Please help, i need advice mother-daughter relationship....?

well me and my mom don't really have a good mother-daughter relationship, we've been arguing lately and it's been terrible and i don't want it to haunt me later. im 14 btw...so when im older i want to be able to say ';yeah me and my mom had our tough times but we got through it and repaired our relationship.'; so i want to get close to her. and any advice would be nice. thank you a lotPlease help, i need advice mother-daughter relationship....?
First, don't worry - at your age it is perfectly normal to find things your mom does and says embarrassing, inappropriate or even disgusting. And the same goes for your mom. Second, try to step back and see things from your mom's perspective. She may still regard you as a girl needing protection and needing to be told how to behave and how to deal with the world. Your mom cannot help this - that is what she has learned over the past 14 years. So just try to patiently explain to her the way you look at things and give her time to adjust. She is likely to be pleased with any sign of trust and love that comes from you, such as a suggestion of going shopping or watching a movie together.





Most girls go through this phase, and most girls get back to be close with their moms when they are a few years older. So again: don't worry and have patience.Please help, i need advice mother-daughter relationship....?
try to do some bonding with her, i fight with my mom alot and im 17 but we do fun things together and resolove our differences. such as we always go shopping together, we go to the gym together, i help her garden and we do each others hair. we act like friends i guess and i have a very close relationship with her even though we fight alot, we always manage to resolve it
You both have to be willing to listen to the other and trust that the other won't use what you say against you. I know it's hard but your mom can be your best ally. Trust her. Listen to her. And it goes both ways. She has to do the same. Resist the urge to walk away when she says something you don't like. Listen. There's nothing wrong with that. She may just say something that makes sense. And you can teach her as well.
I wish this crossed my mind few years ago.... iam 27 and still wish i had a closer relationship with my mom when i was young :).





Sit down and write a list of things you like in your mom.... and then write a letter to her telling her how much you appreciate her for all that and that you wish to have a closer relationship with her. Also get her something nice with that letter. Dont feel like you r the only one making the effort here.... she might also be feeling the same... so keep trying and dont let the bad moments spoil the relationship EVER. And always keep the communication open in one form or the other.


ALL THE BEST.
i know where u come from. my mom and i fight alot especially when we both are touchy. it helps to find the things in common and enjoy those together. also, (this may sound weird) but... overcoming a tragedy together gets you so close, your practically joined at the hip. im not saying go looking for a horrible time, but just let her know you are there for her (mothers need loving support too!) and ask her to hang out, read a mag together, get ur hair cut... or even just staying up late, enjoying a movie, can get you closer.


:) luck 2 u!
Just kill her. Trust me, you'll regret it, but time will heal it's self.