So i have been dating my boyfriend for about 2 years and earlier this summer he told me that before we knew each other he had had sex and fooled around with one of his guy friends. we are both christians so this kinda took me by surprise. he wanted to break up because he thought that he had ruined our relationship by not saving himself for me. I was understanding at first but now it just kinda bugs me to think about how when we get married i wont be his first. and also the fact that i wasn't his first anything. i've told him i had forgiven him because there is nothing he can do to change it and he is remorseful about it but im not sure if i honestly have. it makes me mad whenever the subject comes up and makes me feel awkward when ever anyone brings up gays and hes around because it unfortunately is a joke and i feel bad for laughing. of course i cant tell any of my friends about it so i just want another Christians opinion on what i should do to help him and to help save our relationship.Christian advice on a relationship problem please!?
i know many Christian people who have fooled around with other people b4 finding their true love and marrying them. everyone makes mistakes. if u guys r really in love then u can make it through anything. u shouldnt be as upset that he did this but happier that he told u. obviously it was a hard thing for him to do. he must really care about you to tell u something that he thought had a great chance of ending ur relationship. God forgives and forgets. We are to be just like him. I understand it wont be easy but u shouldnt always look back to that. ur mind and what u think about controls alot of what u say and do. if u think of this all the time then ur always gonna have doubt and might never be as happy as u want because of it. if i were u i would go on without thinking about and act like u were before he told u. Good luck and may God be with you.Christian advice on a relationship problem please!?
But you will be his first woman. Sex with a man is completely different and shouldn't even be considered as something you would come second to. My suggestion is to focus on the love you feel for him and know he is a new person today. Pray for forgiveness and understanding and base your thoughts of him in the present, not part of his past that had nothing to do with you.
umm...Well first i think that the only way you make it through is if you too both love each other unconditionally, second i think you definately need to pray for gods guidance and see if that is the true companionship God has planned for you. and third if you decide to stay with him mayb fasting together would be a good aproach to healing any emotions issues he still may have from his past, because if you too ever do get married you don't want these problems showing up later in life when you two have already tied the knot. Best of Luck and God Bless.
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