Need helpful advice on my relationship?

I've been with this guy for almost 3 years and he's had like 3 jobs during this time. He hasn't had a job for almost 2years now. He says he's looking, but has a record so it's hard for him. I've tried to be understanding and of course i love and care about him. He's been living with me since our first year of being together and has not contributed to the rent of any bills at all. He does find time to smoke marijuana and play games on playstation, while Im busting my butt at work. Then when I ask him about what his plans are, he gets mad at me and gets quiet. He doesn't talk to me, and has a bad attitude. He gets angry. He asks me, am I gonna give him a job (sarcastically)...I wanna be with him, but what should I do? Is there any hope at all. I'm giving him till the end of the month. Any suggestions or comments?Need helpful advice on my relationship?
I feel he needs a shock therapy...When he is out playing, just pack his bags and stuff....tell him (very politely and seriously) to find some other place as you can no more take this attitude....Here, you would actually be helping him in his life...Else, he has already moved into a comfort zone which is quite dangerous.





Let him see reason and this can only happen with your determination and help. Stop being support to him so as to ruin him...Do keep a track of him though.Need helpful advice on my relationship?
He is using you why would you go out and work your a99 off and him stay at home and do nothing? Tell him to find a job or get out its that simple.....
Smoking? Sounds like he doesn't want a job, at least not a good one anyway. Well, if you tell him what you need from him, if he cares about you, he will respect that and do something about it.


If he doesn't, well then, he isn't worth your time babes bcuz it means he doesn't care.
holy crap...why are you even putting up with him if he's treating you like that? You shouldn't want to be with a guy who treats you really badly...I smoke marijuana but I have a job, an almost boyfriend (I'm saying almost because we haven't really worked up enough courage to like say anything serious to each other or even kiss each other or anything.) and I have lots of friends, I go to school tell him to get off his lazy butt and find a job or get out of your house...because right now you're surviving on your own so why do you think that you need him...? I don't get why women rely on their men so much there is someone probably one hundred times better for you out there...
Take a ';break.'; Sometimes people don't appreciate you until they realize what their life would be like without you. You deserve better and maybe some time apart would make him realize what he would be losing. If it doesn't, some distance may help you realize if this is something you want to continue to have in your life.
It sounds to me that he doesn't want a partner he wants a mommy to take care of him so STOP!! Tell him it is time to either sink or swim and you love him but you will not take care of his every need anymore.
Hey Manisha, well...There's a mixture from brains and hearts regarding towards u meaning if u gonna think by ur brain, then mostly will be positive according to ur situations but if u gonna follow ur heart, well...There will be no other gal for him perhaps who can love him like u do...


Wvah!!! What a sacrifization u had for him...


He should by now appreciate u...


Well, this is obviously too much...





If for Love, u can do anything for him and why not him...


Why must always from ur side...he should do his part too...


If u can commit, why can't he...So what's this then...





A person can do anything when they are in Love and that's what called True Love but from ur side, its obviously is that but from his part...I dnt really think so....





Ask him to prove if he really truly loves u because u are a human being..Can't even he feels for ur emotions...


Well...as for the bad attitude thing...


Hopefully he can change himself to a better person if this is ur True Love...





But since u are giving him till the end of the month, about 3 more weeks to go....So, let's pray for the best and u know the best...





All the best Manisha! =)
Quit supporting him. You are robbing him of self-esteem because he doesn't have to take care of himself. Let him know you love him, but that you need an equal partner in finances, and if not equal, then at least someone who at least works doing something. Two years is way too much time without having a job. He could've got a degree by now and even with a record, there are still places that would accept him.
This guy is using you, and of course he doesn't want to get a job because that will get in the way of his pot smoking. I really think you need to break this off. I know you love him and all, but you need to love yourself too.
He sounds like a child in my opinion. Many people that have a record get work because they NEED to. Don't give him an easy ride, he should be out trying to get a job when hes smoking weed. If he doesn't change I'd get rid of him...why should you do everything? You deserve better!
Tell him he need to change his ways because it is tearing you and him apart. If he does not change then you know what you have to do, send him packing. You can always find a guy that is deserving of you.
Question? How can he sit around and smoke weed but can't pay bills and that's stuff isn't cheap... Let him go he's not trying and smoking doesn't do anything but make you lazy.... so tell him he needs to stop smoking and get a job or get out...he's not your child he's suppose to be your man... get rid of the loser if he doesn't change
Just dump his ***. There is no reason he cant get SOME kind of job somewhere. I mean it may not be a dream job but he could definatley get a job. I had s####y jobs before i joined the Army and i know it sucks to work those kind of jobs for 10 bucks an hour but you know if he didnt mess up and do whatever he did to get in trouble then he wouldnt have to work a s####y job.
YOU need to kick him out, this relationship is doomed... Trust me... You can do way better.. he's a heavy weight, you don't need that.. you shouldn't be taking care of a grown men... when your at work it's no telling what he does... Why are you wasting your time? you know what you need to do... you shouldn't have to even ask.. you might want to be with him, but its clear that he's not for you.. so PUT HIM OUT!!!!
U have to tell him that he cant live like this....... just leave him for sometime so that he can learn and understand ......
you should tell him to change now, or to start packing.


he will drag you down for the rest of your life if you let him.
you're allowing him to be like this......your paying for his drug habit therefore you're contributing to his lack of confidence and his motivation in life.
sh!t...................i would say he prolly isn't trying to work!! sounds that way anyway!!!
well,just wait n see after 1 month.but be careful cuz he might hurt you physically. (sorry,no offense) if he had the time to smoke marijuana n play PS2, why dont he finds a job? think abt it,does he really love u ? can you guarantee that ur future are safe when u're with him? s0metimes,we're just afraid that we will regret of letting him go n dats y find it hard to do the break-up. but be rational. gud luck!
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