I need advice in a relationship.?

Ok first off I need to explain my situation...


I met this girl in 7th grade, and kind of had a crush on her until early freshman year when she started seeing this guy..... lets call him Joe. I hid my feeling for her very well, and she and joe were happy for about 6 months to a year. Then things started to go bad. He began to treat her very poorly, ignoring her, making fun of her, insulting her for believing in god, and his mother would do much of the same things. She would call her fat, and say that she wasn't good enough for him, and Joe would just kind of laugh. This went on for 2 more years, in which she would come to me every day crying, upset, or angry because of something Joe did or said. (By this time I was her best friend, and we drove to and from school together daily, he wouldnt go out of his way to get her, and she was on my way) I was always there for her. At the end of our junior year they broke up and she called me in tears telling me what had happened. He cheated on her, and then basically dumped her for his neighbor. Roughly a month later I hosted a party and we both ended up drunk (the first time either of us had drank) Apparently she felt the same way towards me as I had for nearly the same amount of time, we were both just too chicken-**** to tell the other one. We were happy for about a month, nothing could touch us. Then Joe found out that her and I were together, and he began calling her multiple time a day, every day. Saying I miss you, I made a mistake, I love you, I want you back. At first she told him to get lost and that she was happy, and didn't want to go back to the way he treated her. After 2 months of this she broke down, feeling towards him began to re-surface, and she wanted to take a break from everyone, including him. I was ok with it, I gave her space, but he didnt, he kept calling her and with no input from me, he changed her mind. Now she is back in an unstable relationship with him, and wants me to try to be friends. Ive tried nearly everything to keep her close, but it seems everything I try just makes her more distant, and I think that she will end up filling the hole that I leave with him, and become more attached to him. I don't know what to do anymore, I either have to sit back and watch all of this happen to her and I if I want any chance to have he in my life in the future. Or give up completely and just completely get out of her life. I don't know what to do, and Ive spent the past 2 weeks crying myself to sleep. I can't concentrate on school, work, or anything. She was my life, and now I having nothing to do but think about her with my free time. Any suggestions?I need advice in a relationship.?
Awwwwh im sorry thats horrible!!!! I think you should just be her friend for now, i mean its better than not having her in your life at all. Sooner or later shes going to realize this guy is a douche and you'll be there of her and when that happens don't let her go!!!! Just try to concentrate on other things or even move on if you possibly can. I really hope i helped =]I need advice in a relationship.?
do exactly waht this joe person did to do espial move like kiss her or some thing


take her to the beach and just have the day getting to know each other better
you need to tell her your opinion of the situation, tell her that if she decides to stay with him then she can't run to you for comfort because you don't want to have anything to do with him


i was in a similar situation [almost worse] when i had a girl who had been with a dick for almost a year on my lap and i was about to ask her out then she asked me if it'd be ok with me if she went back out with this guy, we got in an arguement and i drove her home in silence, don't let this girl control your life


if she's truely happy with this guy then she'll respect your opinion and give you your space about when she needs help





i ended up having to completely get out of this girl's life because stuff got so bad with her and her boyfriend and she wouldn't try to change anything or dump him, i told her that i couldn't help her anymore and that it was time for her to help herself, i truely truely hope this doesn't happen to you because it literally tore my heart apart
i would love a guy like you. Just tell her she will always be your friend. and make sure you let her know ';friend'; tell her that maybe yall's love ran its course and you guys weren't meant. If another guy can just pull her away just like that. she needs to control herself. Tell her you care about her, but if she really cared about you she would see where you are coming from. Tell her you have to do this for the both of yall and mostly for you. Wish her good luck with ';Joe'; YOU GOTTA DO IT. That way she will know that you are genuine and REALLY want anything that makes her happy. which you do want anything that makes her happy don't you? she will come to her senses and realize what's wrong and when she comes to you crying tell her ';im not gonna say i told you so....im going to reassure you that you have nothing to worry about because you deserve better'; She know's she has something good. Or at least had. Tell her you'll always love her but you have feelings too. And you can't keep being broken. Tell her she's got to do what she wants to do. And remind her that some men get jealous and when they see you with someone else they want you back. Tell her your a guy and you know these things. Remind her you only want the best for her but at the same time don't make it seem like you're just standing around waiting. Even though you really want to wait. Remember. God is your everything! not women, or anything else.
It sounds like u hv done all the right things now wld b a good time to stop stepping aside %26amp; have a good heart to heart with this girl if you feel this strongly. You need to tell her exactly how u feel %26amp; that you are worried about her. It sounds like she has just got back with this guy because you stepped aside %26amp; she probably didnt know how you felt. I know that you wre respecting her wishes 2 give her space but mayb u backed off a bit 2 much? My suggestion is 2 not hold back.. ul only regret it if u dont say anything. If she means so much to you u shld fight for her %26amp; not wait until she gets hurt again by that loser. Good luck!
Tell her to forget the guy..he wasn't very nice to her and since she probably wont be worth his heart again he shouldn't be worth her tears.


Take her out to all her favorite places and act like you two are best friends again.Do all the stuff she likes with her...But don't make it seem like you're jealous or anything,or trying to keep her away from him.
Ok man i have been in a similiar situation and what you need to do is forget about her. She is going to probably have feelings for this guy for a while if she already took him back, and ...well you will turn into the outlet guy and trust me you will. She will go to you when there not togather and when she goes back to joe your going to get hurt. She obvisiouly is not the girl for you, and your probably not going to listen to me but then it will happen again and agian and you will have lived through painfull times so if i were you i would just give up man, sorry.
dude you are just like me


THis is a very similar story -_-


I feel your pain


Just stay in the back and watch out for her.


That is what i do


I watch out for that person (girl) in the back and when she needs help i help her.


I have everything the same til the drinking part so yea....
Talk to her and ask her wassup and maybe take her to a beach and just have the day getting to know each other better