Odd relationship...need some advice.?

I've been friends with this guy for about 7 or 8 years now. It got physical (wink wink) in the last 3 years, we'd be together for a night, and then never talk about it again until we saw eachother again, and then it's the same thing all over again. I don't want to date him, I don't want everything to be this awkward...is it just going to be awkward forever or is there a way to talk about this rationally?Odd relationship...need some advice.?
Give it some time. I used to have a friend who was very ';close'; to me. I must admit that when you cross the line once, it takes a while for you to get over it. You feel as though you've exposed yourself to the other person and will feel vulnerable somewhat. Only time will erase the awkwardness. Until then, don't take the relationship for more than what it is.Odd relationship...need some advice.?
consider what type of guy this is is depending on how you will have to handle it!!since you were friends first then tell him the truth that you want to remain friends and nothing more but you not ok with the awarkness that you fell around him since your last interaction with him that you understand the their is a sexual connection but that isn't what you are looking for [ or maybe it is] but if you don't find a way to talk to him about it the the awkardness will not go away due to it being a unsolved problem with this guy and that you need to let him know that you are fine as friend but maybe not so much anything else
i think you two need to talk about what's been going on, cause otherwise it's just going to be awkward forever. and you need to decide what you want with him, and when you do...let him know how you feel about him and the situation. communication is key!
i think you should set down the two of you and talk about the feeling that you are having and see if he feels the same way.


if you all keep having sex feelings going to get involved, and you said you don't want to date him. it seems like yall are just having fun with each other, that is good if you want it that way but trust deeper feelings will come and if it's not from you it will come from him, then you will have a problem. talk things over with him and let him know how you feel before it's to late.
talk to him
well just tlk to him and just b friends wit him for a while and if things get phisically again (wink wink) just bring it up and tlk bout it again. hope this helps!!!!!!!!duces
This is not a relationship. They are more like sexual encounters. What do you want from him besides sex if anything?
Sounds like your both past the age of consent and adults if it's been 7 or 8 years since your first experience with each other. Why not act like adults and discuss the relationship that you have currently and see if this is all you both want from each other in a relationship.
Just talk to him about it, rationally. By speaking to him about it, you'll be able to find out why he's doing this. Good luck!
If you don't want to date him then hes a friend with benifits.. why would you want to talk about it?
dump
stop sleeping with him... friends don't use each other to satisfy selfish desires.... stop the sex and you can fix the friendship...
clearly its spontaneous and not planned. You both have a friendship that doesnt revolve or involve sex. If you want to keep the friendship, dont go down that path again. If you intend to discuss the REAL thing,,,,dating,,,, then talk about it and see if there is a mutual decision. If you cant talk then the communication in the friendship is not very strong. If you or he is embarassed that it happened, then it probably should not happen again.
unless the sex is awesome, dump him
well if you dont want it to be awkward then just keep it friends unless you like him and tell him so cause it sounds as though he just thinks its friends w/ benefits
Depends on how bad you want to be used.
sounds like you found f@ck buddy. I t doesn't have to be awkward, just keep it in your mind that it's only sex.
Well, he is your f u ck friends, so as long no one gets too attach, it shouldn't be awkward, but if it does get to that point, then you shouldn't have f uc k with him in the first place.





Why do you feel it is the same thing over again every time you are with him, simple. You are his F U CK buddy. He knows that he can use you for that and is going to take advantage of that. Can I write ';duh!'; Hahahaha. . . .
I trhink you better stop what you are doing then. You have all the power in this situation. If you dont like him, then why are you being intimate with him? And vice versa. Now if you really love him or like him then you need to talk to him and expalin how you feel. Ask him what he wants from you? Is it just sex or more?
just have to bring it up .........if he really respects you he won't blow it out of context
well. this is something i have experienced so i have great advice.





well. hunnie. you need to sit down and talk with him.


tell him the sex was great, but your a girl (i hope)


and you need more than physical. you need mental.





make him a test about your needs and see how


he likes it!





e.i:


where do i like to do it the most:


a) car


b) home


c) grannies house


d) in the middle of class/work.





your welcome.


i take cash.
You don't want to date him, but you are also contributing to the cycle by getting intimate with him. It won't be awkward forever, but you must start by getting clear with yourself how you want your relationship to be. And then you can talk to him. Good luck.
friends' with benefits. keep it going as long as no one is getting too attached.
tell it to him like it is.


Then he'll understand.


You could just be friends and not be so akward anymore....
While it may be awkward, it's obviously making you even more awkward being around him after having been his ';friend with benefits.';





Whatever you do, though, if you don't want the ';benefits'; side to continue, do NOT meet with him in a private place. Try a public place - Starbucks, Food Court, McDonalds... Etc.





Let him know - firmly - that you are not comfortable with your relationship as it is. Is he someone you want to continue being just plain ol' friends with? Yes or no, let him know. Be clear and straightforward. Don't explain any farther than ';It's not you - it's me,'; if he's looking for something more with those benefits.





Here's why you need to do this in a public space: He can't attempt to weaken your resolve by romancing you back into the bed. Too many people. No bed.





Good luck! If there's anything that I wasn't clear on explaining, just let me know!
There is nothin' quite like just jumping in and talkin' about it. It could be that you are both in agreement that you are nothing but sleepover pals whenever you want it or need it. You won't know what he is thinking until you ask him.


The awkwardness between you could be dissolved the second you just say it ';so, this is totally awkward....'; and go from there.


What would you want to say to him? What do you want him to say to you?


If you know the answers to those questions then go ask him or tell him.
Sex always changes things. Girls tend to get attached while guys tend to get jealous. It's really doubtful that it can be the same at it once was but, then again, that may not be a bad thing. If you're both mature, this can add something to your relationship. But in order for you guys to be friends again, the sex has to stop and you're both going to have to be patient as the feelings of attachment and jealousy tend to take a while to filter out. Good luck.
i think its most important that you decide what you want. do you want to pursue a physical relationship with this man or do you want to go deeper? if you want to go with him, then you must talk to him about it. see if he's cool with that. if not, then it doesn't seem like its worth your time. but do you want to stay in a relationship where you are just a meal ticket? no disrespect to you or him. just think about where this is going and if its where you want to end up and connect with him on your thoughts
yes just tell him how you feel
Well if u want 2 be with him then talk it out about why hes being so akward but if not then leave him he sounds so boring!