I've been in my new relationship for 3 months now. During the first month of officially being bf/gf there was a lot of mutual affection and enthusiasm. The last couple of months however I've felt a huge drop in these departments on her part. I even had a discussion with her about it. I told her if she wasn't happy or if I said or did anything that bothered her we should talk about it. She assured me that everything was fine and wanted to stay together. Since the ';talk'; I've been keeping track of things to make sure it's not just me being overally critical or paranoid but I found out that I'm the one always initiating intimacy. I'm confident to say that if I never did I don't know if we would ever... what's going on? Is it just her personality or should I be worried?Relationship problems need advice, (preferably women) thanks?
This always happens in relationships. Neglect.Relationship problems need advice, (preferably women) thanks?
I had a similar experience with my ex gf. I would just try giving her space. Don't call her or text her. Don't try to initiate sex. Let her take the initiative. After some time goes by and nothing happens, you may need to tell her that this relationship isn't working for you. People (guys and girls) need to feel loved ,cared about, and appreciated. If you're not getting that out of your relationship, then it's not gonna be healthy for you. But try to give her some space first.
Its perfectly normal to experience a decline in intimate activities after the ';honeymoon'; phase wears off. Real life sets in. Is she stressed at work? Busy with the holidays? If you think you guys need a little re-charging in the romance department, do something spontaneous like reserve a room at a Bed %26amp; Breakfast for a weekend getaway.
And stop keeping track of who initiates what. That's not what it should be about, and it serves no good purpose.
just be honest and talk to her......dont think too much - I do that all the time ! mabe she is stuck right now and the timing is bad....youve invested only three months..thats a short time to get to know someone...give it a little more time....see how she behaves around her friends and family....does she treat them the same as you??
How do you initiate intimacy? Do you tell her how much you adore her? Do she have a quirk that you just find utterly endearing? Do you find her freckles (if she has them) cute? IF you do, say so...girls love to here if they are adored and cherished.
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