Relationship trouble need advice?

me and my boyfriend are drifting apart. i was really sick the past couple month and he has had to work alot. before all this we talked about us more. we looked into buying a house. we talked about getting married and having a baby. i was happy. now were sleeping in different rooms. when were both home together is seems like were roommates and were only tolerating eachother. im not happy anymore. everytime i try to talk to him about things he listens but he doesnt talk back. i complain about needing help around the house. he will do something small like a load of laundry and then nothing for a week. im still sick on and off. i work 10 hours a day. i cook and clean and take care of him. im lonely and want his attention but he pretends there is no problem. he will give me money or offer to get me things. but its not good enough anymore. we have been together 8 years so its hard to just leave. what should i try ot do to fix things.Relationship trouble need advice?
It takes two to ';fix things';. You can NOT do it alone. Until he is willing to accept the fact that there IS a problem, your hands are tied. You can give the blood in your veins, but to no avail. You have to get him to see there is a problem, preferably by having a heart-to-heart with him, and holding nothing back.Relationship trouble need advice?
Every relationship has a time when you wonder why am I with this person? My husband is the same when it comes to helping around the house and I get so upset that I seem to be the maid more than anything. But no matter how mad and frustrated I get with him I can't even imagine my life without him! My main question is why are you sleeping in separate beds and rooms that is one of the worst things you can do a relationship. Talk to him after eight years you should be able to tell him what you are feeling! Good luck
sounds to me pryor to you getting sick you probably catered to him and his every need and when you got sick and you needed him to cater to you then you found out the real person he is.





Look I was married happily I thought for 14 years I always catered and was happy and cheery in a good mood.





When I got depressed and not happy and really needed my husband I seen the real person he was. He was selfish and it was all my fault I created that monster.


Because for years I catered to him.





Nothing I can say to you good luck
Why don't ya'll try counseling. That may sound bad, but counseling is to help you. That is why we have it! It may help it may not. But sometimes you just aren't in love with the person anymore. If ya'll drift apart and it is just not there anymore there is nothing you can do if he isn't willing to put in.


-C
Hi Lucky,





There is not much you can do kiddo. If it isn't working for him it can't work for you. At least you are not married and that makes the separation less complicated; even if it is still not emotionally easy.
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Sound like the lust is dead,the love is gone.The bordom are hugging you very titght .Time to get a life without him.If you want to buy a house,do it without him.be smart and less emotional .You are making a full out of yourself
Since it's the between you two I definetly think that you should talk with him. Tell him how you feel(exactly). The you'll both deside on something
Sit down with him be stern and tell your feelings.
8 yrs and not married thats what you get! there is no sickness and in health in your live in B.F. he was stringing you along till he has met the nice women he will marry boo -hoo to you for giving your self to a man that doesn't love you, he is gone but you can still give him money and wash his things so he looks real handsome and clean, keep working and make sure you shine his shoes,Kiss his butt when he walks out the door to his new love that he will marry. Men just love women like you do do the dirty work for them and bring in that money honey.You can bet he is not going with out sex 4 sure.Next time save your self for a man that is not all talk and a do littler.