untill i can be tested, but i often tell him 2 leave and be with sum1 else if theres a problem with me. and i know i dnt want him 2 go but i wanthim 2 be happy, he tells me its me he loves and me he wants 2 be with.
ur hubby feels the same, he doesnt want 2 be a daddy 2 any1s children, he wants ur babies, he wants u 2 be family and he will always be there for you, i think we boh just need 2 realise our partners mean what they say,
ur not a failure and im sure 1 day ur time will come, theres a baby waiting 4 u hunni, it just needs the right time 2 come.
please dnt be so hard on urself and if u ever need 2 tlk im always on here (when im meant 2 be working lol)
all the best hunni xxxxxxx
and just think, ttc is there 2 test our rships, and when u and ur hubby have that baby u wont even remember all this fuss, even though now it seems as though ull never get there, u will.
every month failed is another month closer 2 ur baby xxxx
Wow!! Sometime I feel the same way but, I won't say it because I love him so much. I wouldn't want him to leave me for a child, but I agree every one deserves a child. And I too don't want my boyfriend to suffer because im incompetent in the reproduction area. I see all the other responses but it REALLY IS HARD, Unless you know, don't speak! I don't talk about it much because it's so upsetting.
Don't throw away a perfect relationship. If he should want to leave for that reason, that's a different story. But don't hurt the situation more.
Good Luck Love
I have PCOS and I totally feel you on this!!! It's hard to go day in and day out knowning we can't give our husbands what they really want.
It's hard not only to want something so bad yourself but to hold another person back from getting what they want too. Thats the heart breaking part. Unless you have PCOS and go though this, you don't know what it feels like.
PCOS isn't over Dx'd! Infact, most women go years without finding out they have it. However, some doctors will assume it's PCOS but it simply can be Insulin Resistance. Which is what I am. I have no cysts or even any sign of anything wrong with my ovaries. Thus to some doctors I don't not have PCOS but to some I Do. This syndrome is so un-reserached by the medical industry. But luckly, more and more advances are being made everyday. It's just a matter of waiting and hoping.
To get peice of mind i always try hard to focus on the good and not the bad. It's hard, don't get me wrong. But maybe God is just spending more time on our little ones! There is always a reason for things.
Prior to my PCOS dx, I was always on the go. Never slowed down or even relaxed. I had many other health problems that I just shoved to the side becuase I had better things to do. Since my Dx, I've learned that maybe God is trying to tell me to SLOW down. It's been a bit of a blessing even though it's still devasting to say the least!
Hang in there! I'm also on Metformin and just did my 1st round of Clomid. I'm hoping we both get our BFP soon!
I'm here to talk if you need. At least i'll understand where you come from being a PCOS cyster!
`hugs`
I am SO sorry! I hope all works out well for you. I can't say that I fully understand, because to my knowledge everything down there is working right and I have no ';problems';, but who knows... I've been trying for 3 months and nothing yet! I do understand how you feel like a failure though, especially with everyone around you getting pregant. I feel the same way! My brother's girlfriend is pregnant, my coworkers (several of them) and many friends have been given the gift of a child and a family and seemingly it was very easy for them, most didn't even have to try! And, here I am trying my hardest and it just doesn't seem to work. I've thought the same things as you before, I don't even have a ';problem'; or a condition. I do think sometimes though that if I can't have children, my husband does deserve better and deserves to have the family he's always wanted. Don't give up yet though! You've still got a while to try... and cutting it off at 30 is a little early, I'd say at least 35. They've made wonderful advances in medicine these days, so surely something will work for you. Keep trying and God will bless you with your special little angel when the time is right. You're not a failure, it's just not your time yet. Keep your head up and hang in there! LOTS of baby dust to you... *~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*
What you are feeling is so completely normal. It IS hard to see all the people you know getting pregnant and having babies. It will happen for you too, it is just going to take a little longer. Your husband does not want you to feel this way and I think you should tell him that you said those things cause you want to give him children and are so scared that it isn't going to happen. I do not think you want to divorce him and you both can get through this. Lean on each other instead of pushing each other away. All this stress is not good for your fertility either. I know it seems impossible but you have to try to relax and get back to just having sex for the joy and love of it, ya know. Stop trying so hard and it may happen easier. I also know that is harder to do than it is for me to say. Good luck.
omg darling i hope ur o,k??? im always here for u if u feel down n need 2 talk just send me a email! im so with u on this 1, i can understand what ur saying cuz iv said the same 2 my bf cuz i love him so much n he wants a baby so much 2 n i cant give it 2 him! im on clomid 50mg n its working im ovulating but still not preg yet!!!!!!! iv been ttc for nearly 2 years it gets harder as u prob no x plzzzzzzzzz hang in there ur not on ur own with how ur feeling xx keep in touch xx best of luck n lots of baby dust 2 u xx
Confusing Relationship with Ex-boyfriend...need advice?
I broke up with my ex a couple of months ago because his ex-girl at the time before they broke up (said she was pregnant). And because of all of that, I decided that I didnt want to deal with the drama of all of that and just encouraged him to try to make things work out. So we (well, ....I) decided to just be friends with him. As much as he didnt want that, I know that he was very confused on what to do in his situation. I figured that by me, giving him distance and time with her, it would help him to figure out his priorities. We are both madly in love with each other. Literally, I dream about him every night, I look at his pictures, and when we do talk, he tells me how much he loves me, and when he thinks of me he gets butterflies. So our feelings are very strong. We still say how much we love each other. And when I do go over to his house, he just wants me to lay down next to him and hug/cuddle. We havent had sex since we broke up, although we have been tempted, but we do kiss and do the whole bed talk thing. The bottom line is that WE ARE NOT together anymore.
I just want to know what to do about this? It is as though, we can't be friends, because deep down we both don't WANT to be friends?
I can't be with him right now, it is just to early to sit back and watch someone else share the miracle of having a child together. So I can't torture myself with the thoughts of him going back and forth with me and her.
But at this point in time....it feels as though that is already happening. I am so confused. He has asked me back (in very subtle ways, but always catching himself before he just comes out and asks) but we never talked about that.
What should I do, to not be so confused.........advice pleaseConfusing Relationship with Ex-boyfriend...need advice?
~ you two being friends doesn't seem to be productive. You are still doing everything that a couple does expect sex. so you really aren't giving him this space you think you are. Let him know how you feel about him and what you are feeling about the situation then. Tell him you need to cut contact with him til he figures things out. ~Confusing Relationship with Ex-boyfriend...need advice?
Why did you break up with him? Lack of trust or common sense? Depends on what you want. I mean if the baby is his then he'll be paying for it. On the other hand can you imagine being with him for many years to come? Do you honestly believe that your being together with him should stand in the way of their pregnancy? Could be. Some people don;t want the drama and that is understandable.
I guess I would do the same thing. Let things calm down and sort themselves out. It sounds like a mess. You'll decide right if you give it time.
you were smart not to want to deal with all the drama. Yet you should stick to your desicion by staying away and helping him to be a responsible man to HIS unborn child and of HIS action impregnating his ex-gf. That is the truth.
You are weakening him by keeping in touch, staring at his pictures and having bed talk conversation on the phone. These are fantasy that will make you both succumb to temptations. You can't be friends because of this intense feelings. As for you, it is a lose deal. You'll be the extra/ gf on the side who will take the mediocre. Don't be. You deserve a man of your own.
Think about it. It's not fair for the baby, it is not fair for you. Help him be a man who takes consequences on his actions. He might never be a responsible man ever and still impregnate all his gfs. But you should not be a part of this foolish game UNLESS he is George Clooney or Brad Pitt. Because besides they are gorgeous, they have lots of money and they can afford having many kids. be smarter.
I just want to know what to do about this? It is as though, we can't be friends, because deep down we both don't WANT to be friends?
I can't be with him right now, it is just to early to sit back and watch someone else share the miracle of having a child together. So I can't torture myself with the thoughts of him going back and forth with me and her.
But at this point in time....it feels as though that is already happening. I am so confused. He has asked me back (in very subtle ways, but always catching himself before he just comes out and asks) but we never talked about that.
What should I do, to not be so confused.........advice pleaseConfusing Relationship with Ex-boyfriend...need advice?
~ you two being friends doesn't seem to be productive. You are still doing everything that a couple does expect sex. so you really aren't giving him this space you think you are. Let him know how you feel about him and what you are feeling about the situation then. Tell him you need to cut contact with him til he figures things out. ~Confusing Relationship with Ex-boyfriend...need advice?
Why did you break up with him? Lack of trust or common sense? Depends on what you want. I mean if the baby is his then he'll be paying for it. On the other hand can you imagine being with him for many years to come? Do you honestly believe that your being together with him should stand in the way of their pregnancy? Could be. Some people don;t want the drama and that is understandable.
I guess I would do the same thing. Let things calm down and sort themselves out. It sounds like a mess. You'll decide right if you give it time.
you were smart not to want to deal with all the drama. Yet you should stick to your desicion by staying away and helping him to be a responsible man to HIS unborn child and of HIS action impregnating his ex-gf. That is the truth.
You are weakening him by keeping in touch, staring at his pictures and having bed talk conversation on the phone. These are fantasy that will make you both succumb to temptations. You can't be friends because of this intense feelings. As for you, it is a lose deal. You'll be the extra/ gf on the side who will take the mediocre. Don't be. You deserve a man of your own.
Think about it. It's not fair for the baby, it is not fair for you. Help him be a man who takes consequences on his actions. He might never be a responsible man ever and still impregnate all his gfs. But you should not be a part of this foolish game UNLESS he is George Clooney or Brad Pitt. Because besides they are gorgeous, they have lots of money and they can afford having many kids. be smarter.
Boy/relationship problems...I need some advice :-(?
I'm a very outgoing person. I'm pretty funny and open with others. i try not to be conceited or rude and most people like me. However, I don't have luck in relationships. I don't think I'm ugly, but I'm not drop dead gorgeous. Most of the black guys at my school have no interest because I'm not ';black enough'; (ridiculous, I know). And most white guys just think of me as a friend I guess lol. I don't really know what to do. I wanna have a fun summer full of guys and romance and all that business. What do I do? lolBoy/relationship problems...I need some advice :-(?
Enjoy life as it is. If you look for love it wont come. Have fun this summer with your friends. To find some cuties go to a beach or a amusement park. Don't make it like you are looking just have fun.
Enjoy life as it is. If you look for love it wont come. Have fun this summer with your friends. To find some cuties go to a beach or a amusement park. Don't make it like you are looking just have fun.
Abusive relationship after effects +10pts best advice.?
good evening, This has been occupying my mind for a while. I was in an abusive relationship for a year, I loved him, wanted to help him, but he hurt me. So much, that my parents had to intervene and make me get a restraining order.
This relationship wreaked havoc on my self esteem. After 2 years of being single, I am seeing another person and I have trouble expressing , communicating my feelings to him. It's irrational, but I am afraid I will get hurt again- once I ';confess my love.';
Q: What should I do to ease my insecurities? (Should I mention my past relationship to him?) How do I tell him I really care about him?
[Once feelings are out on the table, I am known to just disappear, grow distant, fight over something stupid, etc.] - I don't want this to happen again.
P.S.: I think he also has trouble expressing his feelings because he is leaving for med school in a couple months. :(Abusive relationship after effects +10pts best advice.?
What you need to do is realize what your ex did to you was wrong, and you didn't deserve any of that, and you need to stop being a victim. Get out of that cycle because now it will only bring you down. You need to sit down with your new guy and put it all out on the table and tell him what you've been through. He will understand, most importantly though if you don't make yourself a victim, and you stay completely strong. This experience has drastically shaped your life, but now it's your time to turn it around and make something positive out of it. Try speaking with abuse victims, or volunteering at abuse shelters. It will make you feel so good and be able to become closer to your new guy.Abusive relationship after effects +10pts best advice.?
You should probably tell him abut your past. If the relationship is meant to be, he will understand and won't let you run away from him. The only way to overcome what happened is to deal with it. Sometimes that means discussing what happened with others. Explain to him about your insecurities and how you think he could help you overcome them. A loving boyfriend would talk with you and help you.
This sounds like a casual dating relationship.
Because he is leaving soon for med school,
it sounds as if it needs to stay on a casual level.
Definitely do talk about what went wrong in your previous relationship. Speak of your insecurities. This is the type of
friendship you can greatly benefit from, hearing what a guy
would say about another guy's actions. This is an excellent
learning situation for you. Just a friendship though, leave
your feelings out of it.
AND...get yourself some therapy for abuse recovery. Part of
the therapy will be learning to build positive relationships %26amp;
learning to trust people who can be trusted.
This relationship wreaked havoc on my self esteem. After 2 years of being single, I am seeing another person and I have trouble expressing , communicating my feelings to him. It's irrational, but I am afraid I will get hurt again- once I ';confess my love.';
Q: What should I do to ease my insecurities? (Should I mention my past relationship to him?) How do I tell him I really care about him?
[Once feelings are out on the table, I am known to just disappear, grow distant, fight over something stupid, etc.] - I don't want this to happen again.
P.S.: I think he also has trouble expressing his feelings because he is leaving for med school in a couple months. :(Abusive relationship after effects +10pts best advice.?
What you need to do is realize what your ex did to you was wrong, and you didn't deserve any of that, and you need to stop being a victim. Get out of that cycle because now it will only bring you down. You need to sit down with your new guy and put it all out on the table and tell him what you've been through. He will understand, most importantly though if you don't make yourself a victim, and you stay completely strong. This experience has drastically shaped your life, but now it's your time to turn it around and make something positive out of it. Try speaking with abuse victims, or volunteering at abuse shelters. It will make you feel so good and be able to become closer to your new guy.Abusive relationship after effects +10pts best advice.?
You should probably tell him abut your past. If the relationship is meant to be, he will understand and won't let you run away from him. The only way to overcome what happened is to deal with it. Sometimes that means discussing what happened with others. Explain to him about your insecurities and how you think he could help you overcome them. A loving boyfriend would talk with you and help you.
This sounds like a casual dating relationship.
Because he is leaving soon for med school,
it sounds as if it needs to stay on a casual level.
Definitely do talk about what went wrong in your previous relationship. Speak of your insecurities. This is the type of
friendship you can greatly benefit from, hearing what a guy
would say about another guy's actions. This is an excellent
learning situation for you. Just a friendship though, leave
your feelings out of it.
AND...get yourself some therapy for abuse recovery. Part of
the therapy will be learning to build positive relationships %26amp;
learning to trust people who can be trusted.
I'm going off to college in the fall and I need advice on how to keep my relationship strong with my boyfriend
I want to keep being with my boyfriend but I'm going to be an hour and half away from him. How do I keep our relationship?I'm going off to college in the fall and I need advice on how to keep my relationship strong with my boyfriend
I don't think that you can expect to ';keep'; your relationship in the exact same state that it is in now. Your relationship wil undergo changes being that you and your boyfriend will not be seeing each other as much. You will also be meeting tons of new people and experiencing things in life that you never have before.
The key to keeping your relationship healthy is communication. The more you share your feeling with your bf the better things will be between you. This way everyone is on the same page.
Remember that you have your whole life ahead of you and that you may discover while you are away from your boyfriend that perhaps your relationship isn't what you though it was or maybe that all your needs aren't being met. So remember to keep an open heart and mind... this along with constant open communication between you two should give you the best chance if it is meant to be.I'm going off to college in the fall and I need advice on how to keep my relationship strong with my boyfriend
try your best to reserve your spare time for him.
technology has made long distance communications much easier than before.
There're many ways to keep in touch closely with him.
1. phone calls
2. online chatting
3. email messages
so both of you can talk to each other whenever you are both free.
if possible it'd be good if he goes to visit you in college or you visit him in where he is, not often but once in a while.
Good luck.
An hour and a half is not far. You can and have the power to maintain a healthy relationship with him. Are you worried that you will meet someone or he will meer someone? If that is how you feel then you shouldn't be in a relationship with anyone. If you have tust and honesty in your relationship then the distance shouldn't be a problem. I know some people who were able to maintain a healthy relationship while living on different coast while attending school. Good Luckmakeup hair tips
I don't think that you can expect to ';keep'; your relationship in the exact same state that it is in now. Your relationship wil undergo changes being that you and your boyfriend will not be seeing each other as much. You will also be meeting tons of new people and experiencing things in life that you never have before.
The key to keeping your relationship healthy is communication. The more you share your feeling with your bf the better things will be between you. This way everyone is on the same page.
Remember that you have your whole life ahead of you and that you may discover while you are away from your boyfriend that perhaps your relationship isn't what you though it was or maybe that all your needs aren't being met. So remember to keep an open heart and mind... this along with constant open communication between you two should give you the best chance if it is meant to be.I'm going off to college in the fall and I need advice on how to keep my relationship strong with my boyfriend
try your best to reserve your spare time for him.
technology has made long distance communications much easier than before.
There're many ways to keep in touch closely with him.
1. phone calls
2. online chatting
3. email messages
so both of you can talk to each other whenever you are both free.
if possible it'd be good if he goes to visit you in college or you visit him in where he is, not often but once in a while.
Good luck.
An hour and a half is not far. You can and have the power to maintain a healthy relationship with him. Are you worried that you will meet someone or he will meer someone? If that is how you feel then you shouldn't be in a relationship with anyone. If you have tust and honesty in your relationship then the distance shouldn't be a problem. I know some people who were able to maintain a healthy relationship while living on different coast while attending school. Good Luck
What do you advice if one is in a 4months relationship and realizes that the fiance is not faithful.?
he says that he is done with the previous relationship yet communication is still on going and even having times togetherWhat do you advice if one is in a 4months relationship and realizes that the fiance is not faithful.?
Leave the relationship! If he is unfaithful after only 4 months then he will be again.
His unwillingness to cut off communication with the other person shows that he is not committed to you.
This kind of guy will use you as long as you'll put up with it. He will say whatever you want to hear but continue to be unfaithful.
If you marry him and have children you will be condemning yourself and your children to a very unhappy and unstable life.What do you advice if one is in a 4months relationship and realizes that the fiance is not faithful.?
Leave
Then you end the engagement and move on with your life with out him. There is no use going forward with this one when you already can't trust him.
i would leave his hip alone
Get out now! I was in a similar relatioonship, only we were married for 4 years and 1 day. Horrible times. Don't do it.
Move on with your life get over it once a cheet always a cheet thats what i say. It may be hard but their are a billion people in the world of dating
Drop the loser
ask him all about it, but if he is not being faithful then its best to move on and not waste your time...
Trust is the most important part of the relationship. Communication is always important also. Without one of the two, the relationship is doomed.
I would advise you talk to him about your insecurities. Its perfectly normal not to agree of his behavior.
If he loves you, then he will understand your feelings and act in accordance to your desire.
But it is important to communicate. Be honest with him and expect him to be honest with you. If you have neither, then I suggest you re-consider you marriage with him.
Would you really be willing to spend the rest of your life with someone you don't trust? Remember that your happiness and sense of security are important. Never let anyone compromise that.
Good luck to you.
If you believe he's not being faithful before getting married then you should end the engagement. Save yourself some heartache and money. Money meaning for filing a divorce. No matter what you'll be alright.
you should leave him because even if he has stopped cheating on you he is still disrespecting you by being friends with her.and whats to stop him from cheating on you with her again or someone else if you take him back.
dump dumP DUMP!
break free its early enough to get over this quickly.
Leave the relationship! If he is unfaithful after only 4 months then he will be again.
His unwillingness to cut off communication with the other person shows that he is not committed to you.
This kind of guy will use you as long as you'll put up with it. He will say whatever you want to hear but continue to be unfaithful.
If you marry him and have children you will be condemning yourself and your children to a very unhappy and unstable life.What do you advice if one is in a 4months relationship and realizes that the fiance is not faithful.?
Leave
Then you end the engagement and move on with your life with out him. There is no use going forward with this one when you already can't trust him.
i would leave his hip alone
Get out now! I was in a similar relatioonship, only we were married for 4 years and 1 day. Horrible times. Don't do it.
Move on with your life get over it once a cheet always a cheet thats what i say. It may be hard but their are a billion people in the world of dating
Drop the loser
ask him all about it, but if he is not being faithful then its best to move on and not waste your time...
Trust is the most important part of the relationship. Communication is always important also. Without one of the two, the relationship is doomed.
I would advise you talk to him about your insecurities. Its perfectly normal not to agree of his behavior.
If he loves you, then he will understand your feelings and act in accordance to your desire.
But it is important to communicate. Be honest with him and expect him to be honest with you. If you have neither, then I suggest you re-consider you marriage with him.
Would you really be willing to spend the rest of your life with someone you don't trust? Remember that your happiness and sense of security are important. Never let anyone compromise that.
Good luck to you.
If you believe he's not being faithful before getting married then you should end the engagement. Save yourself some heartache and money. Money meaning for filing a divorce. No matter what you'll be alright.
you should leave him because even if he has stopped cheating on you he is still disrespecting you by being friends with her.and whats to stop him from cheating on you with her again or someone else if you take him back.
dump dumP DUMP!
break free its early enough to get over this quickly.
Relationship problem...i need your advice.?
i am in the military and have a relationship with someone that ranks higher than me. we get along good and i am happy....well until today. we had our family and friends day and to keep people from being suspicous of us we didnt really talk to each other as much. things between us are kept on the low until i get out of the military in about a year. well today and for the last few days i have been noticing that he has been talking and laughing with this other female and it makes me upset. i asked him about it and he says that he just talk to other females so wont nobody suspect anything between us. he said that he loves me and he would never do anything to hurt me. true enough i dont wont the wrong person finding out about us and we both get in trouble but when he talks to other females in a flirtatious way, it makes me so mad. i try not to show it but it hurts me. like i said we get along good and i am happy with him. do you think that i am overreacting? i need your advice...thanks.Relationship problem...i need your advice.?
I would fell the same way but you need to ask him how he would feel it it was on the other shoe. Maybe he could tone it down a bit with them. But if this is going to work than I guess you will have to deal with it, but he needs to be more understanding.Relationship problem...i need your advice.?
Sounds like this relationship is starting off with a lie, you're both pretending their isn't one! Why shouldn't he act the way he has been..... if he can do it, then you can too.
A year of hiding is a lot to ask.
No your definetly not over reacting. I mean who came blame a woman for wanting to feel safe?
I would fell the same way but you need to ask him how he would feel it it was on the other shoe. Maybe he could tone it down a bit with them. But if this is going to work than I guess you will have to deal with it, but he needs to be more understanding.Relationship problem...i need your advice.?
Sounds like this relationship is starting off with a lie, you're both pretending their isn't one! Why shouldn't he act the way he has been..... if he can do it, then you can too.
A year of hiding is a lot to ask.
No your definetly not over reacting. I mean who came blame a woman for wanting to feel safe?
Relationship question? i really need advice?
Maybe this is a little selfish but whenever i go to my b/fs house he's always on the computer and myspace and whatnot and we only end up hanging out for like an hour before i have to go home. i dont get to see him that much and when i do i would like to be able to hang out with him. he promised me he would wait til ileave to get on but he didnt cuz he ';has to keep his plays up on his music page'; and he has to talk to his fans. and we have plans to move in together in a few months and he says it will bring us closer together but im pretty sure it'll make us more distant the way things are going now. should i dump him? confronting him doesnt seem to be working.Relationship question? i really need advice?
.Dump him.Moving in together will be disasterous.At the moment he takes you for granted.Being together you'll become a nuisance.Let him get on with his music and fans
.Dump him.Moving in together will be disasterous.At the moment he takes you for granted.Being together you'll become a nuisance.Let him get on with his music and fans
Is it appropriate to ask your ex-girlfriend for advice on your new relationship?
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 1/2 years. Whenever he and I have problems, he asks his ex (who he dated for 6 years) for advice. I don't want his ex involved in my private life, and it makes me feel betrayed that my boyfriend would share our personal information, but he says she is the only girl friend he has. Would you be upset if your boyfriend did this?Is it appropriate to ask your ex-girlfriend for advice on your new relationship?
This is completely inappropriate; if he truly loves you, he will give her up--once and for all.Is it appropriate to ask your ex-girlfriend for advice on your new relationship?
No it's not right for him to be going to her for advice, and I think this is a question you can answer yourself. There is a reason why this girl is his ex to begin with. When you are in a relationship with someone and problems arise, it's always best to discuss them with your partner, not an outside source. (Especially the ex girlfriend)
I would suggest trying to talk to him and if this doesn't resolve the situation, you have to do what's best for you. Only you can decide what it is you need to do about it.
Depends on what it is that makes your relationship with ex acrimonious. Generally, I would take it as a compliment that BF thinks enough of you to get some advice on the female perspective ... IF that's in fact what he's doing there. It's worth a worry or two, I suppose, but you can't be his jailer. And, of course, you can test his veracity by giving him a taste of own poison. There must be someone from your past whose views on the matter you might like to air.
Quite often, superior human beings find it in their hearts to remain friends, sometimes even close friends, post-relationship. Alas, I'm not one of them but married someone who is. Personally, I prefer the enduringly bitter ending. Keeps things clearer, I feel.
It's fine to have friends of the opposite sex, and it's fine to have intimate conversations with your friends.
However, the situation you describe would be beyond the pale for me. It's one thing if you're both in your 40s and this is someone he dated for a few months in his early 20s, who has in recent years become a good friend....but I don't think this describes you guys. I would feel very uncomfortable with what he's doing if I were in your shoes - and it would be a dealbreaker for me.
If you guys are having problems, try counseling. It can be a great way to relieve the tension and learn how to communicate. He needs to understand why you feel betrayed.
No one can decide for you if some activity is appropriate or not. You have answered your own question. If it makes you uncomfortable it is not appropriate. A decision must be made. Either he decides to break contact with her completely or you decide to either accept their relationship or to end yours.
I know it sounds harsh but struggling with what to do and suffering all of the drama does nothing good for anyone concerned unless they are narcissistic.
Anyone would be upset. and people that say they only talk to their ex's are liars and sometimes have good intentions, but something always happens. old feelings do resurface. I would tell your boyfriend you do not feel comfortable at all with this. And if he keeps doing it tell him that it has to stop or else you are leaving him b/c he obviously cares more about his relationship with her than with you if he continues to talk to her knowing it upsets you.
This would definitely bother me. Have you told him it makes you feel betrayed? I don't even think he should continue being friends with her at all. He definitely shouldn't be sharing aspects of your relationship with her. You should put your foot down on this. If he wants female friends, he should make friends with people he hasn't shared his most intimate moments with, including sex (I'm assuming), for 6 years.
YES, I be upset!
sounds like he might still have emotional connection with the ex. Tell him that you feel hurt that he ';runs'; to the ex to get emotional support. The ';ex'; should respect your relationship and should not encourage this situation......
I would boot him to the curb if he doesn't value your feelings! What if you did the same thing to him, how will he feel? There are too many double standards around here now a days!
Anyone would be upset. Your boyfriend needs to quickly establish some appropriate boundaries with the ex girlfriend. You need to insist that he reduce his contact with her and that he never discuss you and your relationship with the ex. It's inappropriate.
Thats way out of line. Cant he ask you for advice on how to fix the issue.
i would be very upset if my boyfriend did this. but, unfortuently, one of my exes from back home ALWAYS texts me or emails me if him and his current girl are having issues. i always give him the best advice i have.
hes told me before though, that if i ever wanted him back, he would take me without a thought of her. and theyve been together for a year and a half. to me, if hes asking her advice, it makes it seem like he wants her back. but thats just me.
so now that youve written tha tyou hate her, i def. think you should tell him to cut this out. i would not be happy and the relationship would probably not progress much more. this seems like a trust thing, and hes not doing what you asked of him, if hes still asking her advice. to me, if i ask you to not hang out with an ex, i dont want you speaking to her either. not even about me
This is completely inappropriate; if he truly loves you, he will give her up--once and for all.Is it appropriate to ask your ex-girlfriend for advice on your new relationship?
No it's not right for him to be going to her for advice, and I think this is a question you can answer yourself. There is a reason why this girl is his ex to begin with. When you are in a relationship with someone and problems arise, it's always best to discuss them with your partner, not an outside source. (Especially the ex girlfriend)
I would suggest trying to talk to him and if this doesn't resolve the situation, you have to do what's best for you. Only you can decide what it is you need to do about it.
Depends on what it is that makes your relationship with ex acrimonious. Generally, I would take it as a compliment that BF thinks enough of you to get some advice on the female perspective ... IF that's in fact what he's doing there. It's worth a worry or two, I suppose, but you can't be his jailer. And, of course, you can test his veracity by giving him a taste of own poison. There must be someone from your past whose views on the matter you might like to air.
Quite often, superior human beings find it in their hearts to remain friends, sometimes even close friends, post-relationship. Alas, I'm not one of them but married someone who is. Personally, I prefer the enduringly bitter ending. Keeps things clearer, I feel.
It's fine to have friends of the opposite sex, and it's fine to have intimate conversations with your friends.
However, the situation you describe would be beyond the pale for me. It's one thing if you're both in your 40s and this is someone he dated for a few months in his early 20s, who has in recent years become a good friend....but I don't think this describes you guys. I would feel very uncomfortable with what he's doing if I were in your shoes - and it would be a dealbreaker for me.
If you guys are having problems, try counseling. It can be a great way to relieve the tension and learn how to communicate. He needs to understand why you feel betrayed.
No one can decide for you if some activity is appropriate or not. You have answered your own question. If it makes you uncomfortable it is not appropriate. A decision must be made. Either he decides to break contact with her completely or you decide to either accept their relationship or to end yours.
I know it sounds harsh but struggling with what to do and suffering all of the drama does nothing good for anyone concerned unless they are narcissistic.
Anyone would be upset. and people that say they only talk to their ex's are liars and sometimes have good intentions, but something always happens. old feelings do resurface. I would tell your boyfriend you do not feel comfortable at all with this. And if he keeps doing it tell him that it has to stop or else you are leaving him b/c he obviously cares more about his relationship with her than with you if he continues to talk to her knowing it upsets you.
This would definitely bother me. Have you told him it makes you feel betrayed? I don't even think he should continue being friends with her at all. He definitely shouldn't be sharing aspects of your relationship with her. You should put your foot down on this. If he wants female friends, he should make friends with people he hasn't shared his most intimate moments with, including sex (I'm assuming), for 6 years.
YES, I be upset!
sounds like he might still have emotional connection with the ex. Tell him that you feel hurt that he ';runs'; to the ex to get emotional support. The ';ex'; should respect your relationship and should not encourage this situation......
I would boot him to the curb if he doesn't value your feelings! What if you did the same thing to him, how will he feel? There are too many double standards around here now a days!
Anyone would be upset. Your boyfriend needs to quickly establish some appropriate boundaries with the ex girlfriend. You need to insist that he reduce his contact with her and that he never discuss you and your relationship with the ex. It's inappropriate.
Thats way out of line. Cant he ask you for advice on how to fix the issue.
i would be very upset if my boyfriend did this. but, unfortuently, one of my exes from back home ALWAYS texts me or emails me if him and his current girl are having issues. i always give him the best advice i have.
hes told me before though, that if i ever wanted him back, he would take me without a thought of her. and theyve been together for a year and a half. to me, if hes asking her advice, it makes it seem like he wants her back. but thats just me.
so now that youve written tha tyou hate her, i def. think you should tell him to cut this out. i would not be happy and the relationship would probably not progress much more. this seems like a trust thing, and hes not doing what you asked of him, if hes still asking her advice. to me, if i ask you to not hang out with an ex, i dont want you speaking to her either. not even about me
Relationship Trouble( I need your advice, people!)?
Ok, well in my relationship I feel as though I am the only one who ever gives compliments. Don't get me wrong, but my GF always says I love you, as do I, it is just I open up to her much more. I'd tell her things about how cute and sweet she is, but it seems as though I never get a compliment about how much I mean to her, even though I tell her how much she means to me. Should I be concerned about this? Should I keep complimenting her and telling her these sorts of things?Relationship Trouble( I need your advice, people!)?
Really, we go through so many relationships expecting to get what we give and thinking we're not. Maybe you are being appreciated, but you are spending too much time looking for it in all the wrong places. She might have another way of showing you. She's not exactly like you, so cut her some slackRelationship Trouble( I need your advice, people!)?
if you're very much sure she wants the relationship with you, you need not worry. though compliments really help, it might be that it's not her way of ';expressing'; how much you mean to her. try to look on the little-almost-unnoticeable things she does to/for you like checkin you up, keeping you updated, cancelling some appointments for your company,surprising you,etc. it is also possible that she had a memorable experience on giving out compliments to a partner, i mean, she might have had an ex-bf whom she gave compliments before then just took her for granted. she might have kept that in mind that's why she avoids to compliment you, afraid history might repeat itself.. nevertheless, if you don't feel good about the thought of you not receiving any compliments, you might as well open it up to her so that you'll know her side..
Coming from a girl.... all girls are concieted in some way, we love hearing compliments... don't stop, even if she says ';you don't have to say that';
The thing is we really don't know what to compliment you on because when we do things like hold your hand, or lay or head or your shoulder, or just simply smiling at you... we think we are giving you compliments and we don't have to say anything
To girls actions are stronger than words so simply saying i love you is easy but showing it is a bit harder than saying it. So if you show us love instead of just saying it we feel more complimented.
Maybe you should pay more attention to her body language, if you pick up on the small things you will feel way more complimented than you do now.
ah i went through somethin not as extrem but similar my problem was i would open up and then she'd do the same but at times id feel like i liked her more... Talk to her about it dont seem to Stuck on the whole She doenst compliment me more thing cause 1. it comes off conceited a little 2. she'll feel obligated and it'd be fake or it'd be real you'd never know and plus you'd rather have her say it as little as she does and no its real then not know and have her say it alot Good luck my friend and communication is the key P.S. dont seem like your annoyed be more sympathetic leaves more room for repairing.
Just talk to her about it as openly as you compliment . Let her know how you feel whit out making her feel like a monster for that. I was as closed as her, maybe more, because i did not used to say i love you when i was crazy about the gay, Somehow whit the right words and if she is willing to do something like a drill you may help her to open up. That is one of many wonders love makes possible.
Hard to tell dude. If she is not into you, only you will be able to tell that.
You want my opinion? I'd say if you are asking this question here, then that's reason enough for me to believe that she's not into you as much as you are into her. Confront her about it. If she act's weird and gives you the typical answer of, ';oh no baby i love you!';, then get rid of her. She's just too nervous to break up with you so she's making it miserable for the both of you.
If yous say way too much of one particular thing it starts to sound fake as if you don't mean it. Believe me, I know personally after how much my husband says ';I love you'; to me. He says it at least ten times in one day. Don't get me wrong, I love to hear it but sometimes I wonder if he doesn't mean it......
Well it all depends on the person... maybe she's the type of person that isn't really open with her feelings and doesn't really know how to express herself. Sometimes if the way she acts should be good enough. I'm not a really verbal person but when I'm with a person that I really care about or LOVE, I go to the extremes to make things happen.
I am the same way with my boyfriend.
He is always telling me all this beautiful things and I dont.
Its because I am afraid. I am afraid to tell him how much I truly care. I am afraid Ill give him everything I have and he will hurt me. I am scared over all that he will run away if I fill him up with my loving.
I am sure your girlfriend loves you more than you think. I am willing to bet. Shes just scared still. You need to be patient and give her time. Talk to her about it. My boyfriend did and although he didnt like my answer he is being patient.
give her time she may not be ready to open up to you in that kind of way she may feel afraid of how you will react try asking her,but make her feel comfortable let her know that she can trust you (if she really can) it's very hard to put your trust into somebody and let them make promise's they fell to keep, just be easy on her. trust me. patience is love
ha sounds familar.... i think its good that u compliment her and make her feel loved but i also think that her not saying things is also making u not feel loved and u should say something to her. u sound like a good guy and u should b treated the way u deserve to b treated. u both have to try to make the relationship work
Tell her! She might nit even realize that you don't feel appreciated so if you voice your concerns, she might be able to put more effort into making it known that she loves out and thinks your special. Don't take it to mean that she doesn't care as much as you do. We're all a little absent-minded about some things.
Hope that helps :)
Why don't you you trying tell how you feel. Talk to her. Don't make a big deal of this. If you are only giving her compliments because you secretly hope of getting one in return then you are only interested in yourself. You should have enough self-confidence to not act that way.
Yes you should definately keep complimenting her, she is very lucky to have you do that. You should also tell her how much you would love to hear her say nice things to you. Be gentle about it, not demanding, and say it every now and then. She will start doing it in time. Good luck!
some people just drop compliments all the time, while others may think them, but not say them. I had a huge fight with my friend because of this, and you might want to talk to her about it before you start to get too resentful.
Just keep doing what you're doing...when it feels right, she'll let you know how much you mean to her... also, does she show you in different ways, like always staying close to you, saying I love you, etc? If so, I see no problem at all.
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ok dont be offened but dont tell her loads of compliments you could swamp her if you constanly tell people i love you then it loses its meaning she does need to tell you more have you told her these things sit her down and tell her what you have said here
you dont need to compliment her anymore.. as you know you two love each other.. you love them as they are.. and they dont need to know that because they already know that you love them and you know they are ';perfect'; for you.. --you know.. almost perfect.. :]
wow you have no idea how many girls want their guys to open up to them. Its usually the girls that have to open up the guys. I think that you should kinda close but not alot. That way if she notices then you would know htat she cares.
YES DUDE I THINK U SHOULD AND I ALSO THINK SHE JUST DOSENT KNOW HOW TO BEAT THOSE COMPLIMENTS BECAUSE SHE ISINT GOOD AT GIVING THEM AND SHE MIGHT NOT BE USE TO THEM.
U MIGHT HAVE TO BE CONCERNED AND THINK SHE MIGHT BE GETTING BOARD.
Theres nothing to be worried about. Some people think it's akward to compliment people and some are really shy or embarrassed. Either way I don't think it's abnything to worry about.
Dont stress about it
u have different love languages... ur obviously an encouragement person and she may be something different, Read the book personality plus, its short but thats exactly what it talks about
You are so nice. Your avatar is cute. You communicate effectively . You are a catch. I like your smile.
Feel better?
STop complimenting her for 48 hours and see if she reacts.
she may have trouble showing her emotions. I do the same thing she does. I find it hard to give compliments and receive them.
I'm not trying to doubt you or anything but maybe there is something about you that is bugging her. Try asking her. Maybe she's dealing with something completely different. Has she always been like that?
maybe she just has trouble with relationships and feels that its getting too deap. Continue saying these things but not all the time or just talk with her about it
Why do you compliment her? Is it coming from the heart or are you looking for compliments in return? There's your answer.
Don't forget, too many compliments can get old real fast.
maybe shes still shy around you and is waiting for the right time to open up to you. im sure she loves you. =]
Maybe you should drop a hint. like it would be nice to hear how you feel about me sometime
express ur concern with her...be honest and yes continue to compiment her..cause she most likly loves that u do
well how long have you guys been going out? and i don't mean to sound like an @$$ but are you sure it's love? and that she really loves you back? if it's too soon to really tell then maybe she doesn't feel the same as you do yet. there are different ';levels'; of love too. i'm not trying to make it sound like a video game, but i know when i first told my bf i love him, it wasn't nearly the same kind of deep connection i have with him now. so maybe she needs time to open up a bit.
another issue may be her trust. not to say that she doesn't trust you, but guys in general. if she was ever cheated on or told that she was loved but it was a lie, then she may feel she needs to wait to open up because she fears being let down.
so the best thing to do is not push it! give her plenty of time! open up to her and let her know you arn't going anywhere and you really love and care for her. it may take some time, but it will be worth it.
if you wait a while and she still doesn't come around, try talking to her.
best of luck! =]
btw- never stop complimenting her! it doesn't matter if she knows how much you care! keep telling her! make her feel special everyday! even if you're together for the next 80 years! tell her everyday she's beautiful and you love her!
Really, we go through so many relationships expecting to get what we give and thinking we're not. Maybe you are being appreciated, but you are spending too much time looking for it in all the wrong places. She might have another way of showing you. She's not exactly like you, so cut her some slackRelationship Trouble( I need your advice, people!)?
if you're very much sure she wants the relationship with you, you need not worry. though compliments really help, it might be that it's not her way of ';expressing'; how much you mean to her. try to look on the little-almost-unnoticeable things she does to/for you like checkin you up, keeping you updated, cancelling some appointments for your company,surprising you,etc. it is also possible that she had a memorable experience on giving out compliments to a partner, i mean, she might have had an ex-bf whom she gave compliments before then just took her for granted. she might have kept that in mind that's why she avoids to compliment you, afraid history might repeat itself.. nevertheless, if you don't feel good about the thought of you not receiving any compliments, you might as well open it up to her so that you'll know her side..
Coming from a girl.... all girls are concieted in some way, we love hearing compliments... don't stop, even if she says ';you don't have to say that';
The thing is we really don't know what to compliment you on because when we do things like hold your hand, or lay or head or your shoulder, or just simply smiling at you... we think we are giving you compliments and we don't have to say anything
To girls actions are stronger than words so simply saying i love you is easy but showing it is a bit harder than saying it. So if you show us love instead of just saying it we feel more complimented.
Maybe you should pay more attention to her body language, if you pick up on the small things you will feel way more complimented than you do now.
ah i went through somethin not as extrem but similar my problem was i would open up and then she'd do the same but at times id feel like i liked her more... Talk to her about it dont seem to Stuck on the whole She doenst compliment me more thing cause 1. it comes off conceited a little 2. she'll feel obligated and it'd be fake or it'd be real you'd never know and plus you'd rather have her say it as little as she does and no its real then not know and have her say it alot Good luck my friend and communication is the key P.S. dont seem like your annoyed be more sympathetic leaves more room for repairing.
Just talk to her about it as openly as you compliment . Let her know how you feel whit out making her feel like a monster for that. I was as closed as her, maybe more, because i did not used to say i love you when i was crazy about the gay, Somehow whit the right words and if she is willing to do something like a drill you may help her to open up. That is one of many wonders love makes possible.
Hard to tell dude. If she is not into you, only you will be able to tell that.
You want my opinion? I'd say if you are asking this question here, then that's reason enough for me to believe that she's not into you as much as you are into her. Confront her about it. If she act's weird and gives you the typical answer of, ';oh no baby i love you!';, then get rid of her. She's just too nervous to break up with you so she's making it miserable for the both of you.
If yous say way too much of one particular thing it starts to sound fake as if you don't mean it. Believe me, I know personally after how much my husband says ';I love you'; to me. He says it at least ten times in one day. Don't get me wrong, I love to hear it but sometimes I wonder if he doesn't mean it......
Well it all depends on the person... maybe she's the type of person that isn't really open with her feelings and doesn't really know how to express herself. Sometimes if the way she acts should be good enough. I'm not a really verbal person but when I'm with a person that I really care about or LOVE, I go to the extremes to make things happen.
I am the same way with my boyfriend.
He is always telling me all this beautiful things and I dont.
Its because I am afraid. I am afraid to tell him how much I truly care. I am afraid Ill give him everything I have and he will hurt me. I am scared over all that he will run away if I fill him up with my loving.
I am sure your girlfriend loves you more than you think. I am willing to bet. Shes just scared still. You need to be patient and give her time. Talk to her about it. My boyfriend did and although he didnt like my answer he is being patient.
give her time she may not be ready to open up to you in that kind of way she may feel afraid of how you will react try asking her,but make her feel comfortable let her know that she can trust you (if she really can) it's very hard to put your trust into somebody and let them make promise's they fell to keep, just be easy on her. trust me. patience is love
ha sounds familar.... i think its good that u compliment her and make her feel loved but i also think that her not saying things is also making u not feel loved and u should say something to her. u sound like a good guy and u should b treated the way u deserve to b treated. u both have to try to make the relationship work
Tell her! She might nit even realize that you don't feel appreciated so if you voice your concerns, she might be able to put more effort into making it known that she loves out and thinks your special. Don't take it to mean that she doesn't care as much as you do. We're all a little absent-minded about some things.
Hope that helps :)
Why don't you you trying tell how you feel. Talk to her. Don't make a big deal of this. If you are only giving her compliments because you secretly hope of getting one in return then you are only interested in yourself. You should have enough self-confidence to not act that way.
Yes you should definately keep complimenting her, she is very lucky to have you do that. You should also tell her how much you would love to hear her say nice things to you. Be gentle about it, not demanding, and say it every now and then. She will start doing it in time. Good luck!
some people just drop compliments all the time, while others may think them, but not say them. I had a huge fight with my friend because of this, and you might want to talk to her about it before you start to get too resentful.
Just keep doing what you're doing...when it feels right, she'll let you know how much you mean to her... also, does she show you in different ways, like always staying close to you, saying I love you, etc? If so, I see no problem at all.
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ok dont be offened but dont tell her loads of compliments you could swamp her if you constanly tell people i love you then it loses its meaning she does need to tell you more have you told her these things sit her down and tell her what you have said here
you dont need to compliment her anymore.. as you know you two love each other.. you love them as they are.. and they dont need to know that because they already know that you love them and you know they are ';perfect'; for you.. --you know.. almost perfect.. :]
wow you have no idea how many girls want their guys to open up to them. Its usually the girls that have to open up the guys. I think that you should kinda close but not alot. That way if she notices then you would know htat she cares.
YES DUDE I THINK U SHOULD AND I ALSO THINK SHE JUST DOSENT KNOW HOW TO BEAT THOSE COMPLIMENTS BECAUSE SHE ISINT GOOD AT GIVING THEM AND SHE MIGHT NOT BE USE TO THEM.
U MIGHT HAVE TO BE CONCERNED AND THINK SHE MIGHT BE GETTING BOARD.
Theres nothing to be worried about. Some people think it's akward to compliment people and some are really shy or embarrassed. Either way I don't think it's abnything to worry about.
Dont stress about it
u have different love languages... ur obviously an encouragement person and she may be something different, Read the book personality plus, its short but thats exactly what it talks about
You are so nice. Your avatar is cute. You communicate effectively . You are a catch. I like your smile.
Feel better?
STop complimenting her for 48 hours and see if she reacts.
she may have trouble showing her emotions. I do the same thing she does. I find it hard to give compliments and receive them.
I'm not trying to doubt you or anything but maybe there is something about you that is bugging her. Try asking her. Maybe she's dealing with something completely different. Has she always been like that?
maybe she just has trouble with relationships and feels that its getting too deap. Continue saying these things but not all the time or just talk with her about it
Why do you compliment her? Is it coming from the heart or are you looking for compliments in return? There's your answer.
Don't forget, too many compliments can get old real fast.
maybe shes still shy around you and is waiting for the right time to open up to you. im sure she loves you. =]
Maybe you should drop a hint. like it would be nice to hear how you feel about me sometime
express ur concern with her...be honest and yes continue to compiment her..cause she most likly loves that u do
well how long have you guys been going out? and i don't mean to sound like an @$$ but are you sure it's love? and that she really loves you back? if it's too soon to really tell then maybe she doesn't feel the same as you do yet. there are different ';levels'; of love too. i'm not trying to make it sound like a video game, but i know when i first told my bf i love him, it wasn't nearly the same kind of deep connection i have with him now. so maybe she needs time to open up a bit.
another issue may be her trust. not to say that she doesn't trust you, but guys in general. if she was ever cheated on or told that she was loved but it was a lie, then she may feel she needs to wait to open up because she fears being let down.
so the best thing to do is not push it! give her plenty of time! open up to her and let her know you arn't going anywhere and you really love and care for her. it may take some time, but it will be worth it.
if you wait a while and she still doesn't come around, try talking to her.
best of luck! =]
btw- never stop complimenting her! it doesn't matter if she knows how much you care! keep telling her! make her feel special everyday! even if you're together for the next 80 years! tell her everyday she's beautiful and you love her!
I need some advice on my relationship..can YOU help?
My boyfriend has made alot of promises regarding a further commitment (proposing)after a fight he thought it would be better to work on things first and I agreed...I feel like I'm the only one working on the relationship and I've told him this today...he doesn't seem to understand that...how do I get him to see that if things don't start happening regarding a further commitment that I'm going to stop wasting my time and move on...I explained that I feel like he hasn't been making an effort to working on things...listening to how I feel about things and being sensitive when I'm upset...are major issues for me...I need to feel understood and respected. would making myself seem distant and uninterested help make him realize that if he doesn't start working on making a commitment and helping with relationship issues he's going to risk losing me???I need some advice on my relationship..can YOU help?
To start with, one needs to know how old both of you are. Generally speaking, ladies mature faster than men. You might feel that your boyfriend isn't making any 'effort' but he is trying his best within limits of his developmental stage. My simple advice is to keep talking. Only time can tell if your relationship will work. You will know when the time comes. Believe me.I need some advice on my relationship..can YOU help?
You answered your own question in the beginning.
If you want him to see that you are serious that if he doesn't start getting serious about making a more serious commitment that you will leave...then leave!!!
It's that simple, and if you really mean that, then that's what you have to do.
Let him know.
I'm not saying to tell him he has 3 months to propose because if you guys have stuff to work on, then marriage isn't going to make your problems going away, but you have to be seriously ready to walk away from him if he doesn't step up his game.
You said it yourself. So after a set amount of time...what you consider is a considerate amount of time, if he hasn't done what he needs to do, then you have to do what you feel is necessary which is leave. If he really loves you and wants to be with you then he will come running...
However, you have to be ready to accept the fact that he might not...
Dump him. He doesn't deserve you. Your too good for him.
Geeeez - so, you want to play petty games to see if he notices?
I'm voting that neither one of you is ready for ';a further commitment.';
if u cant communicate with him, playing sily games with him is not gonna do you any good. Action speaks louder than words, if all he does is talk crap, dump him!!
Good Lord if the man doesn't listen toy ou what is the point of him wanting to commit further in the future. Maybe he just said that to keep you hanging on. Obviously you need to treat him the way he is treating you and if he doesn't get the hint from that then he has got problems. If he doesn't take note of how uninterested you become etc then you may have to leave and see what his reaction his. He may realise what he has lost if you actually leave not just making up from a fight.
at least you have figured this out before you get married!!!
He is not the right man for you. Instead of saying you are going to do all these things, do them. I promise you, that if he loves you, really loves you, the day you say you are living his ***, he will either ask you to marry him, or you will get this expression on his face that says'; frankly, my dear, I don't give a damn'; and then you know you made the right move. If you feel you are wasting your time,he is not the guy for you. YOU LIVE YOUR LIFE ONLY ONCE, AND YOU CAN NEVER GET THE TIME YOU WASTED, BACK. Think about it
i think you should stop listen to him and start payin him love when he talk you start talkin and you would get your respect
Talk is cheap. Move on.
Theres just some people like that..you feel like you give everything in a relationship and it still isnt good enough.
if u love him give him time, when some pressure me i get scared, stop hemming him in a corner
i couldnt have said it better, did we ever have a reltionship, sounds like i heard that before my self
He's not wanting a COMMITTED relationship or he would not hesitate. Dump the jerk.
NO, NO. JUST TELL HIM OUTRIGHT THAT YOU'VE HAD ENOUGH. EITHER HE COMMIT TO YOU AND SHOW YOU SOME COMPASSION OR YOU ARE GOING TO MOVE ON. IF HE DOESN'T RESPOND TO THAT, THEN IT'S TIME FOR YOU TO DO JUST THAT. AS TIME GOES ON, IT WON'T GET ANY BETTER.. SOMETIMES THE LONGER YOU ARE WITH SOMEONE THE MORE THEY TAKE YOU FOR GRANTED..BETTER TO FIND OUT NOW
If he is not willing to work on the relationship now, what makes you think that he would if you were to get married? Yes, I think that you should take some time, Maybe go for a week and don't see him or take his calls. Find out what it is that you are looking for and really contemplate if you believe that he is capable of giving it to you. Some relationships just do not work out. As long as he can keep you around by making promises to work on things, why should he fulfill his promises. It is a matter of your happiness. Are you willing to compromise your happiness to be with him if he doesn't want to work on things? Honey, good relationships take a lot of work and compromise from both people involved in a relationship and if he is not willing to put forth the effort to make your relationship work then it is better to find out now. Best of luck to you.
I don't think the issue is that your bf doesn't understand what your say. In fact bet he understands more than you think. The problem is that he my not be ready to take the relationship to the next level. At the same time he does not want to lose you. You need to be firm about what you want and need him to be. Do not give him any (or else) when your talking to him but be firm. Stick to your guns if you need to move on don't be sacred. It may take not calling him for a week or two for him to get the picture.
if you are already having feelings such as these, you should definately wait to get married, just give it time.
He may not be your soulmate.
Neither of you will have to pretend if this keeps up. Unless something changes, being uninterested and distant will eventually happen. No one should really play games. games are for kids and if any sound-minded person wants thier relationship to be serious and continue at an adult level then they have to meet true problems straight-on and make thier partners realize with brutal honesty.
tell him that if he doesn鈥檛 try to patiently understand your needs and listen to what you're asking for then you'll wind-up hating him. but do it without giving him an ultimatum and seek professional help. professionals really know how to help people understand where the problems are coming from... plus, they can help you find out where some issues with communication could use some polishing... i hope that helps... I'm no expert on relationships but its sometimes easier or hits home when you hear it from someone else... counseling is the best way to go... always
i dont think you should waste your time on someone that doest care. but you should really work it out before making any decisions. You never know what might happen.
He isn't taking you seriously, and he is a typical male who believed the relationship is ';women's work';. Make up your mind and do what is best for you. If he follows, great, if not you are free to find true love.makeup hair tips
To start with, one needs to know how old both of you are. Generally speaking, ladies mature faster than men. You might feel that your boyfriend isn't making any 'effort' but he is trying his best within limits of his developmental stage. My simple advice is to keep talking. Only time can tell if your relationship will work. You will know when the time comes. Believe me.I need some advice on my relationship..can YOU help?
You answered your own question in the beginning.
If you want him to see that you are serious that if he doesn't start getting serious about making a more serious commitment that you will leave...then leave!!!
It's that simple, and if you really mean that, then that's what you have to do.
Let him know.
I'm not saying to tell him he has 3 months to propose because if you guys have stuff to work on, then marriage isn't going to make your problems going away, but you have to be seriously ready to walk away from him if he doesn't step up his game.
You said it yourself. So after a set amount of time...what you consider is a considerate amount of time, if he hasn't done what he needs to do, then you have to do what you feel is necessary which is leave. If he really loves you and wants to be with you then he will come running...
However, you have to be ready to accept the fact that he might not...
Dump him. He doesn't deserve you. Your too good for him.
Geeeez - so, you want to play petty games to see if he notices?
I'm voting that neither one of you is ready for ';a further commitment.';
if u cant communicate with him, playing sily games with him is not gonna do you any good. Action speaks louder than words, if all he does is talk crap, dump him!!
Good Lord if the man doesn't listen toy ou what is the point of him wanting to commit further in the future. Maybe he just said that to keep you hanging on. Obviously you need to treat him the way he is treating you and if he doesn't get the hint from that then he has got problems. If he doesn't take note of how uninterested you become etc then you may have to leave and see what his reaction his. He may realise what he has lost if you actually leave not just making up from a fight.
at least you have figured this out before you get married!!!
He is not the right man for you. Instead of saying you are going to do all these things, do them. I promise you, that if he loves you, really loves you, the day you say you are living his ***, he will either ask you to marry him, or you will get this expression on his face that says'; frankly, my dear, I don't give a damn'; and then you know you made the right move. If you feel you are wasting your time,he is not the guy for you. YOU LIVE YOUR LIFE ONLY ONCE, AND YOU CAN NEVER GET THE TIME YOU WASTED, BACK. Think about it
i think you should stop listen to him and start payin him love when he talk you start talkin and you would get your respect
Talk is cheap. Move on.
Theres just some people like that..you feel like you give everything in a relationship and it still isnt good enough.
if u love him give him time, when some pressure me i get scared, stop hemming him in a corner
i couldnt have said it better, did we ever have a reltionship, sounds like i heard that before my self
He's not wanting a COMMITTED relationship or he would not hesitate. Dump the jerk.
NO, NO. JUST TELL HIM OUTRIGHT THAT YOU'VE HAD ENOUGH. EITHER HE COMMIT TO YOU AND SHOW YOU SOME COMPASSION OR YOU ARE GOING TO MOVE ON. IF HE DOESN'T RESPOND TO THAT, THEN IT'S TIME FOR YOU TO DO JUST THAT. AS TIME GOES ON, IT WON'T GET ANY BETTER.. SOMETIMES THE LONGER YOU ARE WITH SOMEONE THE MORE THEY TAKE YOU FOR GRANTED..BETTER TO FIND OUT NOW
If he is not willing to work on the relationship now, what makes you think that he would if you were to get married? Yes, I think that you should take some time, Maybe go for a week and don't see him or take his calls. Find out what it is that you are looking for and really contemplate if you believe that he is capable of giving it to you. Some relationships just do not work out. As long as he can keep you around by making promises to work on things, why should he fulfill his promises. It is a matter of your happiness. Are you willing to compromise your happiness to be with him if he doesn't want to work on things? Honey, good relationships take a lot of work and compromise from both people involved in a relationship and if he is not willing to put forth the effort to make your relationship work then it is better to find out now. Best of luck to you.
I don't think the issue is that your bf doesn't understand what your say. In fact bet he understands more than you think. The problem is that he my not be ready to take the relationship to the next level. At the same time he does not want to lose you. You need to be firm about what you want and need him to be. Do not give him any (or else) when your talking to him but be firm. Stick to your guns if you need to move on don't be sacred. It may take not calling him for a week or two for him to get the picture.
if you are already having feelings such as these, you should definately wait to get married, just give it time.
He may not be your soulmate.
Neither of you will have to pretend if this keeps up. Unless something changes, being uninterested and distant will eventually happen. No one should really play games. games are for kids and if any sound-minded person wants thier relationship to be serious and continue at an adult level then they have to meet true problems straight-on and make thier partners realize with brutal honesty.
tell him that if he doesn鈥檛 try to patiently understand your needs and listen to what you're asking for then you'll wind-up hating him. but do it without giving him an ultimatum and seek professional help. professionals really know how to help people understand where the problems are coming from... plus, they can help you find out where some issues with communication could use some polishing... i hope that helps... I'm no expert on relationships but its sometimes easier or hits home when you hear it from someone else... counseling is the best way to go... always
i dont think you should waste your time on someone that doest care. but you should really work it out before making any decisions. You never know what might happen.
He isn't taking you seriously, and he is a typical male who believed the relationship is ';women's work';. Make up your mind and do what is best for you. If he follows, great, if not you are free to find true love.
Great/ fun relationship, girlfriend wants girlfriend sometimes any advice ?
Good Morning All, Just a quick question, my gf and I have been together for about three years. It's fun , compatible. She has had girl girl experience in past and had fun. Were candid and open with each other. She wants to have a girlfriend with us and come over etc etc. I'm open to her wishes as she is mine. Were both in health-care and practice safely in our lives. I would appreciate any advice constructive or objectionable , either way is appreciated. Any help as to where and how to go about looking? lol. Thank youGreat/ fun relationship, girlfriend wants girlfriend sometimes any advice ?
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try dating sites and maybe you will find someone. Good luck.Great/ fun relationship, girlfriend wants girlfriend sometimes any advice ?
invite a hot stripper over then you can have a threesome together see fun for you and her
I need an advice bout this relationship?
i am 29 yrs old and i'm starting to fall this man he's 43 yrs old and he been there for me and care about me alots and he very like me but the problem is i dunt noe if this will lastI need an advice bout this relationship?
The problem is you're already ';starting to fall (for) this man';. And if the only problem is whether this relationship might last, then GO AHEAD. Just start enjoying being together. Life is too short to sit on the side bench.I need an advice bout this relationship?
Yes! i know you are unaware of your relationship because most of the guys change their mind easily. And all i can say is find a lots of men that can really makes you so happy, find it in www.chinadarlings.com and www.muslimdarlings.com i am sure you can't hesitate this answer.
There are no guarantees in life. However, if you don't take the chance, you will always regret this mistake. If he has been there for you in the past, and wants to make it permanent now, what are you waiting for?
Do you love him? If yes, go for it. Age has nothing to do with anything. Many men are more mature and can see what your needs.
You need to ask yourself if you want something thats fun or something that'll last. But you know what? You never know up front whether it will last or not. I say give it a shot, and if it doesn't work, than so be it.
this is what people seem to do they thrust themselves in full heartedly then get it broken too easily
if you wanna see if it'll work out make sure u put yourself out there enough but not too much that you'll get crushed
I guess the only way you'll ever find out is if you try and see how things work out...:)
Wish you the best of luck...:)
if you don't know if it will last give it more time... if things work out then great but if you have doubts now definetly do not dedicate yourself so soon...good luck
The problem is you're already ';starting to fall (for) this man';. And if the only problem is whether this relationship might last, then GO AHEAD. Just start enjoying being together. Life is too short to sit on the side bench.I need an advice bout this relationship?
Yes! i know you are unaware of your relationship because most of the guys change their mind easily. And all i can say is find a lots of men that can really makes you so happy, find it in www.chinadarlings.com and www.muslimdarlings.com i am sure you can't hesitate this answer.
There are no guarantees in life. However, if you don't take the chance, you will always regret this mistake. If he has been there for you in the past, and wants to make it permanent now, what are you waiting for?
Do you love him? If yes, go for it. Age has nothing to do with anything. Many men are more mature and can see what your needs.
You need to ask yourself if you want something thats fun or something that'll last. But you know what? You never know up front whether it will last or not. I say give it a shot, and if it doesn't work, than so be it.
this is what people seem to do they thrust themselves in full heartedly then get it broken too easily
if you wanna see if it'll work out make sure u put yourself out there enough but not too much that you'll get crushed
I guess the only way you'll ever find out is if you try and see how things work out...:)
Wish you the best of luck...:)
if you don't know if it will last give it more time... if things work out then great but if you have doubts now definetly do not dedicate yourself so soon...good luck
What are some websites where you can get advice in relationships privately?
I mean private ones not asking questions like on here where everyone can see them.What are some websites where you can get advice in relationships privately?
How would that work, exactly?
If you don't post your concern on an open site somewhere, how do you get people to respond?
If you want private discussions, open your email and ask for contacts.
Of course, anywhere you go you will get tons of inappropriate responses.
How would that work, exactly?
If you don't post your concern on an open site somewhere, how do you get people to respond?
If you want private discussions, open your email and ask for contacts.
Of course, anywhere you go you will get tons of inappropriate responses.
Situation with a recent BREAKUP of a relationship and need advice..please help!!!?
well about three days ago i broke up with my boyfriend and the past two days hes been calling me and telling me how horrible i am of a person for doing that and ';throwing away'; such a good relationship. the reason i brokeup with him is because right now i cant take a serious relationship, and i need to get myself back on track but all he seems to do is argue what im saying. on the phone he left me with a choiice, to come back to him with my desiscion. what do i say to make him get off my back? because with my breakup he said he hates who i am for that and will loose all respect for me and doesnt evne wanna speak/talk to me anymore...and ive been calm and nice all this time but how do i calmly tell him that its seriously cant be done at this point, and when i tell him maybe we can do this later he argues that noo chance in hell that he will wait for me, hes either in it with me during this hard time or out. please help! any suggestions help, no rash commentsSituation with a recent BREAKUP of a relationship and need advice..please help!!!?
cut contact with himSituation with a recent BREAKUP of a relationship and need advice..please help!!!?
just forget about him and hang up on him when he is being a jerk and try to talk to him
Breaking up hurts, and this guy is dealing with some serious pain right now. It's not your fault; getting your life on track is much more important than a relationship at this point in your life. If he calls again with his mean comments and all, answer the phone, but don't converse with him. Just say something like, ';Look, ___, dating you was great, but I need some time to just get my life back on track. It's nothing against you, it's just a personal decision I need to make. During our relationship, you've made me realize who I am and made me a better person, and I only hope that I did the same for you. However, you've really hurt me by all these insults and such. I'm sorry I hurt you, I really am, but I can't handle a boyfriend right now. I would really like it if you would please just not talk to me until you cool off, and maybe one day we can be friends again.'; Then say goodbye, and leave it at that.
So you are thinking that eventually you might want to get back together with him you just want a few days to clear your head? Just put yourself in his shoes...too! Stay calm with him, you are doing great with that... but if you love him and possibly want to get back with him then don't push him too far away. But if you don't want to be with him again... tell him its over. Best of luck to you!!!
The best thing to do is just be honest with him and tell him straight that you need time on your own to get yourself sorted. If he doesnt respect you for this then he is not worth the hassle. Tell him if he cant talk to you like an adult then you are not wasting your time with him. Give it a try
cut contact with himSituation with a recent BREAKUP of a relationship and need advice..please help!!!?
just forget about him and hang up on him when he is being a jerk and try to talk to him
Breaking up hurts, and this guy is dealing with some serious pain right now. It's not your fault; getting your life on track is much more important than a relationship at this point in your life. If he calls again with his mean comments and all, answer the phone, but don't converse with him. Just say something like, ';Look, ___, dating you was great, but I need some time to just get my life back on track. It's nothing against you, it's just a personal decision I need to make. During our relationship, you've made me realize who I am and made me a better person, and I only hope that I did the same for you. However, you've really hurt me by all these insults and such. I'm sorry I hurt you, I really am, but I can't handle a boyfriend right now. I would really like it if you would please just not talk to me until you cool off, and maybe one day we can be friends again.'; Then say goodbye, and leave it at that.
So you are thinking that eventually you might want to get back together with him you just want a few days to clear your head? Just put yourself in his shoes...too! Stay calm with him, you are doing great with that... but if you love him and possibly want to get back with him then don't push him too far away. But if you don't want to be with him again... tell him its over. Best of luck to you!!!
The best thing to do is just be honest with him and tell him straight that you need time on your own to get yourself sorted. If he doesnt respect you for this then he is not worth the hassle. Tell him if he cant talk to you like an adult then you are not wasting your time with him. Give it a try
On again/Off again HELL of a ';relationship'; - please offer advice!?
My ex boyfriend and I have known each other for about eight years now, and after about three years of relatively no contact, we got back in touch and things have been wishy washy and semi hellish ever since. In recent months, we began to find ourselves involved with one another again, trying out some foreign and unspoken form of 'dating'. I totally love this guy - never felt so connected to another man in my life, and can simply envision our wedding day down to the table settings. This is for real. However, we have issues, issues, and more issues.This guy is totally bi-polar when it comes to any sort of functional relationship with me. Refusing to set boundaries or rules, one day he's devoted and loving, and the next, he will ignore my attempts to get in touch or act like I'm a complete burden and waste of time. Over the past two months, I have spent most days confused, baffled, and in a lot of pain.On again/Off again HELL of a ';relationship'; - please offer advice!?
i'm sorry doll. but give it up. if he wanted to be with you.. he would be with you. if it was going to work.. it wouldn't be so hard. and you two wouldn't be on and off. it's hard loving someone who acts like that. i have a 6 year guy who was just like that. and i finally just had to pick up what little self esteem i had left, and move on. this guy isn't for you. and you aren't going to find one who is if you are too busy dealing with this bad relationship.On again/Off again HELL of a ';relationship'; - please offer advice!?
THIS IS HARD WHEN THEIR IS MOODS LIKE THIS THEY DO NOT EVEN KNOW WHAT IS WRONG WITH THEM,YOU TRYED TO MAKE SOME ONE HAPPY,SOME TIMES IT WORKS SOME TIMES IT DOES NOT WORK,SO MOVE ON I WILL PRAY FOR YOU BOTH.
didnt read your whole story. but here goes your answer.
it's time to call it quits for good.
it's for the best. for you..and for him.
you don't need him and he doesnt need you.
find someone worth investing time and love with.
you'll thank me at the end. trust me.
i'm sorry doll. but give it up. if he wanted to be with you.. he would be with you. if it was going to work.. it wouldn't be so hard. and you two wouldn't be on and off. it's hard loving someone who acts like that. i have a 6 year guy who was just like that. and i finally just had to pick up what little self esteem i had left, and move on. this guy isn't for you. and you aren't going to find one who is if you are too busy dealing with this bad relationship.On again/Off again HELL of a ';relationship'; - please offer advice!?
THIS IS HARD WHEN THEIR IS MOODS LIKE THIS THEY DO NOT EVEN KNOW WHAT IS WRONG WITH THEM,YOU TRYED TO MAKE SOME ONE HAPPY,SOME TIMES IT WORKS SOME TIMES IT DOES NOT WORK,SO MOVE ON I WILL PRAY FOR YOU BOTH.
didnt read your whole story. but here goes your answer.
it's time to call it quits for good.
it's for the best. for you..and for him.
you don't need him and he doesnt need you.
find someone worth investing time and love with.
you'll thank me at the end. trust me.
Opinion on what you think about my relationship i need advice?
i have a great boyfriend and i feel like im falling in love with him! he works out of town through the week now and i only see him on the weekends and im completely lost without him! this past weekend he had so many ppl to visit its like he didnt have time for me and it made me feel like i was last on his list. im constantly waiting on him and i cant take it. but i dont want 2 lose him. i told him how i felt and all he said was sorry dont be mad at me. i know he doesnt want to lose me neither so why is he doing this to me all the time everytime i express how i feel about a situation he wont talk, like he doesnt know what to say...should i just let it slide or am i just wasting my time on him?Opinion on what you think about my relationship i need advice?
sounds like this relationship just might not work out....you can't keep going on like this forever ya know?makeup hair tips
sounds like this relationship just might not work out....you can't keep going on like this forever ya know?
I am not happy because of my relationship status...any advice?
I am confused and I need some advice. Ever since I can remember I've thought about the day when I could meet ';the one'; and have a family. I feel like I've lived my life, I'm 26 and done with school so there is nothing holding me back from starting a relationship. I feel like everyone around me has somebody except me and I get really envious and mad about it.
The catch is, I can't seem to meet the right man. I want someone who I am attracted to physically and mentally....meaning he needs to stimulate my minds and my body. So far, I only get one or the other....the guy will either be attractive and we fight all the time or the guy will be unattractive and we get along great. I hate the fact that everyone around me are happy and have perfect relationships. I have an idea of my man in my head and he just won't come along.
I'm really tired of being alone. I don't want to end up being an old maid. What should II am not happy because of my relationship status...any advice?
It seems as though you are creating your own demise in this part of your life. You seem to have had many nice relationships but in your opinion the ones you are into, do not appeal to you physically. I think you are not giving the ones that you have a great time with a fair chance. Looks are not everything. Think about the ones with great personalities and do you not see them through different eyes as time goes by, because their personality is so appealling they just seem to get physically more appealling to you? Maybe you should be giving the nice guys more of your time, you just might be pleasantly surprised. As time goes by even those good looking ones, loose their looks and then what is left ? Think about it, Good luck and all the best.I am not happy because of my relationship status...any advice?
your still quite young, the right one will come along, however, men, about your age, are still quite immature, ..try dating a bit older men, if you havent done so already, about 35 or s, thats when men, tend to grow up a bit, ...
dont look in nightclubs or bars either.
try the online thing, if you've never done it, try it. Many men dont hang at clubs, the ones who have lives and good careers anyway. Try church or other socials.
again, youre young, the right one will come, and you
Don't even look...do other things...get involved in things you are passionate about..move around a bit...maybe the choice of men where you live is limited. When you least expect it...he will be there..and it will be most unexpected. You also can rely on family and friends who know you best to introduce you to quality people...do not despair...love will find you
Just be patient and don't settle for less than what you want just to be in a marriage or you will forever regret it. You are still young and you will eventually find the man that meets all your relationship needs.
nobody is perfect
are you perfect or without any annoying habits?
i think marraige is what you make of it, acceptance and tolerance of the other's personality-good and bad
Don't be mad. Try eHarmony.com I know some people that found a life partner, hubby or wife, there. You are still young, as soon as you are ready love will come to you. Try to be happy and love yourself.
Some times you have to lower your standards. If you are too picky then you won't find a man.
wow.
A lot of people feel like you do...I got married at age 30 precisely because I didn't want to rush into anything...All my friends were married by the time I got hitched. ( So...Yes, I can understand the feeling of being alone while others seem happy.)
Please remember that there is a lot of pressure to get married or to have a Significant Other...but there is no guarantee that being in a relationship will make you happy, either. We are responsible for our own happiness...No one can MAKE us happy, except ourselves.
Besides, perfection does not exist! Many people seem to have it all; but they all have problems!
Don't fret, and don't settle, either. We must love, respect and accept ourselves first, before attempting to find someone who will do the same. You are still too young to think you might become an old maid!
Good luck...Be patient, and ask God to send you the right man at the right time.
Never rush into a serious relationship. Always take your time to get to know the person throughly well. A person true colors will shine after living with them for a whiles. Date many boyfriends, until you find the one, that sticks out the most. LIke for example for me in my case. I dated 15 girlfriends many years ago. Out of all the 15 gf, only one sticked out the most. She was the ultimate best g/f I every had in my life. We had lots and lots of great times together. Its was great memories. I will never forget this particular g/f of the deep past. GL
The catch is, I can't seem to meet the right man. I want someone who I am attracted to physically and mentally....meaning he needs to stimulate my minds and my body. So far, I only get one or the other....the guy will either be attractive and we fight all the time or the guy will be unattractive and we get along great. I hate the fact that everyone around me are happy and have perfect relationships. I have an idea of my man in my head and he just won't come along.
I'm really tired of being alone. I don't want to end up being an old maid. What should II am not happy because of my relationship status...any advice?
It seems as though you are creating your own demise in this part of your life. You seem to have had many nice relationships but in your opinion the ones you are into, do not appeal to you physically. I think you are not giving the ones that you have a great time with a fair chance. Looks are not everything. Think about the ones with great personalities and do you not see them through different eyes as time goes by, because their personality is so appealling they just seem to get physically more appealling to you? Maybe you should be giving the nice guys more of your time, you just might be pleasantly surprised. As time goes by even those good looking ones, loose their looks and then what is left ? Think about it, Good luck and all the best.I am not happy because of my relationship status...any advice?
your still quite young, the right one will come along, however, men, about your age, are still quite immature, ..try dating a bit older men, if you havent done so already, about 35 or s, thats when men, tend to grow up a bit, ...
dont look in nightclubs or bars either.
try the online thing, if you've never done it, try it. Many men dont hang at clubs, the ones who have lives and good careers anyway. Try church or other socials.
again, youre young, the right one will come, and you
Don't even look...do other things...get involved in things you are passionate about..move around a bit...maybe the choice of men where you live is limited. When you least expect it...he will be there..and it will be most unexpected. You also can rely on family and friends who know you best to introduce you to quality people...do not despair...love will find you
Just be patient and don't settle for less than what you want just to be in a marriage or you will forever regret it. You are still young and you will eventually find the man that meets all your relationship needs.
nobody is perfect
are you perfect or without any annoying habits?
i think marraige is what you make of it, acceptance and tolerance of the other's personality-good and bad
Don't be mad. Try eHarmony.com I know some people that found a life partner, hubby or wife, there. You are still young, as soon as you are ready love will come to you. Try to be happy and love yourself.
Some times you have to lower your standards. If you are too picky then you won't find a man.
wow.
A lot of people feel like you do...I got married at age 30 precisely because I didn't want to rush into anything...All my friends were married by the time I got hitched. ( So...Yes, I can understand the feeling of being alone while others seem happy.)
Please remember that there is a lot of pressure to get married or to have a Significant Other...but there is no guarantee that being in a relationship will make you happy, either. We are responsible for our own happiness...No one can MAKE us happy, except ourselves.
Besides, perfection does not exist! Many people seem to have it all; but they all have problems!
Don't fret, and don't settle, either. We must love, respect and accept ourselves first, before attempting to find someone who will do the same. You are still too young to think you might become an old maid!
Good luck...Be patient, and ask God to send you the right man at the right time.
Never rush into a serious relationship. Always take your time to get to know the person throughly well. A person true colors will shine after living with them for a whiles. Date many boyfriends, until you find the one, that sticks out the most. LIke for example for me in my case. I dated 15 girlfriends many years ago. Out of all the 15 gf, only one sticked out the most. She was the ultimate best g/f I every had in my life. We had lots and lots of great times together. Its was great memories. I will never forget this particular g/f of the deep past. GL
I just came out of a bad relationship, I need advice on how to start over...?
I was cheated on for a long time and recently found out and ended the relationship. He controlled my friends and I was only allowed to be with him and his friends. Im an intelligent, attractive, young (early 20's) professional, honest woman but i seem to be having the hardest time meeting guys. Im kind of shy which makes it even harder and because he didnt allow it, I really dont have any friends of my own to go out with to meet other people. Its causing me to become very depressed and I just dont know how to 'start over'. Ive been so upset since the breakup and havent eaten or slept in days. I dont want to be this way, i want so badly to be happy. I just work and go home everyday and feel like Im never going to get back out there. How do i rebuild my confidence, get over this depression, and get out there again? especially because Im so shy.I just came out of a bad relationship, I need advice on how to start over...?
as your confidence builds up, and your self worth returns, u will get to feeling better. but breakup's hurt, and they do take time to get over. u could begin by finding a self help therapy group, where u will find new friends, who have been through what u are now going through, they will be your support system. u were living with a controller who robbed u of your self worth, and confidence, but it will return to u. just see yourself as the confident girl u are, don't base how u feel about yourself on what happened. your not broken only your past relationship was broken. u were smart enough to kick the cheater to the curb, so your well on your way to feeling better and being able to move on.I just came out of a bad relationship, I need advice on how to start over...?
I too was in your shoes just less than a year ago after being in a physically and verbally abusive relationship. He controlled so much of my life that I was loss...literally! It seems that I had forgotten in some senses who I really was! Let me tell you though that I have come SO FAR in 11 months!! The thing that really helped me first and foremost was getting in touch with old friends...even if they don't live near by....just start talking to your old friends again. This helps ground you again and realize who you were when you were happy!! If you're able to meet up with old girlfriends for lunch or something...then do it! Do some soul searching and figure out what things in life really do make you happy...think about things you want to change! I was pretty much bound to the house....and my self esteem was shot! So I joined a gym...I started going to aerobic classes and working out wtih and meeting other women....and made friends. This really raised my confidence!! As far as meeting people just get yourself into a routine...that makes you feel good about yourself! Give it time for meeting the man of your dreams...just focus on friends right now and finding happiness and self confidence within yourself! Then and only then will someone else be able to see your inner beauty!! Hang in there!! I promise it gets better! You're about 10 years younger than me....and I was in that situation for 12 years...so if I can do it, I know you can!!
i say instead of jumping into the next relationship, work on you first. get counseling so that you can emotionally deal with your past. then i say sign up for self defense classes or martial arts so you can physically defend yourself. start one day at a time and you will get there. protect your assets, protect your finances. protect what is yours. get advice from an attorney. in today's time, you need to do what you can to protect yourself and what you worked hard to get. there are too many crazy people in the world that are looking for someone sweet and innocent to take advantage of. look out for you before you go looking for another relationship. work on you and your issues before you go hooking up with another man. there is nothing wrong in doing that and it is not selfish.
you dont have any friends to go out with at all? How about friends from work? Start going out to happy hours with people from work....enjoy these years, youre young and there are plenty of guys out there who are eager to get to know you, you just have to make yourself available, good luck
I went though the same thing...I joined one of those free dating sites and saw that there are plenty of fish out there....read the forums and you will find your not alone out there....get out and go for a coffee with someone who will listen...good idea not to jump into a relationship just yet. You will find you start to do things your spouse would let you do and it will feel great!! The internet has so much information from others on how to cope with this...things really do get better over time...
Well first of all dont worry about getting back out there yet worry about getting over your depression first. You have to get your confidence back up. Try going out to eat by yourself or have a drink by yourself. Maybe start making friends at work and ask one of them to go out after work for drinks or food. You can do it! Maybe treat yourself to some new hot clothes and then go out and strut your stuff. As soon as you get a guys attention your feelings will change.
Just think of yourself as a perfect person, and anyone in the world would be lucky to have you... got to think outside the box... build up confidiance!
Life is what you make it ..you have to decide how you want to live it !! wake up in the morning and tell yourself this is going to be a wonderful day ..and I am sure it will be better..just keep positive and tell yourself he was not right for you and that the best one is comming your way..positive attitude makes the difference you have control over that ..hope you can wake up with a smile
Allow yourself time to grieve and heal. Don't rush into dating right away or you'll get into an awful rebound relationship. Meanwhile, get a new hairdo, buy some new clothes, spend quality time with your girlfriends.
Take a class to keep your mind busy. You might meet a new friend there, and they might have some friends you can meet thru them. When you meet new people, just smile and say hello. It doesn't matter how shy you are as long as you can be friendly. Don't be afraid.
go to work, eat, sleep, do what you have to do, watch tv, clean the yard up, shop, buy only what you need, visit family and friends...
DO NOT JUMP INTO ANY RELATIONSHIP, UNTIL YOU HAVE THE GUY FOLLOWED TO SEE IF HE'S THE FAITHFUL TYPE! IF THIS MEANS YOU HAVE TO HAVE SOMEONE SPY ON HIM TO SEE IF HE'S TALKING TO ANOTHER WOMAN ONLINE BESIDES YOU, DO SO! MAKE UP A NEW ID ONLINE AND TRAP THE SUCKER, THIS WAY, YOU WILL FIND OUT IF THE DUDE IS A CHEAT OR NOT! =)
that's my answer, and I'm stickin' to it, lol! you deserve 100 percent, don't settle for less, ever... even if you have to dump 100 guys before you find the right one! good luck! =)
as your confidence builds up, and your self worth returns, u will get to feeling better. but breakup's hurt, and they do take time to get over. u could begin by finding a self help therapy group, where u will find new friends, who have been through what u are now going through, they will be your support system. u were living with a controller who robbed u of your self worth, and confidence, but it will return to u. just see yourself as the confident girl u are, don't base how u feel about yourself on what happened. your not broken only your past relationship was broken. u were smart enough to kick the cheater to the curb, so your well on your way to feeling better and being able to move on.I just came out of a bad relationship, I need advice on how to start over...?
I too was in your shoes just less than a year ago after being in a physically and verbally abusive relationship. He controlled so much of my life that I was loss...literally! It seems that I had forgotten in some senses who I really was! Let me tell you though that I have come SO FAR in 11 months!! The thing that really helped me first and foremost was getting in touch with old friends...even if they don't live near by....just start talking to your old friends again. This helps ground you again and realize who you were when you were happy!! If you're able to meet up with old girlfriends for lunch or something...then do it! Do some soul searching and figure out what things in life really do make you happy...think about things you want to change! I was pretty much bound to the house....and my self esteem was shot! So I joined a gym...I started going to aerobic classes and working out wtih and meeting other women....and made friends. This really raised my confidence!! As far as meeting people just get yourself into a routine...that makes you feel good about yourself! Give it time for meeting the man of your dreams...just focus on friends right now and finding happiness and self confidence within yourself! Then and only then will someone else be able to see your inner beauty!! Hang in there!! I promise it gets better! You're about 10 years younger than me....and I was in that situation for 12 years...so if I can do it, I know you can!!
i say instead of jumping into the next relationship, work on you first. get counseling so that you can emotionally deal with your past. then i say sign up for self defense classes or martial arts so you can physically defend yourself. start one day at a time and you will get there. protect your assets, protect your finances. protect what is yours. get advice from an attorney. in today's time, you need to do what you can to protect yourself and what you worked hard to get. there are too many crazy people in the world that are looking for someone sweet and innocent to take advantage of. look out for you before you go looking for another relationship. work on you and your issues before you go hooking up with another man. there is nothing wrong in doing that and it is not selfish.
you dont have any friends to go out with at all? How about friends from work? Start going out to happy hours with people from work....enjoy these years, youre young and there are plenty of guys out there who are eager to get to know you, you just have to make yourself available, good luck
I went though the same thing...I joined one of those free dating sites and saw that there are plenty of fish out there....read the forums and you will find your not alone out there....get out and go for a coffee with someone who will listen...good idea not to jump into a relationship just yet. You will find you start to do things your spouse would let you do and it will feel great!! The internet has so much information from others on how to cope with this...things really do get better over time...
Well first of all dont worry about getting back out there yet worry about getting over your depression first. You have to get your confidence back up. Try going out to eat by yourself or have a drink by yourself. Maybe start making friends at work and ask one of them to go out after work for drinks or food. You can do it! Maybe treat yourself to some new hot clothes and then go out and strut your stuff. As soon as you get a guys attention your feelings will change.
Just think of yourself as a perfect person, and anyone in the world would be lucky to have you... got to think outside the box... build up confidiance!
Life is what you make it ..you have to decide how you want to live it !! wake up in the morning and tell yourself this is going to be a wonderful day ..and I am sure it will be better..just keep positive and tell yourself he was not right for you and that the best one is comming your way..positive attitude makes the difference you have control over that ..hope you can wake up with a smile
Allow yourself time to grieve and heal. Don't rush into dating right away or you'll get into an awful rebound relationship. Meanwhile, get a new hairdo, buy some new clothes, spend quality time with your girlfriends.
Take a class to keep your mind busy. You might meet a new friend there, and they might have some friends you can meet thru them. When you meet new people, just smile and say hello. It doesn't matter how shy you are as long as you can be friendly. Don't be afraid.
go to work, eat, sleep, do what you have to do, watch tv, clean the yard up, shop, buy only what you need, visit family and friends...
DO NOT JUMP INTO ANY RELATIONSHIP, UNTIL YOU HAVE THE GUY FOLLOWED TO SEE IF HE'S THE FAITHFUL TYPE! IF THIS MEANS YOU HAVE TO HAVE SOMEONE SPY ON HIM TO SEE IF HE'S TALKING TO ANOTHER WOMAN ONLINE BESIDES YOU, DO SO! MAKE UP A NEW ID ONLINE AND TRAP THE SUCKER, THIS WAY, YOU WILL FIND OUT IF THE DUDE IS A CHEAT OR NOT! =)
that's my answer, and I'm stickin' to it, lol! you deserve 100 percent, don't settle for less, ever... even if you have to dump 100 guys before you find the right one! good luck! =)
What do guys really want in a relationship i need advice...Guys please help me out...?
So my relationships have been shitty and they always end up coming back....well me and my ex hubby he still loves me and he just cant be with me he always came back but i finally moved on and so has he...were just friends now...then i started dating this guy and are relationship was perfect no fights are anything then one day he needs space it so happiends to be when he phycho ex gf becomes single found out hes been sleeping with her and she treated him like crap i talked to him about it and everyone else and all he wants to do is have sex with her not a relationship he tould me hes got alot going and needs space but i kept bugging him so now he doesnt want to talk to me anymore but i had a friend 3 way him and he still claims to love me but he tould that friend to tell me that he doesnt because he doesnt want me to wait on him...My main question is...what do guys really want...Do guys like bitches is that what i should be because i did everything for him and his phycho ex which he only wants sex with treated him like ****...and my hubby and everyone else always leaves but ends up coming back....I don't get it....What can i do to make myself more desirable...isnt it the clingyness what is it that men want in a relationship???What do guys really want in a relationship i need advice...Guys please help me out...?
Be a little hard to get...men like the chase and will treat you better if you are not at their beck and call. Focus on making yourself happy first. A fun read is ';He's Just Not That Into You.';What do guys really want in a relationship i need advice...Guys please help me out...?
You are the problem quit going with these types.Respect your self stay kind then You will get the right one.Life is short don't waste it on broken men that will not change. Change yourself Good luck choose to be happy.
Guys want sex; if you don't give it away so easily, they'll treat you with more respect and be much kinder.
Hope this helps!!
A Man wants the world and everything in it.
What do men want? SEX, someone who will do the cleaning, cooking, and laundry so they don't have to.
What kind of women do they use and treat like crap? Women who put them first and try hard to be everything they want.
What kind of women do they respect and want to be with? Women who are strong, know what they want, don't play games, don't take crap off them and demand to be treated with respect.
If you don't respect yourself, they won't respect you either. Know what you want, don't settle for less, and don't allow a man to use you or treat you in a way that makes you feel abused. Don't be so easy to get in bed with them. Get to know the guy, become friends first and when you are sure this guy is what you are looking for, then you can consider having a romantic relationship with. Slow down and take your time.
If you are easy for them to get, they will use you, treat you like crap, then throw you away for the next girl on their list.
look,its very simple.
Sex,food,and money. You try to think that its anything more than that, you will give yourself a headache and make a mans' life a living hell.
a good b.j, and sandwich and a bank account full of money will make any man fat and happy. Now get in the kitchen and make me some pancakes!
just kidding...seriously. We want all three of the above but most of all we want you to SHUT UP. And stop trying to partake in 'guys night out' and do 'guy stuff'. Jeezus...first you take golf and poker away now we got ladies on the football field doing side-line comentary. Leave us the hell alone sometimes and stop trying to make us understand your ';feelings';. We dont think like that. We use reason and logic...not feelings.
Men are sometime soo difficult to understand. They say women are difficult but i think they are more!!..Sometimes giving too much is not always good. You can only give too much to a man when you are 100% that he loves you and only you but if he has someone else in mind or his is not over his ex yet, then you shouldn't give him all the attention. Show him love but not alot of attention.
To me, what i think which this might sound painful, he is still not over his ex!!... saying that he only wants to sleep with her is not a good excuse!!..he is still not over her.. There are many men out there, why stick to someone who still thinks of his ex!!....Oh well, if you really love him that much and still want to work out, then keep trying to change him but that will take alot of time and alot of humilitation and at the end might not work out. My advice, just let him go. If he comes back, make it clear to him, its either you and only you or no use of going back. Good luck.
arg! after reading this i thought it was from a 15 year old.
i think you need to take some serious solo time, like a year or more, to work on your self. really think hard on it then decide what you want in a man and how to find those qualities in someone, also what type of person you need to be to get that kind of man. be HONEST with your self its not easy but do it!!
Be a little hard to get...men like the chase and will treat you better if you are not at their beck and call. Focus on making yourself happy first. A fun read is ';He's Just Not That Into You.';What do guys really want in a relationship i need advice...Guys please help me out...?
You are the problem quit going with these types.Respect your self stay kind then You will get the right one.Life is short don't waste it on broken men that will not change. Change yourself Good luck choose to be happy.
Guys want sex; if you don't give it away so easily, they'll treat you with more respect and be much kinder.
Hope this helps!!
A Man wants the world and everything in it.
What do men want? SEX, someone who will do the cleaning, cooking, and laundry so they don't have to.
What kind of women do they use and treat like crap? Women who put them first and try hard to be everything they want.
What kind of women do they respect and want to be with? Women who are strong, know what they want, don't play games, don't take crap off them and demand to be treated with respect.
If you don't respect yourself, they won't respect you either. Know what you want, don't settle for less, and don't allow a man to use you or treat you in a way that makes you feel abused. Don't be so easy to get in bed with them. Get to know the guy, become friends first and when you are sure this guy is what you are looking for, then you can consider having a romantic relationship with. Slow down and take your time.
If you are easy for them to get, they will use you, treat you like crap, then throw you away for the next girl on their list.
look,its very simple.
Sex,food,and money. You try to think that its anything more than that, you will give yourself a headache and make a mans' life a living hell.
a good b.j, and sandwich and a bank account full of money will make any man fat and happy. Now get in the kitchen and make me some pancakes!
just kidding...seriously. We want all three of the above but most of all we want you to SHUT UP. And stop trying to partake in 'guys night out' and do 'guy stuff'. Jeezus...first you take golf and poker away now we got ladies on the football field doing side-line comentary. Leave us the hell alone sometimes and stop trying to make us understand your ';feelings';. We dont think like that. We use reason and logic...not feelings.
Men are sometime soo difficult to understand. They say women are difficult but i think they are more!!..Sometimes giving too much is not always good. You can only give too much to a man when you are 100% that he loves you and only you but if he has someone else in mind or his is not over his ex yet, then you shouldn't give him all the attention. Show him love but not alot of attention.
To me, what i think which this might sound painful, he is still not over his ex!!... saying that he only wants to sleep with her is not a good excuse!!..he is still not over her.. There are many men out there, why stick to someone who still thinks of his ex!!....Oh well, if you really love him that much and still want to work out, then keep trying to change him but that will take alot of time and alot of humilitation and at the end might not work out. My advice, just let him go. If he comes back, make it clear to him, its either you and only you or no use of going back. Good luck.
arg! after reading this i thought it was from a 15 year old.
i think you need to take some serious solo time, like a year or more, to work on your self. really think hard on it then decide what you want in a man and how to find those qualities in someone, also what type of person you need to be to get that kind of man. be HONEST with your self its not easy but do it!!
I need some advice on my relationship!?
Please if your going to answer this please reply telling the truth %26amp; dont be dumb about things. This is SERIOUS! Okay well....
I've been dating this guy for about 2 years and 1 month. My parents are really strick %26amp; they dont let me go out to places with him, if its only me %26amp; him. He's a few years older then me btw. Well, i have so many rules like i have to ask permission to use the phone, for him to come over %26amp; when he comes over we cant do anything. Like have 1 on 1 time. Well recently he told me that he thinks we should take a break. %26amp; wait untill im 18 to be back together, because he cant handle this relationship %26amp; the way that i have to always ask. So i'll be 18 in 9 months %26amp; right now were just good friends, we still tell eachother that we love eachother and stuff but still i wish we were together. I understand why he doenst want to be with me, because he wants to wait untill i can do stuff without asking. Like go to the movies and stuff. Well my question is what should i do? Should i just accept that and wait just like he's waiting for me? idk just give me some advice its really important. Thanks.I need some advice on my relationship!?
Are you asking about waiting because you want to start seeing someone that can accept the situation?
If he is willing to wait til you become more available, I think it is sweet. If you want to be with him, then wait too. Maybe it will be worth the wait!
I need some advice on my relationship!?
Maybe it would be better if you waited or maybe you can talk to your parents and find out why they are acting so tuff. Remind them you are turning 18 soon.
Has your boyfriend done anything to make your parents dislike him? Anyway maybe you should wait for and if you both really do love each other then he should still be around when you turn 18.
I'm sorry about the boyfriend thing. I understand how it feels.
i agree with him. you are not an adult yet and cannot make you own rules yet. 9 month is not that far and you can wait.
I wanna say this without being rude, so please don't take it meanly. Your almost 18, a legal adult, and if he is a few years older than you, that could be 20 or even 21, and you can't even go places alone with him. This is ridiculous. I cannot believe you all have made it to two years. A relationship needs certain things to thrive, and alone time is one of those. YOU need to sit down and have a talk with your parents, not him. He isn't doing anything wrong, I'm sure he's tried and tried to get over the fact he can't be alone with his girlfriend, and it finally hit him he just can't. If you wanna talk more please e-mail me.
He won't wait for you.
Let him go, do some serious thinking, and then start looking for a man who is not so much older than you are.
Women invest more in relationships, which is why they find it harder to give up if they have put lots of emotion into a relationship, however weak it may be.
Here's a motto for you - at least until you are 30.
';If you have to choose between going and staying, GO.';
Go, while you have the freedom and energy to get on with life. Develop some ambitions which involve only yourself - to discover your clothes-style, to visit new countries, to do some volunteer work, to find out more about the world. Before you know it, you'll be 40 and you'll hate to look back and think you've wasted your life on worthless people.
Be free, be yourself, be ambitious
I've been dating this guy for about 2 years and 1 month. My parents are really strick %26amp; they dont let me go out to places with him, if its only me %26amp; him. He's a few years older then me btw. Well, i have so many rules like i have to ask permission to use the phone, for him to come over %26amp; when he comes over we cant do anything. Like have 1 on 1 time. Well recently he told me that he thinks we should take a break. %26amp; wait untill im 18 to be back together, because he cant handle this relationship %26amp; the way that i have to always ask. So i'll be 18 in 9 months %26amp; right now were just good friends, we still tell eachother that we love eachother and stuff but still i wish we were together. I understand why he doenst want to be with me, because he wants to wait untill i can do stuff without asking. Like go to the movies and stuff. Well my question is what should i do? Should i just accept that and wait just like he's waiting for me? idk just give me some advice its really important. Thanks.I need some advice on my relationship!?
Are you asking about waiting because you want to start seeing someone that can accept the situation?
If he is willing to wait til you become more available, I think it is sweet. If you want to be with him, then wait too. Maybe it will be worth the wait!
I need some advice on my relationship!?
Maybe it would be better if you waited or maybe you can talk to your parents and find out why they are acting so tuff. Remind them you are turning 18 soon.
Has your boyfriend done anything to make your parents dislike him? Anyway maybe you should wait for and if you both really do love each other then he should still be around when you turn 18.
I'm sorry about the boyfriend thing. I understand how it feels.
i agree with him. you are not an adult yet and cannot make you own rules yet. 9 month is not that far and you can wait.
I wanna say this without being rude, so please don't take it meanly. Your almost 18, a legal adult, and if he is a few years older than you, that could be 20 or even 21, and you can't even go places alone with him. This is ridiculous. I cannot believe you all have made it to two years. A relationship needs certain things to thrive, and alone time is one of those. YOU need to sit down and have a talk with your parents, not him. He isn't doing anything wrong, I'm sure he's tried and tried to get over the fact he can't be alone with his girlfriend, and it finally hit him he just can't. If you wanna talk more please e-mail me.
He won't wait for you.
Let him go, do some serious thinking, and then start looking for a man who is not so much older than you are.
Women invest more in relationships, which is why they find it harder to give up if they have put lots of emotion into a relationship, however weak it may be.
Here's a motto for you - at least until you are 30.
';If you have to choose between going and staying, GO.';
Go, while you have the freedom and energy to get on with life. Develop some ambitions which involve only yourself - to discover your clothes-style, to visit new countries, to do some volunteer work, to find out more about the world. Before you know it, you'll be 40 and you'll hate to look back and think you've wasted your life on worthless people.
Be free, be yourself, be ambitious
I need some advice about my relationship?
I was with a girl for 15 months and it was pretty good Until about the 7th month I was with her and thought about this dare that she did. The dare that she did, which was before I was with her was lick nacho cheese off of my ex best friends stomach(we all worked at the movie theater and they had a cheese dispensing machine). I had a chance to get with her knowing that she did that and I didn't care because she was so beautiful. So I got with her and it was great. Then after seven months my insecurity kicked in because i fell in love with her and I started thinking about what she did with my ex best friend and it was killing me because i felt like i got seconds. So I broke up with her and then I really missed her so I got back with her. Recently I started thinking about it again for some reason and then i seen that she was texting a dude she use to have a thing for back in the days (she told me they liked each other) so I just broke up with her again. I would talk to her about it but all she ever does is make it seem like everything is my fault. Is it really my fault? What should I do?I need some advice about my relationship?
Yeah, it really is your fault.
When you're with someone and they're honest about their past, you're not allowed to use it against them. Your girlfriend is being honest with you about the dare and the fact that she used to have feelings for some guy. So what? You're young and feelings come and go. Be glad she's being honest with you. She apparently thought you were mature enough to respect her for telling the truth. Looks like she was wrong.
You're too immature for a serious relationship. I'm sure you've kissed a few girls before you met her and we don't her your girlfriend compaining about how she;s getting ';seconds'; with you. Unless you're 12, you're always gonna be getting someone else's ';seconds,'; so just grow up and get over it. You can't control her and expect her to never talk to other guys. How would you feel if you were never allowed to speak to another girl.
It sounds to me like you're too insecure with yourself and immature to have a real, grown-up relationship. Stay in the kiddie pool until you grow up.I need some advice about my relationship?
the first break up was your fault. You got insecure over a stupid stunt she did before you were dating her. It's never good to reflect on your SO's past before you were a part of their life.
the second break up was most likely both of your faults. Yours because you were obsessing over the stupid stunt again and hers because she was texting other guys in a manner that made it seem she was trolling for guys.
it is your fault. the dare was before you and had nothing to do with you. you are making something out of nothing. oh well you lost her and time for you to move on now.
You need to get over yourself. Being with someone doesn't mean you own them, it means that you share your lives with each other. You dumped her over a silly little dare because you are insecure. No one can change things they did in their past and at the time she wasn't with you so you can't begrudge her for what she did. Don't tell me you never did anything like that. You were ok with it when you thought she was ';So beautiful'; and only now after you've been with her do you think of it as getting ';seconds';. If you love someone you have to love all of them and accept them the way they are. Maybe she is texting the other guy because she wants someone who is more mature and can accept the fact that most people come with a past and it doesn't mean they are any less worth of being loved and respected.
Yeah, it really is your fault.
When you're with someone and they're honest about their past, you're not allowed to use it against them. Your girlfriend is being honest with you about the dare and the fact that she used to have feelings for some guy. So what? You're young and feelings come and go. Be glad she's being honest with you. She apparently thought you were mature enough to respect her for telling the truth. Looks like she was wrong.
You're too immature for a serious relationship. I'm sure you've kissed a few girls before you met her and we don't her your girlfriend compaining about how she;s getting ';seconds'; with you. Unless you're 12, you're always gonna be getting someone else's ';seconds,'; so just grow up and get over it. You can't control her and expect her to never talk to other guys. How would you feel if you were never allowed to speak to another girl.
It sounds to me like you're too insecure with yourself and immature to have a real, grown-up relationship. Stay in the kiddie pool until you grow up.I need some advice about my relationship?
the first break up was your fault. You got insecure over a stupid stunt she did before you were dating her. It's never good to reflect on your SO's past before you were a part of their life.
the second break up was most likely both of your faults. Yours because you were obsessing over the stupid stunt again and hers because she was texting other guys in a manner that made it seem she was trolling for guys.
it is your fault. the dare was before you and had nothing to do with you. you are making something out of nothing. oh well you lost her and time for you to move on now.
You need to get over yourself. Being with someone doesn't mean you own them, it means that you share your lives with each other. You dumped her over a silly little dare because you are insecure. No one can change things they did in their past and at the time she wasn't with you so you can't begrudge her for what she did. Don't tell me you never did anything like that. You were ok with it when you thought she was ';So beautiful'; and only now after you've been with her do you think of it as getting ';seconds';. If you love someone you have to love all of them and accept them the way they are. Maybe she is texting the other guy because she wants someone who is more mature and can accept the fact that most people come with a past and it doesn't mean they are any less worth of being loved and respected.
I need some advice on a relationship that started on the internet.?
Ok, I met a guy on the internet, he lives 8 hrs from me, I talk to him everyday, we have been talking for over a month. He says he loves me and wants to be with me. I have tried to catch him up in a lie, but have found nothing yet to disprove him. I really like him, and He want to meet me. Do you think this is a good idea?? Im kinda nervous, about the whole internet dating thing, you know everyone has bad stories as to why you shouldn't. Any advice for me???I need some advice on a relationship that started on the internet.?
If you want to start a relationship with him, I would suggest first meeting him in a public place with a friend you trust. You will probably be able to tell once you spend some time together if it's worth pursuing. Sometimes people act differently on the Internet so don't be surprised if your Prince Charming turns out to be a dud but who knows he may be a great guy too. I used to live with a guy I met on the Internet and he was great when I talked to him online but when we moved in together, things changed. While I think it's better to meet someone in real life, there are times when I guess it can work out. All I can say is to meet him. Every circumstance is different. Good luck and be careful!I need some advice on a relationship that started on the internet.?
be very very careful. people that hook up on the internet 80% gets raped. so if you really trust him go for it. but be sure to bring a friend!
be careful
xxx0anzeepiezxxx
It really determines you age, I'm not sure how old you are so my suggestion would be that you should meet him but do it with a friend in a public place like a mall. You don't really know this guy until you meet him face to face..
good question ,
i have had Meany long term friendships on the net and only met in person a small group all at once and was a good experience .Don't think you can fall in love in a month in chat tho .
I don't know your age so wouldn't want to give bad advice But i will say if you decide to meet ,make it in a very public place for lunch .
Never leave yourself alone in a position that can be dangerous !!!!
I'm a guy and shouldn't say this ,but we can be very convincing ,be careful !!!
One thing a woman has going for herself is that gult feeling, go with that. But of course be safe and cautions. Listen to your enter voice.
you should meet him but bring a friend with u and meet him in apublic place like a mall. but go for it
I did internet date a bit and met a few guys off the internet. None of them misled me in any way, I felt they were all honest. I met my current husband on the internet and he too honestly represented himself. I think if a guy is lying or misleading you on the internet, you might be able to tell because he may go a long time without calling you, or he won't be too eager to give his number to you, or he is busy and he fits you in when he can...things that can tip you off he has a girlfriend or wife. But, if he seems on the up and up, I think it would be great for you to meet him. Time proves everything, and if he is sincere, honest and not attached, you will find this out. And, let's face it, you can e-mail and talk on the phone all you want, but it only goes so far. If you want a relationship, you have to meet the person. So, find a spot where there will be other people, you can plant a friend nearby, he doesn't have to know someone is there keeping an eye on things, and once you meet him and talk to him in person, you will be able to see his sincerity and whether there are any 'spark's there. It is a bit unnerving to meet someone for the first time, it is like a blind date!, but if you use common sense, it is a great way to meet someone. I know I could never have met my husband any other way, and it really worked out great for us. Best of luck!!
I met a boy on the internet when I was twelve. I met him through his brother because we were casually flirting. We were good friends and really liked each other's personalities, but we didn't know each other for who we -really- were no matter how hard we tried to explain ourselves. After I turned 17, I finally met him. I think I fell head over heels for him. We saw eachother multiple times, but it was hard since he lived in MA and I lived in WV.
His family disapproved of us, I was experienced and he was not. We eventually did sleep together and things went awry from there. He went out a lot and I never knew where he went, I was really insecure because I couldn't be around him. It was heartbreaking and frustrating. We finally parted when I was 19. He said he was 'too busy' with college. I found someone else and he threw a fit about it, come to find out later he was doing his best friend's girlfriend and she told him to get lost eventually.
It's not impossible but there is SO much strain, arguing, and hardship. It's only going to work out if you're -both- honest and want it to work. Eventually, one of you is going to have to move or it's going to fall apart. Distance is very painful.
LOL...I am sooo going through the same thing!!! I really want to meet the guy I have been talking to for the last month and planned on meeting him until things on my part screwed up. I think you have to take the chance. This could be the love of your life!!! Just take extra precautions for a while. Meet in a neutral location, make sure you have proof of his name address and all that kind of stuff before you meet and give it to someone you trust...just in case. In your case I hope that he has been honest with you on everything! Internet dating is sooo much different than real life dating. This is my first time talking to a guy on the internet and I am scared to death that he isn't who he said he is. LOL what's the name of your guy?? Just want to make sure we aren't talking to the same guy. lol!!!
i really can't have a say , because it your choice , people say It bad to meet people from the Internet , that is true , if u are , than only hope nothing go bad , since u feel nervous , i think it a sign that telling u something , don't force yourself to do something that going to effect u, because of a guy, i sure u can find a guy that not one computer that an love u. and when a he say these stuff to u , it mean sex. so be wise and beware
I also am in the same boat right now and I am very scared about the meetting thing so I am waiting and I would be very careful when I do meet him I am not going to my apartment I am meeting in an open area just be very careful I beg you and keep a friend in formed when I go to meet this guy my friend is going to know everything going on and I am going to be texting her and so I would just cover your tracts and be careful have fun I met someone on line and I am in love with him and dont know if its going to last but I am going to enjoy it while I can
I have two boyfriends that I met on the net. One lives near me and the other further away (2 hours). The are both lovely and I see them both. Until I make my decision thats the way it will stay. I don't know about the one that lives away from my area... we have been together at my place for weekends and I adore him... but I haven't been to his place yet. It just hasn't worked out. The one who lives near me, well I go to his, he doesn't come to mine. I enjoy them both for very different reasons. I think you have to be cautious and accommodating at the same time with internet people because you meet on such a medium. It can work and I have lots of friends that have good relationships like this. But it may take longer and extra caution. Thats why I haven't decided yet. Its my prerogative at this stage to be with both.
my first answer would be stay away...lol ....but if you really care for him ...make sure you meet him in a public place....and brings friends alongmakeup hair tips
If you want to start a relationship with him, I would suggest first meeting him in a public place with a friend you trust. You will probably be able to tell once you spend some time together if it's worth pursuing. Sometimes people act differently on the Internet so don't be surprised if your Prince Charming turns out to be a dud but who knows he may be a great guy too. I used to live with a guy I met on the Internet and he was great when I talked to him online but when we moved in together, things changed. While I think it's better to meet someone in real life, there are times when I guess it can work out. All I can say is to meet him. Every circumstance is different. Good luck and be careful!I need some advice on a relationship that started on the internet.?
be very very careful. people that hook up on the internet 80% gets raped. so if you really trust him go for it. but be sure to bring a friend!
be careful
xxx0anzeepiezxxx
It really determines you age, I'm not sure how old you are so my suggestion would be that you should meet him but do it with a friend in a public place like a mall. You don't really know this guy until you meet him face to face..
good question ,
i have had Meany long term friendships on the net and only met in person a small group all at once and was a good experience .Don't think you can fall in love in a month in chat tho .
I don't know your age so wouldn't want to give bad advice But i will say if you decide to meet ,make it in a very public place for lunch .
Never leave yourself alone in a position that can be dangerous !!!!
I'm a guy and shouldn't say this ,but we can be very convincing ,be careful !!!
One thing a woman has going for herself is that gult feeling, go with that. But of course be safe and cautions. Listen to your enter voice.
you should meet him but bring a friend with u and meet him in apublic place like a mall. but go for it
I did internet date a bit and met a few guys off the internet. None of them misled me in any way, I felt they were all honest. I met my current husband on the internet and he too honestly represented himself. I think if a guy is lying or misleading you on the internet, you might be able to tell because he may go a long time without calling you, or he won't be too eager to give his number to you, or he is busy and he fits you in when he can...things that can tip you off he has a girlfriend or wife. But, if he seems on the up and up, I think it would be great for you to meet him. Time proves everything, and if he is sincere, honest and not attached, you will find this out. And, let's face it, you can e-mail and talk on the phone all you want, but it only goes so far. If you want a relationship, you have to meet the person. So, find a spot where there will be other people, you can plant a friend nearby, he doesn't have to know someone is there keeping an eye on things, and once you meet him and talk to him in person, you will be able to see his sincerity and whether there are any 'spark's there. It is a bit unnerving to meet someone for the first time, it is like a blind date!, but if you use common sense, it is a great way to meet someone. I know I could never have met my husband any other way, and it really worked out great for us. Best of luck!!
I met a boy on the internet when I was twelve. I met him through his brother because we were casually flirting. We were good friends and really liked each other's personalities, but we didn't know each other for who we -really- were no matter how hard we tried to explain ourselves. After I turned 17, I finally met him. I think I fell head over heels for him. We saw eachother multiple times, but it was hard since he lived in MA and I lived in WV.
His family disapproved of us, I was experienced and he was not. We eventually did sleep together and things went awry from there. He went out a lot and I never knew where he went, I was really insecure because I couldn't be around him. It was heartbreaking and frustrating. We finally parted when I was 19. He said he was 'too busy' with college. I found someone else and he threw a fit about it, come to find out later he was doing his best friend's girlfriend and she told him to get lost eventually.
It's not impossible but there is SO much strain, arguing, and hardship. It's only going to work out if you're -both- honest and want it to work. Eventually, one of you is going to have to move or it's going to fall apart. Distance is very painful.
LOL...I am sooo going through the same thing!!! I really want to meet the guy I have been talking to for the last month and planned on meeting him until things on my part screwed up. I think you have to take the chance. This could be the love of your life!!! Just take extra precautions for a while. Meet in a neutral location, make sure you have proof of his name address and all that kind of stuff before you meet and give it to someone you trust...just in case. In your case I hope that he has been honest with you on everything! Internet dating is sooo much different than real life dating. This is my first time talking to a guy on the internet and I am scared to death that he isn't who he said he is. LOL what's the name of your guy?? Just want to make sure we aren't talking to the same guy. lol!!!
i really can't have a say , because it your choice , people say It bad to meet people from the Internet , that is true , if u are , than only hope nothing go bad , since u feel nervous , i think it a sign that telling u something , don't force yourself to do something that going to effect u, because of a guy, i sure u can find a guy that not one computer that an love u. and when a he say these stuff to u , it mean sex. so be wise and beware
I also am in the same boat right now and I am very scared about the meetting thing so I am waiting and I would be very careful when I do meet him I am not going to my apartment I am meeting in an open area just be very careful I beg you and keep a friend in formed when I go to meet this guy my friend is going to know everything going on and I am going to be texting her and so I would just cover your tracts and be careful have fun I met someone on line and I am in love with him and dont know if its going to last but I am going to enjoy it while I can
I have two boyfriends that I met on the net. One lives near me and the other further away (2 hours). The are both lovely and I see them both. Until I make my decision thats the way it will stay. I don't know about the one that lives away from my area... we have been together at my place for weekends and I adore him... but I haven't been to his place yet. It just hasn't worked out. The one who lives near me, well I go to his, he doesn't come to mine. I enjoy them both for very different reasons. I think you have to be cautious and accommodating at the same time with internet people because you meet on such a medium. It can work and I have lots of friends that have good relationships like this. But it may take longer and extra caution. Thats why I haven't decided yet. Its my prerogative at this stage to be with both.
my first answer would be stay away...lol ....but if you really care for him ...make sure you meet him in a public place....and brings friends along
I need some advice on my relationship/marriage?
I'm very confused about what's going on in my life lately. When I was 18 I got pregnant with some one that parents did not like since day one and still don't like him, and yes we did have a lot of problems. I'm older now and I have got married to another guy and has been good to me and I had two kids to him and he helped me raise my first, but the thing is that I left him about 7 months ago for the first guy that I was with and now my family will not talk to me anymore. I cry almost everyday. My husband wants me to come back and be a family again, and get help together. What should I do. Please helpI need some advice on my relationship/marriage?
Perhaps you should not have left your husband for the other guy but spent some time on your own to really work out your feelings before choosing who you want to be with. It seems as though your husband loves you dearly and is willing to forgive you. You should spend some time on your own, it would be the most fair thing to do for all concerned. Mostly you.I need some advice on my relationship/marriage?
You have to be with the one you love. Obviously this first guy was the true love of your life. You can't be with someone to please your parents - it wouldn't work in the long run and your unhappiness would rub off on the children. Unfortunately you have to be selfish and think of yourself and your children - as long as they are happy as well. It's sad that you couldn't love your husband as you should of but that's life I;m afraid. Your family should stand by you even if they are sad about it. They should be happy that you are happy.
nobody can decide for you what to do.Just remember,before making such huge decisions like getting married,having babies, separating etc. you have to think about consequences and especially how its going to benefit your kids.another advice would be - you not suppose to live to make your parents happy,live your life and be responsible for happiness of your own family, especially your children.
whats the point of crying?? you have hurt your family and your husband by going back to a guy who didnt accept you then
your parents arent talking to you for the right reasons
own up girl if it is love you are following then the future or your kids is at stake ............. go get a happy family with the man who helped you to raise your kid and give your other two kids a father
the very good thing is that ur husband wants u back even when u left him for your boyfren.it means he still loves u so much.and u dont forget he helps u truly in raising ur first kid.
so my advice is this that u plz dnt spoil ur life for ur bf who never cares for u and left u when u need him most. its better to go to ur husband and lead a happy life with ur kids n forgot every moment which makes u feel guilty. give ur best to ur husband and ur kids.
it is understandable why family is upset with you, but you need to calm down and think clearly. Think of your children, go back to your husband who seems like a good guy and be a family. Rest of the family will learn to forgive you, but you need to earn their trust 1st.
We can't always make our family happy.So if they really do care about you,they will learn to accept the decision you have made and not judge you. I always tell my friends to do what makes you happy.We can't live for our families. We have to live for ourselves.GOOD LUCK
You have to listen to your heart. Do you think you would regret not going back? May be you just wondered how it could have been and you want to find out. Write a list of the good and the bad from both men and be honest then make you decision.
dear u ve made abig mistake . So dont worry I belive a mity God who is crucified for every one . Take a step %26amp; go back to ur husband. And make alife happy once again. And also try to walk with Great God. He has satisfaction in all lifes matters
ok take care
God wilBless u always
eric
Husband is thousand times more acceptable than a boyfriend. More over two kids must draw their mother by greater force than a single ones father (old guy).
Calm down. If this guy really makes you happy, I think you should go back to him. Your family will understand eventually when they see how happy you are with him.
I don't know but people are not roller coasters you can step on and off of, You truly need to understand what committment is all about or simply leave people alone so you don't hurt them
u need 2 b sincere/consistant with one of them,give importance to ur children than yours.
follow ur heart
Perhaps you should not have left your husband for the other guy but spent some time on your own to really work out your feelings before choosing who you want to be with. It seems as though your husband loves you dearly and is willing to forgive you. You should spend some time on your own, it would be the most fair thing to do for all concerned. Mostly you.I need some advice on my relationship/marriage?
You have to be with the one you love. Obviously this first guy was the true love of your life. You can't be with someone to please your parents - it wouldn't work in the long run and your unhappiness would rub off on the children. Unfortunately you have to be selfish and think of yourself and your children - as long as they are happy as well. It's sad that you couldn't love your husband as you should of but that's life I;m afraid. Your family should stand by you even if they are sad about it. They should be happy that you are happy.
nobody can decide for you what to do.Just remember,before making such huge decisions like getting married,having babies, separating etc. you have to think about consequences and especially how its going to benefit your kids.another advice would be - you not suppose to live to make your parents happy,live your life and be responsible for happiness of your own family, especially your children.
whats the point of crying?? you have hurt your family and your husband by going back to a guy who didnt accept you then
your parents arent talking to you for the right reasons
own up girl if it is love you are following then the future or your kids is at stake ............. go get a happy family with the man who helped you to raise your kid and give your other two kids a father
the very good thing is that ur husband wants u back even when u left him for your boyfren.it means he still loves u so much.and u dont forget he helps u truly in raising ur first kid.
so my advice is this that u plz dnt spoil ur life for ur bf who never cares for u and left u when u need him most. its better to go to ur husband and lead a happy life with ur kids n forgot every moment which makes u feel guilty. give ur best to ur husband and ur kids.
it is understandable why family is upset with you, but you need to calm down and think clearly. Think of your children, go back to your husband who seems like a good guy and be a family. Rest of the family will learn to forgive you, but you need to earn their trust 1st.
We can't always make our family happy.So if they really do care about you,they will learn to accept the decision you have made and not judge you. I always tell my friends to do what makes you happy.We can't live for our families. We have to live for ourselves.GOOD LUCK
You have to listen to your heart. Do you think you would regret not going back? May be you just wondered how it could have been and you want to find out. Write a list of the good and the bad from both men and be honest then make you decision.
dear u ve made abig mistake . So dont worry I belive a mity God who is crucified for every one . Take a step %26amp; go back to ur husband. And make alife happy once again. And also try to walk with Great God. He has satisfaction in all lifes matters
ok take care
God wilBless u always
eric
Husband is thousand times more acceptable than a boyfriend. More over two kids must draw their mother by greater force than a single ones father (old guy).
Calm down. If this guy really makes you happy, I think you should go back to him. Your family will understand eventually when they see how happy you are with him.
I don't know but people are not roller coasters you can step on and off of, You truly need to understand what committment is all about or simply leave people alone so you don't hurt them
u need 2 b sincere/consistant with one of them,give importance to ur children than yours.
follow ur heart
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