Pregnancy / relationship question...need advice...?

here it goes...I'm 19 and pregnant with my first, a little boy %26lt;3 I dont have a mother, father, any siblings or a grandma. all i have is my grandfather. to make it worse when I found out I got pregnant my babies father left...since then I've been turning to one of my guy friends to talk too. he's been there for me and he's very comforting. he says he wants to be part of me and my sons life and goes around telling everyone he has a son on the way. he brags about me and the baby all the time to his friends and tells them he's the dad. he rubs my tummy and makes sure im comfortable but when I bring up the subject of us being together he gets scared. he says its a hard situation and he doesnt know what to do. he's talked to one of our mutual friends and he told me he thinks he scared of commitment. i dont know what to do. i dont want to get hurt cuz i cant handle that. i want all my focus to be on my son not on a guy. please give me your honest advice. Pregnancy / relationship question...need advice...?
no offense but te guy sounds like he might be gay I don't mean that in a bad way at all its just my opion from the way he sounds but if he wants to be a part of your life that's awesome let him be just try not to get emotionally attached until he lets you know how far he wants to take the relationshipPregnancy / relationship question...need advice...?
It sounds like he just wants all the perks of a relationship with a baby but not the commitment it actually takes (the responsibility). I would talk to him and tell him how you feel completely and ask him to either be there as a friend or not be there at all because he is confusing you and you definitely don't need that right now.





Good luck!
It kind of sounds like he wants to play house for a little while, but with no actual commitment that way if things get to much for him he can walk away and not feel bad. I wouldn't take him too seriously, and maybe you two should sit down and talk about this. Ask him why he does all these things but doesn't want to be with you, Good luck and just try to concentrate on your son more then him!
just go with the flow, its great thats he is supporting you.


if it happens it happens, but id be afraid if you went to kiss him and he didnt want that your relationship might suffer.


so take things slow,


you know whats for you dosent pass you.


so you never know.


congrats on your baby boy, hope all is goin well
look this baby is serious stuff you will realize this more once the baby is born..


maybe you should keep it at just being friends and don't let him tell everyone he's the dad





just keep it at friends.. it's not easy with kids and you can't trust anyone believe me








~MeL~
You answered your own question! Put your focus on your baby, and not on a guy.





He seems to like the attention he may be getting, by claiming he's the father, but, when it comes down to it, he's getting cold feet... Which is fine, since he's not the father, but it will ultimately leave you feeling worse, and could damage your son, emotionally... Focus on the friendship; not a romance... Also, if it were me, I wouldn't like him telling people he's the father. That will confuse your baby, unless you never plan on telling him, but, if he thinks this guy is his dad, and then this guy takes off cause he's scared, then... not good.
I think you're lucky to have a friend like him around. I think if you don't put any pressure on him..he'll stick around. He needs to feel he has the freedom to walk away if he wants..and if he feels ';free'; he's more likely to stick around. Try not to compare him with the baby's father...and don't expect him to be a father to the baby even though he might be acting as if he is. He may be one of those guys that loves you unconditionally. I think a lot of times we don't realize how much a guy truly likes us. : )






im sorry to hear that, the best advice i can give you is to forget about having a relationship with this man although he sounds nice and caring he sounds as though he is not ready for commitment and having to raise a baby that isn't yours is hard work im 20 years old and 23 weeks pregnant my partner has a 5 year old daughter who lives with us and it is very very difficult for me to have that motherly bond with her as im not her natural mother, im not saying i don't love her, because i do love her very much but i had no idea how difficult it would be raising a child so young that wasn't mine. I suggest you stay friends with this man and that's all, he can be as involved as he likes but make it quite clear that nothing is to go further as he is definitely not ready for commitment, you need to have all you time for your new baby without the stress of a man, and it wont be fair on the baby to not get as much attention from you as you will be putting most of your attention on the new man, i don't want that to sound nasty so please don't take it in the wrong way good luck hope everything works out