I'm kind of confused...i need a little advice w/ my relationship?!?!?!?

I've been going out with my gf for 3 months now...and i've fallen in love with her





Yesterday we went on a date..where i took her to dinner..and then for dessert i took her to a little park in our town and i took a little picnic basket with a different assortment of fruits and chocolates...we definitely enjoyed ourselves during the date...at one point she leaned into me and told me that she missed me when she went on her vacation to hawaii..i responded by saying that i missed her aswell..then i said that the past 3 months that we have been together have been amazing and that i have established closer, more intense feelings for her and that i love her..and she said that she loved me back (that was the first time we had said that we loved each other..although i have said before that she was amazing..that she meant everything to me..that she was the most beautiful girl in the world)


my question is..everytime we hang up the phone for instance..will she expect me to say that i love her?I'm kind of confused...i need a little advice w/ my relationship?!?!?!?
I think she might expect it a bit at first. Usually there's a bit of a ';honeymoon period'; for these things (yeah, sorry, it's a scary term!) at the very beginning. When you first tell your partner you love them, when you first fall in love, you get a bit ga-ga and gooey, and things are very lovey-dovey, and depending on how romantic and expressive you are, you may feel like saying ';I love you'; everytime you see her.





Or you may not. Depending also on how emotionally receptive she is, she may feel like she wants to hear it every time. You know her needs and wants best and your needs and wants best, and you're going to have to balance them.





I think the idea of saying it every time, just because she expects it makes very little sense. You shouldn't say it to the point where it becomes just words, because saying ';I love you'; should mean something. Therefore, I wouldn't suggest saying it everytime you talk on the phone, and everytime you meet for five minutes, just because you think you're expected to do so. Save it for when it's meaningful, just like you save kisses for when you want to express closeness and love. Think of your words as verbal caresses.





If you feel like she doesn't understand this, I think you could explain this to her. And, of course, when you do, you would tell her you love her and that's exactly why you don't cheapen the words ';I love you'; by saying it unless you really want to put all your feelings into it.I'm kind of confused...i need a little advice w/ my relationship?!?!?!?
no. don't say it unless you mean it and it feels right. women can sense when something is forced. just use your instinct on what feels right. who knows maybe she will say it to you first and you won't have to worry about it!
Well it would be nice if you did and it would probably make her feel good
Surely she will expect a lot of affectionate words from you.





A clear expression from you will be her most wanted words from u. Go ahead.
It doesn't matter whether she expects it or not, it definitely advised to say so often.


Little things like that are what keep a relationship alive in the long run, and it sounds like you have a beautiful thing going.
I say it to my boyfriend and he says it back to me. Some times I say it first and at other times he says it first. We usually end our phone calls that way as well as our e-mails.
She probably will, but don't say it if you don't mean it..
Just explain to your gf that it's a very special relationship and that you normally aren't that open about saying it. Trust me it works. From my experience with my ex-hubby he told me it wasn't necessary to say it all the time, I knew he did. That made it even more special when he did say it. Communication is the key. It works, as long as you explain, then there should be no confusion.
well if you love her then whats the problem?
marry her
I think that opportunity will call for you to say 'I love you' If you and your girlfriend have a really deep conversation and you feel really good, then you can say those three little words. If you are just calling casually, then you don't need to say it. You will know when it feels right to say it. Your girlfriend knows that you love her based on the times you have said I love you before therefore, it isn't necessary that you repeat it every time you talk with her. It is something that is understood without having to be said. The affection that you show her speaks for itself. Good luck.
say it when you feel it. not b/c you think she wants to hear it
Probably not, but women do like to hear it. Now that you've said you will need to keep saying it.
Yes, that would be nice. If you don't she'll think something's wrong or you're mad at her. It makes her feel like you didn't really mean it when you said it. And if you REALLY do love her, that should be no problem.
gosh all that description just to know what to say on the phone.. hehe.. well say it when u feel it {}
if you say it allll the time, it won't sound so special anymore. Not only that, its going to be like a habit...understand my point? once is enough...its more important that you would show it to her, like, send her a e-card, write a little note and slip it in her purse ...you know? sweet little things to let her know that you mean it...
I think that now that is said it is always nice to hear... anytime i get off the phone with my guy we try and say i love you...
No. Just say it when you feel comfortable saying it. Although if she says it it would be nice to say it back!
i don't think she would blow a gasket if you didn't say it, but for us girls, hearing those three words makes our hearts skip a beat.
God, I hate it when people expect to hear ';I love you'; at the end of every phone call. Just sit her down and tell her that you love her, but feel it is pointless to say it all the time. Just because you do not say ';I love you'; when you hang up does not mean you do not love her. She'll get the idea :-)
i don't think so...actually i would think its better not to because then it's not as meaningful or romantic cause then you guys will be saying it out of habit and it will loose its effect....if she brings it up by telling you first you can politely ask her why she is saying it and make sure to add that you don't expect her to say it as a ritual and would prefer to say it when necessary...
Awww how sweet :) I love a happy couple!











most girls like it, but its not a requirement or you have to, its your decision if you want to or not. But hey us girls feel a lot more special if they say that :)





some girls expect for guys to open up their emotions or ';feelings'; about them.
Well, mostly no. But, maybe. It is always cute how we act in a new relationship. I think that you don't have to say things that you do not feel comfortable with. Only say what you feel comfortable and confident saying. Women can tell if you are not meaning to say ';I love you'; and you say it, even on the phone. So, say it when you feel you want to and don't otherwise. I bet she does the same thing. Enjoy your newfound love! Your picnic dessert sounded truely ';sweet';
My BF douse and i think its really sweet so i think it would be a good idea if u did but dont smother her u need to know how she feels douse she love u strongly or is she scared of falling for u...what is going on.....u can tell by u telling her u love her and then c how long it takes for her to say it back and how she says it....Good Luck!!!
depends, but most cases its fine to say love u, to ur loved ones. if she truly loves u then go ahead.