I NEED ADVICE ON MY RELATIONSHIP!!! from both guy and girl sides!!?

so....i've been with my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years. when we first started going out i was like completely into him! like i did things i regret now i let him run my life for the first 1 1/2. like he would never let me go out with my friends, never let me wear certain things, never let me go out and gave fun and party i would just be with him all day (i regret this so much because my friends have memories and i dont because i was neevr there). i realized this and now i dont ever listen to what he wants because i thought it was selfish of him to do that to me. so now i'm a senior in high school and basically i just go out and do my thing and he's AGAINST IT he always complains and tries to argue with me that he doesn't want me going out or doing anything. so i broke up with him for 2 weeks. and he begged and cried for me back and obviously my dumb self took him back idk why lol so now we been together and like he lets me do whatever i want now and i do it but he complains ALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL the time and it drives me nuts like we always fight because of him and its like really bad usually its him disrespecting me and cursing me out and then we get violent towards each other.





and everytime we talk about me he always says that i'm cheating ( EVEN THO IM NOT) just because i go out to bars and clubs all the time and he says he loves me but he doesn't like the way i am anymore





my learning experience is that IM YOUNG!!! i regret ever being in a relationship because i just want to do me yaa know?? and i'm sick of him and the way he treats me and i'm never going to let a man ever control me like that again..............








so my question for all of you is.........





what should i do?? lol i dont have the heart to leave him.......even tho i do want to sometimes...........and he threatens me when i do break up with him.....but idk if he means them or not ...and i'm kind of scared to break up with him............i honestly dont know what to do i need help......HELP!!I NEED ADVICE ON MY RELATIONSHIP!!! from both guy and girl sides!!?
if your scared to breakup with him you need to get out. hes not being very fair to you and you deserve moreI NEED ADVICE ON MY RELATIONSHIP!!! from both guy and girl sides!!?
GUY SIDE: I would lose him. I know I can be kind of blunt, but i am a guy. If I was you, I wouldn't come out and say it, just give him the cold shoulder kind of, and avoid him if you can. He's too clingy and not letting you enjoy life.





I bet you'll be relieved if you do. He is preventing your best years of your life.
Don't let him threaten you, ***** slap him next time he makes a threat. Don't be afraid to take charge of your life sweety, you can do it.





Changing happens, its not your fault, so you should move on to someone who accepts you for who you are, and who will accept who you're becoming.
I Wont say i know EXACTLY how you feel;


but i know some what lol


me %26amp; my boyfriend been dateing for amlost 2yrs %26amp; the


first year OMG it was just pure control coming from him


but anyways you should talk 2 him tell him how u really feel %26amp;


if u do really like him then tell him that your willing things out


only if he is %26amp; if hes not willing to then leave him you dont need someone to be controlling you %26amp; Yeah I Broke up With my man 2 because I wanted 2 be ';INDEPENDENT'; %26amp; it fixed some of problems


im a junior in high school %26amp; i like 2 party 2 and have fun %26amp; he would complain bout it but i talked 2 him%26amp;told him he needed 2 trust me that


i wouldent do anything %26amp; now its fine you should try it Talk it out








%26amp; Dont Be Scared. It Will Be Okay Hope I Helped Some What :)


Good Luck
I am a 60+ year old man. What you described is who I was when my wife and I were young. She was 16 when we got married and I was 21. I was so crazy about her, but like your boyfriend, I smothered he and kept a tight leash. After many years I finally changed that behavior, but more importantly I want to tell you why we do it. It is simple insecurity in ourselves. We are scared to death that someone better than us is waiting around the corner to steal you away. It's not good and it's not healthy behavior. I don't even know if there's anything you could do to change it. The girl I was in love with prior to me meeting my wife, dumped me for the same reasons. Without professional help I doubt things will ever change. It sounds like he really loves you very, very much, but has issues with trust. I won't try to influence your decision whether you stay with him or not, I just wanted you to understand him a little better. You'll probably get better advice from other women out there. Good luck
woah tats alot. . .





kay, u need to hav a 1 on 1 talk wit him. tell him how u feel about the way hes treating u. no boifriend is worth all tat controlling. if he treatens u, u need to talk to ur rents, counseler, teacher, or a trusted adult.





I hoped tat helped u . . .
girl let me shove some sense into your dam brain. if you do not like the way he treats,he treats you like a prisoner,then leave his sorry butt. if you do not the have THE HEART to break up with him then girl you should not be writing us this question on yahoo and let us read it. im doing you a favor by telling you this. yes i feel sorry for you but hell no im not going to give you any sympathy. i like to be frank about it whether you like it or not.


1. kick his butt to the curb.


if he threatens you theyre probably hollow threats or report him to the police you should not feel scared for your life.


2. go hang out with your friends.


3.party harder.


and


4. if he begs for you back DAM GIRL BE DOMINATE AND SAY NO YOU BALL LESS JERK ITS OVER AND DO NOT EVER SPEAK TO ME AGAIN.


5. if you take him back do us a favor and do not write another question asking us how to help you. if you took him back the second time and you know it was dumb,do not do it a third time.





its your senior year,girl live it up! wait til you go to college and you have a job to attend you won't be able to hangout with your girlies as much so why not do it now? and who needs a guy that is going to boss you around and tell you what to wear? who the heck the does he think he is? a king? hell no hes a ball-less jerky scum bag. and now its your turn to step it up and kick him to the curb and take back your life,if you do not then thats your fault. i gave you my 2 cents and if you do not want to take if from me or anyone else. what good is it to ask for help if your not going to do it?





hope this helps.


like i said pshhhhh kick him to the curb.

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