How can I make sure my girlfriend won't cheat on me? If she does, I don't know if I can handle that. I really think that I am in love with her, I just don't know what to do. What should I do? Advice please? :'(
Oh and....
Well... This is going to sound stupid of me.... but she's cheated on me before. She said it was an accident last time, and she said how she was so sorry. She was going on and on about how I am the only one she ever wants to date and how she'd rather be dead if she can't be with me.
Now normally, I would say dump her. But the catch is, I haven't done anything with her past making out. Why would she literally BEG me to go back out with her if I didn't do anything with her? The only reason I would see her begging for us to get back together is if I had sex with her or something, because I hate to say it but she's not very careful when it comes to that. She likes making out, she likes all that stuff.
Sorry if I lost you there, just please try and help me out :'(
Oh and like I said, I don't know if i can walk away from her. I'm already in love with her, it would take months to get over her. And I don't even think I can do that.
I guess what I'm asking is if anyone knew how to tell if she *truly* loves me, or if shes just going to cheat on me again. Maybe a test or something? Suggestions?I need advice on a relationship!!?
There is no way of knowing if she will ever cheat on you again. It's really about whether or not you trust her. If you choose to stay with her, don't be paranoid. But, don't be stupid either. Pay attention to any signs of cheating. And, always be open and honest with her about how your feel and what's on your mind.I need advice on a relationship!!?
well if your relationship is strong, you'd trust her and have an honest and open relationship. well if you guys werent meant to be, then something will happen. love is a 2 way lane. if only one person is contributing, it isnt love. if she cheated on you before than it isnt certain that she might do it again. you need to be honest with her and tell her how you feel. guys can get their heart broken too, so i'm just trying to see whats best for you. lines are easily read to another, you don't know if she's lying or not. so sit her down and tell it to her.
maybe she begged you because she doesn't wanna look like a cheater. you never know. if you aren't ready for sex, you aren't ready, and she needs to respect you for that because so far... you're different from many guys, ur heart is set on finding true love than it is sex.
and i may not have good advice i'm only 13, but i really like helping people.
if she truly loves you, she'd make sure nothing happens again. don't test her, she'll know u don't trust her. just have an honest one on one talk with her. she'll understand.
Thursday, December 31, 2009
Need helpful advice on my relationship?
I've been with this guy for almost 3 years and he's had like 3 jobs during this time. He hasn't had a job for almost 2years now. He says he's looking, but has a record so it's hard for him. I've tried to be understanding and of course i love and care about him. He's been living with me since our first year of being together and has not contributed to the rent of any bills at all. He does find time to smoke marijuana and play games on playstation, while Im busting my butt at work. Then when I ask him about what his plans are, he gets mad at me and gets quiet. He doesn't talk to me, and has a bad attitude. He gets angry. He asks me, am I gonna give him a job (sarcastically)...I wanna be with him, but what should I do? Is there any hope at all. I'm giving him till the end of the month. Any suggestions or comments?Need helpful advice on my relationship?
I feel he needs a shock therapy...When he is out playing, just pack his bags and stuff....tell him (very politely and seriously) to find some other place as you can no more take this attitude....Here, you would actually be helping him in his life...Else, he has already moved into a comfort zone which is quite dangerous.
Let him see reason and this can only happen with your determination and help. Stop being support to him so as to ruin him...Do keep a track of him though.Need helpful advice on my relationship?
He is using you why would you go out and work your a99 off and him stay at home and do nothing? Tell him to find a job or get out its that simple.....
Smoking? Sounds like he doesn't want a job, at least not a good one anyway. Well, if you tell him what you need from him, if he cares about you, he will respect that and do something about it.
If he doesn't, well then, he isn't worth your time babes bcuz it means he doesn't care.
holy crap...why are you even putting up with him if he's treating you like that? You shouldn't want to be with a guy who treats you really badly...I smoke marijuana but I have a job, an almost boyfriend (I'm saying almost because we haven't really worked up enough courage to like say anything serious to each other or even kiss each other or anything.) and I have lots of friends, I go to school tell him to get off his lazy butt and find a job or get out of your house...because right now you're surviving on your own so why do you think that you need him...? I don't get why women rely on their men so much there is someone probably one hundred times better for you out there...
Take a ';break.'; Sometimes people don't appreciate you until they realize what their life would be like without you. You deserve better and maybe some time apart would make him realize what he would be losing. If it doesn't, some distance may help you realize if this is something you want to continue to have in your life.
It sounds to me that he doesn't want a partner he wants a mommy to take care of him so STOP!! Tell him it is time to either sink or swim and you love him but you will not take care of his every need anymore.
Hey Manisha, well...There's a mixture from brains and hearts regarding towards u meaning if u gonna think by ur brain, then mostly will be positive according to ur situations but if u gonna follow ur heart, well...There will be no other gal for him perhaps who can love him like u do...
Wvah!!! What a sacrifization u had for him...
He should by now appreciate u...
Well, this is obviously too much...
If for Love, u can do anything for him and why not him...
Why must always from ur side...he should do his part too...
If u can commit, why can't he...So what's this then...
A person can do anything when they are in Love and that's what called True Love but from ur side, its obviously is that but from his part...I dnt really think so....
Ask him to prove if he really truly loves u because u are a human being..Can't even he feels for ur emotions...
Well...as for the bad attitude thing...
Hopefully he can change himself to a better person if this is ur True Love...
But since u are giving him till the end of the month, about 3 more weeks to go....So, let's pray for the best and u know the best...
All the best Manisha! =)
Quit supporting him. You are robbing him of self-esteem because he doesn't have to take care of himself. Let him know you love him, but that you need an equal partner in finances, and if not equal, then at least someone who at least works doing something. Two years is way too much time without having a job. He could've got a degree by now and even with a record, there are still places that would accept him.
This guy is using you, and of course he doesn't want to get a job because that will get in the way of his pot smoking. I really think you need to break this off. I know you love him and all, but you need to love yourself too.
He sounds like a child in my opinion. Many people that have a record get work because they NEED to. Don't give him an easy ride, he should be out trying to get a job when hes smoking weed. If he doesn't change I'd get rid of him...why should you do everything? You deserve better!
Tell him he need to change his ways because it is tearing you and him apart. If he does not change then you know what you have to do, send him packing. You can always find a guy that is deserving of you.
Question? How can he sit around and smoke weed but can't pay bills and that's stuff isn't cheap... Let him go he's not trying and smoking doesn't do anything but make you lazy.... so tell him he needs to stop smoking and get a job or get out...he's not your child he's suppose to be your man... get rid of the loser if he doesn't change
Just dump his ***. There is no reason he cant get SOME kind of job somewhere. I mean it may not be a dream job but he could definatley get a job. I had s####y jobs before i joined the Army and i know it sucks to work those kind of jobs for 10 bucks an hour but you know if he didnt mess up and do whatever he did to get in trouble then he wouldnt have to work a s####y job.
YOU need to kick him out, this relationship is doomed... Trust me... You can do way better.. he's a heavy weight, you don't need that.. you shouldn't be taking care of a grown men... when your at work it's no telling what he does... Why are you wasting your time? you know what you need to do... you shouldn't have to even ask.. you might want to be with him, but its clear that he's not for you.. so PUT HIM OUT!!!!
U have to tell him that he cant live like this....... just leave him for sometime so that he can learn and understand ......
you should tell him to change now, or to start packing.
he will drag you down for the rest of your life if you let him.
you're allowing him to be like this......your paying for his drug habit therefore you're contributing to his lack of confidence and his motivation in life.
sh!t...................i would say he prolly isn't trying to work!! sounds that way anyway!!!
well,just wait n see after 1 month.but be careful cuz he might hurt you physically. (sorry,no offense) if he had the time to smoke marijuana n play PS2, why dont he finds a job? think abt it,does he really love u ? can you guarantee that ur future are safe when u're with him? s0metimes,we're just afraid that we will regret of letting him go n dats y find it hard to do the break-up. but be rational. gud luck!
New year, new rules!!!!!!!!!
I feel he needs a shock therapy...When he is out playing, just pack his bags and stuff....tell him (very politely and seriously) to find some other place as you can no more take this attitude....Here, you would actually be helping him in his life...Else, he has already moved into a comfort zone which is quite dangerous.
Let him see reason and this can only happen with your determination and help. Stop being support to him so as to ruin him...Do keep a track of him though.Need helpful advice on my relationship?
He is using you why would you go out and work your a99 off and him stay at home and do nothing? Tell him to find a job or get out its that simple.....
Smoking? Sounds like he doesn't want a job, at least not a good one anyway. Well, if you tell him what you need from him, if he cares about you, he will respect that and do something about it.
If he doesn't, well then, he isn't worth your time babes bcuz it means he doesn't care.
holy crap...why are you even putting up with him if he's treating you like that? You shouldn't want to be with a guy who treats you really badly...I smoke marijuana but I have a job, an almost boyfriend (I'm saying almost because we haven't really worked up enough courage to like say anything serious to each other or even kiss each other or anything.) and I have lots of friends, I go to school tell him to get off his lazy butt and find a job or get out of your house...because right now you're surviving on your own so why do you think that you need him...? I don't get why women rely on their men so much there is someone probably one hundred times better for you out there...
Take a ';break.'; Sometimes people don't appreciate you until they realize what their life would be like without you. You deserve better and maybe some time apart would make him realize what he would be losing. If it doesn't, some distance may help you realize if this is something you want to continue to have in your life.
It sounds to me that he doesn't want a partner he wants a mommy to take care of him so STOP!! Tell him it is time to either sink or swim and you love him but you will not take care of his every need anymore.
Hey Manisha, well...There's a mixture from brains and hearts regarding towards u meaning if u gonna think by ur brain, then mostly will be positive according to ur situations but if u gonna follow ur heart, well...There will be no other gal for him perhaps who can love him like u do...
Wvah!!! What a sacrifization u had for him...
He should by now appreciate u...
Well, this is obviously too much...
If for Love, u can do anything for him and why not him...
Why must always from ur side...he should do his part too...
If u can commit, why can't he...So what's this then...
A person can do anything when they are in Love and that's what called True Love but from ur side, its obviously is that but from his part...I dnt really think so....
Ask him to prove if he really truly loves u because u are a human being..Can't even he feels for ur emotions...
Well...as for the bad attitude thing...
Hopefully he can change himself to a better person if this is ur True Love...
But since u are giving him till the end of the month, about 3 more weeks to go....So, let's pray for the best and u know the best...
All the best Manisha! =)
Quit supporting him. You are robbing him of self-esteem because he doesn't have to take care of himself. Let him know you love him, but that you need an equal partner in finances, and if not equal, then at least someone who at least works doing something. Two years is way too much time without having a job. He could've got a degree by now and even with a record, there are still places that would accept him.
This guy is using you, and of course he doesn't want to get a job because that will get in the way of his pot smoking. I really think you need to break this off. I know you love him and all, but you need to love yourself too.
He sounds like a child in my opinion. Many people that have a record get work because they NEED to. Don't give him an easy ride, he should be out trying to get a job when hes smoking weed. If he doesn't change I'd get rid of him...why should you do everything? You deserve better!
Tell him he need to change his ways because it is tearing you and him apart. If he does not change then you know what you have to do, send him packing. You can always find a guy that is deserving of you.
Question? How can he sit around and smoke weed but can't pay bills and that's stuff isn't cheap... Let him go he's not trying and smoking doesn't do anything but make you lazy.... so tell him he needs to stop smoking and get a job or get out...he's not your child he's suppose to be your man... get rid of the loser if he doesn't change
Just dump his ***. There is no reason he cant get SOME kind of job somewhere. I mean it may not be a dream job but he could definatley get a job. I had s####y jobs before i joined the Army and i know it sucks to work those kind of jobs for 10 bucks an hour but you know if he didnt mess up and do whatever he did to get in trouble then he wouldnt have to work a s####y job.
YOU need to kick him out, this relationship is doomed... Trust me... You can do way better.. he's a heavy weight, you don't need that.. you shouldn't be taking care of a grown men... when your at work it's no telling what he does... Why are you wasting your time? you know what you need to do... you shouldn't have to even ask.. you might want to be with him, but its clear that he's not for you.. so PUT HIM OUT!!!!
U have to tell him that he cant live like this....... just leave him for sometime so that he can learn and understand ......
you should tell him to change now, or to start packing.
he will drag you down for the rest of your life if you let him.
you're allowing him to be like this......your paying for his drug habit therefore you're contributing to his lack of confidence and his motivation in life.
sh!t...................i would say he prolly isn't trying to work!! sounds that way anyway!!!
well,just wait n see after 1 month.but be careful cuz he might hurt you physically. (sorry,no offense) if he had the time to smoke marijuana n play PS2, why dont he finds a job? think abt it,does he really love u ? can you guarantee that ur future are safe when u're with him? s0metimes,we're just afraid that we will regret of letting him go n dats y find it hard to do the break-up. but be rational. gud luck!
New year, new rules!!!!!!!!!
I need advice bout my relationship, can you help me please?
i have been with my bf for 2 years and we have a 5 month old together. his ex has caused problems before and right now she has a internet page saying they are together and she is calling him her ';husband';. i asked him if there was anyone else and he said no how many times do i have to tell you. and he said that he wouldn't want another guy in our son's face so why would be have another girl in his face. his ex has told his cousin that she has that stuff on her page to make me break up with him. what do you think?
(also if it doesn't work out i wont tell him he can't see our son)I need advice bout my relationship, can you help me please?
you say you have been with this guy for 2 years...which should mean you know him pretty well...i think you should sit down and think: has he ever cheated? would he ever cheat? does this girl still have a thing for him? ask yourself honestly if you think he would you know him and you also have a gut intuition if its telling you somethings going on then mayb investigate but if not trust him and believe him or if hes cheated maybe its time to ask her the truth? but like i said you know your man you know what he has or hasnt done, would or wouldnt do and u need to rely on that good luck!I need advice bout my relationship, can you help me please?
Ok this is complicated and it must be so frustrating for you. Well you have to find out whats going on, because she may just be a pain in the *** and nothing might go on with your bf, on the other hand she may be telling the truth and your bf isnt being honest with you. I say you try to find out whats going on and dont even mention it to your bf anymore, are there any signs that hes cheating on you? coming home late, on the computer way too much, private phone calls etc. If he is cheating i hope you dump his *** cause its not worth it.
Ps: I would totally smack that ***** and tell her to mind her own business.
ask the lady that stop messing with your man and if hes lying let him not see your son its his fault he was cheating on you
(also if it doesn't work out i wont tell him he can't see our son)I need advice bout my relationship, can you help me please?
you say you have been with this guy for 2 years...which should mean you know him pretty well...i think you should sit down and think: has he ever cheated? would he ever cheat? does this girl still have a thing for him? ask yourself honestly if you think he would you know him and you also have a gut intuition if its telling you somethings going on then mayb investigate but if not trust him and believe him or if hes cheated maybe its time to ask her the truth? but like i said you know your man you know what he has or hasnt done, would or wouldnt do and u need to rely on that good luck!I need advice bout my relationship, can you help me please?
Ok this is complicated and it must be so frustrating for you. Well you have to find out whats going on, because she may just be a pain in the *** and nothing might go on with your bf, on the other hand she may be telling the truth and your bf isnt being honest with you. I say you try to find out whats going on and dont even mention it to your bf anymore, are there any signs that hes cheating on you? coming home late, on the computer way too much, private phone calls etc. If he is cheating i hope you dump his *** cause its not worth it.
Ps: I would totally smack that ***** and tell her to mind her own business.
ask the lady that stop messing with your man and if hes lying let him not see your son its his fault he was cheating on you
Need some advice, with my relationship with my daughter? I'm I just scared to lose her?
I think I just ruined my relationship with my daughter? My daughter is 18 years old her boyfriend is 24 years old, I didn't have a problem with them dating. He is a very nice young man I like him I know he would never hurt my daughter. But yesterday my daughter brought her boyfriend here, he asked me if he could marry my daughter, I said no not right now and to wait a year or two. Then my daughter came in crying and asked why she can't marry him I just said they're to young. She said to me why won't I let her be happy. I don't know what to do me and my daughter are very close I am a single father she is all I have, she won't talk to me and avoids me in the house.Need some advice, with my relationship with my daughter? I'm I just scared to lose her?
I think society has made a mistake making young people think they must go to college and get a career in order to be happy. Last time I checked a career can't offer you true love and the things (people) that life is truly about.
I fell in love head over heals, not lust, but true love when I was 17 years old. I tried to pursue college but my heart longed to be with the man I knew I was supposed to be with. So I got married at barely 19! I am now 26 and have been happily married almost 7 years! I have the best job in the world, I am a wife and a mother full time. Never in my young years would I have thought this would of been my path. My parents may have protested but they saw how in love I was and didn't inter fer with my happiness.
I think back and wonder what kind of person I would of been if I didn't marry my husband and went to college for a four year degree instead. Let me tell you, I would be miserable. My husband is the only man I have been with and I know if I went to college with today's standards I would of had a few partners which makes me sad to think. I would have some job (maybe) that lead to no where and probably regretting I let the one true love get away.
I have heard many women who have the degree and had the job say no job is better than being a stay at home wife and mother.
Plus there are many couples who do marry and do get their degrees if that is there dream, happens everyday.
I would hope that as her father you can tell if she really loves this man and no squish the oppurtunity of her life time. Please stand by her, I have a good friend who is 26 and her father won't be at her wedding, you don't know how much money this poor girl has spent on counsling to get over this so she can marry the man of her dreams. Never should a girl have to choose between her future husband and her father..never!
Also, to really answer your question, let me tell you that since I have married my husband my father and I have grown into a very strong relationship. I need my father I feel even more so now then I did then. As a daughter there are two main men in your life, your husband and your father. Then you may be blessed with a son and you see traits of the two men that you love in that son and let me tell you there is no greater love. You will not loose your daughter unless you choose to do so. Once daddies little girl, ALWAYS daddies little girl :). Please give her your blessing, apologize to her and talk about the relationship. Talk to her about your relationship and what worked and what didn't. Talk to her about hardships of being in a marriage, but also the joys of a marriage. But most of all let her know you support her decision and that she will always be your little girl!!!
Keep your relationship strong and someday you will get a double blessing called, ';grandchildren!!'; Then you will learn a whole new love for your daughter and the new child. My dad is a hard man but he couldn't stop the tears when I gave birth to my daughter three years after being married. The way he looked at me and the way he held his new grandbaby is a moment I will never forget and has bound us in an even tighter father and daughter relationship.
Best of Luck to you and your daughter. Remember Children are a life time commitment!Need some advice, with my relationship with my daughter? I'm I just scared to lose her?
She's 18. She doesn't need your permission. I suggest you rethink your answer. If he's nice and she's of age and she loves him, what's the problem?
She's not too young to get married. A couple of 19 year olds I know got married last summer when they were 18 and they're doing great. In the olden days people got married much younger than they do now. We infantilize young people in our present age.
ive been in your daughters position and i can tell you right now she probably hates u with everything she is right now. the best u can do is give her time and let her heal herself. its not like she lost him...he just has to wait a little while and show how much they really lover eachother before marriage. dont push her away anymore though because that WILL [[guaranteed]] lead to some bad decisions. give her time. she'll get over it.
ahh familly problems every one has them if i were you i would sit down talk to her explian why she cant marry him i am shure she would understand but you cant stop them she is considered an adult know i am shure you dont want to hear this but you have to
Hi James,
Ask your daughter if she will give you a few minutes to speak with you about something that is important to you. Then tell you daughter something like:
Honey, I want to talk with you about you wanting to get married. First, I want you to know that I love you with all my heart and I'm scared of losing you. I know you are all grown up and want to marry xxxx. He is a very nice man and I like him; I am certain he loves you and that he would never hurt you. When he asked me if he could marry you, all I thought about was myself - that I don't want to lose the love of my life. I was wrong to think that I would be losing you; I now realize that I will be gaining a son instead of losing a daughter. I want with all my heart for you to be happy, and if xxxx makes you happy, then I am happy also. I would like for you to consider waiting a year or two, just so that you two can get to know each other better and for me to get to know xxxx. However, if you chose not to wait, I will be glad to give you my blessings. I love you, xxxx, and you will look beautiful in your wedding dress! Xxxx, I want you to know that I will always be here for you!
Best Wishes!
Well you need to look at the real reason you said no. My younger sister got married at 18 and has been married to the same man for 25 years. I guess it is likely that she might get divorced, but she just might make this marriage work but it is her life and her mistakes to make. I think you should find a way to talk to her and share your real fears. Maybe you should suggest they take marriage classes before they get married. Just because you say no, doesn't mean she has to honor your wishes, she will probably marry the guy anyway.
I think you should try to communicate with her. Also, make sure you let her know that you do want her to be happy, therefore, you are concerned for her future. She is not going to be the same person 10yrs from now. And ask her, where she sees herself in the future. If she thinks she knows, then all you can do is tell her the right and wrong and hopefully, her emotions wont come into play. If she doesn't listen then you have to let her be. Some family counseling will help too if you're afraid of losing her.
I understand both sides of the story. You think she is too young to know what she wants, which she is. I'm nineteen, and I know this is too young to get married.
How long has she been dating him? Years or a couple months?
On the other hand, she thinks you are being unfair, because in her own mind, she is old enough to know what she wants.
It's a tough decision, but I think you should let her decide on this one. It's her life and she must learn, even if it's the hard way. Her decision is her decision, and since she is at the stage of rebellion, she will do what she wants no matter what you say. You have to let her go, and trust that she will make the right decision and remember what you have taught her. Leave the option up to her, but tell her your opinion of how it's never wrong to wait, because marriage is a huge commitment.
I hope things go back to normal for you and your daughter.
James, there is nothing wrong with your response to his asking to marry her. You are her father and have every right to your opinion.
Of course she is going to be upset, she is only 18 and in love for probably the first time. You are not preventing her from being unhappy, she just disappointed for now. Its not like you are saying they cannot be together, of course they can, and she can still be happy just BEING with him. You are not stopping her happiness. I do think its a sticky situation because he is 24 and may very well be ready for marriage. She is just a big young.
What does his family think? If they are agreeable with you, then all the parents should talk with them. I think 90% of parents would have reacted the same way.
True she is 18, and can marry regardless, which she might do. In that case just support her but make it clear you still wish they would wait. You will not loose her over this unless she is spoiled and ungrateful, which I doubt she is since she had her boyfriend ask your permission in the first place. Most teens would skip that all together.
Once time passes and you two eventually have a nice long talk, you can understand each others point of view. You do not need to agree with each other, but its more important to just understand each other. Maybe you can come to an agreement like a long engagement and set a date for down the line. That way, she has her acceptance and fiance, and you have a bit more time. Don't completely shut down the idea, give her some hope to bring down her walls. Maybe encourage them to live together and establish a steady income and a life together first. Hopefully she is willing to take these steps to show you as well as to prove to herself that she is truly ready for a marriage.
This will not permanently damage your relationship as long as the both of you are open to listening and compromising. This is a new obstacle neither of you have faced before, but hopefully will only bring you closer together in the end.
I think society has made a mistake making young people think they must go to college and get a career in order to be happy. Last time I checked a career can't offer you true love and the things (people) that life is truly about.
I fell in love head over heals, not lust, but true love when I was 17 years old. I tried to pursue college but my heart longed to be with the man I knew I was supposed to be with. So I got married at barely 19! I am now 26 and have been happily married almost 7 years! I have the best job in the world, I am a wife and a mother full time. Never in my young years would I have thought this would of been my path. My parents may have protested but they saw how in love I was and didn't inter fer with my happiness.
I think back and wonder what kind of person I would of been if I didn't marry my husband and went to college for a four year degree instead. Let me tell you, I would be miserable. My husband is the only man I have been with and I know if I went to college with today's standards I would of had a few partners which makes me sad to think. I would have some job (maybe) that lead to no where and probably regretting I let the one true love get away.
I have heard many women who have the degree and had the job say no job is better than being a stay at home wife and mother.
Plus there are many couples who do marry and do get their degrees if that is there dream, happens everyday.
I would hope that as her father you can tell if she really loves this man and no squish the oppurtunity of her life time. Please stand by her, I have a good friend who is 26 and her father won't be at her wedding, you don't know how much money this poor girl has spent on counsling to get over this so she can marry the man of her dreams. Never should a girl have to choose between her future husband and her father..never!
Also, to really answer your question, let me tell you that since I have married my husband my father and I have grown into a very strong relationship. I need my father I feel even more so now then I did then. As a daughter there are two main men in your life, your husband and your father. Then you may be blessed with a son and you see traits of the two men that you love in that son and let me tell you there is no greater love. You will not loose your daughter unless you choose to do so. Once daddies little girl, ALWAYS daddies little girl :). Please give her your blessing, apologize to her and talk about the relationship. Talk to her about your relationship and what worked and what didn't. Talk to her about hardships of being in a marriage, but also the joys of a marriage. But most of all let her know you support her decision and that she will always be your little girl!!!
Keep your relationship strong and someday you will get a double blessing called, ';grandchildren!!'; Then you will learn a whole new love for your daughter and the new child. My dad is a hard man but he couldn't stop the tears when I gave birth to my daughter three years after being married. The way he looked at me and the way he held his new grandbaby is a moment I will never forget and has bound us in an even tighter father and daughter relationship.
Best of Luck to you and your daughter. Remember Children are a life time commitment!Need some advice, with my relationship with my daughter? I'm I just scared to lose her?
She's 18. She doesn't need your permission. I suggest you rethink your answer. If he's nice and she's of age and she loves him, what's the problem?
She's not too young to get married. A couple of 19 year olds I know got married last summer when they were 18 and they're doing great. In the olden days people got married much younger than they do now. We infantilize young people in our present age.
ive been in your daughters position and i can tell you right now she probably hates u with everything she is right now. the best u can do is give her time and let her heal herself. its not like she lost him...he just has to wait a little while and show how much they really lover eachother before marriage. dont push her away anymore though because that WILL [[guaranteed]] lead to some bad decisions. give her time. she'll get over it.
ahh familly problems every one has them if i were you i would sit down talk to her explian why she cant marry him i am shure she would understand but you cant stop them she is considered an adult know i am shure you dont want to hear this but you have to
Hi James,
Ask your daughter if she will give you a few minutes to speak with you about something that is important to you. Then tell you daughter something like:
Honey, I want to talk with you about you wanting to get married. First, I want you to know that I love you with all my heart and I'm scared of losing you. I know you are all grown up and want to marry xxxx. He is a very nice man and I like him; I am certain he loves you and that he would never hurt you. When he asked me if he could marry you, all I thought about was myself - that I don't want to lose the love of my life. I was wrong to think that I would be losing you; I now realize that I will be gaining a son instead of losing a daughter. I want with all my heart for you to be happy, and if xxxx makes you happy, then I am happy also. I would like for you to consider waiting a year or two, just so that you two can get to know each other better and for me to get to know xxxx. However, if you chose not to wait, I will be glad to give you my blessings. I love you, xxxx, and you will look beautiful in your wedding dress! Xxxx, I want you to know that I will always be here for you!
Best Wishes!
Well you need to look at the real reason you said no. My younger sister got married at 18 and has been married to the same man for 25 years. I guess it is likely that she might get divorced, but she just might make this marriage work but it is her life and her mistakes to make. I think you should find a way to talk to her and share your real fears. Maybe you should suggest they take marriage classes before they get married. Just because you say no, doesn't mean she has to honor your wishes, she will probably marry the guy anyway.
I think you should try to communicate with her. Also, make sure you let her know that you do want her to be happy, therefore, you are concerned for her future. She is not going to be the same person 10yrs from now. And ask her, where she sees herself in the future. If she thinks she knows, then all you can do is tell her the right and wrong and hopefully, her emotions wont come into play. If she doesn't listen then you have to let her be. Some family counseling will help too if you're afraid of losing her.
I understand both sides of the story. You think she is too young to know what she wants, which she is. I'm nineteen, and I know this is too young to get married.
How long has she been dating him? Years or a couple months?
On the other hand, she thinks you are being unfair, because in her own mind, she is old enough to know what she wants.
It's a tough decision, but I think you should let her decide on this one. It's her life and she must learn, even if it's the hard way. Her decision is her decision, and since she is at the stage of rebellion, she will do what she wants no matter what you say. You have to let her go, and trust that she will make the right decision and remember what you have taught her. Leave the option up to her, but tell her your opinion of how it's never wrong to wait, because marriage is a huge commitment.
I hope things go back to normal for you and your daughter.
James, there is nothing wrong with your response to his asking to marry her. You are her father and have every right to your opinion.
Of course she is going to be upset, she is only 18 and in love for probably the first time. You are not preventing her from being unhappy, she just disappointed for now. Its not like you are saying they cannot be together, of course they can, and she can still be happy just BEING with him. You are not stopping her happiness. I do think its a sticky situation because he is 24 and may very well be ready for marriage. She is just a big young.
What does his family think? If they are agreeable with you, then all the parents should talk with them. I think 90% of parents would have reacted the same way.
True she is 18, and can marry regardless, which she might do. In that case just support her but make it clear you still wish they would wait. You will not loose her over this unless she is spoiled and ungrateful, which I doubt she is since she had her boyfriend ask your permission in the first place. Most teens would skip that all together.
Once time passes and you two eventually have a nice long talk, you can understand each others point of view. You do not need to agree with each other, but its more important to just understand each other. Maybe you can come to an agreement like a long engagement and set a date for down the line. That way, she has her acceptance and fiance, and you have a bit more time. Don't completely shut down the idea, give her some hope to bring down her walls. Maybe encourage them to live together and establish a steady income and a life together first. Hopefully she is willing to take these steps to show you as well as to prove to herself that she is truly ready for a marriage.
This will not permanently damage your relationship as long as the both of you are open to listening and compromising. This is a new obstacle neither of you have faced before, but hopefully will only bring you closer together in the end.
I need advice with my relationship:fighting. Sorry this is long.?
Me and my girlfriend have been dating for about 2 years. At first we were really happy, as time went on we became really close and its to the point where i only want her to myself. i get mad when she goes out because i dont want her to be around guys. her friends arent the best role models either and im not to happy about them being her friends because i dont trust them. also i just freak when she is on facebook and guys add her because she is a very attractive girl and i know guys want her but i just dont trust her like i should she always tells me that i can trust her and she only wants/loves me. well we keep argueing about that and i dont like her wearing short shorts and so now we have been on 2 breaks apart within the past week and i need help on what to do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!11I need advice with my relationship:fighting. Sorry this is long.?
Well first of all you are not married.
So you cant tell her what she can or cannot do.
I dated a guy just like you.
We are no longer together.
Trust her when she says she only wants to be with you.
Now I am with a guy who trust me and let me do wat I want.
and I am much happier.
Taking breaks was the first step in ending our relationships.
Dont screw up like my ex did.
I understand ithe shorts thing but if it was me it would only make me want to do it more if you told me not to.I need advice with my relationship:fighting. Sorry this is long.?
Stop being jealous. If your girl truly loves you she will only like you. Stop being too overprotective. You can't tell a girl how to live- she will only break up with you faster.eye creams
Well first of all you are not married.
So you cant tell her what she can or cannot do.
I dated a guy just like you.
We are no longer together.
Trust her when she says she only wants to be with you.
Now I am with a guy who trust me and let me do wat I want.
and I am much happier.
Taking breaks was the first step in ending our relationships.
Dont screw up like my ex did.
I understand ithe shorts thing but if it was me it would only make me want to do it more if you told me not to.I need advice with my relationship:fighting. Sorry this is long.?
Stop being jealous. If your girl truly loves you she will only like you. Stop being too overprotective. You can't tell a girl how to live- she will only break up with you faster.
Need good advice about a relationship?
Me and My ex-girlfriend have broken up three times now. One of the problems in the relationship was she was black and I was white. I knew mt parents wouldn't approve, so i never told them. for the first two months we were madly in love with each other. But over the course of the relationship things happened between my parents and how I handled them.
After the last break-up which was three weeks ago we had been talking. the problem is that right after we broke-up she went out on a date with the guy I thought she was cheating on me with. she says that there little more than friends. now I still have feelings for her, made the mistake of saying I still loved her and all that. For a while it was normal, we hanged out and it was fun. then it became painful to be around her. it put me into a depression and I told her how I felt. Im over that part. but she said that there was a slim chance that we would get back together.
im willing to take that. so any advice would help.Need good advice about a relationship?
haha im not too good at giving advice, can i interest you in a sarcastic comment?Need good advice about a relationship?
don't chase after a chick who's not even sure if she wants you.
but if you truly do like her then put in effort without throwing yourself at her.
i sat here thinking, but im out of advice here man lol
First of all do NOT act desperate. She will just blow you off most likely.Act like you love her without sounded corny, or it sounding forced so shell come back. Explain to her why you love her and she just might come back
And good luck, Im also white with a black girlfriend.
You were being spineless and she got passive aggressive with you.
The damage is done - learn from your mistakes and move on.
Don't date girls of a different race if you are so wanting your mom and dad's approval.
something similar happened to me...
the best advice i would give that people break up for a reason...
me and my fiance have broken up like 20 times now and i went thru the same thing with her...
things got good but there is still that something in the back of my mind that i hate remembering seeing her with someone else..
the best thing to do is to let it go...
you will find a girl for you i guarantee it!
Maybe she's saying there's a slim chance that you guys would get back together just to see how you react and so she's playing with your head. since you told her you still love her and want to be back together, she might be thinking that she can easily call the shots.
girls do that a lot.
If she continues to act as if she doesn't want you back, then try and stay cool and act as if things are okay and that she isn't so important to you anymore. by doing this, she might be scared that she would really lose you or might be upset that she won't mean as much to you for you to care anymore.
Or you can hang out with another girl and get her jealous.
But if things don't work out then might as well walk away and not make a fool out of yourself after so long if its obvious she's not going to get back with you.
best of luck :]
Shes going out with some one else and your feeling sick...Uve broke up 3x....she told you theres a slim chance of u 2 getting back together..sorry my friend but ur pretty much done...
After the last break-up which was three weeks ago we had been talking. the problem is that right after we broke-up she went out on a date with the guy I thought she was cheating on me with. she says that there little more than friends. now I still have feelings for her, made the mistake of saying I still loved her and all that. For a while it was normal, we hanged out and it was fun. then it became painful to be around her. it put me into a depression and I told her how I felt. Im over that part. but she said that there was a slim chance that we would get back together.
im willing to take that. so any advice would help.Need good advice about a relationship?
haha im not too good at giving advice, can i interest you in a sarcastic comment?Need good advice about a relationship?
don't chase after a chick who's not even sure if she wants you.
but if you truly do like her then put in effort without throwing yourself at her.
i sat here thinking, but im out of advice here man lol
First of all do NOT act desperate. She will just blow you off most likely.Act like you love her without sounded corny, or it sounding forced so shell come back. Explain to her why you love her and she just might come back
And good luck, Im also white with a black girlfriend.
You were being spineless and she got passive aggressive with you.
The damage is done - learn from your mistakes and move on.
Don't date girls of a different race if you are so wanting your mom and dad's approval.
something similar happened to me...
the best advice i would give that people break up for a reason...
me and my fiance have broken up like 20 times now and i went thru the same thing with her...
things got good but there is still that something in the back of my mind that i hate remembering seeing her with someone else..
the best thing to do is to let it go...
you will find a girl for you i guarantee it!
Maybe she's saying there's a slim chance that you guys would get back together just to see how you react and so she's playing with your head. since you told her you still love her and want to be back together, she might be thinking that she can easily call the shots.
girls do that a lot.
If she continues to act as if she doesn't want you back, then try and stay cool and act as if things are okay and that she isn't so important to you anymore. by doing this, she might be scared that she would really lose you or might be upset that she won't mean as much to you for you to care anymore.
Or you can hang out with another girl and get her jealous.
But if things don't work out then might as well walk away and not make a fool out of yourself after so long if its obvious she's not going to get back with you.
best of luck :]
Shes going out with some one else and your feeling sick...Uve broke up 3x....she told you theres a slim chance of u 2 getting back together..sorry my friend but ur pretty much done...
I need advice on my relationship?
I was wondering if I should stay in my relationship. I am 28 he is 56. I have a 19 month old daughter with him. Things are pretty bad though. I stay at home and take care of my baby. He is not affectionate at all. He always says he is tired. He hardly talks to me. He never takes me anywhere. When I try to talk to him he says that I nag him and he is tired from working. He thinks that he has it hard because he works. I feel that he doesn't realize what it takes from you to take care of a 19 month old full time. I dont have any social life at all. I am expected to cook clean and to to parent full time. I feel I never get a break. He acts like it is a big deal to watch our child even while I take a shower. Like I said before I cant talk to him because when I try he ends up blowing up and calling me names. He's called me the b word at least five times. I dont know what to do. When we fight and I tell him I am going to leave he tells me to go ahead. Then the next day he acts like nothing happened so nothing ever gets resolved. I feel trapped because he works and makes the money. Hes told me before that if i leave him I'll end up with some loser guy on welfare. That that is the best I will get. I don't want to take his daughter away from him but I am so so unhappy and I dont see things changing.I need advice on my relationship?
Why in gods hell would you marry somoeone so much older then you?I need advice on my relationship?
Well i'm very young but I could try to help you lol :).
I've been through what you don't want your baby going through. But pretty soon hes going to end up trying to hurt you or something. My mom was through the same thing you went through finally she got away and found a babysitter and got her a job until she could provide. I don't think anyone deserves to even be called a B****.! You shouldn't have to give up everything just because he doesn't want anything to do with you or the baby he should grow up and act like a man. I hope this helped but my mother has went through it so i hope you make a safe and thoughtful decision .
I think it's really important that you get out of this relationship as soon as possible. If he cared about you then he wouldn't be showing it like this. And it really wouldn't be helpful to raise your daughter in the kind of atmosphere he's creating, he could even be detrimental later. It would be better for you and your daughter to find somewhere else to stay and maybe turn to your family for support during your obviously difficult time.
Why in gods hell would you marry somoeone so much older then you?I need advice on my relationship?
Well i'm very young but I could try to help you lol :).
I've been through what you don't want your baby going through. But pretty soon hes going to end up trying to hurt you or something. My mom was through the same thing you went through finally she got away and found a babysitter and got her a job until she could provide. I don't think anyone deserves to even be called a B****.! You shouldn't have to give up everything just because he doesn't want anything to do with you or the baby he should grow up and act like a man. I hope this helped but my mother has went through it so i hope you make a safe and thoughtful decision .
I think it's really important that you get out of this relationship as soon as possible. If he cared about you then he wouldn't be showing it like this. And it really wouldn't be helpful to raise your daughter in the kind of atmosphere he's creating, he could even be detrimental later. It would be better for you and your daughter to find somewhere else to stay and maybe turn to your family for support during your obviously difficult time.
What is our relationship status? I need advice...
I have been dating this guy for about 4 months. I recently told him how my feelings are growing deeper for him. He said he feels the same way, but he doesn't think we should get attached because he has been planning on moving to another state. We still go out on dates, hang out, and talk everyday. I am really confused about his feelings for me. What should I do? What is our relationship status? I need advice...
I agree with the first answer. You shouldn't get anymore attached than you already are. Because when he finally does leave you'll be even more heart broken.What is our relationship status? I need advice...
You should forget about him in the love sense and just be friends since it is so difficult to keep a long distance relationship going.
I agree with the first answer. You shouldn't get anymore attached than you already are. Because when he finally does leave you'll be even more heart broken.What is our relationship status? I need advice...
You should forget about him in the love sense and just be friends since it is so difficult to keep a long distance relationship going.
I'm in an online relationship lookin for advice for a gf who's lost sight of things...?
Long story short, she got in a car accident last month, hurt really bad, I found out this week since then she's been cheatin on me with a friend of hers. So far only kissed him. I'm willing to take her back because I understand how she's been feeling(alot of pain, wanting someone to comfort her), and that after this she will be faithful.(One of those ';it has to happen before it never happens again'; kinda deals I thought might happen.) We'd been friends for a long time(known eachother 4 years now), I know her inside and out and vise-versa, but she doesn't think she could stay true to me. I know she can, but right now she's ';taking a break from relationships';, but promised me she'll come back to me. I'm respecting her request for space, only talking to her when she tells me she wants to. But I'm still worried about her, I was supposed to be going up to see her within a month. I want her to believe in us again(soon) so I can still go to her, and make her a stronger person out of this.I'm in an online relationship lookin for advice for a gf who's lost sight of things...?
I am sorry to tell you this because you seem like a nice guy but listen to what she is telling you. She has cheated once and is implying that it could happen again. She is being really upfront and honest with you. And even though you may not like what she is telling you , you have to listen to her. It sounds like you are far more committed to the relationship than she is. Find someone that will be faithful to you. Don't you deserve that?
I am sorry to tell you this because you seem like a nice guy but listen to what she is telling you. She has cheated once and is implying that it could happen again. She is being really upfront and honest with you. And even though you may not like what she is telling you , you have to listen to her. It sounds like you are far more committed to the relationship than she is. Find someone that will be faithful to you. Don't you deserve that?
Please help, i need advice mother-daughter relationship....?
well me and my mom don't really have a good mother-daughter relationship, we've been arguing lately and it's been terrible and i don't want it to haunt me later. im 14 btw...so when im older i want to be able to say ';yeah me and my mom had our tough times but we got through it and repaired our relationship.'; so i want to get close to her. and any advice would be nice. thank you a lotPlease help, i need advice mother-daughter relationship....?
First, don't worry - at your age it is perfectly normal to find things your mom does and says embarrassing, inappropriate or even disgusting. And the same goes for your mom. Second, try to step back and see things from your mom's perspective. She may still regard you as a girl needing protection and needing to be told how to behave and how to deal with the world. Your mom cannot help this - that is what she has learned over the past 14 years. So just try to patiently explain to her the way you look at things and give her time to adjust. She is likely to be pleased with any sign of trust and love that comes from you, such as a suggestion of going shopping or watching a movie together.
Most girls go through this phase, and most girls get back to be close with their moms when they are a few years older. So again: don't worry and have patience.Please help, i need advice mother-daughter relationship....?
try to do some bonding with her, i fight with my mom alot and im 17 but we do fun things together and resolove our differences. such as we always go shopping together, we go to the gym together, i help her garden and we do each others hair. we act like friends i guess and i have a very close relationship with her even though we fight alot, we always manage to resolve it
You both have to be willing to listen to the other and trust that the other won't use what you say against you. I know it's hard but your mom can be your best ally. Trust her. Listen to her. And it goes both ways. She has to do the same. Resist the urge to walk away when she says something you don't like. Listen. There's nothing wrong with that. She may just say something that makes sense. And you can teach her as well.
I wish this crossed my mind few years ago.... iam 27 and still wish i had a closer relationship with my mom when i was young :).
Sit down and write a list of things you like in your mom.... and then write a letter to her telling her how much you appreciate her for all that and that you wish to have a closer relationship with her. Also get her something nice with that letter. Dont feel like you r the only one making the effort here.... she might also be feeling the same... so keep trying and dont let the bad moments spoil the relationship EVER. And always keep the communication open in one form or the other.
ALL THE BEST.
i know where u come from. my mom and i fight alot especially when we both are touchy. it helps to find the things in common and enjoy those together. also, (this may sound weird) but... overcoming a tragedy together gets you so close, your practically joined at the hip. im not saying go looking for a horrible time, but just let her know you are there for her (mothers need loving support too!) and ask her to hang out, read a mag together, get ur hair cut... or even just staying up late, enjoying a movie, can get you closer.
:) luck 2 u!
Just kill her. Trust me, you'll regret it, but time will heal it's self.
First, don't worry - at your age it is perfectly normal to find things your mom does and says embarrassing, inappropriate or even disgusting. And the same goes for your mom. Second, try to step back and see things from your mom's perspective. She may still regard you as a girl needing protection and needing to be told how to behave and how to deal with the world. Your mom cannot help this - that is what she has learned over the past 14 years. So just try to patiently explain to her the way you look at things and give her time to adjust. She is likely to be pleased with any sign of trust and love that comes from you, such as a suggestion of going shopping or watching a movie together.
Most girls go through this phase, and most girls get back to be close with their moms when they are a few years older. So again: don't worry and have patience.Please help, i need advice mother-daughter relationship....?
try to do some bonding with her, i fight with my mom alot and im 17 but we do fun things together and resolove our differences. such as we always go shopping together, we go to the gym together, i help her garden and we do each others hair. we act like friends i guess and i have a very close relationship with her even though we fight alot, we always manage to resolve it
You both have to be willing to listen to the other and trust that the other won't use what you say against you. I know it's hard but your mom can be your best ally. Trust her. Listen to her. And it goes both ways. She has to do the same. Resist the urge to walk away when she says something you don't like. Listen. There's nothing wrong with that. She may just say something that makes sense. And you can teach her as well.
I wish this crossed my mind few years ago.... iam 27 and still wish i had a closer relationship with my mom when i was young :).
Sit down and write a list of things you like in your mom.... and then write a letter to her telling her how much you appreciate her for all that and that you wish to have a closer relationship with her. Also get her something nice with that letter. Dont feel like you r the only one making the effort here.... she might also be feeling the same... so keep trying and dont let the bad moments spoil the relationship EVER. And always keep the communication open in one form or the other.
ALL THE BEST.
i know where u come from. my mom and i fight alot especially when we both are touchy. it helps to find the things in common and enjoy those together. also, (this may sound weird) but... overcoming a tragedy together gets you so close, your practically joined at the hip. im not saying go looking for a horrible time, but just let her know you are there for her (mothers need loving support too!) and ask her to hang out, read a mag together, get ur hair cut... or even just staying up late, enjoying a movie, can get you closer.
:) luck 2 u!
Just kill her. Trust me, you'll regret it, but time will heal it's self.
Help I need some advice on my relationship with my friend.?
I've know my friend bill for 6 months. He is 32 and I'm 21.We meet at our work. well we've hung out almost everyday for about a month. Here is the problem on sunday I slept with him %26amp; slept over at his house. He droped me off at work and walked me to my work. My coworker and close friend of 13 years saw my hickey %26amp; asked me if I slept with bill. I denied it a first then she keep asking me and I finally told her the truth. well bill found out and got all pissed off at me. He told I saw stupid for telling her that we slept toghter. I really like this guy and I don't know what to do? should I apolgze to him for telling her the truth or what? I also I want to be more than friends with him and I don't know how to tell him I a kinda nervous. I really have fallen for him I don't know what to do I almost said I love you to him tonight. Any advice would be apperciated?
Thank you
LizHelp I need some advice on my relationship with my friend.?
Sorry but you totally don't need this guy.If he got mad about that,who says he won't get mad about something else that small.He should understand that friends tell their friends stuff and should be happy that you have someone like that in your life.You might really like him but you really don't need him.You'll find someone else better eventually.Help I need some advice on my relationship with my friend.?
Honey, Move On!! It was a one night stand with an old man! (Considering the age difference). The whole thing sounds wrong. He's only mad that you said something because he is ashamed to admit it. Sorry, but it's true. Most guys brag when the hit a young broad. Don't waste your time, move on and find someone who is proud of you!!
I DON'T THINK YOU SHOULD APOLOGIZE, BUT YOU SHOULD FIND OUT IF WANTS MORE THAN JUST SEX WITH YOU.
why should he care who you tell ?if he has no wife or gf....there shouldent be a problem.
well i could tell u this let him be mad at u 4 now then wen he starts settlin down tell your sorry n then tell him how u feel
You should not kiss and tell, that is the problem with most people.
Ugh. First, never date/sleep with anyone you work with. Never!!! Second, don't apologize for telling the truth. You are both adults. What do you have to be ashamed of? Hopefully the people you work with are mature enough to not really care about who slept with who. Third, You probably should have talked about the ';I like you more than a friend'; BEFORE you slept with him. Might as well put your cards on the table now and see where you stand before you get any deeper. Lastly, I hope it doesn't turn out where he's just using you or you'll see why it's so important not to get involved with people you work with!
I'm 32 also,come over to my house liz and i wont get mad at what you tell, by the way, where you from?eye creams
Thank you
LizHelp I need some advice on my relationship with my friend.?
Sorry but you totally don't need this guy.If he got mad about that,who says he won't get mad about something else that small.He should understand that friends tell their friends stuff and should be happy that you have someone like that in your life.You might really like him but you really don't need him.You'll find someone else better eventually.Help I need some advice on my relationship with my friend.?
Honey, Move On!! It was a one night stand with an old man! (Considering the age difference). The whole thing sounds wrong. He's only mad that you said something because he is ashamed to admit it. Sorry, but it's true. Most guys brag when the hit a young broad. Don't waste your time, move on and find someone who is proud of you!!
I DON'T THINK YOU SHOULD APOLOGIZE, BUT YOU SHOULD FIND OUT IF WANTS MORE THAN JUST SEX WITH YOU.
why should he care who you tell ?if he has no wife or gf....there shouldent be a problem.
well i could tell u this let him be mad at u 4 now then wen he starts settlin down tell your sorry n then tell him how u feel
You should not kiss and tell, that is the problem with most people.
Ugh. First, never date/sleep with anyone you work with. Never!!! Second, don't apologize for telling the truth. You are both adults. What do you have to be ashamed of? Hopefully the people you work with are mature enough to not really care about who slept with who. Third, You probably should have talked about the ';I like you more than a friend'; BEFORE you slept with him. Might as well put your cards on the table now and see where you stand before you get any deeper. Lastly, I hope it doesn't turn out where he's just using you or you'll see why it's so important not to get involved with people you work with!
I'm 32 also,come over to my house liz and i wont get mad at what you tell, by the way, where you from?
Please help, need your advice on my relationship problem.?
Bare with me please. My fiance and I have been together now for a little over 4 years. About 1 year into the relationship we would fight a lot about my weight...which was understandable because I weighed 145 lbs. at only 5 feet tall (I gained 30 lbs. in 1 yr.) at this rate I would have been obese. I've lost weight (now 121 lbs) and my boyfriend is trying to stay supportive, however...here's the real issue and the thing we might break up over. He thinks I'm in love with food more than I am with him. I told him how could this be true when I've giving up completely a lot of bad foods, now I eat healthy (for the past year) and work out 3-5 times per week. He says I'm more excited for food them him. I do have a passion for food but I now control my cravings and eat sensibly, I have to admit when I see cheesecake or cookies my face does light up but I find a healthier alternative and forget all about the cookies. I'm still in the process of losing weight so my fiance hates this andPlease help, need your advice on my relationship problem.?
I dont think he could care for you if he wants to break up over food. I could understand said he wants you to lose weight to be healthier. He should be happy that you have done all that you have already for him. And even thought your face lights up when you see a cookie of cheese cake, he should be happy your not eating those things. He should make losing weight harder on you by saying things like that. He should understand that it is hard to give foods that you love, to eat healthier and lose weight. I think you should talk to him about this, and tell him how you feel. And try to make him understand that it has been hard to give up the foods the you enjoy eating. And that you did it for him. If he can't understand that, then I don't think you two should be together anyways.
And congrats on losing the weight you have. I know how hard it can be. And good luck on all future weight loss.Please help, need your advice on my relationship problem.?
Hon, u can either spend the rest of ur life trying to please someone who will always come up w/something negative about what u do, or u can move on, be happy with yourself and who u are, and find someone who loves you for who you are, and accepts u for that. If u are a giving and loving person(that doesnt mean doormat who gives up themselves for others needs) then u will find someone worthy of u...go w/your gut and dont settle...yeah for u, it's time to stand up and tell him to kiss your cheesecake happy booty goodbye. If u change who u are, you will never be happy, not worth it at all, take it from someone who knows -- 1st marriage was a disaster!! Now, I have a lovely man who cares for me, even though I am totally disorganized, lose my keys and the cell phone on a constant basis, and I am nuts on a good day. :) that's worth all the work that goes into our marriage, no matter how many times I have to put the seat down in the bathroom!
I'm sorry to ask this but are you kiddie your boyfriend is jealous of food. I never hear of that one before. but it looks like you have proved that you love him more then food. I mean you lost weight. your eating healthier, and you work out 3 times a week. what does he want a skinny woman who's all bony and naughty looking? (there's nothing wrong with women being then but sometimes to thin isn't health and seeing your bones through your skin isn't pretty looking either. just case someone gets offended by this I'm sorry.) you need to tell him that you have prove to him that you love him and he needs to except it. there's nothing wrong with liking food. by the way is he over weight? I know a friend of mines who didn't like food because they were over weight and they thought it was the enemy until they got some help from a therapy. maybe he needs to see one. I'm sorry but I tried to help.
He`s a loser.Get rid of him instead of subjecting yourself to a life of torment.
If he says your more in love with food then him hes crazy. He could be saying this because he is insecure with himself or he cares more about what you look like then what is on the inside. Either way not a good way to start a life together. You must get to the root of why he says what he does and make a determination on weather or not he is right for you. If he is going to be your husband he should love you for who you are and that means being in love with all your good features and your faults.
he is just making excuses,dont diet and get healthy for him,do it for yourself and tell him too get lost. he sounds very cruel and if you stay together he will put you down and critize you for the rest of your life.( which in return will cause you to gain alot of weight because he will put you in severe depression) be healthy and dump the asshole!
it really sound like you need to get a new man, he should
love you regardless of your weight, and if you have done
this which is great, i proud of you for that but it look like
he just does not appreciate what you have done. and trust
me it will be something else that he will have a problem with
time to look at what the real deal, and do what is best for
you.
I dont think he could care for you if he wants to break up over food. I could understand said he wants you to lose weight to be healthier. He should be happy that you have done all that you have already for him. And even thought your face lights up when you see a cookie of cheese cake, he should be happy your not eating those things. He should make losing weight harder on you by saying things like that. He should understand that it is hard to give foods that you love, to eat healthier and lose weight. I think you should talk to him about this, and tell him how you feel. And try to make him understand that it has been hard to give up the foods the you enjoy eating. And that you did it for him. If he can't understand that, then I don't think you two should be together anyways.
And congrats on losing the weight you have. I know how hard it can be. And good luck on all future weight loss.Please help, need your advice on my relationship problem.?
Hon, u can either spend the rest of ur life trying to please someone who will always come up w/something negative about what u do, or u can move on, be happy with yourself and who u are, and find someone who loves you for who you are, and accepts u for that. If u are a giving and loving person(that doesnt mean doormat who gives up themselves for others needs) then u will find someone worthy of u...go w/your gut and dont settle...yeah for u, it's time to stand up and tell him to kiss your cheesecake happy booty goodbye. If u change who u are, you will never be happy, not worth it at all, take it from someone who knows -- 1st marriage was a disaster!! Now, I have a lovely man who cares for me, even though I am totally disorganized, lose my keys and the cell phone on a constant basis, and I am nuts on a good day. :) that's worth all the work that goes into our marriage, no matter how many times I have to put the seat down in the bathroom!
I'm sorry to ask this but are you kiddie your boyfriend is jealous of food. I never hear of that one before. but it looks like you have proved that you love him more then food. I mean you lost weight. your eating healthier, and you work out 3 times a week. what does he want a skinny woman who's all bony and naughty looking? (there's nothing wrong with women being then but sometimes to thin isn't health and seeing your bones through your skin isn't pretty looking either. just case someone gets offended by this I'm sorry.) you need to tell him that you have prove to him that you love him and he needs to except it. there's nothing wrong with liking food. by the way is he over weight? I know a friend of mines who didn't like food because they were over weight and they thought it was the enemy until they got some help from a therapy. maybe he needs to see one. I'm sorry but I tried to help.
He`s a loser.Get rid of him instead of subjecting yourself to a life of torment.
If he says your more in love with food then him hes crazy. He could be saying this because he is insecure with himself or he cares more about what you look like then what is on the inside. Either way not a good way to start a life together. You must get to the root of why he says what he does and make a determination on weather or not he is right for you. If he is going to be your husband he should love you for who you are and that means being in love with all your good features and your faults.
he is just making excuses,dont diet and get healthy for him,do it for yourself and tell him too get lost. he sounds very cruel and if you stay together he will put you down and critize you for the rest of your life.( which in return will cause you to gain alot of weight because he will put you in severe depression) be healthy and dump the asshole!
it really sound like you need to get a new man, he should
love you regardless of your weight, and if you have done
this which is great, i proud of you for that but it look like
he just does not appreciate what you have done. and trust
me it will be something else that he will have a problem with
time to look at what the real deal, and do what is best for
you.
I need some mature advice about my relationship!?
Ok I've been dating this guy for 5 years and I'm ready for marriage. Yes I know its just a piece of paper but I want a child. My profession %26amp; morals says I should have a child only in wed-lock.
So this is the situation: He knows I want to get married but if I mention it to him he changes the subject or makes a joke about it. Laughing at me or rolling his eyes. I know he loves me and our relationship is a normal happy one. We do have the occassional fight but that's just about it. He has told my sister that he can't see himself with anybody else. But this is so frustrating to me!! HELP! What should I do? Move on or be patient?
Thanks!I need some mature advice about my relationship!?
Maam, I am 22, married, and my wife just had our first baby about two weeks ago. I respect you for wanting this life. I too have a code of morals like unto yourself. I would suggest; try to talk to him, and if he does what you say he has already done, then try to sober him. I f he really loves you, he will listen to what you have to say. You need to have a conversation of soberness; you need to let your feelings come out in full so that he can see your seriousness. If you truley want it with all your heart, show it to him with tears. Remember, five years is an awful lot to throw away by moving on. Keep trying; be patient.I need some mature advice about my relationship!?
With some people, making a stand and developing serious comittments are a scary thing, or uncomfortable. It could be an internal desire to remain with you versus an external demand to remain with you. If we are wanting to be comitted then it comes from our own interests, where as if we are subjected to having a legal binding of comittment, then it becomes intimidating.
You should try to sit down and ask him why he is concerned about marrige. A good long talk between the both of you will be beneficial. Just remember to not take anything he has to say as means of defensiveness, cause if you do, he is liable to shut down, and not relay they real answer to why he has this unattachment in marriage. Let him do the talking, and it doesnt hurt to interject questions periodically throughout with short questions.
Now I am basing this on the fact that he does have real feelings for you.
Wow! You are patient. I think that he's maybe not the kind who wants to settle down. Also, I think it takes some guys a long, long time to see themselves with a family of their own. He may not be ready for kids just yet. After all, just because you may want kids right now doesn't mean he has to give up his right not to have them. You don't want to be selfish in your relationships, but if he's not ready to get married after 5 years, then you might be waiting for another 5, just hoping every day that maybe this will be the day that he'll be ready. It's a gamble, and it's all up to you.
Follow your heart,if u want to say him good luck and do it,if not you麓ll stay with the wish of tell him.
Honestly, if he isn't ready to walk down the isle, Montell Williams says that he never will. However, I have been with my guy for eleven years and we are just planning the wedding. There is nothing wrong with old fashion morals and values, heaven only knows that is so hard to find in an individual. Take a bow he is the lucky one. If he hasn't whisked you away in the next year perhaps it is time to set him straight. Sounds like any guy would be lucky to wed you and father your child.
Have patience and invite him for a dinner. Sit with him and seriously ask him about the future of your relationship and the plans he has towards that.
His answers to these questions will give you the decider.
tell him your serious. if he makes a joke press on about it. you need to let him know how serious you are about this. ask him about how he feels about it. does he not want to get married?is he not sure? these are things you need to know and dont let him off easy until you get an answer.
If he loves you, like he has said to you sister, he should be man enough not to be scared of marriage. Is there a past you do not know about? His parents or friends that were burned bad in a bad marriage, or something.
Does he really knom how serious you are about this? In sports lingo that he might be familiar with....It is time to step up to the plate.
As Dr. Phil would most likely tell ya.......he's afraid of commitment. Sure you can stick around another say........5 years, be in the same position, letting your life go by. It's not a ';normal'; relationship when he makes fun of the fact that you want to marry him and have a child! That's showing very little respect for your feelings. As tough as it might be, I'd move on. You'll get over the heart ache, but you'll never get over wasting anymore time on this bum!!
if you two are living together, chalk it up on the marriage thing. he feels he doesn't have to. if you two have been together for that long, maybe he is scared. try talking to him, even through the eyeball rolling and tell him how you feel. if he doesn't want to listen then leave. just tell him that you feel that your lives together would mean so much more if you two get married. time is short.
i thikn u should b patient,wait for a bit,if that don work make him understand wat u want and if he wont do that,then its ur choice to stay wit him or not
It sounds like he isn't ready for commitment, but you are. You might get commitment in time or you might not. I suggest you move on and hopefully this will wake him up.
As far as a child goes, I believe in marriage first, also. It's in everyone's best interest, especially the child's. I would prefer to hear the words '; I do'; before I hear ';push';.
Good luck.
you should sit him down and tell him how much u love him and cant live without him. then tell him that it means a lot to u to marry him and start a family with him, then just be patient but when u talk to him be dead serious and tell him its the most important thing in the world to u. i really hope it works!
It's been five years. What is he waiting for. Having sex before marriage is ok but getting pregnant isn't?
Fact is, you can't rush anybody into a marriage. I think he does love you but is just not ready. Maybe he's preparing himself for marriage as we speak, so don't rush him. I'm afraid that if you continue to ask him or mention it, you may pressure him and scare him off! Thats not good. I suggest that you wait and continue in making this relationship get better and stronger and deeper. Its the most sensible move right now.
thing is you maybe ready but seems like he's not?......marriage is a life time commentment......give him space.....spend the holidays w/family allow him to seek what it is he thinks he needs to find
Men, like myself, are afraid of commitment for some reason. Now, there's also the possibillity that he isn't ready for that commitment assuming the aforesaid is true. He's flaunting, and that's kind of a sign that you have to basically wait until he's ready. take personal note of his actions whenever you bring that subject up to him. Body language, ect., will tell you how afraid of it he is.
Just be patient he'll come around.
omg it sounds like he is not ready. if you really do love him you must take TIME to try and understand him. my gf pressures me way to much about marriage and it really pisses me off. the more confused he is the more likely he is to leave you. so just back off and if it was meant to happen it will
Sorry, it's not just a piece of paper. It's an exchange of vows, promises to each other. It's a committment. These mean something.
People who love each other are willing to do this. They make a committment to the other person. People who aren't willing to do this are usually thinking more of themselves, and contemplate a time when they might want out of the relationship without a hassle.
I'm not going to presume I know what's best for you to do. You already know and are seeking reassurance here.
Best of luck and a happy future to you.
Be patient! This guy clearly wants to be with you, he probably just needs more timeand i think you need 2 have a serious talk with him about why he hasnt been wanting to talk about this with you.
So this is the situation: He knows I want to get married but if I mention it to him he changes the subject or makes a joke about it. Laughing at me or rolling his eyes. I know he loves me and our relationship is a normal happy one. We do have the occassional fight but that's just about it. He has told my sister that he can't see himself with anybody else. But this is so frustrating to me!! HELP! What should I do? Move on or be patient?
Thanks!I need some mature advice about my relationship!?
Maam, I am 22, married, and my wife just had our first baby about two weeks ago. I respect you for wanting this life. I too have a code of morals like unto yourself. I would suggest; try to talk to him, and if he does what you say he has already done, then try to sober him. I f he really loves you, he will listen to what you have to say. You need to have a conversation of soberness; you need to let your feelings come out in full so that he can see your seriousness. If you truley want it with all your heart, show it to him with tears. Remember, five years is an awful lot to throw away by moving on. Keep trying; be patient.I need some mature advice about my relationship!?
With some people, making a stand and developing serious comittments are a scary thing, or uncomfortable. It could be an internal desire to remain with you versus an external demand to remain with you. If we are wanting to be comitted then it comes from our own interests, where as if we are subjected to having a legal binding of comittment, then it becomes intimidating.
You should try to sit down and ask him why he is concerned about marrige. A good long talk between the both of you will be beneficial. Just remember to not take anything he has to say as means of defensiveness, cause if you do, he is liable to shut down, and not relay they real answer to why he has this unattachment in marriage. Let him do the talking, and it doesnt hurt to interject questions periodically throughout with short questions.
Now I am basing this on the fact that he does have real feelings for you.
Wow! You are patient. I think that he's maybe not the kind who wants to settle down. Also, I think it takes some guys a long, long time to see themselves with a family of their own. He may not be ready for kids just yet. After all, just because you may want kids right now doesn't mean he has to give up his right not to have them. You don't want to be selfish in your relationships, but if he's not ready to get married after 5 years, then you might be waiting for another 5, just hoping every day that maybe this will be the day that he'll be ready. It's a gamble, and it's all up to you.
Follow your heart,if u want to say him good luck and do it,if not you麓ll stay with the wish of tell him.
Honestly, if he isn't ready to walk down the isle, Montell Williams says that he never will. However, I have been with my guy for eleven years and we are just planning the wedding. There is nothing wrong with old fashion morals and values, heaven only knows that is so hard to find in an individual. Take a bow he is the lucky one. If he hasn't whisked you away in the next year perhaps it is time to set him straight. Sounds like any guy would be lucky to wed you and father your child.
Have patience and invite him for a dinner. Sit with him and seriously ask him about the future of your relationship and the plans he has towards that.
His answers to these questions will give you the decider.
tell him your serious. if he makes a joke press on about it. you need to let him know how serious you are about this. ask him about how he feels about it. does he not want to get married?is he not sure? these are things you need to know and dont let him off easy until you get an answer.
If he loves you, like he has said to you sister, he should be man enough not to be scared of marriage. Is there a past you do not know about? His parents or friends that were burned bad in a bad marriage, or something.
Does he really knom how serious you are about this? In sports lingo that he might be familiar with....It is time to step up to the plate.
As Dr. Phil would most likely tell ya.......he's afraid of commitment. Sure you can stick around another say........5 years, be in the same position, letting your life go by. It's not a ';normal'; relationship when he makes fun of the fact that you want to marry him and have a child! That's showing very little respect for your feelings. As tough as it might be, I'd move on. You'll get over the heart ache, but you'll never get over wasting anymore time on this bum!!
if you two are living together, chalk it up on the marriage thing. he feels he doesn't have to. if you two have been together for that long, maybe he is scared. try talking to him, even through the eyeball rolling and tell him how you feel. if he doesn't want to listen then leave. just tell him that you feel that your lives together would mean so much more if you two get married. time is short.
i thikn u should b patient,wait for a bit,if that don work make him understand wat u want and if he wont do that,then its ur choice to stay wit him or not
It sounds like he isn't ready for commitment, but you are. You might get commitment in time or you might not. I suggest you move on and hopefully this will wake him up.
As far as a child goes, I believe in marriage first, also. It's in everyone's best interest, especially the child's. I would prefer to hear the words '; I do'; before I hear ';push';.
Good luck.
you should sit him down and tell him how much u love him and cant live without him. then tell him that it means a lot to u to marry him and start a family with him, then just be patient but when u talk to him be dead serious and tell him its the most important thing in the world to u. i really hope it works!
It's been five years. What is he waiting for. Having sex before marriage is ok but getting pregnant isn't?
Fact is, you can't rush anybody into a marriage. I think he does love you but is just not ready. Maybe he's preparing himself for marriage as we speak, so don't rush him. I'm afraid that if you continue to ask him or mention it, you may pressure him and scare him off! Thats not good. I suggest that you wait and continue in making this relationship get better and stronger and deeper. Its the most sensible move right now.
thing is you maybe ready but seems like he's not?......marriage is a life time commentment......give him space.....spend the holidays w/family allow him to seek what it is he thinks he needs to find
Men, like myself, are afraid of commitment for some reason. Now, there's also the possibillity that he isn't ready for that commitment assuming the aforesaid is true. He's flaunting, and that's kind of a sign that you have to basically wait until he's ready. take personal note of his actions whenever you bring that subject up to him. Body language, ect., will tell you how afraid of it he is.
Just be patient he'll come around.
omg it sounds like he is not ready. if you really do love him you must take TIME to try and understand him. my gf pressures me way to much about marriage and it really pisses me off. the more confused he is the more likely he is to leave you. so just back off and if it was meant to happen it will
Sorry, it's not just a piece of paper. It's an exchange of vows, promises to each other. It's a committment. These mean something.
People who love each other are willing to do this. They make a committment to the other person. People who aren't willing to do this are usually thinking more of themselves, and contemplate a time when they might want out of the relationship without a hassle.
I'm not going to presume I know what's best for you to do. You already know and are seeking reassurance here.
Best of luck and a happy future to you.
Be patient! This guy clearly wants to be with you, he probably just needs more timeand i think you need 2 have a serious talk with him about why he hasnt been wanting to talk about this with you.
Difficult Relationship Situation... need advice?
So before my girlfriend and I were ';officially'; together (but we were really serious and very close) she slept with her ex-boyfriend. She begged me to take her back and after days of her sobbing hysterically I told her maybe. We ended up getting together about a month later and have been dating for 10 months now. She's made a lot of progress regarding her ex, but refuses to completely cut off communication with him and has openly expressed that she still loves him, just different than she loves me. They talk maybe every three weeks.
Aside from this, our relationship is great. She makes me very happy. The problem is that I don't trust her after what she did. She promises she'd never do it again, but says I either need to accept her for who she is or leave her. I broke up with her two months into it because I decided I was still too angry and untrusting, but then she got me to take her back by promising she was over him. Turns out she wasn't really over him, she was just so sad about me that at the time she felt like she was.
So here I am, still mad that she slept with him and still not trusting. I stay awake at night, furious with myself that I was dumb enough to take her back and furious that she a) slept with him and b) still has feelings for him. In fact, I'm up right now because it keeps me from sleeping at night.
So.. any advice as to what I should do? I'm not really looking for ';just break up with her'; because I tried that and it made me miserable since she completely blamed me for ever taking her back and made me feel like complete s**t, though if its really the only option I suppose I could try again. I'm really looking to see how you forgive somebody for something like this, and how you forgive yourself for making a decision you regret. Because ultimately I feel she wasn't punished enough for what she did and I wish I could go back. ThanksDifficult Relationship Situation... need advice?
First of all, your feelings come before his! They need to. In her head she may justify keeping him around because she ';doesn't want to hurt him'; even though subconsciously its for another reason. Your feelings are less important than the sacrifice she refuses to make because she's keeping him the picture. Its not about you being controlling its about her not making up her d*** mind. Why hasn't she? Because she's not over him. She'll do the same to you if you broke up with her you let her. She sounds like a codependent girl who doesn't like being alone and keeps her ex around for comfort in an unstable relationship, like he's her plan b. Its extra male attention that fulfills a void. She's a wound that can't heal because the scab keeps getting ripped off. Don't be so harsh on yourself, betrayal isn't something that is meant to be shaken off lightly. At the same time, wanting her to suffer isn't something a man who is in love would wish upon his girl and that may be the issue...you may have never gotten a chance to fall in love with her because she has never been all yours. She's been partially yours and his and that's her decision. She can't get over what has never left! Don't feel stupid about anything. Everything happens for a reason even if its just to gain a miniature amount of knowledge. You know how she is and how she will be, you will not be able to change that. You're a man that knows what he wants, take charge of your life and stop waiting for this girl to become a woman.Difficult Relationship Situation... need advice?
Any one can have a single soul mate...So if she considers you as the special one in her life, why is she still considering her ex..I dont think her love is true...Ask her seriously, if she loves you or the other person? and maintain your relationship only if she says she loves you alone...
The best relationship is when two of you can discuss everything openly.
I guess I do not understand why she cannot remain friends with her ex. It is not like she is still dating him. She is just talking to him on the phone.
look for someone better ): or talk to her ex and tell him and back the hell off.
I think that the problem is that she cant le go of him and if she never does it will only end up hurting you more and more into your relationship.
I was in your girlfriend position a few years ago and it was because honestly.... I could not let go of my ex boyfriend and didnt want to be alone. Instead of just being alone i had another boyfriend and subconsciously used him to make me feel better about not being able to have you ex. She may love you very much too mate but she cant let go of him and obviously thinks about him lots if she cant stop missing him. If she is still seeing and talking to him she wont and cant let go...
You could always try going to speak to a councellor together to mediate an agreement and so u can both truly open up and express ur true feelings with the protection that the concellor there will calm things down before it gets out of hand.
I hope things work out mate :)
you need to let her go and let her know that you forgive her for brigging baggage and drama into ur life..if u dnt have trust u have no good relationship. the girl is clearly still dating both of you he knows it and ur the one being lied to i know alot of my female friends done it...not me tho. but there are so many pretty girls out there go on dates and live ur life till that special one comes and u will kno it bcuz u wont feel angry and sad with her
Your in a situation that i wish i will never be in. As i would be handling it exactly the same way you are.
I would break up, and stay broke up. Because the trust issue will never go away, she broke your heart once, and you obviously loved her alot or you wouldn't be this broken up about it. What if she cheats on you again? will you get angrier? depressed? and if she still feels something for this guy, then there is always the chance she'll cheat again.
There is no point in fouling yourself, once a cheater, always a cheater.
Before I got together with my ex his ex g/f cheated on him with someone. It made it sooo sooo sooo much harder for me, because every week he would accuse me of cheating. Or I get blamed for something SHE did.
Bottom line: Don't let this one make it harder on someone who actually geinuely cares and loves you
Your best advice is that you need to let her go being alone is better than having this bad feeling in your heart and stomach that she is a cheater.
She has given you evidnece of being a cheating and told you she still loves her ex that is a clear meaning that it can happen again. Don't listen to her guilt trips of putting you in the worng. She is the one who broke your trust.
The first couple of weeks is the worst because she is going to blow up your phone and confront you, but you need to trust someone and know they love you and not there ex. Be free from the stress and go have fun with your friends there are plenty of girl who would never cheat on you and treat you better than she ever could.
Lifes about choices if you choose to stay with her its your fault if she cheats again because you stayed.
If you leave you have the chance to change into a better person and she'll learn not to cheat.
Why are you with the ****? She is using you for her needs while going off to her ex lover boy. You can break up with her if you do it and stick to it. No phone calls, no emails, no contact. If you see her, you walk in the other direction. Change your number, everything.
By the way, a real and good girlfriend wouldn't be a cheating whore or talk to their ex.
Hmm.
Well i guess you could talk to her about how you feel.
And if it really does get to you maybe ask a female relative not
adult maybe someone whos been like this already.
But if it really gets to you i just wish and hope that she will proove to you about it
good luck
Lidz
tell her that she has to choose 1. either it's you either it's him - but be ready she might take him. so if she decides to choose him just throw her out of your life and let her be with that guy as I think if you wont then this will go on for ever and at some point she will sleep with him again.
and you will have something to say back to her if she asks you to be together again (like you choose him over me so leave me be and go get that guy).
just my opinion on this situation might save you some pain in the future.
have a nice day )
Trust is an integral part of a relationship. If you don't have that you cannot be happy with the person you are with. And if you are not happy, then why stay in the relationship?
You should just let her go. Chances are she has not learned how to deal with her past loves. I think she needs time by herself to sort out feelings and to move on.
You should move on as well. As this relationship is not going anywhere due lack of trust and uncertainty of feelings towards each other.
Hum...
She shouldnt be punished,that'll get you no where and if you have feelingsz for her and she has feelingsz for you than ya'll should at least try.I see where your coming from with the ex in the way,well i think she will get over him,becus for sum reason it takesz longer for woman to get over there feelingsz for people.If she wantsz to get baq with her ex than she will go...
But like I said try,dont just leave her,people make mistakesz(even HUGE onesz).
Hope I helped
xo
God bless
Aside from this, our relationship is great. She makes me very happy. The problem is that I don't trust her after what she did. She promises she'd never do it again, but says I either need to accept her for who she is or leave her. I broke up with her two months into it because I decided I was still too angry and untrusting, but then she got me to take her back by promising she was over him. Turns out she wasn't really over him, she was just so sad about me that at the time she felt like she was.
So here I am, still mad that she slept with him and still not trusting. I stay awake at night, furious with myself that I was dumb enough to take her back and furious that she a) slept with him and b) still has feelings for him. In fact, I'm up right now because it keeps me from sleeping at night.
So.. any advice as to what I should do? I'm not really looking for ';just break up with her'; because I tried that and it made me miserable since she completely blamed me for ever taking her back and made me feel like complete s**t, though if its really the only option I suppose I could try again. I'm really looking to see how you forgive somebody for something like this, and how you forgive yourself for making a decision you regret. Because ultimately I feel she wasn't punished enough for what she did and I wish I could go back. ThanksDifficult Relationship Situation... need advice?
First of all, your feelings come before his! They need to. In her head she may justify keeping him around because she ';doesn't want to hurt him'; even though subconsciously its for another reason. Your feelings are less important than the sacrifice she refuses to make because she's keeping him the picture. Its not about you being controlling its about her not making up her d*** mind. Why hasn't she? Because she's not over him. She'll do the same to you if you broke up with her you let her. She sounds like a codependent girl who doesn't like being alone and keeps her ex around for comfort in an unstable relationship, like he's her plan b. Its extra male attention that fulfills a void. She's a wound that can't heal because the scab keeps getting ripped off. Don't be so harsh on yourself, betrayal isn't something that is meant to be shaken off lightly. At the same time, wanting her to suffer isn't something a man who is in love would wish upon his girl and that may be the issue...you may have never gotten a chance to fall in love with her because she has never been all yours. She's been partially yours and his and that's her decision. She can't get over what has never left! Don't feel stupid about anything. Everything happens for a reason even if its just to gain a miniature amount of knowledge. You know how she is and how she will be, you will not be able to change that. You're a man that knows what he wants, take charge of your life and stop waiting for this girl to become a woman.Difficult Relationship Situation... need advice?
Any one can have a single soul mate...So if she considers you as the special one in her life, why is she still considering her ex..I dont think her love is true...Ask her seriously, if she loves you or the other person? and maintain your relationship only if she says she loves you alone...
The best relationship is when two of you can discuss everything openly.
I guess I do not understand why she cannot remain friends with her ex. It is not like she is still dating him. She is just talking to him on the phone.
look for someone better ): or talk to her ex and tell him and back the hell off.
I think that the problem is that she cant le go of him and if she never does it will only end up hurting you more and more into your relationship.
I was in your girlfriend position a few years ago and it was because honestly.... I could not let go of my ex boyfriend and didnt want to be alone. Instead of just being alone i had another boyfriend and subconsciously used him to make me feel better about not being able to have you ex. She may love you very much too mate but she cant let go of him and obviously thinks about him lots if she cant stop missing him. If she is still seeing and talking to him she wont and cant let go...
You could always try going to speak to a councellor together to mediate an agreement and so u can both truly open up and express ur true feelings with the protection that the concellor there will calm things down before it gets out of hand.
I hope things work out mate :)
you need to let her go and let her know that you forgive her for brigging baggage and drama into ur life..if u dnt have trust u have no good relationship. the girl is clearly still dating both of you he knows it and ur the one being lied to i know alot of my female friends done it...not me tho. but there are so many pretty girls out there go on dates and live ur life till that special one comes and u will kno it bcuz u wont feel angry and sad with her
Your in a situation that i wish i will never be in. As i would be handling it exactly the same way you are.
I would break up, and stay broke up. Because the trust issue will never go away, she broke your heart once, and you obviously loved her alot or you wouldn't be this broken up about it. What if she cheats on you again? will you get angrier? depressed? and if she still feels something for this guy, then there is always the chance she'll cheat again.
There is no point in fouling yourself, once a cheater, always a cheater.
Before I got together with my ex his ex g/f cheated on him with someone. It made it sooo sooo sooo much harder for me, because every week he would accuse me of cheating. Or I get blamed for something SHE did.
Bottom line: Don't let this one make it harder on someone who actually geinuely cares and loves you
Your best advice is that you need to let her go being alone is better than having this bad feeling in your heart and stomach that she is a cheater.
She has given you evidnece of being a cheating and told you she still loves her ex that is a clear meaning that it can happen again. Don't listen to her guilt trips of putting you in the worng. She is the one who broke your trust.
The first couple of weeks is the worst because she is going to blow up your phone and confront you, but you need to trust someone and know they love you and not there ex. Be free from the stress and go have fun with your friends there are plenty of girl who would never cheat on you and treat you better than she ever could.
Lifes about choices if you choose to stay with her its your fault if she cheats again because you stayed.
If you leave you have the chance to change into a better person and she'll learn not to cheat.
Why are you with the ****? She is using you for her needs while going off to her ex lover boy. You can break up with her if you do it and stick to it. No phone calls, no emails, no contact. If you see her, you walk in the other direction. Change your number, everything.
By the way, a real and good girlfriend wouldn't be a cheating whore or talk to their ex.
Hmm.
Well i guess you could talk to her about how you feel.
And if it really does get to you maybe ask a female relative not
adult maybe someone whos been like this already.
But if it really gets to you i just wish and hope that she will proove to you about it
good luck
Lidz
tell her that she has to choose 1. either it's you either it's him - but be ready she might take him. so if she decides to choose him just throw her out of your life and let her be with that guy as I think if you wont then this will go on for ever and at some point she will sleep with him again.
and you will have something to say back to her if she asks you to be together again (like you choose him over me so leave me be and go get that guy).
just my opinion on this situation might save you some pain in the future.
have a nice day )
Trust is an integral part of a relationship. If you don't have that you cannot be happy with the person you are with. And if you are not happy, then why stay in the relationship?
You should just let her go. Chances are she has not learned how to deal with her past loves. I think she needs time by herself to sort out feelings and to move on.
You should move on as well. As this relationship is not going anywhere due lack of trust and uncertainty of feelings towards each other.
Hum...
She shouldnt be punished,that'll get you no where and if you have feelingsz for her and she has feelingsz for you than ya'll should at least try.I see where your coming from with the ex in the way,well i think she will get over him,becus for sum reason it takesz longer for woman to get over there feelingsz for people.If she wantsz to get baq with her ex than she will go...
But like I said try,dont just leave her,people make mistakesz(even HUGE onesz).
Hope I helped
xo
God bless
Major relationship issues.. need advice/opinions soon! please help!?
Hello, my name is Lindsey- I know my username says Mike, that's my brother.
Anyway- I have been with my boyfriend for over five years. We are together every single day. We have a great relationship.. we are mean't for each other! We plan on getting engaged this year. We have talked about marriage a lot here lately.. I think HE is more excited than I am!
Anyway- here is the issue. I am pretty sure I am pregnant. I haven't taken a test yet due to weather in my town- can't get out!! I have a health condition that makes it hard for me to get pregnant. (Polycystic Ovary Syndrome) My boyfriend says that if I am pregnant to keep it... and he is overly super excited. I am SCARED to death. We both still live at home... His career is slow- he can't work during freezing temperatures.. and I just finished school.
I know for a fact I will marry this man at some point in my life.. and I really really do not want an abotion at ALL-- my family would absolutely freak if I kept the baby. (I do not know for sure if I am pregnant or not, but signs point to yes.) Money is super tight.. and I am the kind of person who hates asking for help, and money. My family isn't poor nor rich.. but I hate asking them for money. My boyfriends family owns a huge company that brings in millions each year- still.. I don't want to live off of someone else.
Here's the really big problem- while I still do not know for SURE.. my boyfriend really wants me to be pregnant.. We have still been having sex, and it seems like he is trying to ';fertilize the egg';.
I have talked to him about this, and I said it would be BETTER if we weren't pregnant, but it's OK if we are. We can make it. Why would he be trying so hard? He is already thinking of names and such!
Whats going on? What should I do? How can I let him know just how scared I am?Major relationship issues.. need advice/opinions soon! please help!?
Tell him how you feel. You should have a baby when you are ready. He needs to respect that.
If you are already pregnant, then research all of your options and make the decision YOU are most comfortable with.Major relationship issues.. need advice/opinions soon! please help!?
Tell him. That's the only way he can really know how scared you are. If you are pregnant you only have so many options: keep it, abort it, or give it up for adoption. I don't know you're age so I'm not going to give you my advice on what to do. My friend was in a similar situation and she kept it and is getting married and even though money is tight they are making it. If this is what you want and what he wants y'all will make it work. But the only thing you can do is lay all the cards on the table and tell him exactly how you feel. If you're relationship is going so well then he's probably really excited. A lot of guys want a baby but won't admit it and once you think you're pregnant they get more into it. Bottom line tell him everything you're feeling...and take the test cause there's a good chance it's a UTI or something.
Maybe things are moving a little to fast.
I think he is excited to be with you, but maybe its all a little too much.
be careful, some guys are selfish, they only care about one thing, having you for themselves, getting you pregnant may be his way of making sure you guys are together forever. think about what you want, no one other than yourself should make your choices for you.
i wish you the best.
I truly understand the situation that you are in. I want to have a baby and my girlfriend is pregnant right now I have been trying and trying to get her pregnant knowing our situation. We are in a interracial relationship and her parents have never heard about me and we been dating for 4 years. You see I knew the risks and she said something about about waiting and now she can't be more happy to be pregnant from me. She loves me and that's all that matters. He's doing it because he believes in his future with you and he wants everything out of life with you. If you truly feel in your heart that you want this then go for it but, if you don't feel it then talk to him about it. In the end just do for you two not for anyone else.
Anyway- I have been with my boyfriend for over five years. We are together every single day. We have a great relationship.. we are mean't for each other! We plan on getting engaged this year. We have talked about marriage a lot here lately.. I think HE is more excited than I am!
Anyway- here is the issue. I am pretty sure I am pregnant. I haven't taken a test yet due to weather in my town- can't get out!! I have a health condition that makes it hard for me to get pregnant. (Polycystic Ovary Syndrome) My boyfriend says that if I am pregnant to keep it... and he is overly super excited. I am SCARED to death. We both still live at home... His career is slow- he can't work during freezing temperatures.. and I just finished school.
I know for a fact I will marry this man at some point in my life.. and I really really do not want an abotion at ALL-- my family would absolutely freak if I kept the baby. (I do not know for sure if I am pregnant or not, but signs point to yes.) Money is super tight.. and I am the kind of person who hates asking for help, and money. My family isn't poor nor rich.. but I hate asking them for money. My boyfriends family owns a huge company that brings in millions each year- still.. I don't want to live off of someone else.
Here's the really big problem- while I still do not know for SURE.. my boyfriend really wants me to be pregnant.. We have still been having sex, and it seems like he is trying to ';fertilize the egg';.
I have talked to him about this, and I said it would be BETTER if we weren't pregnant, but it's OK if we are. We can make it. Why would he be trying so hard? He is already thinking of names and such!
Whats going on? What should I do? How can I let him know just how scared I am?Major relationship issues.. need advice/opinions soon! please help!?
Tell him how you feel. You should have a baby when you are ready. He needs to respect that.
If you are already pregnant, then research all of your options and make the decision YOU are most comfortable with.Major relationship issues.. need advice/opinions soon! please help!?
Tell him. That's the only way he can really know how scared you are. If you are pregnant you only have so many options: keep it, abort it, or give it up for adoption. I don't know you're age so I'm not going to give you my advice on what to do. My friend was in a similar situation and she kept it and is getting married and even though money is tight they are making it. If this is what you want and what he wants y'all will make it work. But the only thing you can do is lay all the cards on the table and tell him exactly how you feel. If you're relationship is going so well then he's probably really excited. A lot of guys want a baby but won't admit it and once you think you're pregnant they get more into it. Bottom line tell him everything you're feeling...and take the test cause there's a good chance it's a UTI or something.
Maybe things are moving a little to fast.
I think he is excited to be with you, but maybe its all a little too much.
be careful, some guys are selfish, they only care about one thing, having you for themselves, getting you pregnant may be his way of making sure you guys are together forever. think about what you want, no one other than yourself should make your choices for you.
i wish you the best.
I truly understand the situation that you are in. I want to have a baby and my girlfriend is pregnant right now I have been trying and trying to get her pregnant knowing our situation. We are in a interracial relationship and her parents have never heard about me and we been dating for 4 years. You see I knew the risks and she said something about about waiting and now she can't be more happy to be pregnant from me. She loves me and that's all that matters. He's doing it because he believes in his future with you and he wants everything out of life with you. If you truly feel in your heart that you want this then go for it but, if you don't feel it then talk to him about it. In the end just do for you two not for anyone else.
I just got out of a long term relationship-- I need advice! please?
Wednesday of last week, my boyfriends(weve been together 3 1/2 years) papaw passed away, which was completely unexpected. Saturday was the funeral, I talked to my bf after the funeral and he was fine, went golfing and said he'd call me later. He never called, which is NOT like him, we talk everyday. Sunday morning I talked to him, we fought a little about him not calling me and he said he couldn't deal with me right now, he just wanted to be alone for a while (like a week!) and deal with his papaws death! So I haven't talked to him since Sunday. This morning, Thrusday I called him around 10:30, he called back and I told him I just wanted to know how he was doing. He told me not good, that his other papaw just passed away yesterday. I gave him my condolences, and told him that I needed to talk to him that I can't just sit at home and wonder if we are still dating. That either way, if he wants to break up, thats fine with me I just need to know so I can move on with my life....I just got out of a long term relationship-- I need advice! please?
The only thing you can do is be there for him in this situation. Ya'll have been together for 3.5 years so you both have alot invested into this realtionship and I'm sure that you both love each other.
Right now he's had 2 deaths in a matter of a week and he needs time to grieve right now. Accept that this is extremely hard on him and be there for him. Dont bug him about not calling you, but be there when he needs to talk. Take him by something one day to make him feel a little better (like maybe his fav meal), but dont offer to stay. More than likely in a few weeks he will be able to sit down and talk with you about why he pushed you away. So if you stay there for him, he will realize that you care enough to stay %26amp; be there for him when he pushed you away.
Good Luck hun!I just got out of a long term relationship-- I need advice! please?
not sure what to tell you but good luck
you gotta give the guy as much space as possible.
you should have left him alone and given him his space. everybody deals with death in different ways. you should have respected that. instead you focused more on your self being left out. you owe him an apology.
try to enjoy life now you will make it you will see good luck
The only thing you can do is be there for him in this situation. Ya'll have been together for 3.5 years so you both have alot invested into this realtionship and I'm sure that you both love each other.
Right now he's had 2 deaths in a matter of a week and he needs time to grieve right now. Accept that this is extremely hard on him and be there for him. Dont bug him about not calling you, but be there when he needs to talk. Take him by something one day to make him feel a little better (like maybe his fav meal), but dont offer to stay. More than likely in a few weeks he will be able to sit down and talk with you about why he pushed you away. So if you stay there for him, he will realize that you care enough to stay %26amp; be there for him when he pushed you away.
Good Luck hun!I just got out of a long term relationship-- I need advice! please?
not sure what to tell you but good luck
you gotta give the guy as much space as possible.
you should have left him alone and given him his space. everybody deals with death in different ways. you should have respected that. instead you focused more on your self being left out. you owe him an apology.
try to enjoy life now you will make it you will see good luck
My relationship? Please, need advice!?
Ok, so I'm basically going to explain everything I can, but shorten it down. I met a lovely guy about a year ago, he's smart, funny and an incredible musician; we spent some lovely nights all cuddled up together. I'd just gotten out of a bad relationship, so he was such a breath of fresh air and to begin with I was a little wary, but I realise now those times were the most amazing. When he started contacting me less, mostly because of a new job, my paranoia and anxieties started kicking in. I spoke to him about this and he felt terrible and made an effort to change, but he's only been able to do this for short periods of time. Now we're a year on... so many of my friends have told me he loves me (as im starting to believe he doesnt) like the way he looks at me and they say we're perfect for each other. The lack of contact however is making me feel less of myself and whenever I want to meet up with him he's usually working or on the same night we hang out with all our friends. I miss our alone time, but I dont want to constantly nag him to text me back - he definitely works long hours and has a band so he's always busy. What should i do? i love this guy so much. (im 18 btw)My relationship? Please, need advice!?
Do you want the truth? Honestly, I don't think this guy is relationship material. You're always going to be second on his ';to do'; list. If you are ok with that, fine, but the smart woman tells him sorry, but this arrangement isn't working out. Then that woman moves on to newer and better things.
I'll tell you another thing, too. The first guy after a bad relationship is rarely, if ever, ';the one.'; You're probably wasting your time anyway.
p.s. The woman who ';lets things fall into place'; usually ends up sitting home alone watching Cameron Diaz movies by herself. The girl with the great boyfriend is the one with self-confidence that was proactive and went out there to find Mr. Right.
Good luck!My relationship? Please, need advice!?
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i totally feel the same way with someone else.
Im looking for songs that reflect this situation? can you help me?
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sorry i couldnt answer your question cause im currently going through it. all i can say is let things fall into place..
Hi Tennie, musicians time is really odd.
You can't suit his working hours.
You just never realize that when you go out and have
fun the MUSICIANS are actually working and
entertaining everyone.
He's a good guy but to splits his band for you might be hard for him to take.
well it is easy to get into routine as he is doing with his work and band he just needs to find a way to fit you in. He obviously likes you otherwise when you brought up the lack of time you were spending together he wouldn't have attempted to change it . . . I think you should try to meet up in his free time and him in yours, but then again you just have to stick it out, by the sounds of it he wont go long without you :):)
he loves you just a bit busy and if you are sure that he is working only and nothing else then he loves you a lot he is just a bit stressed or confused . i think you shud try to talk with him.eye creams
Do you want the truth? Honestly, I don't think this guy is relationship material. You're always going to be second on his ';to do'; list. If you are ok with that, fine, but the smart woman tells him sorry, but this arrangement isn't working out. Then that woman moves on to newer and better things.
I'll tell you another thing, too. The first guy after a bad relationship is rarely, if ever, ';the one.'; You're probably wasting your time anyway.
p.s. The woman who ';lets things fall into place'; usually ends up sitting home alone watching Cameron Diaz movies by herself. The girl with the great boyfriend is the one with self-confidence that was proactive and went out there to find Mr. Right.
Good luck!My relationship? Please, need advice!?
omgomgomg
i totally feel the same way with someone else.
Im looking for songs that reflect this situation? can you help me?
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
sorry i couldnt answer your question cause im currently going through it. all i can say is let things fall into place..
Hi Tennie, musicians time is really odd.
You can't suit his working hours.
You just never realize that when you go out and have
fun the MUSICIANS are actually working and
entertaining everyone.
He's a good guy but to splits his band for you might be hard for him to take.
well it is easy to get into routine as he is doing with his work and band he just needs to find a way to fit you in. He obviously likes you otherwise when you brought up the lack of time you were spending together he wouldn't have attempted to change it . . . I think you should try to meet up in his free time and him in yours, but then again you just have to stick it out, by the sounds of it he wont go long without you :):)
he loves you just a bit busy and if you are sure that he is working only and nothing else then he loves you a lot he is just a bit stressed or confused . i think you shud try to talk with him.
Any good advice on my relationship?
me and my girlfriend have been dating for two years and 8 months.i love her a lot but i guess you could say that our spark is very dim.i dont think about her as much as i used to.and if i didnt see her for like 4 days id be fine.i want the spark back cause i really want to show her that i havent lost interest in her cause its not that.i havent checked out a girl since weve been dating.and ive never had any thoughts about leaving her.please helpAny good advice on my relationship?
then dont see her for awhile, miss her, and the sparks will come flying backAny good advice on my relationship?
Honestly, you can't really control how you start feeling. but you can always try to be with her more often. do things that you wouldn't regularly do. if that makes any sense. you can always try talking to her about it. but if you don't wanna tell her Straight up you can always beat around the bush. %26amp; maybe you probably need time to miss her. you can honestly take any advise. but i'd prefer going with you heart, that's what counts in the end. good luck!
Do something fun together. You can also try to find something that requires team effort (indoor rock climbing is an example). If you have to work together with something, it helps with feeling closer. Do something spontaneous. I don't know if she enjoys adventure, but you can look for a place to go hiking, skydiving, or even something as simple as go karts. Do something other than the ';normal'; thing, like movies and dinner. Maybe after all your fun, you can plan a romantic night. Let her dress up. Maybe you'll be reminded of how much fun and how attractive she is to you.
The term ';spark'; was seriously just made up.
It has to do with physical desire, not emotional.
Not thinking about her as much is normal after a long period of time.
I'd say, if you've never had any thought about leaving her, then why would you?
then dont see her for awhile, miss her, and the sparks will come flying backAny good advice on my relationship?
Honestly, you can't really control how you start feeling. but you can always try to be with her more often. do things that you wouldn't regularly do. if that makes any sense. you can always try talking to her about it. but if you don't wanna tell her Straight up you can always beat around the bush. %26amp; maybe you probably need time to miss her. you can honestly take any advise. but i'd prefer going with you heart, that's what counts in the end. good luck!
Do something fun together. You can also try to find something that requires team effort (indoor rock climbing is an example). If you have to work together with something, it helps with feeling closer. Do something spontaneous. I don't know if she enjoys adventure, but you can look for a place to go hiking, skydiving, or even something as simple as go karts. Do something other than the ';normal'; thing, like movies and dinner. Maybe after all your fun, you can plan a romantic night. Let her dress up. Maybe you'll be reminded of how much fun and how attractive she is to you.
The term ';spark'; was seriously just made up.
It has to do with physical desire, not emotional.
Not thinking about her as much is normal after a long period of time.
I'd say, if you've never had any thought about leaving her, then why would you?
I need advice on my relationship please?
hi, im with my boyfriend nearly 2 years now, and we truly love eachother , but just lately we are non stop fighting,over the simplest of things,my boyfriend has a short temper and gets angry very easily and usually ends up telling me to leave the house and get out, then after he calms down he is really sorry and tells me how much he loves me and that he cant help his moods because he has mental depression as he calls it?? im just so confused what to do, i know i try my best and deserve to be treated better but i love him so much and never want us to break up ,I need advice on my relationship please?
thats how my ex was hint ';ex'; i know i deserve better and you do to bc he will always be yelling at you and then making an excuse and you dont need thatI need advice on my relationship please?
WELL IF HE LOVE U HE WOULDN'T FIGHT WITH U OR HE IS SEEING AN THERE GIRL K GOOD LUCK! THAT'S HOW I FIND OUT
Unfortunately ';just because you love someone does not make them right for you'; and love him as you may, it will not make his problems or illness any better.
Fact is, with age this illness will worsen, neither do things get better after marriage if a couple is not well suited for each other before hand. You also need to realize that depression can be passed on to off spring, a child can become so if they live with a person who openly suffers depressive episodes long enough, these things must be considered seriously before having children otherwise the pain of watching your kids go through the same is excruciating.
I am not saying to run for the hills, all i'm saying is for you to hit the net and all the books you can to learn what depression is all about, what studies have proved, etc.
It will also help you to understand him, help when you can, deal with him, decide on a future and know when enough is enough.
Having a bf with depression and living with someone who suffers from it is totally different. It will bring you down to the depth of dispair after a couple of years, you will feel inadequate and useless that you or your love can't help in the slightest of ways.
Depression is one thing, but anger is quite another and has very little if anything to do with depression...look into it, if your considering eventually marrying into it.
It's natural for couples to fight especially around the two year mark. The honeymoon period is over, little things start to annoy you that never used to and you stop caring just a little bit on how you talk to your ';other';. Not to mention you start to take each other for granted and forget the excitement of seeing each other only once or twice a week, especially if you're now living with your guy/girl.
The thing is, it's important to resolve this and learn together how to constructively deal with a disagreement. Yelling and screaming and kicking someone out of the house is a recipe for disaster. My Fianc茅 and I used to get so mad at each other when we were doing the simplest of tasks like moving a dresser.. because we both were horrible at communicating our thoughts to each other and got irked when the other couldn't read our mind. (silly I KNOW!) so we chose a time where we were both in a good mood, and had a lazy, relaxed afternoon in front of us, and we talked objectively, not accusingly, about how we could overcome this.
If your guy is truly sorry at the end of a fight, then gently suggest that maybe he should see a Dr about his ';depression'; before someone gets hurt. If he refuses and says he's fine, bring up not the issue of the last fight, but his apology and excuse of his ';depression'; causing his mood swings. If he's still not willing to get treatment, or at least talk to a professional, you have to ask yourself if you are happy. Ultimately... your happiness is the most important thing next to your well being. A good relationship should not hold you back nor should it make you lie awake at night wondering if you're doing the right thing. You can love the wrong person.... many people do. but if you can, and if you're ready... start really asking yourself why you are with him if he's not willing to get help for his anger for your sake if not his.
take care.
my boyfriend went through a phase of ';im not sure what i want'; only cuz the time period, was at 2 years. we had hit the ';what should we do to take it to the next level wall';....his temper is like that cuz his friends see you guys, they bust him about it. you probably know each others families. and to most men...if you're not just a booty call.....or a fling, then that is commitment.
honesty right now i am at the 5 year point and my bf walked out on my last week. you have to give him space....and if he leaves, it shows he didn't want to be with you in the first place.
i am learning that the hard way. i dint want to throw 5 years down the drain. and when the 2 year point came, i didn't want to lose him then either.....if all else fails let him go, if he comes back, its cuz he learned..if he doesn't.....you didn't waste your time with someone who didn't love you enough to understand you wanted him to stay.....
Next time he does it.....Actually leave for a cuple of days-go hang with a friend or whatever. Dont call him-dont answer his calls for a few days and dont let him know where you are. One of these will happen...
1. He comes looking for you and actually finds you-this will be good cuz he cared so much he had to make sure you were ok. Still do not go home with him until you both have clearly talked about his stink *** temper and that next time if he didnt want to lose you it would be for good.
2. He calls you non stop- cant find you. It will drive him crazy and he will miss you so much he will not want it to happen again. Still have the long talk when you get home a few days later.
3. He doesnt call or look for you. He didnt care that much to make sure you were alive?! Dont go back to him ever
thats how my ex was hint ';ex'; i know i deserve better and you do to bc he will always be yelling at you and then making an excuse and you dont need thatI need advice on my relationship please?
WELL IF HE LOVE U HE WOULDN'T FIGHT WITH U OR HE IS SEEING AN THERE GIRL K GOOD LUCK! THAT'S HOW I FIND OUT
Unfortunately ';just because you love someone does not make them right for you'; and love him as you may, it will not make his problems or illness any better.
Fact is, with age this illness will worsen, neither do things get better after marriage if a couple is not well suited for each other before hand. You also need to realize that depression can be passed on to off spring, a child can become so if they live with a person who openly suffers depressive episodes long enough, these things must be considered seriously before having children otherwise the pain of watching your kids go through the same is excruciating.
I am not saying to run for the hills, all i'm saying is for you to hit the net and all the books you can to learn what depression is all about, what studies have proved, etc.
It will also help you to understand him, help when you can, deal with him, decide on a future and know when enough is enough.
Having a bf with depression and living with someone who suffers from it is totally different. It will bring you down to the depth of dispair after a couple of years, you will feel inadequate and useless that you or your love can't help in the slightest of ways.
Depression is one thing, but anger is quite another and has very little if anything to do with depression...look into it, if your considering eventually marrying into it.
It's natural for couples to fight especially around the two year mark. The honeymoon period is over, little things start to annoy you that never used to and you stop caring just a little bit on how you talk to your ';other';. Not to mention you start to take each other for granted and forget the excitement of seeing each other only once or twice a week, especially if you're now living with your guy/girl.
The thing is, it's important to resolve this and learn together how to constructively deal with a disagreement. Yelling and screaming and kicking someone out of the house is a recipe for disaster. My Fianc茅 and I used to get so mad at each other when we were doing the simplest of tasks like moving a dresser.. because we both were horrible at communicating our thoughts to each other and got irked when the other couldn't read our mind. (silly I KNOW!) so we chose a time where we were both in a good mood, and had a lazy, relaxed afternoon in front of us, and we talked objectively, not accusingly, about how we could overcome this.
If your guy is truly sorry at the end of a fight, then gently suggest that maybe he should see a Dr about his ';depression'; before someone gets hurt. If he refuses and says he's fine, bring up not the issue of the last fight, but his apology and excuse of his ';depression'; causing his mood swings. If he's still not willing to get treatment, or at least talk to a professional, you have to ask yourself if you are happy. Ultimately... your happiness is the most important thing next to your well being. A good relationship should not hold you back nor should it make you lie awake at night wondering if you're doing the right thing. You can love the wrong person.... many people do. but if you can, and if you're ready... start really asking yourself why you are with him if he's not willing to get help for his anger for your sake if not his.
take care.
my boyfriend went through a phase of ';im not sure what i want'; only cuz the time period, was at 2 years. we had hit the ';what should we do to take it to the next level wall';....his temper is like that cuz his friends see you guys, they bust him about it. you probably know each others families. and to most men...if you're not just a booty call.....or a fling, then that is commitment.
honesty right now i am at the 5 year point and my bf walked out on my last week. you have to give him space....and if he leaves, it shows he didn't want to be with you in the first place.
i am learning that the hard way. i dint want to throw 5 years down the drain. and when the 2 year point came, i didn't want to lose him then either.....if all else fails let him go, if he comes back, its cuz he learned..if he doesn't.....you didn't waste your time with someone who didn't love you enough to understand you wanted him to stay.....
Next time he does it.....Actually leave for a cuple of days-go hang with a friend or whatever. Dont call him-dont answer his calls for a few days and dont let him know where you are. One of these will happen...
1. He comes looking for you and actually finds you-this will be good cuz he cared so much he had to make sure you were ok. Still do not go home with him until you both have clearly talked about his stink *** temper and that next time if he didnt want to lose you it would be for good.
2. He calls you non stop- cant find you. It will drive him crazy and he will miss you so much he will not want it to happen again. Still have the long talk when you get home a few days later.
3. He doesnt call or look for you. He didnt care that much to make sure you were alive?! Dont go back to him ever
I need advice on my relationship?
Im 18 and my girlfriend is 17 we have been dating for almost 2 years... Recently i was bored while she was out of town. I got on her email and i noticed a new email i went to it and it was a guy from canada and he was 19.... she claims it was a story (which looked like it) and he was helping her with this problem which thats how they were fixing making a story about twilight and stuff stupid... and she does have this problem kinda weird problem. So her and this guy have been talking for 3 months and its been about two weeks and she wants me to stop bringing it up and all our arguments are over this. I just need advice because i love her to death and im having trust issues with her i dont want to dump her but its getting to a point where shes treating me like crap.. i just want to know if i can trust her againI need advice on my relationship?
How can she trust that you won't go snooping in her email again?...
It takes two to tango...
How can she trust that you won't go snooping in her email again?...
It takes two to tango...
Need love advice - in a relationship with a guy who hasnt eva had a serious girlfriend?
Well for the past couple of months i've been seeing this guy n recently we decided to have a serious relationship. When we're together everything is great, he makes me feel so special. However, he's been working really long nightshift 6 days a week so i cant c him during the week n when i dont c him he doesnt even call but he does sms me usually once a day n when he asks wot im doin on sat nyt (his nyt off) its not as if we're in a relationship, its more ';what r u doin, im prob gonna do this';.
We're 20 and this is his first serious relationship but bcos im use 2 being with an older guy his not calling me n not making plans with me really annoys me.
He tells me he loves me but i think its just lust bcos he hasnt had what he has with me with any other girls b4.
What should i do? i really like him but cant keep going on like this.
Plz help. thankyouNeed love advice - in a relationship with a guy who hasnt eva had a serious girlfriend?
I recommend you to read this free E-book called 97 Steps To A Happy Relationship. It's a free and easy download, so it won't hurt to check it out.Need love advice - in a relationship with a guy who hasnt eva had a serious girlfriend?
Well,Babe. Relationships like this are alittle flimsy. What you need to do is confront your boyfriend and demand that he shows his love for you. Ask him to take you out. You are not at fault,My dear. It sounds that you are in love with a thinker not a do-er. This would be alright if you two were teenagers. But if you are serious with this guy,You deserve someone that can express love physically. Someone that can hug you,Can kiss you,Dance with you,Romance with you. Show you the loving that you deserve,That you desire. I know that I might not be that person. Your boyfriend can be if he would just grow himself a backbone as well as a pair of grapefruits. You are a very sweet young woman and deserve some respect as well as some loving. I just hope I have helped you out in some way. If not,I deeply apologize. Have a goodnight and sweet dreams now. Bye.
talk to him about it... say close to what u just said to him and he should understand...
Are you just trying to have a serious relationship with any guy or just with him? What do you want in a serious relationship? Do you feel that this guy will protect the main thing that you cherish....your heart? If this guy was sick, hurt or lost his job would you want to help with his struggles, so that both you survive? Would he want to do the same? Do you both want to have children together?
A good test is let him text you and call you for 3 days but do not contact him until the third day. Tell him you lost you job because you have been sick. You still have this flu or what ever and you had to go to the Doctor.
Then see what he says? If you says that he wants to help and take care you. Then say thank you and you appreciate it but your family is taking care of you and you will see him next week. Then next week you tell him you got your job back and you give him a big kiss. If he doesn't say anything like that then he is just happy that he has a girl friend that will give him some booty.
if he says he loves you than just sit down and talk to him.
tell him how you feel.
We're 20 and this is his first serious relationship but bcos im use 2 being with an older guy his not calling me n not making plans with me really annoys me.
He tells me he loves me but i think its just lust bcos he hasnt had what he has with me with any other girls b4.
What should i do? i really like him but cant keep going on like this.
Plz help. thankyouNeed love advice - in a relationship with a guy who hasnt eva had a serious girlfriend?
I recommend you to read this free E-book called 97 Steps To A Happy Relationship. It's a free and easy download, so it won't hurt to check it out.Need love advice - in a relationship with a guy who hasnt eva had a serious girlfriend?
Well,Babe. Relationships like this are alittle flimsy. What you need to do is confront your boyfriend and demand that he shows his love for you. Ask him to take you out. You are not at fault,My dear. It sounds that you are in love with a thinker not a do-er. This would be alright if you two were teenagers. But if you are serious with this guy,You deserve someone that can express love physically. Someone that can hug you,Can kiss you,Dance with you,Romance with you. Show you the loving that you deserve,That you desire. I know that I might not be that person. Your boyfriend can be if he would just grow himself a backbone as well as a pair of grapefruits. You are a very sweet young woman and deserve some respect as well as some loving. I just hope I have helped you out in some way. If not,I deeply apologize. Have a goodnight and sweet dreams now. Bye.
talk to him about it... say close to what u just said to him and he should understand...
Are you just trying to have a serious relationship with any guy or just with him? What do you want in a serious relationship? Do you feel that this guy will protect the main thing that you cherish....your heart? If this guy was sick, hurt or lost his job would you want to help with his struggles, so that both you survive? Would he want to do the same? Do you both want to have children together?
A good test is let him text you and call you for 3 days but do not contact him until the third day. Tell him you lost you job because you have been sick. You still have this flu or what ever and you had to go to the Doctor.
Then see what he says? If you says that he wants to help and take care you. Then say thank you and you appreciate it but your family is taking care of you and you will see him next week. Then next week you tell him you got your job back and you give him a big kiss. If he doesn't say anything like that then he is just happy that he has a girl friend that will give him some booty.
if he says he loves you than just sit down and talk to him.
tell him how you feel.
Girls, Guys, advice on new relationship?
Ok so this girl that I have been crushing over for like 6 months finally very randomly said hey I wanna give this a chance. She has givin us a chance once before and it lasted like a day cause she was so hesitant about it....anyways... she told me that she thought about it all the time and everything seemed to be telling her to give us a try so she did...when she said this I was overjoyed...I haven't hung out with her yet and I don't want to screw it up. What can I do to eventually go out with her? How can I make her less hesitant? What she we do the next time we hang out?Girls, Guys, advice on new relationship?
ok y dont yall get a couple of your friends and go to the movies see how that works out hold her bags listen to her...all that crap that she might like then talk to her about new movies that are out and which one she wants to see... in a calm casual voice ask her if she wants to see it with you....just the two of you then if she really had a good time she will be less hesitant........and just take it from there!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! hope it helps%26lt;3%26lt;3%26lt;3 GOOD LUCK!%26lt;3Girls, Guys, advice on new relationship?
I dunno. I can't tell the future.
ok y dont yall get a couple of your friends and go to the movies see how that works out hold her bags listen to her...all that crap that she might like then talk to her about new movies that are out and which one she wants to see... in a calm casual voice ask her if she wants to see it with you....just the two of you then if she really had a good time she will be less hesitant........and just take it from there!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! hope it helps%26lt;3%26lt;3%26lt;3 GOOD LUCK!%26lt;3Girls, Guys, advice on new relationship?
I dunno. I can't tell the future.
Need some advice on my relationship.... 24/m?
hey guys.
iv been going out with my girl friend for 3 months now shes 24 and we hardly ever have sex we spend like 4-5 nights a week together all night and see each other about 6 times a week id be lucky to get sex once a week.
i try to put the moves on all the time. im not biging my self tho im pretty shore im alright with the moves..
does she just not like sex???
any ideas on what i should do??? its frustrating the **** out off me.. ps she told me when she first meet me she loves giving head STILL NO HEAD.. iv done it to her plenty...... HELP..
.i really like this one altho we we should be making love all the time its healthy,,,,,Need some advice on my relationship.... 24/m?
I was in a relationship similar to this once. Come to find out, she really did like to have a lot of sex, just not 100% of it with me haha. It's easy for me to say ';just talk to her about it'; because I'm not in your shoes. I know it's a really touchy subject, but DO NOT automatically think she is cheating. I guess one easy way to keep a defensive response would be to ask her if it's something you are/aren't doing to satisfy her. That way you aren't pointing a finger at her and saying ';well you said you liked to give head.....'; kinda thing. This also lets her know you are considering her side of the situation.Need some advice on my relationship.... 24/m?
u need to talk to her...d best way u convey ur opinion and needs u will get d best solutions..don't get frustrated...try to understand what she actually requires...eye creams
iv been going out with my girl friend for 3 months now shes 24 and we hardly ever have sex we spend like 4-5 nights a week together all night and see each other about 6 times a week id be lucky to get sex once a week.
i try to put the moves on all the time. im not biging my self tho im pretty shore im alright with the moves..
does she just not like sex???
any ideas on what i should do??? its frustrating the **** out off me.. ps she told me when she first meet me she loves giving head STILL NO HEAD.. iv done it to her plenty...... HELP..
.i really like this one altho we we should be making love all the time its healthy,,,,,Need some advice on my relationship.... 24/m?
I was in a relationship similar to this once. Come to find out, she really did like to have a lot of sex, just not 100% of it with me haha. It's easy for me to say ';just talk to her about it'; because I'm not in your shoes. I know it's a really touchy subject, but DO NOT automatically think she is cheating. I guess one easy way to keep a defensive response would be to ask her if it's something you are/aren't doing to satisfy her. That way you aren't pointing a finger at her and saying ';well you said you liked to give head.....'; kinda thing. This also lets her know you are considering her side of the situation.Need some advice on my relationship.... 24/m?
u need to talk to her...d best way u convey ur opinion and needs u will get d best solutions..don't get frustrated...try to understand what she actually requires...
Need some advice on a relationship?
allright i been talking with a girl that is younger then me we haven't done anything but people have found out and everything is a big mess... i've allready said goodbye and i was to old this wont work out but for some reason after all this stuff has went down i still get emails saying she loves me but we fight about dumb things and says hope u die all this stuff but when i see the email i cant ignore it i just have to write back... and our families like hate each other now but she still tells me she loves me and im not really sure what to do...as im honestly way to old but like i cant ignore can some one please give me some advice .. thank youNeed some advice on a relationship?
if she's a jail bait... wait til she's legal.Need some advice on a relationship?
i think u should tell her u want to break up.
thats a very very unhealthy relationship.
if your families hate each other then theres no way
anything's going to come out of your relationship.
and dont get another girlfriend before u told that other girl u broke up with her. if u need any frther advice,
i recomend this book.
it's called 6 Decisions a giude for teens.
1st of all she doesn't love you... shes too young and does not know what love is especially by telling you hope u die... you dont tell that to anyone... especially to someone you love... she doesn't love you she just misses you thats all.... theres three things you can do... wait for her or sneak your things with her or simply let her go... its all up to you
Go with her !! all the way !!
She sounds real immature. Like you said, you are too old to be dealing with this drama that you're putting up with. There's nothing here that says that the girl is worth keeping.
You sound stubborn, like you have to get the last word in arguments. LOL What you should do is ';block'; her email so that you don't know when you get messages from her. That will make it easy to ignore her.
Also, think about this: if you keep repling to her then you might end up with a stalker.
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if she's a jail bait... wait til she's legal.Need some advice on a relationship?
i think u should tell her u want to break up.
thats a very very unhealthy relationship.
if your families hate each other then theres no way
anything's going to come out of your relationship.
and dont get another girlfriend before u told that other girl u broke up with her. if u need any frther advice,
i recomend this book.
it's called 6 Decisions a giude for teens.
1st of all she doesn't love you... shes too young and does not know what love is especially by telling you hope u die... you dont tell that to anyone... especially to someone you love... she doesn't love you she just misses you thats all.... theres three things you can do... wait for her or sneak your things with her or simply let her go... its all up to you
Go with her !! all the way !!
She sounds real immature. Like you said, you are too old to be dealing with this drama that you're putting up with. There's nothing here that says that the girl is worth keeping.
You sound stubborn, like you have to get the last word in arguments. LOL What you should do is ';block'; her email so that you don't know when you get messages from her. That will make it easy to ignore her.
Also, think about this: if you keep repling to her then you might end up with a stalker.
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I need advice about my relationship?
I've been dating my boyfriend for two years and recently he asked me to marry him but when I said yes I failed to tell him that I plan on going off to college in Virginia, where we live it's rare for girls to go to college and most guys end up going in the fishing business since where we live is a fishing town and most of us end up marrying our high school sweethearts so that's what it was always assumed that I would do. But I decided I want to go to college and do something that would possibly take me out of town because unless you want to be a nurse or a teacher (which I don't) there aren't many careers here for women. Anyway, I finally told him I want to go off to school and he got pissed off about! Now, he's making me chose between going to school or him because he doesn't see how it's going to work with him working here (he graduated last year and is already working for his dad's fish business). But I want to marry him but after college though. What do I do?I need advice about my relationship?
I think you are about to have a serious chat with your sweetheart.
If he loves you he can't stop you from going for career. in a long run you are doing this for both of you and that is what he should realise and understand. You are best of to sit him down and talk him through it, explain that you want to be someone in life and make a lot of money so you have a good future together and the only way is to go and study elswhere. i can imagine how hard it must be for him to let you go ( i guess i would be sad too) but if you stay just for him you may regret it later on in life
I think you are about to have a serious chat with your sweetheart.
If he loves you he can't stop you from going for career. in a long run you are doing this for both of you and that is what he should realise and understand. You are best of to sit him down and talk him through it, explain that you want to be someone in life and make a lot of money so you have a good future together and the only way is to go and study elswhere. i can imagine how hard it must be for him to let you go ( i guess i would be sad too) but if you stay just for him you may regret it later on in life
I need advice on the relationship between me and my girlfriend, I'm real confused and don't know what to do.
I really love my girlfriend, so much. My problem is that she likes to dance at clubs and with other guys. I have no problem with her dancing, I knew when I asked her out that, and when I started getting to know her that she liked dancing. The problem here is that she wants to dance with other guys, not strangers, supposedly they're good friends... I still can't help being jealous and bothered by the fact that she's dancing with other guys. When I told her that I don't like the idea of her going out to the clubs and dancing with other guys, she takes it the wrong way. She thinks I don't trust her, and that's not it. I trust her, I just don't trust the other guys, I don't know them, and even if I did, I'm still going to get jealous. I know how guys are, I know some of them think. To me, it doesn't seem like I'm asking for much. I just don't want her going to the clubs and to not dance with other guys. I'm not telling her to stop dancing. I don't know what to do, I'm confused.I need advice on the relationship between me and my girlfriend, I'm real confused and don't know what to do.
hey , wow this is the same satuation my friend had with his gf . he used to trust her so much . but she was going to clubs and she was dansing with other guys right in fron of him. well basicly they are in the same satuating as u . but later on she got drunk and she cheated on her bf she slept with diffrens t pp and then she slpet with his younger cousin and whne he found out he just stoped trusting her. but when he told her that he dosnetw ant her to go to clubs she almost broke up with hi. what you should do is get to know the guys , and when she is dancing with them make sure its not like really close u know what i mean. but everyone gets jealous and belive it or not every guy is going to be hitting on ur girl whether shes dansing with them or walking in the park. its hard but yoiu just got to watch what it doesI need advice on the relationship between me and my girlfriend, I'm real confused and don't know what to do.
Aight my dude her is a perfect answer for that from someone with experience and I'm only 21 well its in our nature to get mad or jealous its nothing but in your case dint hound her let her have her freedom . When it is all said and done who is she coming back home to and then you with the trust issue if there is no trust then what are u in it for just being truth full OK no harm or anything intended alright
You better get over being jealous or else learn to dance more, because women love to dance. Simple? She's wanting fun for as long as she can get it in an innocent way and sees no problem with it since she's not giving in to other guys.
i understand what you are feeling right now. Me and my bf are arguing that one. He cant deal that I have guy friends so I gave up that for him. ONe of you have t sacrifice. Either understand her that she is really like that, that dancing with guys is not an issue but you are the issue because you cant trust her guy friends or you have to tell her to stop because you dont think its right. I dont mind my bf having girl friends but he do mind me having guy friends, so I just gave it up to show him that our relationship is more important. You two need to talk and one of you have to sacrifice
Hey, the only thing you should be worried about is that she caves in when I guy hits on her. So you don't actually trust her. Guys will hit on your girlfriend whether she is dancing with them or she is just out taking a walk. If these guys she is dancing with are friends, they won't hit on her since they should know that she has a boyfriend. So she is safer dancing with them than if she meets strangers.
Get To Know The Guys! Who Knows Maybe They Could Be Your Friend Later On! Trust Her!! She Can Take Care Of Herself...She Is Big Enough To Take Care Of Herself!!
hey , wow this is the same satuation my friend had with his gf . he used to trust her so much . but she was going to clubs and she was dansing with other guys right in fron of him. well basicly they are in the same satuating as u . but later on she got drunk and she cheated on her bf she slept with diffrens t pp and then she slpet with his younger cousin and whne he found out he just stoped trusting her. but when he told her that he dosnetw ant her to go to clubs she almost broke up with hi. what you should do is get to know the guys , and when she is dancing with them make sure its not like really close u know what i mean. but everyone gets jealous and belive it or not every guy is going to be hitting on ur girl whether shes dansing with them or walking in the park. its hard but yoiu just got to watch what it doesI need advice on the relationship between me and my girlfriend, I'm real confused and don't know what to do.
Aight my dude her is a perfect answer for that from someone with experience and I'm only 21 well its in our nature to get mad or jealous its nothing but in your case dint hound her let her have her freedom . When it is all said and done who is she coming back home to and then you with the trust issue if there is no trust then what are u in it for just being truth full OK no harm or anything intended alright
You better get over being jealous or else learn to dance more, because women love to dance. Simple? She's wanting fun for as long as she can get it in an innocent way and sees no problem with it since she's not giving in to other guys.
i understand what you are feeling right now. Me and my bf are arguing that one. He cant deal that I have guy friends so I gave up that for him. ONe of you have t sacrifice. Either understand her that she is really like that, that dancing with guys is not an issue but you are the issue because you cant trust her guy friends or you have to tell her to stop because you dont think its right. I dont mind my bf having girl friends but he do mind me having guy friends, so I just gave it up to show him that our relationship is more important. You two need to talk and one of you have to sacrifice
Hey, the only thing you should be worried about is that she caves in when I guy hits on her. So you don't actually trust her. Guys will hit on your girlfriend whether she is dancing with them or she is just out taking a walk. If these guys she is dancing with are friends, they won't hit on her since they should know that she has a boyfriend. So she is safer dancing with them than if she meets strangers.
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im wanting to date this woman who lives with her 19 yr old niece (both from mexico, they dont speak english). ive gotten the vibe that the niece doesnt like me. they also share a phone together. So I hit up the aunt to ask her out sunday. she told me she might not be home sunday but i hit her up anyway with a text. i had a feeling that she might not be there, so her niece would read my text. so i texted her this: ';hey is ur aunt there?'; ive never talked to her via text before so i just assumed she was reading them. the niece texted back and told me ';yes shes coming back tuesday but u know she has a bf dont give her problems calling her.'; now before this text the aunt and i had a date set for thursday (she asked me out) and i was chill until i got this wierd text from her niece. I texted back: ';sry if i caused any problems shes didnt tell me she had a bf'; and she texted back ';she didnt tell you bc she felt bad about not telling you not to talk to her anymore.'; is the niece bs'ing me??Need free advice on my relationship asap?
I would try to talk to your girl, if the niece doesnt like you she could very well be bs'ing you. Dont' be too interested if your worried, just be friendly with agenda until youfind out for sure. Good luck!!Need free advice on my relationship asap?
Yeah, probably. Someone is bs'ing you! Either the niece is trying to ruin the potential relationship, or the aunt really does have a bf. Either way, I'd stop this before it goes any further... Sorry! Good luck!
this looks like the beginning of a horror film
I would try to talk to your girl, if the niece doesnt like you she could very well be bs'ing you. Dont' be too interested if your worried, just be friendly with agenda until youfind out for sure. Good luck!!Need free advice on my relationship asap?
Yeah, probably. Someone is bs'ing you! Either the niece is trying to ruin the potential relationship, or the aunt really does have a bf. Either way, I'd stop this before it goes any further... Sorry! Good luck!
this looks like the beginning of a horror film
Please help, need your advice on my relationship problem.?
Bare with me please. My fiance and I have been together now for a little over 4 years. About 1 year into the relationship we would fight a lot about my weight...which was understandable because I weighed 145 lbs. at only 5 feet tall (I gained 30 lbs. in 1 yr.) at this rate I would have been obese. I've lost weight (now 121 lbs) and my boyfriend is trying to stay supportive, however...here's the real issue and the thing we might break up over. He thinks I'm in love with food more than I am with him. I told him how could this be true when I've giving up completely a lot of bad foods, now I eat healthy (for the past year) and work out 3-5 times per week. He says I'm more excited for food them him. I do have a passion for food but I now control my cravings and eat sensibly, I have to admit when I see cheesecake or cookies my face does light up but I find a healthier alternative and forget all about the cookies. I'm still in the process of losing weight so my fiance hates this andPlease help, need your advice on my relationship problem.?
I dont think he could care for you if he wants to break up over food. I could understand said he wants you to lose weight to be healthier. He should be happy that you have done all that you have already for him. And even thought your face lights up when you see a cookie of cheese cake, he should be happy your not eating those things. He should make losing weight harder on you by saying things like that. He should understand that it is hard to give foods that you love, to eat healthier and lose weight. I think you should talk to him about this, and tell him how you feel. And try to make him understand that it has been hard to give up the foods the you enjoy eating. And that you did it for him. If he can't understand that, then I don't think you two should be together anyways.
And congrats on losing the weight you have. I know how hard it can be. And good luck on all future weight loss.Please help, need your advice on my relationship problem.?
Hon, u can either spend the rest of ur life trying to please someone who will always come up w/something negative about what u do, or u can move on, be happy with yourself and who u are, and find someone who loves you for who you are, and accepts u for that. If u are a giving and loving person(that doesnt mean doormat who gives up themselves for others needs) then u will find someone worthy of u...go w/your gut and dont settle...yeah for u, it's time to stand up and tell him to kiss your cheesecake happy booty goodbye. If u change who u are, you will never be happy, not worth it at all, take it from someone who knows -- 1st marriage was a disaster!! Now, I have a lovely man who cares for me, even though I am totally disorganized, lose my keys and the cell phone on a constant basis, and I am nuts on a good day. :) that's worth all the work that goes into our marriage, no matter how many times I have to put the seat down in the bathroom!
I'm sorry to ask this but are you kiddie your boyfriend is jealous of food. I never hear of that one before. but it looks like you have proved that you love him more then food. I mean you lost weight. your eating healthier, and you work out 3 times a week. what does he want a skinny woman who's all bony and naughty looking? (there's nothing wrong with women being then but sometimes to thin isn't health and seeing your bones through your skin isn't pretty looking either. just case someone gets offended by this I'm sorry.) you need to tell him that you have prove to him that you love him and he needs to except it. there's nothing wrong with liking food. by the way is he over weight? I know a friend of mines who didn't like food because they were over weight and they thought it was the enemy until they got some help from a therapy. maybe he needs to see one. I'm sorry but I tried to help.
He`s a loser.Get rid of him instead of subjecting yourself to a life of torment.
If he says your more in love with food then him hes crazy. He could be saying this because he is insecure with himself or he cares more about what you look like then what is on the inside. Either way not a good way to start a life together. You must get to the root of why he says what he does and make a determination on weather or not he is right for you. If he is going to be your husband he should love you for who you are and that means being in love with all your good features and your faults.
he is just making excuses,dont diet and get healthy for him,do it for yourself and tell him too get lost. he sounds very cruel and if you stay together he will put you down and critize you for the rest of your life.( which in return will cause you to gain alot of weight because he will put you in severe depression) be healthy and dump the asshole!
it really sound like you need to get a new man, he should
love you regardless of your weight, and if you have done
this which is great, i proud of you for that but it look like
he just does not appreciate what you have done. and trust
me it will be something else that he will have a problem with
time to look at what the real deal, and do what is best for
you.
I dont think he could care for you if he wants to break up over food. I could understand said he wants you to lose weight to be healthier. He should be happy that you have done all that you have already for him. And even thought your face lights up when you see a cookie of cheese cake, he should be happy your not eating those things. He should make losing weight harder on you by saying things like that. He should understand that it is hard to give foods that you love, to eat healthier and lose weight. I think you should talk to him about this, and tell him how you feel. And try to make him understand that it has been hard to give up the foods the you enjoy eating. And that you did it for him. If he can't understand that, then I don't think you two should be together anyways.
And congrats on losing the weight you have. I know how hard it can be. And good luck on all future weight loss.Please help, need your advice on my relationship problem.?
Hon, u can either spend the rest of ur life trying to please someone who will always come up w/something negative about what u do, or u can move on, be happy with yourself and who u are, and find someone who loves you for who you are, and accepts u for that. If u are a giving and loving person(that doesnt mean doormat who gives up themselves for others needs) then u will find someone worthy of u...go w/your gut and dont settle...yeah for u, it's time to stand up and tell him to kiss your cheesecake happy booty goodbye. If u change who u are, you will never be happy, not worth it at all, take it from someone who knows -- 1st marriage was a disaster!! Now, I have a lovely man who cares for me, even though I am totally disorganized, lose my keys and the cell phone on a constant basis, and I am nuts on a good day. :) that's worth all the work that goes into our marriage, no matter how many times I have to put the seat down in the bathroom!
I'm sorry to ask this but are you kiddie your boyfriend is jealous of food. I never hear of that one before. but it looks like you have proved that you love him more then food. I mean you lost weight. your eating healthier, and you work out 3 times a week. what does he want a skinny woman who's all bony and naughty looking? (there's nothing wrong with women being then but sometimes to thin isn't health and seeing your bones through your skin isn't pretty looking either. just case someone gets offended by this I'm sorry.) you need to tell him that you have prove to him that you love him and he needs to except it. there's nothing wrong with liking food. by the way is he over weight? I know a friend of mines who didn't like food because they were over weight and they thought it was the enemy until they got some help from a therapy. maybe he needs to see one. I'm sorry but I tried to help.
He`s a loser.Get rid of him instead of subjecting yourself to a life of torment.
If he says your more in love with food then him hes crazy. He could be saying this because he is insecure with himself or he cares more about what you look like then what is on the inside. Either way not a good way to start a life together. You must get to the root of why he says what he does and make a determination on weather or not he is right for you. If he is going to be your husband he should love you for who you are and that means being in love with all your good features and your faults.
he is just making excuses,dont diet and get healthy for him,do it for yourself and tell him too get lost. he sounds very cruel and if you stay together he will put you down and critize you for the rest of your life.( which in return will cause you to gain alot of weight because he will put you in severe depression) be healthy and dump the asshole!
it really sound like you need to get a new man, he should
love you regardless of your weight, and if you have done
this which is great, i proud of you for that but it look like
he just does not appreciate what you have done. and trust
me it will be something else that he will have a problem with
time to look at what the real deal, and do what is best for
you.
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