Relationship trouble-need advice!?

I was engaged to a man who I was with for 4 years who constantly cheated on me, used me and whom eventually left me after accepting into an arranged marriage. As a result I wasnt able to open up and form relationships again, until about 2 1/2 months ago when I met my current bf. At first I was reluctant to open up to him even though he constantly told me that he wanted me too. Finally I started to trust him more and eventually did open up (I finally told him 2 days ago that I am falling for him which he was happy about) but we got into an argument and he told me that he is confused and doesnt know what to do because he wants to be with me, he cares about me alot, but is used to being a ';non'; relationship kind of guy. Before me he has only had flings and one night stands but he said he is trying to be a relationship kind of guy with me because he has never met anyone who he really wanted to be with like he does with me. We both have trust issues and we both come from an abusiveRelationship trouble-need advice!?
You make eachother happy. that is more than a lot of couples can say, but without the committment, what is the point? Try couple's counseling, it may help you both to open up and deal with past issues and commitment.Relationship trouble-need advice!?
i think he's scared too... just tell him how you feel... i know you know this but the best relationships are successful because they talk about everything!





tell him if he's scared not to be because you love him and you finally found someone to open your heart up to after your last relationship... things will work out for the two... just talk everything out





good luck and i really hope everything goes well for you
hmm.... well you're mother sounds right. That he is falling for you but that he is scared because of both of your trust issues.


You both will have to work out the kinks if you want to make it work. But if you end up unhappy long term, then it may be time to end it then. But for now, work with each other, and you may be able to build something strong.
firstly, its important that both of you know about each other's past troubles with relationships. also, if it is worth fighting for, there is no harm in seeing a therapist both together and separately... or a counselor (tomato, tomahto). good luck to the both of you darling.
that is always a tough spot to be in! my advice is to do a low key vow not to really date around for a while with other ppl, but go back a step to more of a friend focused relationship, that gives you both a pressure free time to think about what you really are lloking for in eachother without having to be worried about the future of your now relationship!
I think he is falling for you too.


Try takign it slow. Tell him that you two are in it together and you guys can take as long as you need to make sure your relationship is right for both of you.








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tell him you have to be in this relationship or else its over, if he wants you bad then he'll turn into a relationship kinda guy
u knw u r havin a bad luck as u dnt get right kind of guy suitable 4 u.
just go slow and have fun dating each other in a serious way. it'll just take time thats all.
ok i didnt get past the first line...but dump the looser, and move on, he is NOT worth your time!
your past is exactly that so why are you letting it rule you, yes by all means take the lessons and learn from them, but you are the adult and you are in charge of your emotions. I personally would like you to see some one, a councillor with your boy friend, sometimes we need to know how and what questions to ask, our selves and our partners. A councillor can show you both how to discuss any thing with out tempers and tantrums. This is a learning period, and the more you know the better you will both be informed. In this day and age we have forgotten how to talk and listen to each other , and until you both learn this you will continue to have problems.
Well i know what its like to be cheated on i dated a guy for 3.5 years and i found out he cheated the whole time (yeah i was very trusting and naive)used me for my cash and dumped me when he found another little 18 year old. I fell outta the dating world for a few months just trying to get my life back when i met my current bf. We fell for each other yet I couldn't help but feel very eary but just for little bit. For the guys it seems little easier but in your case way easier since he really never had a relationship. I think you should just give him some time and little bit of space. Men don't know what they are missing til they don't have the one they love with them. Just give the guy some time he should come around and you some advice for you.. give yourself some time also. Things might be still fresh and you could be still hurting from the last guy so concentrate on you and make sure you are always number one that way he can see you happy and want to share that with you.. that's my few cents good luck to you both..
well, as the only guy giving advise here, i would say SLOW DOWN. it would freak me out to if you told me you were in love after only two months, esp since you both have past relationship/trust issues. i am a former ';non-relationship'; kinda guy myself until i found someone who i just cant live without. and i told her i loved first! give him time and it sounds as if you need time as well. chill out and enjoy the beginnings of a new relationship. thats when its the most fun. have fun, chill, be together, learn, listen, and love.
One thing, you guys only been dating for a short amount of time. However, if you think he is the one for you then still do what you are doing. Women intuition are always right half of the time. just continue the relationship and try to c if it'll work out. Don't be afraid and later regret it.





You will never know what will happen in the future, so just enjoy what you are having now.