Advice for my relationship. Please!?

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 11 months now. We want to be together forever but this week was the week after school started and we are both REALLY protective of each other. I feel like I mess up A LOT but then sometimes I just think he puts that stuff on me so it looks like he's the good guy.





We've been fighting this whole week and we almost broke up (or a break) with each other because it was just too much. I can talk to a guy and he can get mad about that. He has admited to me that sometimes he thinks that I don't love him. I do love him so much and I tell him that every day, even when we are fighting.





But this time hit him hard; here's what happened:


It was the end of the school day and I go by his locker to say bye and we kiss and hug before he leaves for cross country. His friend asked me if he could have a hug from me before his game and I said ';I don't know.'; So he asks my boyfriend if he can have a hug. I did not hear my boyfriend so I asked his friend what he said and he said that my boyfriend said yes. So I give his friend a hug and my boyfriend sees and slams his locker then walks away.





I run after him asking what is wrong and he said that he said no and that I should open my ears a little more. He already knows I do not hear that well. But his friend lied to me and the next day at school, my boyfriend didn't talk to me, he didn't even stand by me.





He forgave me later when we hung out that next day but then when we got back home, we faught about something else. Now, my boyfriend is hopefully coming over on Sunday and I don't know what to say to him.





I want things to be okay between us again because I can't stand us fighting.





I did ask him why he took it so hard and he replied that he took it as if I cheated on him. I would never cheat on him!





I don't know what to do or say to him when he comes over or when we are talking or texting each other anymore. I miss what we had and when we fight it's like all that doesn't even matter.


But most of all my boyfriend can be hard sometimes and my friend told me to just give him some space and let him cool off for awhile and that is super hard for me.





What do I do?!Advice for my relationship. Please!?
It sounds like both of you are very similar people. You are both possessive and jealous, and both of you have a tendency to blame the other person for your problems. I believe the term for this is codependent. I believe you need more help than is possible to give sitting at a keyboard on YA, but here is the path I think you need to follow in summary.





Both of you need to work on developing your own lives outside of the other one. At the same time you need to improve your ability to trust the person you are apart from. A relationship should improve your life, not become your life.





Being codependent means that you like a person so much that you draw your identity from being part of a couple. Because of the intense possessiveness, you seek to control the other person or have an unreasonable level of stress over possible loss. This control or stress from possible loss poisons the other person with resentment. When both people do this they end up in a relationship where they are intensely attracted to someone who constantly causes them stress. Combine this with the mutual tendency to not take responsibility for your role in what is happening, and you have the recipe for a long and very stressful relationship.