Lesbian relationship, please give advice! Please no discrimination or abuse!!!?

I am in a relationship with another 18 yr old girl and we are completely different in almost every way possible. (Ie she is funny, athletic, loud, great with ppl). But I worry about communication. A lot of relationships fail because of a lack of communication and I don't want this to happen. Also, her parents really don't approve and, whilst my mother is fine with it, my father finds it awkward. Although I'm the oldest I often feel like the youngest as I'm smaller in stature and much more timid as well as reasonably unstable emotionally and mentally. How can I make this work? She says she needs me and that I'm her ';angel'; but I'm scared something will go wrong or her parents will hate me or something! HELP!!!!


By the way, we have been together for almost a year, if that makes any difference.Lesbian relationship, please give advice! Please no discrimination or abuse!!!?
It is probably very good for your relationship that you two are so different. You balance each other.





It's normal for you to feel unstable emotionally, and be afraid of something going wrong. You are at a very difficult time in your life. Whether straight or Lesbian, 18 can be both the worst of times and the best of times. Being a Lesbian, at that age, is very hard and stressful. It will get easier for you, and better with age. My daughter is a Lesbian. She is in a great relationship, and it sounds like she has a lot in common with you. Her g/f's parent's were not happy about the situation, but have accepted my daughter, and treat her well. They are fairly narrow minded about gay/lesbians, but have finally put their views aside and want what makes their daughter happy.





Have you looked around your area for a local support group? That helped my daughter a lot when she was your age.





I don't know if I've helped, but I wish you the very best.Lesbian relationship, please give advice! Please no discrimination or abuse!!!?
You can be total opposites and still have good communication. Be upfront with her about everything. Ask her to be the same with you. You are not going to get approval from everyone so don't even try. Her parents are not upset with you exactly but her lifestyle. Their opinion will stay the same no matter who she is with. Don't worry about them. Concentrate on the two of you.
well, just like any other forbidden relationship, if its meant to be then it will be, you love her and fell as though she loves you just as much, by all means take that risk, don't let anyone stand in your path (loved ones or not). she has to understand that as well, you should find out if being a lesbian is something that she's really ready and willing to be. she may just be confused and torn between two sides?...i hope it works itself out for you
yeah im in a similar thing (ecept we're engaged)


if you love her do your hardest to MAKE it work and if she love yu she will to. its hard to comunicate i get this but that gets better


me and katie we stayed up one night and just told eachother everything about ourselves (sitting back to back to make it easy) and now we are so close, it was hard but very effective.
Who cares, thats your and her happiness, and both sets of parents should support
First of all, truth will always win. What I mean is...be totally honest with your partner. Let her know u feel this way. Being opposites is sometimes vital in a relationship. This way, u seem to 'complete' each other.


I'm not as concerned about you two being completely different as I'm concerned about you. It seems u are not confident in yourself. Also, you seem to want to please everyone else. You both have been together for a year. If you are feeling this way often, then please sit down and talk to her. This is the only answer for that situation.


As far as your concern about what everyone is thinking, please stop worrying about them. You have to make yourself happy before u worry about everyone else. You are in a relationship, that while society's conformity is strongly against it, you can be very happy. You are correct-communication is the key, and i think u are on the right track, just swallow your pride, push aside the feelings of embarrassment and talk to her. I am timid, and once my hubby and I let go of all of our inhibitions, and started be totally honest, life was much easier. People are going to think what they wanna think, and whisper behind your backs. It happens to all of us. All u have to remember is that this is YOUR life, not theirs, and u can live it however you please.