Advice about a relationship!?

okay, so I have been off and on for my boyfriend for 5 years. We do really love eachother but I am running out of things to try. and I honestly dont know if I can be with him without having to cover up every single emotion I have so that he isnt pissed. Everytime I try to talk to him it turns into a fight.....


heres our recent text exchanges....


Me- Have you wrote that letter yet? (because I have asked him to write me back because I wrote him a letter when we decided to work on things again, I told him it would mean alot to me)


Him-Ive been sleeping (he has a really bad broken leg, he's had it for two years)


Me- If it was somethign that you wanted to do you would have done it already...so dont worry about it.


Him-okay.


Him- I cant believe you are doing this already. I dont have time for this immature bullshit.


Me- This is nto a fight. I am telling you how I feel because I would listen to you if you wanted to tell me something. I deserve the same thing. All Im asking of you is for you to try and see where I am coming from.


Him-Why do you have to be so needy?


Me-Why would you turn this into a fight?


Him- This is so unnecessary. I dont have room in my life for people who dont bring me joy and happiness. I dont need stupid nonsense, its annoying. I didnt ask for this.


Me- U are being so inconsiderate. if you cared about me this wouldnt have even been a fight. just forget about it. everyhthing has to be a fight. its exhausting.


Him-Im getting the feeling that this is a mistake. I dont really need a girlfriend. Especially right now...and def not one like this....








OKAY....the thing is he says **** like this all the time. he only wants to be around me if everything is perfect. the thing is- we have a lot of issues to deal with that we cant talk about without him getting completely pissed off. I can never speak my mind with something that I dont agree with about him or he gets irate. What the hell do I do??





18 and over answers plase.Advice about a relationship!?
Sounds like you wrote him a letter stating how you feel, correct? He has completely blown you off because of an ailment that is two years old? Stop making excuses for him. He's selfish and doesn't respect you. There are people out there that go to work, manage to have families, and are living with chronic pain. He's miserable and wants you to be miserable too.





What you need to do is back off from him and start spending more time with your friends and family. Establish a life that doesn't include him. If he sees that you are living a happy life without him, then he'll either wise up and fight to keep you, or just fade away. NO MATTER WHAT, you need to find YOURSELF again.





Make YOU the number one person in your life and everything else will fall into place.Advice about a relationship!?
If he doesn't appreciate the things that are important to you in a relationship, he isn't right for you. Nagging him and trying to force him to do things will only make it worse.
Your with the wrong man. Stop wasting your time. He has to be in complete control and you allow it.
Too long and too hard to read. Sorry.
I have been in a relationship like this and you can deal with it for a while then it starts to take its toll on you and then it gets worse. i understand that you love each other and you don't want to walk away but maybe it it time. when there is so much crap that you haven't already dealt with and then you pile more onto it. nothing is ever resolved. the hurt and anger just builds and the defenses go up.


unless you can both get counselling or are able to really talk about the past and put it to rest then maybe it time to walk.


do you have any kids? as that makes it harder. if not enjoy your life. be happy!!!


hope this helps a little but it is such a huge thing to end a relationship sometimes you may feel better if you make the decision rather that feeling it is out of your control.


Jeri-Lee xoxo
You need to move on. It doesn't really seem like he is into the relationship like you want him to be. You deserve to be with someone you can atleast conversate with. He doesn't seem very caring. Maybe if you just back off for a while he will come around if he is who you really want to be with. Don't text or call him. Let him see how it feels to feel unwanted or unappreciated. If he doesn't come around then it's not really something he wants anyway.
I'm a woman in my fifties so I am going to answer this for you. You sound young , take this to the heart and not get your ego all disturbed, ok? Your letter said alot about you. You do not listen to him, you are too needy. No man likes that, it's suffocating. Come to a relationship 'whole' and you have so much more to give. No one person, in any kind of relationship can ever make you feel whole or good enough, loved enough.. whatever... unless you feel that way about yourself too. You , IMHO, need time to grow as a person and find what it is about yourself that is Lovable and then believe that someone can see that also. Sorry if this seems harsh but I have been there, done that kinda thing. It's so draining on a person to constantly have to reassure and build up someone in a relationship that is so needy, you end up pushing them away.


Good luck!
i think he is very rude and selfish. You deserve some one to treat you with respect and he is obviouly not doing so. Five years is a long time to be treated badly, i would say try and move on. Funny thing is he will more than likely want you more than ever once you say you wanna end it. I was in the same type of relationship but for six years. It didn't work for us and im happier than ever with my new boyfriend.