Major relationship issues.. need advice/opinions soon! please help!?

Hello, my name is Lindsey- I know my username says Mike, that's my brother.


Anyway- I have been with my boyfriend for over five years. We are together every single day. We have a great relationship.. we are mean't for each other! We plan on getting engaged this year. We have talked about marriage a lot here lately.. I think HE is more excited than I am!


Anyway- here is the issue. I am pretty sure I am pregnant. I haven't taken a test yet due to weather in my town- can't get out!! I have a health condition that makes it hard for me to get pregnant. (Polycystic Ovary Syndrome) My boyfriend says that if I am pregnant to keep it... and he is overly super excited. I am SCARED to death. We both still live at home... His career is slow- he can't work during freezing temperatures.. and I just finished school.


I know for a fact I will marry this man at some point in my life.. and I really really do not want an abotion at ALL-- my family would absolutely freak if I kept the baby. (I do not know for sure if I am pregnant or not, but signs point to yes.) Money is super tight.. and I am the kind of person who hates asking for help, and money. My family isn't poor nor rich.. but I hate asking them for money. My boyfriends family owns a huge company that brings in millions each year- still.. I don't want to live off of someone else.


Here's the really big problem- while I still do not know for SURE.. my boyfriend really wants me to be pregnant.. We have still been having sex, and it seems like he is trying to ';fertilize the egg';.





I have talked to him about this, and I said it would be BETTER if we weren't pregnant, but it's OK if we are. We can make it. Why would he be trying so hard? He is already thinking of names and such!


Whats going on? What should I do? How can I let him know just how scared I am?Major relationship issues.. need advice/opinions soon! please help!?
Tell him how you feel. You should have a baby when you are ready. He needs to respect that.





If you are already pregnant, then research all of your options and make the decision YOU are most comfortable with.Major relationship issues.. need advice/opinions soon! please help!?
Tell him. That's the only way he can really know how scared you are. If you are pregnant you only have so many options: keep it, abort it, or give it up for adoption. I don't know you're age so I'm not going to give you my advice on what to do. My friend was in a similar situation and she kept it and is getting married and even though money is tight they are making it. If this is what you want and what he wants y'all will make it work. But the only thing you can do is lay all the cards on the table and tell him exactly how you feel. If you're relationship is going so well then he's probably really excited. A lot of guys want a baby but won't admit it and once you think you're pregnant they get more into it. Bottom line tell him everything you're feeling...and take the test cause there's a good chance it's a UTI or something.
Maybe things are moving a little to fast.


I think he is excited to be with you, but maybe its all a little too much.





be careful, some guys are selfish, they only care about one thing, having you for themselves, getting you pregnant may be his way of making sure you guys are together forever. think about what you want, no one other than yourself should make your choices for you.





i wish you the best.
I truly understand the situation that you are in. I want to have a baby and my girlfriend is pregnant right now I have been trying and trying to get her pregnant knowing our situation. We are in a interracial relationship and her parents have never heard about me and we been dating for 4 years. You see I knew the risks and she said something about about waiting and now she can't be more happy to be pregnant from me. She loves me and that's all that matters. He's doing it because he believes in his future with you and he wants everything out of life with you. If you truly feel in your heart that you want this then go for it but, if you don't feel it then talk to him about it. In the end just do for you two not for anyone else.