She says I should always make the first steps in the relationship.
We do talk, but she won't hold my hand unless I grab her hand, she won't hug me unless I hug her first, she won't talk to me in the hall unless I stop and take my time to talk to her.
I show much affection around her I love hugging her from behind, tickling her, and I got her a teddy bear for a relationship gift. But what bothers me is she won't do anything in the relationship she never gave me anything, and she never once took the chance to even hug me or hold my hand.
I don't want to break up with her I really like her! At once thought about the idea of breaking up but she started to cry when I said I was thinking about it. I can't handle seeing her cry neither. She says she likes me and wants to be with me yet she never shows affection or takes her time to even talk with me.Relationship Problems Need Advice?
you should talk to her about this. if it really bugs you, dont threaten her with a break-up cuz she'll get mad/scared but sit down and have a serious talk about how upset this makes you. if she's really a good girlfriend, she'll completely understand and try to make a change. if she refuses to listen.....maybe she's not worth it.Relationship Problems Need Advice?
Get away from her. She is playing with you. You are 15 you are NOT going to spend the rest of your life with her. You are wasting your time. Imagine having to deal with her games 10 years from now.
Maybe she has been hurt or abused in the past. Take some time and learn about her history. Be very careful about this. Or maybe she does like this other kid. Like I said be very careful about this...
maybe she's nervous and insecure?
some girls are raised on the whole ';men should lead'; idea that gets really boring after a while..if yall have been going out for a few months she should be comfortable enough with you to take the reins every now and again...she shouldnt be like stone around you...
my advice is that you guys break up. it will be hard because you really like her but it sounds like you arent happy in the relationship. she sounds very insecure and immature. i dont think she likes you! i think she likes being in a relationship. she shouldnt be trying to get u jealous...she should be working on building her self-esteem. besides ur only 15. there are much nicer and more affectionate females out there for u to fall in love with ;)
You sound like a very sweet boyfriend for showing your girlfriend this affection :) And you've persevered even when your actions haven't been returned... good for you.
Try and drop some hints to her that you'd appreciate little acts of love every once in a while. Like, leave her a spontaneous note or picture in her locker or send a text that says something cute or flirty. Bring her a piece of her favorite candy, and be sure to mention it's ';just a spontanious way of showing that I care about you.'; Or when you're walking in the hallway with her, keep your hands very close together but don't hold hers. Let your fingers brush against hers and look at her and smile and maybe she'll get the hint. If you're want to kiss her, go in almost all the way then let her kiss you.
If all else fails, ask her about it. Ask her if there's anything wrong or if she's feeling OK, and mention that she's been a little distant from you lately.
I don't think this is a big enough reason to break up with someone at all. So PLEASE don't! I don't think she's acting this way because she doesn't like you.
Have you tried talking to her about it? Some people are naturally not as affectionate as others. Try telling her how you feel and ask her why she never makes the first move. You need 2 people to make a relationship work, so tell her what you want her to do, the worst thing that could happen is she says no. As for the ';certain boy'; to make you jealous, im not a girl so i cant tell ya what shes thinking, you could try and do the same thing to her and see how she reacts, if she gets upset then tell her that's how it makes you feel when she does it. Dont be afraid to talk to her and ask her why, its important to be able to communicate.
It sounds as if she is insecure. Insecurity in younger kids such as yourselves manifests itself in many ways and one of which is relationships. She may feel as though you wouldn't want her to do those things and the fear of rejection stops her. It's difficult to explain but she probably knows you care about her but just doesn't feel comfortable being the one to initiate those things which to her are intimate gestures in a relationship. You guys are young and she is probably just nervous, especially if she is not a super outgoing girl. Give her some time to get comfortable in the relationship and if she still doesn't come around maybe you should try talking to her about how she feels in a caring way.
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