Need Of Advice about a relationship?

I've been with my husband for 4 years, I'm misrable with him, The guy i want to be with lives 2 thousand miles away, I own a home, and pets. and I cant afford to move, or to get a divorce, We have a son together also me and my husband. what do i do? any advice?Need Of Advice about a relationship?
You must have loved your husband when you married him. Why are you miserable with him now? How did this other guy enter the picture?Need Of Advice about a relationship?
I thought that way about my husband once and I thought what am i thinking. I married him because he was funny and loving. He provides for me and is a great husband. Why, was I thinking that I don't know? If you love this other man and your wasting a your husband time married to him. Talk to him and work things out. I don't believe in divorce. It's also wrong to think about another man while you are married. Remember, your marriage vows and think about all the good things he has done for you. I love my husband more than ever and wouldn't trade him for this world. God has created him just to be with me and I'm so grateful for the love I have in him. Just talk to him about what's been on your mind and leave out the other man. He has no part in your marriage or your life. Think about your son and what you might be putting him through.It's not fair to him. If your husband knows how you feel about him then you will find out how you and him are going to make it better for all of you.
try to save ur marriage - if not then be respectful and leave. take things slow with the new guy- hate to be in the same situation again.
Your miserable because you want to be with this other guy and you know you can't or it's much too complicated. Try to forget about the ';other guy'; and start loving your husband again! Maybe go to your doctor and ask about depression meds! Me and my husband are both taking lexapro and I tell you it will change how you feel...
Ok, calm down. Dont do anything stupid. You can get a separation; but you never explained how you know this man 2thousand miles away, whats the connection?
First, why are you miserable? Deal with that... what has made you miserable.





Second, you are into some guy who isn't even there. You do know you aren't really that into him right?





Third, you have a child, so please, stop being so single minded and try to WORK this out... Think about why you feel the way you feel ...
My advice to you is to honor your vows. Rather than abandon your marriage, why don't you make an effort to repair your marriage. There is a saying that there is an 80/20 rule to marriage. The theory states, that even in the best marriage a person will only get 80% of their needs satisfied. Those that are unwise will seek out the person who can provide them with the 20% that they are missing. As a result, once the person finds someone who can provide them with the 20%, they have the misconception of believing that this person is the answer to their prayers and will fulfill ALL of their needs. As a result, they leave their spouse who was fulfilling 80% of their needs, for a person who can only fulfill 20%. Needless, to say, it is not long before this relationship goes belly up and they are right back to square one. I think this most certainly applies in your case. You think your Mr. Perfect is 2000 miles away and he isn't. What you have to realize is that the reason he is perfect is the fact that he is 2000 miles away. You don't have to cook for him, clean up after him, wash his clothes, worry about him snoring, coming home late, paying bills or any issues that married couples have to deal with on a daily basis. If you were to leave your husband for this guy, you would only find yourself asking this very same question all over again. So why not save yourself a lot of time and trouble and re-examine the reason your married husband, the problems that are occuring in your marriage, establish a relationship with God and seek spiritual marriage counseling. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Peace and God bless.
Perhaps you are miserable with your husband because you choose to be. Or perhaps the fact that you are talking to another man while married to one could also be the reason. At the very least the guilt should be eating you up. You have a son with this man and all you can think about is some other guy that you don't even really know. That lives so far away. You expect us to feel sorry for you that you can't afford to move or get a divorce. Reason for that is probably because you get to be a stay at home mom while your husband works hard for you and your child. Then you treat him like trash by having at the very least an emotional affair.





SORRY NO SYMPATHY HERE!





Cut off ALL contact with your ';significant other on the side action guy'; and try to make things work with your hard working loving husband who is also the father of your child. Get yourself some counseling for your problems. those are my suggestions.





NOTE: Agrees the grass is always not greener on the other side.
You married, had a child, and share a home with a man. You look after them, pets, and a home.





Of course you are going to have troubles!





You need to buckle down and try your best to make it work with the man you ARE with - not the one you want to run away to.





If you honestly can't make it work with him, you will be able to ';afford'; what you want.





Too many people value their homes / cars / holidays / clothes / jewelry too much to divorce and make themselves happy.





Material things aren't worth that much!
You would really need to provide more information for things that have failed.





You can current yur problems, try another attempt at yor husband.


You can seperate from your husband while staying married, sell the house, and then you will be able to get the divorce. and be with your man.


i would suggest you pray if your religious at all, if give youself enough time the tre answers on what you should do will come.





If your so unhappy with your husband, talk to him about it. If he is unwilling to communicate then seperate until you can get a divorce. If hes willing to communicate he will either allow you the space you need to figure out what you want while rasing the chld, take the financial burden off you as long as you handle the child, or be able to help you more than anyone else here.
If you are truly unhappy with your relationship, start the ending phases now. Begin financial security on your own, discover agreements regarding your son, start living the divorced life. Then, realistically, you should spend a year on your own rediscovering yourself so that you are not on the rebound for the next gentleman and to ensue to yourself that you are not only after greener pastures.





After all of this, if the fantasy 2,000 miles away is still available, it was meant to be.
get divorced and move your son and you out of the marriage. Get a job to get money.


move on with your life and quit being a doormat.
If you cannot afford to get a divorce, than what advice are you really looking for?
You work on your marriage, idiot! You are married to your husband and you had better realize the grass is not greener any where else. Find God, go see a shrink, get this other dude out of your head and get to work enjoying your life with YOUR family.
God doe snot condone divorce. Do you not remember saying UNTIL DEATH DO YOU PART? Unless he is abusing you, you owe it to him, yourself and God to work it out and be faithful. Marriage is not a contract... it is a covenant with God. TRY COUNSELLING AND TRY IT NOW... save your marriage if you can!
try to work it out see maybe a marriage counselor you have a child together you should at least try to do your best and work it out.(you have a child together you must of have loved him at one time) If not you can have peace of mind that you at least tryed to make it work.
You're probably chatting on the computer with some dude 2000 miles away. Regardless of who or how, it is wrong. You are married. Does your husband cheat or beat you? If not, then you should work it out. You are looking for this guy 2000 miles away to save you. Believe me, he will come with his share of problems and karma is a *****. Of course the grass always looks greener on the other side, but believe me it's not!
My advice for what its worth, is stay right where you are now, and work things out with your husband, you need to forget about the other guy, as he probably has forgotten about you.I think that maybe you might need to spice up your marriage,and do heaps more together, include your son and him a lot more, as I see you have stability.I hope this helps you.
If he abuses you get out unless he gets help. Don't waste your life and your love on a man who belittles you. Do you really want your child to mature thinking that behavior is acceptable? If you have someone who respects you waiting with open arms, run to him and be cherished. GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS
Sounds like you need to let this other person go.





forces on your live with your husband. For your child.





take some time and turn you're feelings around. find that respect and love you need apply to relationship.





Don't think about it. just do it.





A child needs both parents.





If your not being abused, find the good in the man you married and work on it.
This is crazy is this a guy you met on the Internet? First of all you do not start a relationship with someone else if you cannot deal with the one you have. I don't know but I suggest you get counseling so you will know how to deal with your life and how to proceed with getting on your feet and dealing with your marriage and raising your son.
Take the other dude out of it. If you're really miserable get out. One happy parent is better than two miserable ones. Oh and if you do move don't ditch your pets, they love you. If you can't take them then as a last resort take them to a no kill shelter. Good luck!