I just got out of a long term relationship-- I need advice! please?

Wednesday of last week, my boyfriends(weve been together 3 1/2 years) papaw passed away, which was completely unexpected. Saturday was the funeral, I talked to my bf after the funeral and he was fine, went golfing and said he'd call me later. He never called, which is NOT like him, we talk everyday. Sunday morning I talked to him, we fought a little about him not calling me and he said he couldn't deal with me right now, he just wanted to be alone for a while (like a week!) and deal with his papaws death! So I haven't talked to him since Sunday. This morning, Thrusday I called him around 10:30, he called back and I told him I just wanted to know how he was doing. He told me not good, that his other papaw just passed away yesterday. I gave him my condolences, and told him that I needed to talk to him that I can't just sit at home and wonder if we are still dating. That either way, if he wants to break up, thats fine with me I just need to know so I can move on with my life....I just got out of a long term relationship-- I need advice! please?
The only thing you can do is be there for him in this situation. Ya'll have been together for 3.5 years so you both have alot invested into this realtionship and I'm sure that you both love each other.





Right now he's had 2 deaths in a matter of a week and he needs time to grieve right now. Accept that this is extremely hard on him and be there for him. Dont bug him about not calling you, but be there when he needs to talk. Take him by something one day to make him feel a little better (like maybe his fav meal), but dont offer to stay. More than likely in a few weeks he will be able to sit down and talk with you about why he pushed you away. So if you stay there for him, he will realize that you care enough to stay %26amp; be there for him when he pushed you away.





Good Luck hun!I just got out of a long term relationship-- I need advice! please?
not sure what to tell you but good luck
you gotta give the guy as much space as possible.
you should have left him alone and given him his space. everybody deals with death in different ways. you should have respected that. instead you focused more on your self being left out. you owe him an apology.
try to enjoy life now you will make it you will see good luck