I need advice on my relationship please?

hi, im with my boyfriend nearly 2 years now, and we truly love eachother , but just lately we are non stop fighting,over the simplest of things,my boyfriend has a short temper and gets angry very easily and usually ends up telling me to leave the house and get out, then after he calms down he is really sorry and tells me how much he loves me and that he cant help his moods because he has mental depression as he calls it?? im just so confused what to do, i know i try my best and deserve to be treated better but i love him so much and never want us to break up ,I need advice on my relationship please?
thats how my ex was hint ';ex'; i know i deserve better and you do to bc he will always be yelling at you and then making an excuse and you dont need thatI need advice on my relationship please?
WELL IF HE LOVE U HE WOULDN'T FIGHT WITH U OR HE IS SEEING AN THERE GIRL K GOOD LUCK! THAT'S HOW I FIND OUT
Unfortunately ';just because you love someone does not make them right for you'; and love him as you may, it will not make his problems or illness any better.


Fact is, with age this illness will worsen, neither do things get better after marriage if a couple is not well suited for each other before hand. You also need to realize that depression can be passed on to off spring, a child can become so if they live with a person who openly suffers depressive episodes long enough, these things must be considered seriously before having children otherwise the pain of watching your kids go through the same is excruciating.


I am not saying to run for the hills, all i'm saying is for you to hit the net and all the books you can to learn what depression is all about, what studies have proved, etc.


It will also help you to understand him, help when you can, deal with him, decide on a future and know when enough is enough.


Having a bf with depression and living with someone who suffers from it is totally different. It will bring you down to the depth of dispair after a couple of years, you will feel inadequate and useless that you or your love can't help in the slightest of ways.


Depression is one thing, but anger is quite another and has very little if anything to do with depression...look into it, if your considering eventually marrying into it.
It's natural for couples to fight especially around the two year mark. The honeymoon period is over, little things start to annoy you that never used to and you stop caring just a little bit on how you talk to your ';other';. Not to mention you start to take each other for granted and forget the excitement of seeing each other only once or twice a week, especially if you're now living with your guy/girl.


The thing is, it's important to resolve this and learn together how to constructively deal with a disagreement. Yelling and screaming and kicking someone out of the house is a recipe for disaster. My Fianc茅 and I used to get so mad at each other when we were doing the simplest of tasks like moving a dresser.. because we both were horrible at communicating our thoughts to each other and got irked when the other couldn't read our mind. (silly I KNOW!) so we chose a time where we were both in a good mood, and had a lazy, relaxed afternoon in front of us, and we talked objectively, not accusingly, about how we could overcome this.


If your guy is truly sorry at the end of a fight, then gently suggest that maybe he should see a Dr about his ';depression'; before someone gets hurt. If he refuses and says he's fine, bring up not the issue of the last fight, but his apology and excuse of his ';depression'; causing his mood swings. If he's still not willing to get treatment, or at least talk to a professional, you have to ask yourself if you are happy. Ultimately... your happiness is the most important thing next to your well being. A good relationship should not hold you back nor should it make you lie awake at night wondering if you're doing the right thing. You can love the wrong person.... many people do. but if you can, and if you're ready... start really asking yourself why you are with him if he's not willing to get help for his anger for your sake if not his.





take care.
my boyfriend went through a phase of ';im not sure what i want'; only cuz the time period, was at 2 years. we had hit the ';what should we do to take it to the next level wall';....his temper is like that cuz his friends see you guys, they bust him about it. you probably know each others families. and to most men...if you're not just a booty call.....or a fling, then that is commitment.





honesty right now i am at the 5 year point and my bf walked out on my last week. you have to give him space....and if he leaves, it shows he didn't want to be with you in the first place.





i am learning that the hard way. i dint want to throw 5 years down the drain. and when the 2 year point came, i didn't want to lose him then either.....if all else fails let him go, if he comes back, its cuz he learned..if he doesn't.....you didn't waste your time with someone who didn't love you enough to understand you wanted him to stay.....
Next time he does it.....Actually leave for a cuple of days-go hang with a friend or whatever. Dont call him-dont answer his calls for a few days and dont let him know where you are. One of these will happen...





1. He comes looking for you and actually finds you-this will be good cuz he cared so much he had to make sure you were ok. Still do not go home with him until you both have clearly talked about his stink *** temper and that next time if he didnt want to lose you it would be for good.


2. He calls you non stop- cant find you. It will drive him crazy and he will miss you so much he will not want it to happen again. Still have the long talk when you get home a few days later.


3. He doesnt call or look for you. He didnt care that much to make sure you were alive?! Dont go back to him ever