Open Relationship - Complicated Situation/Advice?

I've been with my ';husband'; for 4 years (both gay men). He started cheating in year one, which pissed me off and I broke it off with him. We got back together very quickly. I can't explain why, but a switch in my head went off, and I didn't care about the cheating. it turned me on even. Everything else in the relationship has been perfect, and we absolutely both beleive we will be together forever. I





It is fair to say that at some level I am scared to confront and ask him about the cheating in an effort to get him to let me watch or participate in 3ways and such, because I know he'll deny that he cheats and will be very offended by me confronting him. I hate confrontation.





In the past he has said he will never do a threeway and that he could never bear to see me with another guy, despite how I feel. It's a small concession, so Im ok with that. Our sex life is still very good and active.





So how do I get hime to let me see him bottom for other guys?


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Tell him what you want. Dont be all confrontational about it just say it like your talking about the weather. You could be lying in bed together and just drop it on him. He'll be relaxed and so will you.


Just casually say ';babe, i know you've been sleeping with ..... i'm not freaking out about it but next time i want to watch.';Open Relationship - Complicated Situation/Advice?
dont ask him...just tell him thats what you want, plain %26amp; simple. tell him that is his punishment for cheating cause he brought out this side in you.
I don't think cheating of any sort can end up in a healthy relationship. It's surprising to me that you didn't really care that he cheated on you, because if you were serious with him, it would probably concern you. If he does it once, what makes you think he won't do it again? Are you comfortable with him doing this?





And to further contribute to the problem, if you're scared to confront/offend him about it then it means you ARE uncomfortable with it. But if it's bugging you, even though you hate it, confronting him is probably the best solution. At least tell him how you feel...moreover, he's pretty much saying you can't see another guy when he did? That doesn't sound right to me.





A relationship shouldn't only be all about sex. It's a bonus, but it should be deeper than that if you truely think you're going to be ';together forever.'; Clear things up with him before you take another step. Tell him that you are really into him and that you to be with him for a long time (you do, right?) and make sure he KNOWS that. But in reality, you could be in this relationship for the wrong reasons, and it might be a good idea to back out before it gets more complicated. As I said before, any relationship that involves cheating can't end up in a good one.