Relationship: Break up advice needed?

I just ended a one year relationship a few hours ago due to her inability to provide possible solutions to the problems I have laid out for her. These problems result from her stubborn attitude towards me, how she puts our relationship on a thin piece of glass (as if anything can easily break it), and mainly due to her constantly escalating a small argument into a major war.





I don't know what to really do with it anymore. I've talking to her about it countless of times, whenever an issue comes up actually. I've tried reading books and even going as far as to talking to her closest friends to find a possible solution to deal with this.





What makes this hard is that over the course of the relationship, I've developed a connection with her family (brother, cousins, aunts, and uncles) as well as my family developing a connection with her. So its basically throwing all of that away.





She is fully aware of all of this and is aware that I am looking for solutions from her because I have ran out of every possible way to deal with it.





I do want a relationship with her, however, to carry on the same relationship without any sort of effort to make a change would be like selling my soul.





What should I do? Should I stay firm about this break up with the hope of things possibly working out..or should i just start to disconnect myself from her?Relationship: Break up advice needed?
Break up.Relationship: Break up advice needed?
It seems as though you've already done the right thing. If she isn't willing to compromise stay firm in your decision.





Never do the break up to make up thing. When it's over it's over. Be strong enough move on.
Is it possible that, and I'm sorry if this sounds crappy, but is it possible that you are pinning most of the blame on her unneccessarily?





Relationships are a two way thing, and there should be an equal amount of effort going into both sides. Have you tried listening to her and what she has to say? Make a point of sitting down with her, and listening to what annoys her about you, then have your chance. this will make it easier to discover where the gaps in communication are.





The connection with her family on your side and your family's may be slightly bruised for a short time, but if it was 'meant to be', then it will be.





Good luck with that.